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Posted: 5/30/2008 7:54:04 AM | | Single Father My son is 9 now ..... I have had full custody since he was 5 he will be 10 this year.... Hes my lil mini me | |
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Posted: 5/30/2008 2:20:17 PM | | i'm a full time single dad of a 5 yr old little boy, and i love it. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2008 3:25:14 PM | | Hi, I'm a full time single Dad to my 11 year old daughter and have been for 5 years. Hard work especially at the start when her Mum and I split up when she moved out for someone else. I get fed up trying to fit in the cooking, cleaning and ironing around a full-time job - constantly tired. But, hey, I look back and think who got the best deal out of the split - no contest!! | |
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Posted: 5/30/2008 8:34:08 PM | Hey, I commend any dad who steps up and does whats right.
There are alot of them out there who just don't care.
I am a single grandmother who is raising my 4 yr. old grandson
and so far, that is keeping me single. I have gotten may messages
from guys who have kids but refuse to help raise mine.
They say they refuse to raise someone elses.
I think full time dads are great. I'd date one if he was the
right one. I'm not scared...;) | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 4:27:12 AM | | im a single dad to 4 girls, aged between 12 and 2. i also work fulltime, i find that most women i try to date once they find out i have kids they lose interest, many do see it as baggage. But then again so do blokes when it is the other way around. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2008 9:54:38 PM | hey i'm a single dad and i know of another . It's a common thing these days, it's not always the mother that is willing or able. Sometimes it's the dad that has to step up to the plate. Besides it's a labour of love. I consider myself very fortunate to be able to provide and have raised my teens mostly single handedly.
it is however not conducive to dating as i'v found out over the years.. But you know what i dont' even care.. i have my priorities.. and soon the nest will be empty. I'll have done my job, not to say i won't be there. Looking forward to flying the nest myself. .. lol | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 11:13:39 AM | | I'm a single dad of a 13yo daughter. I love every minute of it, wouldn't have it any other way | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 12:39:16 PM | its nice that a dad steps up 2 the mark i ave 2 kids and they both ave different dads neither cud be botherd and its twats like that,that give single dads a bad name  gud 4 u xxx | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 9:55:58 PM | another single dad here, count me in.
It's sad to see so many women are no longer stepping up to the plate. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2008 11:44:20 PM | | hey smoothburner hi just want to say i give u alot of creidt 4 rasing your children cause i no myself iam a single mom and its not easy as there dad has nothinb to do with them so any guy that does that i give them lots of creidt | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 9:33:59 AM | I think your full of it. The reason why you will only date men without children or don't see there children is that your selfish. You want the attention, you want your kids to recieve attention from your new man. Dating a person w/ children takes sharing and understanding, giving up oneself for your children and his. You don't want to be #2 in there life. BTW you'll get used, why ? What goes around come around.
By reading this posted message your very into yourself and only yourself. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 1:55:33 PM | WOW just wow I wish i had seen this from the start..
I too am a full time single dad. My sons mother had to leave when my son was 7 months old due to her not giving up the bottle (insert long story there). And has washed her hands over the whole thing not to ever look back.
I have not had time to read all the post, and would like to but as we all know how it is with children, my son is now 5 years old and is keeping me very busy as any 5 year old would.
Just to touch on a few post I have seen here. I for one can agree things are not the same for single dads as they are for single mothers as far as help and services that are available. Also when it comes to child support all I can say is good luck dads at trying to get it. My ex is over $34,000 behind in her child support. And when it comes to jail time all I can say it's a joke here in the state I live in, and is not equal to what a man would receive if he was that far behind. Her last visit to the Co jail was less then 10 days. A good friend of mine was only $450 behind and did the full 90 days. Her on the other hand just smiles and tells the court what they want to hear and she will try then sings what ever agreement they throw at her and off she goes .
I have also found that trying to be the full time single male parent in the working world is not to kind to us single full time dads. I have found we do not have the same rights as a single mother, and there is no room for us in the working world when it comes to us putting the kids first when dealing with a sick child, school events, doctor visits, etc etc. I have lost one job cause my child was sick for a week, I could not take him to day care sick, and I have no one to help look after him. So I was fired for poor attendance.
I hope with the growing number of single fathers on the rise the system will some day catch up with us.
As for dating, of course we single fathers have a better under standing of what a single mother has to deal with every day after all we know what your going threw. And I have found it works both ways when trying to date a woman with out children, they just don't seem to under stand I can not drop the world and take off for a night, or some times I can not get a hold of a baby sitter, or have to try and plan some thing that I can include my son in on. I have given up in that area of dating a women with out a child. It would be nice to find one that can not have children, and would love to fill the roll but I will not hold my breath there.
I have one question tho I have seen a lot of ladies post to this saying how wonderful this all is and how you would like to meet a single father. My question is where are they or why is there not any in my area... LOL
But any ways again single dads keep up the good work, and remember our children love us for who and what we are. And some day will look back and say damn my father was a great man. | |
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Posted: 6/2/2008 3:18:20 PM | | I pull my hat out to all single dads. They are the counterpart of all **stards who cannot be bothered with their children and me those children feel rejected. I indeed would respect more a single full time dad than an occasional one. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 3:32:01 PM | | i personally love single dads .... its not too often that you meet a man that is really truely honest to god responsible and in it for "the long haul" i think when you meet a single dad compared to other men you already know he is a responsible mature level headed person and not many single parants will date unless they are looking for something serious and personally being someone who loves kids its refreshing when you meet men that are in this situation because it takes one heartless person not to get attatched to other ppls kids ....even tho this would be a big problem in a break up | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 6:11:10 PM | I'm a single dad with a teenage son. He is my first priority and I love him with all of my heart.
I am also a member of an organisation called Father's 4 Justice Canada.
I live on Vancouver Island and have been fighting in court just to be active in my other children's lives. I also lost a daughter last November to Cystic fibrosis. She was just over 2 years old when she died. Another child I was fighting to be involved with.
Single dads are out there however, there are many more single moms given to the uneven scales of justice in todays court system. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2008 10:14:18 PM | | Hi I'm a single mum and I think single dads r the best. It takes a lot of patience to be a single parent. I now its not easy. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2008 2:47:39 AM | I take my hat off to you...and even the single mums..i am a single mum and i no what is involved to do it on your own..enjoy it and keep up the great work | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 11:48:21 PM |
It would be nice to find one that can not have children, and would love to fill the roll but I will not hold my breath there.
Guess what? I cannot have children but as for "fillin the roll" that only happens if there's a true connection between you and who you're datin. I was fortunate enough to have this happen with my mom and dad. (I call him my dad cause he was the only dad I ever knew even though he was my step-dad to start but then adopted me)
I started readin this thread because I would rather date a man who has a child/children than not. I was very lucky to have a mom who started off as a single mom and then met the man she fell in love with, married, and then who over time became my dad.
So put these two things together and you have a woman who knows what it's like and understands... | |
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Posted: 6/7/2008 4:10:13 PM | | single dad here of 2 boys 5 and 7 and have own busieness.. now thats hard to manage | |
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Posted: 6/7/2008 5:38:35 PM | I'm not full time, I co-parent, BUT I have big respect to those of you that have to take up that challenge and do it. You all rock, and you are great role models to your kids.
My own father did that for a time (way back when it was VERY rare), I have strong feelings about it. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2008 5:40:23 PM | | and by the way, I have met women who were really impressed and really attracted by the idea of a man who takes the responsibility on like a man should. If you meet a woman who feels otherwise, shrug and move on. She's not the one for you. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 12:09:54 PM | Ha fooled you. There are many in canada right here in Winnipeg as a matter of fact.
I have three 17,15 and 13 boy and two girls who live with me full time.
And that is the only way I would have it. To tell you the truth aside from the children I feel sorriest for those who are not with their children. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 7:21:55 PM | I've been raising three boys for 5+ years now, ages 10, 16 and 18. I wouldn't change it for the world..it's her loss. Also noticed most dads are raising boys that have responded to this site....any multiple girl dad's out there?
As far as the post Lonestar your right. Seems custody can often be a money / power fight, not what's best for the children. Something that seems to be more and more popular is split custody. From what I've seen these arrangements can be very hard on the kids. The kids are moving every other week. I'm sure I'll get some comments on that. I was fortunate in that we agreed that I was better able to raise the kids and there lives changed very little outside of their mother no longer living with us- same schools, friends, home, etc.. I feel very fortunate compared to others as far as how my children are doing and a big key to that (no matter who parents) is stability. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2008 7:26:14 PM | sorry dads with girls- there are a lot of you out there....don't know how I would handle that. Always heard boys are easier to raise. | |
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