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Posted: 5/29/2005 1:52:17 PM | I personally prefer to date single fathers. They know my son comes first and will understand if I have to cancel a date because my child is sick. Most will understand, that after my son has spent 10 hrs at school/daycare, I dont want to leave him with a sitter so I can go out.
My ex and I share custody 60/40 (I have the 60) so I am luckier than most single parents because I do have some 'me' time. My son benefits because he shares almost equal time with both parents and my ex benefits because he sees his son more than most fathers get to see theirs.
I have great respect for single fathers. Somebody pointed out about teen girls that get pregnant and the boyfriend walks away.....which is all the more reason single fathers deserve such respect. They not only didnt walk away, they took on the job full time.
Personally, I dont see how either parent could just walk away. My son is my life. He has brought me so much joy. He's my buddy and I enjoy doing stuff with him. He lets me bring out the kid in me again.
Thought for the day: If you go out and jump in puddles by yourself, the men in white coats will come to take you away. Go out and jump in puddles with a child beside you, and you're considered a great parent  | |
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Posted: 5/29/2005 4:18:18 PM | ::Raises hand:: Put me down on the list.. I have two kids but only one is with me full-time.
Daughter is almost 2 (she's all mine all the time) and my son is 10 months.. (the crazy ex barely lets me see him.. luckily she doesn't "like girls" so I've had no problems keeping my daughter with me so far. | |
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Posted: 5/29/2005 7:18:44 PM | Im a single dad in houston, Texas.. I know alot of single dads.. but I dont know of any girls that find it very atracive.. But atleast it rids of any of the girls that are not serious. My son is 3 yrs old and Im 21 and have him full time.... its fun sometimes... but sometimes it can kill me.. just hang in there.. | |
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Posted: 5/30/2005 6:37:13 AM | KUDOS to any single father! Bless their hearts! I wish we'd hear much more about these devoted dads!
Well done to all!! | |
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Posted: 5/30/2005 1:17:13 PM | | I am a full-time single dad of two, an 8-year-old son and 6-year-old daughter...have been for the last 5.5 years, in central Fla. It would be really cool if someone got an email list together of all the single dads so they could talk about the ups and downs, trade advice, etc. Any ideas? | |
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Posted: 5/30/2005 1:45:28 PM |
Thought for the day: If you go out and jump in puddles by yourself, the men in white coats will come to take you away. Go out and jump in puddles with a child beside you, and you're considered a great parent
LOL!!!!!!!!
That is so true!!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/30/2005 7:27:05 PM | I am a full-time single dad of 2 great kids you are not alone!!!!!!!!!! I have found that if you want to date the best thing you can do for your life and your children is to date a single mom hey THEY GET IT !  of coarse most of the women I have dated have not even met my kids that takes a while for me to open that door. But when I have they have been great! And most of them have respected that choice I made to keep it seperate for as long as it takes to be certain "who" I'm dating  | |
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Posted: 5/30/2005 7:30:08 PM | Evilenchantress YOU ROCK !!!! My kids and I have puddle shoes  | |
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Posted: 5/31/2005 2:03:08 AM | Being a FT/PT parent shouldn't be scary...
I think it makes a better person of us all...
Being a single parent makes you more grounded...
You have much more going on :)
I am more likely to run from a single man no kids....right into the arms of the man with kids :)
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Posted: 5/31/2005 3:06:37 AM | if you are a dad then your a full time dad, if the children are at their moms and you get a call at 3:30 am from the hospital saying that one of your children has just been taken to the ER but by the time you hear the reason your already halfway to the hospital wearing nothing but your boxers and a pair of mismatched womens shoes then your a dad if you don't then your just a sperm donor.
case and point, if your a dad your a dad full time, part time it doesn't matter
PS. that happend twice with my youngest, i made a 1.5 hour drive to the hospital in 20 mins at 1:40AM over a splinter | |
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Posted: 5/31/2005 3:29:15 AM | Well said sndscientist!
One person's parenting doesnt stop because the child is at the other parent's house. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2005 6:17:38 AM | I'm here too. Single Dad of one 11 year old girl and very very proud of her. She is part of the package and any woman interested in me has to be ready for that.
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Posted: 5/31/2005 6:52:45 AM | Yes I am a single parent, to a 16 year old boy and am in the midst of filing for my daughter as well. I am proud to be able to nurture what these kids need and also to provide a realalistic perspective of what the world consists of.
Unfortunately enough the mother was not the one as you would put it "able to step up to the plate." This takes me to the remark of saying its nice to see guys step up, yes you're correct but you should be aware their are some pretty brutal woman out there. In the past where mass media wasn't so rampent you would have never heard of half the horror stories. Now you do and it mostly points in the wrong direction. Yes society tells us how to parent and when to parent, but I believe their are a lot of men out there that have taken the crap from their ex's, but have been in full support of their children all along. Its a harsh world but please be advised don't judge the cover unless you know the content | |
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Posted: 5/31/2005 6:28:14 PM | Same here...
Father of one (5yo), and share custody of my STEP-children with thier real FATHER!! Go figure, huh??
Single Daddy's are cool!! | |
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Posted: 5/31/2005 9:23:36 PM |
One person's parenting doesnt stop because the child is at the other parent's house.
if only that were always true evilenchantress. I have a hard enough time getting her to see my son now, let alone at 3 am if there's an emergency | |
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Posted: 6/1/2005 3:35:50 AM | I know verypicky. There are many deadbeat moms out there as well. A number of my friends are single fathers and I have the utmost respect for them. Being a single mom, I tend to surround myself with friends who are also single parents as we tend to have more in common.
I just dont understand how anyone can walk away from their child. My son has brought me so much joy. Every day is a new experience for me because of him. And this is coming from someone that never wanted kids. My son was a surprise (while I was married) but I wouldnt give him up for the world. I am lucky because my ex is still a part of his life. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2005 5:20:22 AM | | As a single mother, I have alot of respect for single dads. I take it this means you have full-time custody and care? Actually, a single father is very very sexy to me. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2005 5:29:30 AM | | Hi basspl. Single mom here. My daughter, age 9 June 17th rocks my world too. We have alot in common. Our need and love of music...thank god she likes the old rock like kansas, van morrison, james taylor and jimmy buffet (as a parrothead, had to throw that last one in..lol). We also LOVE the rocky horror picture show (I don't let her watch all parts mind you) but we do love to do the time warp together. Oh yea...we love...love...weird al. So yea...little girls are so fun. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2005 11:32:52 AM | I know how you feel bro. I am there, I have a 3 year old daughter and I live it out alone. I do have a girlfriend and she has a son too but were distant. And the world is a cold place. All I have in this life is my little girl, and I wouldnt trade it for the world. I just wanted to post this and assure you, your not alone we all are.. But the right oppertuinty will come along eventually..
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Posted: 6/1/2005 11:58:12 AM | | Hey there dell. I hear ya. We like the newer music here. Singing in the car to Jimmy Eats World or Foo Fighters songs. And for some reason she really likes the new System of a Down. That cought me off guard lol. | |
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Msg: 96 | |
| full-time single dads
Posted: 6/1/2005 12:00:13 PM | I have 3, but it wasn't left up to me to "step up to the plate" so to speak. The courts make the rulings, and I fought for my kids. It cost me everything,and then some to fight the fight, but in the end I won. My youngest lives with his mom, but my two oldest I have custody of, and they are happier with me than with their mother (two different wives).
It doesn't make it easy being a single parent....note I said parent. I have lady friends who have been single and alone for so long they can't count the years because they have kids. the single world seems to look down upon us for having children, but as a whole they all respect us for being alone and raising them by ourselves.
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Posted: 6/2/2005 10:14:37 AM | | I agree with Doc. I'm a single parent of 3. Their mother ditched. We were alone for two years and some. Now she's back, and wants full custody. I guess her new relationship didn't work out. In the meantime, I've built a new life and a great relationship for and with my kids. I'm alone with them, but now have to fight it out in court just to keep them. It's tough for sure. But very rewarding as well... | |
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Msg: 98 | |
| full-time single dads
Posted: 6/2/2005 10:23:32 AM | Snowboy....contact me and I will give you some things to aim your lawyer at. Canadian courts are not so different tahn US courts. You have the upper hand here....you have them now.....you have had them for some time alone......she left without contact........The list goes on.
Happy to help if I can. I am however not a lawyer, but have been through the system,a nd have good resources.
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Posted: 6/2/2005 1:15:25 PM | Snowboy,
I was in a similar situation as yours.
If you are lucky; get a good judge; and have a good lawyer, your situation is likely to end up as joint custody, with you becoming the custodial parent. That is what I got....
An example:
Primary residence will be with you. She will get every other weekend and one day during the off week. She will pay support payments relative to her previous years income.
Child abandonment is never seen in a good light by the law. The fact that you have been there for the children supporting them is also a bonus for you. But, it does not guarantee that you will get them. Women are still seen as the caregiver........... no matter how idiotic and self-serving they are.
Good luck!!!
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Posted: 6/2/2005 7:49:10 PM | Snowboy,
Do not give up the good fight! When I went through my divorce, my wife said she wanted the kids, etc. even though I knew what was really going on with her (mentally unstable, using alcohol and drugs AND would leave the kids, age 1 & 3, alone at times). I fought and fought until I realized what she wanted: money. After she moved out, she would take time out of her schedule to see the kids once every 6 weeks, and always for a shorter time than she had said she would. I was fine with this, as I felt uncomfortable leaving them with her but was forced to. Anyway, I ended up agreeing to take on our $26,000 in debt instead of splitting it, never to ask for child support, and in return she would relinquish her parental rights...and this agreement was mostly her idea, especially that last part. A smart lawyer who knows the system can make all the difference, and most judges when presented with the evidence will rule for the betterment of the kids. Good luck. | |
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