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Posted: 4/18/2009 6:59:35 AM | I say  ... now for sure I'd have alot more in common with you!
You know how difficult it is sometimes to get a babysitter..and you just can't
get off the phone and run out the door to meet for a coffee, it's rough isn't it?
And I think whether it be your choice to be a full time single parent, or you had
no choice...it's great! | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 8:17:22 AM | | There are alot of single dads out there these days. As far as how us women feel about single dads, it depends on the woman and her situation. I know women who have no kids who are fine dating single dads, as well as wwomen with kids dating single dads. Noone I know has had a problem with it. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 12:52:09 PM | I have to say that im all for single dads, for me its a bonus as i find they are far more mature!!! Im all for single dads, and have to say i have the upmost respect for single dads. I think for women its so much easier as theres mother and baby classes etc, and i feel it is harder for single dads than single mums, but you yummy daddies and hot and far more attractive than i bet you think x x
All the best
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Posted: 4/18/2009 4:01:15 PM | I am an Ex-full time Dad:
11 years I had 5 when I got custody, 4 boys, and 1 girl. At one time I was a Homeless Single Father. Try finding help then. Im just glad its over now. Now its Dads turn to sit down. Sorry I wore out My Sexy raising kids. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 4:07:53 PM | I'm a single dad.
Just trying to figure out how and when to start dating seriously. I always feel tense when I start seeing someone mainly because I love being with my kids (who don't live with me) so much. I like my quiet private life and what I have with the kids, so when I start dating someone (more than once) I find myself getting rather uptight and not feeling like I'm doing the right thing. I feel like I have to dedicate myself to my kids and enjoy my freedom. Does anyone else feel this way? It's confusing.....but not in a bad way. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 4:33:50 PM | Well I have that same question for single dads on whether they would date a 40 year old single mom with a 14 year old son with Austism Spectrum disorder order or am I wasting my time with this website...
Any ideas...
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Posted: 4/18/2009 5:53:20 PM | | if a man has any decency at all that should not matter at all | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 8:39:38 PM |
Well I have that same question for single dads on whether they would date a 40 year old single mom with a 14 year old son with Austism Spectrum disorder order or am I wasting my time with this website
Sure would, it would be an honour.
After raising all 3 of my kids through ther most difficult years, with a Mom who once in a while would go shopping for designer clothes for our Daughters ( ignored our son) , then making a big deal over what a great Mom she was, it would as I said be an honour to date a real Mom.
Being a single, full time Dad, has been the hardest thing I have ever done. Worn out someone mentioned? LOL, I can sure relate to that.
Yet now my youngest is 18, I am nearing the finish line, I keep contemplating adopting some. I read about this 'adoption fair in Edmonton a while ago, all these kids too old to be adopted,,,
Very weird I know. After raisng my 3, a niece and 2 nephews for quite a few years, it does not make sense . Yet that thought keeps 'popping " into my mind at times. I just cant relate to living with out kids around.
Going to a Jays game, camping, car races, heck, just going for an ice cream cone. Life just does not make sense to me with out kids to share stuff with. It is so much work, worry at times, but where is the pay off in life, with out kids to make it all worth while? | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 9:51:54 PM | | dunrich i know what you are saying i still have 4 at home but i also have 2 that have started their own lives.i get a feeling of pride every time i set back and watch them with their kids knowing that somewhere and somehow i did something right.the added plus is now there are grandkids so we can be a part of their lives its very gratifing | |
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Posted: 4/18/2009 10:14:22 PM |
i did something right.the added plus is now there are grandkids so we can be a part of their lives its very gratifing
I hear you Jerry. Plus in the mean time there are Pups, mmm Lab or Reteiver? | |
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Posted: 4/20/2009 7:24:13 AM | | Single father of a 4 yr old lil boy and a 2 and a half yr old lil girl | |
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Posted: 4/20/2009 2:18:56 PM | | same here bro single dad n it suxs cause none of my friends r | |
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Posted: 4/20/2009 6:58:33 PM | | Single dads are so hot!!!!! I am a 28 year old single mom and I have full custody of my two boys and I know what some of the dads on here are saying about having a hard time finding the time for yourselves and I think it makes a man extra attractive when I see a man that is taking care of his responsibilities the way that you single dads are and I hope I find myself one. SINGLE DADS ARE AWESOME!!!! | |
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Posted: 4/20/2009 7:08:57 PM | Thing is a single dad will never cheat on you because it is damn hard trying to find the time to date one woman, let alone several  | |
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Posted: 4/20/2009 7:52:43 PM | Just wanted to say Thanks to everybody posting their experience. I now am the single father of three. All of which are younger then five. So it is, somewhat, refreshing to see everybody here.
Cheeky that sounds about right.
see ya'll around gonna go join the "where is their mother forums" or the "dead beat mothers" Man, it seems like a thin line between caring and or loathing for someone who has given so much and then left. Thank God for Jesus. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2009 8:09:16 PM | | Just wanted to give a SHOUT OUT to ALL THE SINGLE PARENTS!!!! Being a parent is the most rewarding experience that you will ever have!!! I know that sometimes things can seem a little hectic and you may feel all alone in your struggle....but remember that you are not alone and there are so many of us who know what it is to make daily sacrifices for your children in order for them to have a good life. So keep your head up and know that your hard work is not in vain....your children will love and appreciate you for it forever!!! | |
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Posted: 4/20/2009 8:34:11 PM | | just think of all the things your friends are missing out on.its deffinatly worth the sacrifice in the end. | |
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Posted: 4/21/2009 7:35:40 AM | Hello 2 every1.
I've been a single Dad now 4 3 yrs but b4 that a stay at home Dad since daughter was 3 months old & Son was 5 yrs. They R now nearly 7 & nearly 13. This dating ladies is hard. Anyway have a great day To all the Single Dad. & Mother as well.  | |
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Posted: 4/21/2009 10:56:26 AM | I just had to write to say that I admire and respect any man that raises his children for what ever the reason may be.
There are some men, and women for that matter, that think being a father ends at conception. But that doesn’t make you a father. It’s raising your children, taking caring of your children and being there for them… More power to all of you… Single fathers are awesome…. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 8:53:00 PM | I've not come to understand is why a good bit of women I've talked to(or that have completely ignored me like i was a disease) act like being a responsible loving father is a bad thing. Ever heard the line you wouldn't understand? Sounds to me like all the fulltime dads on here are exactly what every woman wants. A mature and loving man. What man could love more than the ones that will fight for their childrens happiness everyday despite their own humiliation or loss? My glass is up for all fulltime dads!
I do not understand women who find single fathers less than desireable. I think you guys are great! A man who is willing to make sacrifices for his children, and put his children's needs before his own is a man who truly understands the meaning of love. A man who can love his children, is a man who given the opportunity to love a woman, can and will.
I have been dating a single father for three months now. I have a world of respect for him. He obtained custody of his son when his son was five years old, ten years ago. He has raised his son as a single parent for the last decade. When I asked him about his relationships since the divorce, he told me he has not had a relationship since the divorce, that he just had dated casually. At first I thought that was odd, and wondered if he has some inability to commit or deal with a woman in a relationship, and made me think it was a red flag. Then I sought to understand him, and the life he has led since his divorce.
As a single dad, the went to work every day Monday through Friday just like all th other men in the world. But first he had to drop his son off at school. At the end of the day he had to pick his son up from childcare. He had to take his son home, supervise homework, cook dinner, find time to have some quality ti me with his son. He had to keep the house clean, do the grocery shopping, do the laundry. Duh, when was he going to find time to date? He would be exhausted at the end of the evening. If he did want to go out, he would have to hire a baby sitter, until his son was old enough to be left alone, and even then he would have to come home at a reasonable hour because you would not want to leave a child in a home alone after dark, if you are a responsible parent.
Just recently when his son hit fifteen , I think it hit him that in a few years his son would be graduating from high school and going off to college and he would be an empty nester. In addition as his son has gotten older he has gotten more independent and doing things with friends and not needing dad around as much as he did when he was younger. This was a life changing event for him, to suddenly find he had a little more time for himself. He opened himself up to the idea of dating with the "possibility" of a short term or long term romance. This is where I entered the picture.
Knowing he had no track record for dating since the divorce first caused me to feel he was not capable of dating a woman any way but casually. I did not want a casual relationship. I wanted a long term relationship with a degree of commitment. Now meeting this man made me think long and hard about what that meant.
The psychobabble of the day says that if he is "IN" to you he will want to see you every day. Well, the reality is a full time single dad, who is giving his children what they need is not going to be able to see me every day, even if he is "IN" to me. Women want men to give us plenty of time and attention. A full time single dad is going to have to fit me in to his already full life. We women want to be #1 in a man's life. Well, any woman with a brain has to realize that a loving and devoted full time single father is going to make his child #1, and not me. That does not mean that I am not important to him.
I would not respect a man who would throw his kids aside and chose me over them.
I asked my guy earlier in our relationship why no relationships. He did not have an answer at first. Then I told him my perception. I said, I see how busy you are with all your responsiblities between work, and parenting, and time had to be a serious issue, there was no time to nurture a relationship. And the second issue is the right woman, one that you wanted to make time to be with, who would understand what your life was all about. He said, that pretty much sums it up. Well that was good enough for me.
Now that his son is older, he has a little more time on his hands. He met me, and he sees in me the kind of woman he wants to spend time with. Now after ten years of being a single dad, for the first time since his divorce he is in a "relationship." It is almost three months. It is not easy. I have to understand that he is out of practice, and does not really know what a woman expects. I also have to accept that his son comes first.
I can not be jealous of his child, and that means plans may change, or he may be late or have to leave early if his child has a need. He was hesitant to even tell his son he was dating someone regularly. I found this amusing but realize I am the first woman he has dated seriously since the divorce. When he finally told his son his son said it was fine with him, as long as I did not interfere with their relationship. What woman in their right mind would ever want to get between a father and his child? I figure as long as things continue to progress in a few short years his son will be off to college, and start a new life of his own, with a young woman that he falls in love with. When his son moves on with his life, then I can move in to that role of #1 in his life, God willing. If he is the man that I think he is I can wait.
For now, I see him about once a week. Not as much as I like, but a treasure every minute. We do take the time to talk every day on the phone, often several times during the day. This keeps us connected. I call him some mornings to wish him a good day at work. Or I may call him during lunch. We end the day talking on the phone for an hour or so about how the day went. I really care about this man. An hour on the phone with someone special is worth a dozen dates with men of less substance.
You single fathers who are devoted to your kids are real treasures. Things may seem rough and lonely now. Trust me you will find a woman who will come to love you for the very things you stand for as a single dad. When you find that kind of woman, it will make up for all the time you spent alone, and felt rejected by the women who were too superficial to settle for being #2. | |
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Posted: 4/27/2009 9:19:36 PM |
Thing is a single dad will never cheat on you because it is damn hard trying to find the time to date one woman, let alone several
cheekychappy what a great selling point on dating single dads!
Seriously, When you find the woman who appreciates you for what you do every day just by loving your kids, you will find a woman you would never WANT to cheat on, regardless of your opportunity.
And while I have not yet told my single dad boyfriend this, I will admit here on POF
those qualities that make him such a great single father to his son, are the very things that make me love him. (Keep it a secret though, we have not yet used the "L" word.
Too soon to be telling him so I will just share it with a few million fellow fishies.) | |
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Posted: 4/28/2009 9:29:22 AM | I am a single father of a teenage daughter. I also have a son that has graduated from college. I would think that should be more attractive to a woman because it shows that you are a real man that doesn't run from responsibility. I enjoy my daughter very much and wouldn't want it anyother way. If a woman can't handle the fact that my daughter lives with me, then I don't want to date her anyway. What kind of mother would that make her??? Truth be told, it has never been an issue yet.
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Posted: 4/28/2009 4:31:50 PM | | well, I think it tell you are a great person . But are you overly protective overthem. Are you enjoying your life too not just focusing on them. You have to let them know that you can balance you life. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2009 9:02:46 AM | | i am a single dad now for 4 years now too the greastest kid in the world lol i trying too get in the date ing thing but i think most women are turned off by that i have a kid or i just keep meeting women in too them self more i would like too show my boy not all women are not like his mum i dont have bunch of money around here the buch has too go a long ways here so it is hard too date on a small amout of it but i enjoy getting out but it hard | |
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