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Posted: 6/20/2005 10:03:21 AM | hey good point but any one with kids should know that my kids come first when you meet a women they expect you to accept there kids but it just seems its different when it the man that has kids | |
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Posted: 6/20/2005 11:44:04 AM | yep ok there r a few of us lol
its hard work but fun at times to | |
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Posted: 6/20/2005 12:17:56 PM | You're right, I was hiding.
It's hard to meet new friends who have no children. They don't understand that calling you at 11:30 PM on a Thursday to go out dancing or drinking doesn't work. Sitters are NOT on 24/7 standby.
I still go out sometimes, but now that my son is 13, he has his own social circle and is starting to sleep over with friends and family members. In another 5 years he'll be off to university or college and I'll be looking around the house trying to figure out what to do.
I'm glad to see that this forum isn't full of guys crying about how hard it is being a single Dad, we are the lucky ones whose generation has seen a change in the courts that will treat Dad's as equals when it comes to raising our children.
Here's to all the Dads that have their priorities straight!  | |
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Posted: 6/20/2005 5:58:56 PM | I am a full time single dad and I have a good relationship with my kids, I found out ladies are scare or affraid of dating a single dad for the reason that they think they have to take care of the kids + dad. Anyways good luck to all single dads that are here!!  | |
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Posted: 6/20/2005 11:20:56 PM | It just ain't easy not matter what the circumstances are I think. Now both my kids are disabled. I don't know how the hell I'm going to get out for a date if some gal were to throw herself at me ;) Perhaps try the old invite them for spaghetti and a movie trick!
But... at least million other people had a worse day today, so I'll just just trudge along making the best of the circumstances.
Good luck and good going to the other great dads on here. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2005 8:46:58 AM | | Well I am a single mom of three girls and was in a relationship with a man for the past 5 months and then he says he can't deal with the kids, he has never had any, and my kids are not that bad i have seen kids a whole lot worse than mine and he has been having fun but does have his moments, I am not afraid to date men with kids nor am i afraid to make a committment with a man with kids, i feel that there is so much more you can do as a family unit than alone as a couple. Just have to meet the right person out there who is a match for you and go through the obsticles that are given I am sure there are men out there who feel that they don't want to get involved with a woman with kids for fear that they may have to accept a lot more than just one person and the responsibiites that come with having a relationship that deals with kids and a poartner from either sex gender | |
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Posted: 6/21/2005 4:21:43 PM | I'm not only ,a full time single dad, of two teenagers 16 and 18. I'm fifty -seven years old.
They keep me young! Your kids are the only thing, of any true value, you'll ever have, in your life!
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Posted: 6/22/2005 9:29:50 AM | | I find that men are not interested in getting involved with a woman who has young children, so I am not willing to settle for being with someone like that | |
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Posted: 6/22/2005 11:07:31 AM | | I am a full time single dad of an almost 5 year old bi-racial girl. it's tough, batteling exes, always getting refered to as a babysitter not a father, and fighting the expectation that society has that says that men should work and not see, or raise their own kids. it is soo worth it though, my mother always told me that when I grow up she hoped that I would have a kid that acted like I did when I was young, (kind of a curse) and now I do, and couldn't be happier. dating is wierd though, girls run when they find out you have a kid, or when you explain that you can't spend $75 on dinner for two more than once a month because your daughter who is 4, hit an unexpected growth spurt and is now wearing 6-7. either that or they think it's great and they try to take over the MOM role, which in my case is a no no. my daughter has a mom, whatever our differances are, she is not a bad mother, and even though mom and daughter only spend one or two days a week with eachother the bond is there. my last girlfriend went through both, alternatly, sometimes in the same day, being upset that I limited contact between my daughter and my girlfriend, and upset that there wasn't any alone time without my daughter being there. it's like you can't win either way. they get upset if you keep them apart, they get upset when the child is there. and if any of you out there want to try something fun, try dealing with a white girlfriend, and having a bi-racial kid. they always think that you ONLY like black women. not to mention the normal jelousy one girl has when you have a child by another. How many of you have heard, "you had a kid with her, why won't you have one with me? it's like some freaky procreation contest. it's all insane. why can't people just relax, enjoy the kids when they are there, enjoy adult time when they are gone, and realize the if we wanted to be with our exes, than we would have stayed with them. anyway thanx for the chance to rant. | |
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Posted: 6/22/2005 5:04:44 PM | I am a single full time dad that is 46 yrs.old with a 5 yr.old daughter. Life is a gas!
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Posted: 6/22/2005 7:25:57 PM | It's funny that you asked that cause my best friend and I were discussing what she feels is the best man for me......a father.....I am more turned on to the fact that a man is a single father than any other man out there. It takes a lot to be a single parent as it is, and I wish that every child had fathers like the single dads here......Speaking from experience I have two fathers that won't even pick up the phone to check on their kids let alone take them for even a hot minute:( I respect any man who realized their kids are important...BRAVO BRAVO to all single dads you are some of the few:)
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Posted: 6/25/2005 7:47:30 PM | Hi everyone,
I to am a single mom of two beautiful children. I wouldn't change it for the world. They are my life and they are what makes my days so much brighter when I see their smiles or their wonderment(not sure if thats a word or not but anyways) when they learn something new. You will never know as much as love without kids than with them. Kids give so much even if their are babies like mine. And no, I dont know why single moms would run if you are a single dad as I can only see that as a plus. Like everyone says, single dads know what its like and they have been through it. Like someone else said though, its hard at certian ages to find someone special especially when were so young like me who is 21 and people who aer older like 30s,40 and so on. Anyways, just though I would say hi and I know how it feels. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2005 7:30:43 AM | | im a single dad an love being one (most of the time)i dont care wot anyone says | |
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Posted: 6/26/2005 7:32:11 AM | im a single dad an im 23 it dont effect me goin out ay weekends u got to compramise!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/14/2005 5:06:34 PM | | Single dad 46 with 5 yr. old daughter. I feel I have alot to offer. Professional dad and husband with experience in being provider and caregiver. unfortunatly no takers at the moment. who would have thought. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2005 5:50:39 PM | | I am a fulltime single Dad of 3 wonderful boys.... I have found that most women can not accept that fact or accept the thought of loving another womans child as her own.... Men are expected to do just that, but the times are changing... The children are the ones who suffer hte most in divorce and must be accepted for who they are and loved unconditionally. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2005 8:28:20 PM | | I'm a fulltime single working dad of 2 girls and 1 boy. Because of my busy life I've had a hard time dating anyone. Things seem to be a little different on this site though. I see alot of women who are interested in us guys. I just wish they lived a little closer to me lol!! | |
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Posted: 7/14/2005 8:46:38 PM | | Single parents kind of know where each other are coming from. The best relationship I ever had was with a single dad. He knew how to treat me with respect and was the greatest lover. Too bad distance got in the way of us furthering our relationship. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2005 2:18:41 AM | | well i applaud all u single dads out there...just pity there werent more like u...im a single mum,i know how hard it can be at times..... | |
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Posted: 7/15/2005 2:34:33 AM | | Hey man your not the only other one out there. It is hard But I promise it only gets easer from day 1. THey start walking and then talking and in the end your like i helped with the way he grew up. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2005 2:35:35 AM | | I beg to differ on the post men dont want n e thing to do with single moms. I love kids and i hope to have many. or help rais many | |
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Posted: 7/15/2005 7:09:17 AM | Raised my son since he was 7 he is 19 now. Now I have a 5 year old girl from a 3 year relationship 1 1/2 seeing and 1 1/2 marriage, but only see her on the weekends :( and it is not enough for her or I. She gets emotionally upset every time I take her home.
But I found that my ex used my son as bait, she warmed up to him and after 6 months we moved in together. 6 months later She treated him like crap and etc, by that time she was pregnant. The marraige last 16 months ,12 was because I didn't want to leave my kids but I became a grouch and I didn't want my kids to see me as a bad dad so I left. But now Kaylistah see's me always happy.
Guess what I am saying is if you have kids make sure the girl you date is really ok with it and watch how she interacts with them. Cause, me and my daughter are 1 and if you can't be there for both , then best to move on.
I would rather spenfd the next 15 years, well probably 10 single and a happy father than a miserable one anyday | |
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Posted: 7/15/2005 4:55:42 PM | Valentine:
You keep rockin! You can overcome...dealing with special needs is hard, but you will learn and educate those around you...you can find someone who will understand and be there for you :) I have a son with Diabetes type 1 and Tourette's syndrome...I don't like to leave him with just anyone...
Yeah as crazy as it is...dinner and a movie at home is sometimes the only thing that works...I've done it many times...as long as I am certain the guy is a gentleman and not gonna try to man handle me...only if we've met at a coffee shop first...but being a guy, you won't have to worry so much about that! 
Just live your life, enjoy your kids...focus on what's important and everything will fall into place as it should :)
You go guy!
just a thought...you could always try checking with your local home care...see if they do respite...arrange something for the early hours of the evening...I know here, that there is a company that would totally help me out that way if I wanted it...b/c they respect that you need to have 'you' time...you deserve it...and it's a program that is free :)
Check it out! | |
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Posted: 7/15/2005 5:31:18 PM | Vickyyyyyyyyy...
"well i applaud all u single dads out there...just pity there werent more like u...im a single mum,i know how hard it can be at times..... "
Don't you worry Vickyyyyyyyy, many men are being raised differently to accept that certain roles are not gender specific. Things have changed dramatically in the last decade!! Where I work there seems to be an equal number of men and women who are sole parents. There also seems to be an equal number of deadbeat parents, lol. As much as I am not a sole parent, I may as well be...every spare second I have the children are over here anyway. I do all the nurturing, and I'm very emathetic to all their needs. My career as a nurse has allowed me to hone and develop many skills that some might not allow themselves to develop because of a fear they might seem unmannly. My take on it is that I am comfortable with my sexuality and with who I am, and don't care what others think as long as my children are being taken care of.
All the best... | |
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Posted: 7/17/2005 8:18:46 PM | full time single mom of 3 here.....
just so all you wonderful guys out there with wonderful children know....just as tough for us single moms to find a decent guy that understands what it's like...
been lucky so far, i've ended up dating either guys who have kids and don't mind hanging out with a troup or guys that don't have kids that love kids. my kids are the judge jury and executioner on the men that i date....if THEY don't like him....uh uh forget it! 
i hope that each and every one of you finds a special girl that gets a clue as to what's going on....i think that you're all so very special for doing what you do. any guy can make a baby, it takes a special man to be a daddy  | |
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