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Msg: 226 | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 4:52:00 PM | | So if i don't see myself as particularly handsome does that make me a BUM? | |
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Joined: 3/25/2007
Msg: 227 | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 8:45:48 PM | Big people need to get over this. It's not most people's preference. But it's not the rest of the world that's shallow, it's just that most people don't find fat a turn on no matter how nice the person. I am too short, too old, too unfit, too whatever for some people. I can't change any of that but it's cool I haven't got a problem. But large people act as tho they have a right to be loved despite their size, and that it's our fault for not liking them.
Sorry but if I see a large person, I think eats too much, or the wrong things, doesn't exercise enough. I think carrying excess weight says something about you, and I don't like it, and you can't make me lol
Nope!
Everyone should be loved by someone whatever the size of the person
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I wouldnt make anyone like anything or anyone you cant force people to like things or people!
And i'm speaking from experience, I have been bigger and smaller, i wasnt bigger either from eating to much either!!!
I will also state the obvious women carry children which also changes the body shape!
So if i don't see myself as particularly handsome does that make me a BUM?
Nope doesnt make you a BUM! You are a person its whats in the inside everyone has something beautiful about them! | |
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Posted: 7/12/2008 11:30:42 PM | Im this world, each to their own. I am a BBW , upfront with it should people want to meet as I realise that my size is not to everyones taste . If I wish to change I will , you have to accept me as I am and I will you. ...respect is something we all should have for each other.
you dont have to like me...just keep your hurtful comments to yourself..... | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 1:41:16 AM | Big people need to get over this. It's not most people's preference. But it's not the rest of the world that's shallow, it's just that most people don't find fat a turn on no matter how nice the person. I am too short, too old, too unfit, too whatever for some people. I can't change any of that but it's cool I haven't got a problem. But large people act as tho they have a right to be loved despite their size, and that it's our fault for not liking them.
I dont think anyone in this thread asked you too luv. Some of us have enough self respect that we dont have to dig around people like you to look for approval.
Some are fat (i am) some are not fat, some like it, some dont. Not sure who made you the god of all things, but heres a word to the (not so) wise. Im pretty sure youre not all that either dear, infact you insinuate youre not in your little speech so if you expect people to either like it or lump it with you, why deny fat people that same right?. Have a nice day now. :) | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 1:52:38 AM | This thread just goes on and on, doesn't it?!
I think that CurvyDee needs to start classes all around the country, counselling all those who carry 'excess' weight. She'd soon stop the whinging 'poor me' attitude of some of the fatties on here!
Either like who you are, or change so that you like who you are.
If you are fat and content with being that way, great. Self respect has the effect of making others respect you. (Our Dee being the perfect example of this)
If you are fat and NOT content with being that way, then sort it out. Do whatever it takes to build your self respect and you will find that people treat you with respect. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 2:24:12 AM | Well i am glad to say that i never have any problems in dating and have plenty of attention wen i go out. You are right in wot u say, if u are not happy with it then do something about it, i have put 2 stone on this year and i am now doing something about it, purely for myself, like i said never short of dates!
I do not find certain words offensive, and each person has their preference on wot they like.  | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 4:19:45 AM | Thank you SJS  
I do try to keep things as positive as i can you know, im not a bad person i have good qualities but im more than aware of the fact that some blokes arent going to give a shit about whats on the inside, as they need to find the outside attractive and no i dont think that makes them shallow..... I dont find short skinny men attractive so unlike some on here im not hypocritcal lol, each to his own eh? xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 4:20:48 AM | I dont think anyone in this thread asked you too luv. Some of us have enough self respect that we dont have to dig around people like you to look for approval.
Some are fat (i am) some are not fat, some like it, some dont. Not sure who made you the god of all things, but heres a word to the (not so) wise. Im pretty sure youre not all that either dear, infact you insinuate youre not in your little speech so if you expect people to either like it or lump it with you, why deny fat people that same right?. Have a nice day now. :)
hehe typically defensive response.
let me revisit here, I was told that I should look beyond the fat and like the person. My answer is why should I when that's not my preference? I don't complain cos I'm short, old, whatever. I don't whine on about how women should date me anyway and see the person inside instead of looking at the height.
It's all a compromise anyway to some degree. Why is fat only an issue for fat people?
Lets start a shorties club, and any woman who won't date me cos I;m not six foot should be remonstrated with for being shallow lol
I edited before I'd read. But never mind. I haven't personalised comments, but you seem to want to. I think you've said more about yourself than me treacle lol
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Posted: 7/13/2008 4:23:40 AM | It's really that simple. Everything else including your need to try and put me down comes from your defensiveness.
You're fat and it isn't most people's preference. Get over it luv there's no real argument to be had.
You clearly dont know me or my posts very well or you'd realise how ridiculous you sound, im the biggest (excuse the pun) advocate of either loving yourself as you are or getting of your fat arse and doing something about it. I also tell everyone im fat & im happy about it, one glance of my profile would have told you that. Or infact if you'd taken the time to read the whole of this thread instead of just the last page you wouldnt have just made yourself look a complete idiot for jumping to conclusions, or even the last post before yours where someone else re-iterated my stance (being if youre fat & happy, great but dont whine about people not liking you for your size if thats an issue for you do something about it) ... but hey too late you've achieved idiot status off the bat.
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It's all a compromise anyway to some degree. Why is fat only an issue for fat people? Lets start a shorties club, and any woman who won't date me cos I;m not six foot should be remonstrated with for being shallow lol
Nice edit after you read my reply, but youve already dug your hole dear.
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Oh i see you'e edited your post again, infact you've completely changed it since you realised how wrong this statement was you made:
You're fat and it isn't most people's preference. Get over it luv there's no real argument to be had. Seems to have completely dissapeared, good job i quoted you when it was still there huh? Self ownage on a man is sooo unattractive. :) Oh and im not your *treacle*.
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Posted: 7/13/2008 5:40:55 AM | Reality check. It's not what's inside. If that was the case women wouldn't prefer tall men. Or fit men. Or younger men.
Big people need to get over this. It's not most people's preference. But it's not the rest of the world that's shallow, it's just that most people don't find fat a turn on no matter how nice the person. I am too short, too old, too unfit, too whatever for some people. I can't change any of that but it's cool I haven't got a problem. But large people act as tho they have a right to be loved despite their size, and that it's our fault for not liking them.
Sorry but if I see a large person, I think eats too much, or the wrong things, doesn't exercise enough. I think carrying excess weight says something about you, and I don't like it, and you can't make me lol
Much as it pains me to admit it, Boris has made some fair points here. I didn't find his comments insulting, just matter-of-fact. I prefer my men tall, White, solid, lean and younger - and God knows I've turned away a fair few men for not meeting my physical criteria. Boris wouldn't have made it over the first hurdle lol
As a BBW, I'm infinitely more defensive and insecure (about my looks) than I was as a slim size 12, so it's fair to say I don't LIKE my size. That said, I'm not DOING much about it either, so he's right -- I shouldn't whinge.
I did wonder, though, what drew Boris to a forum with "BBWs" in the title if he finds women's curves so repulsive... | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 5:58:39 AM | being a bbw and being happy or unhappy should make no difference to how others view you or if you are attractive to many, few.
Attraction is a visual thing first and a personality thing later..usually.
i respect the fact that some men dont fancy big women, in the same way i dont fancy small, skinny men.
Personal preference and i find it crazy that anyone should suggest otherwise.
However the point is that just because some dont like big women there is a 'thought' that they are somehow inferior or less attractive and should change to being thin...thats sh1t.
Not everyone needs to look the same or to conform to the medias idea of beauty. Everyone is attractive to someone and for me thats all that matters..ooo that and the fact that being offensive to anyone or trying to demeam because they dont fit what you consider lovely.. is wrong.
Lou..happy to be me
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Posted: 7/13/2008 7:03:30 AM | I did wonder, though, what drew Boris to a forum with "BBWs" in the title if he finds women's curves so repulsive...
I don't find them repulsive at all. I just don't find them romantically attractive. One of the nicest people I know (who has spent some time working out a way that I can be the one to marry her and her fella cos we love eah other so much) is a bigger woman. I don't have a problem at all. The thread is just another thread to comment on. Some large women are beautiful.
The only point I was making was that I should not be villified because my preference is not for larger women, and that not being sexually attracted to larger women makes me in some way shallow or whatever. That's it. Simple.
PS: Fancy a date? | |
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Posted: 7/13/2008 7:46:44 AM | PS: Fancy a date?
What, and jump the long, snaking queue of gorgeous young supermodels all clamoring for their turn with you? I couldn't be so cruel!  | |
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Posted: 7/14/2008 4:30:14 AM | Not sure where this fits into this thread but speaking from experience.........
My ex and the mother of my kids is a 5ft 3 size 8 (and very proud of it) skinny mini. So when being single again after being with her for so many years I presumed that she was my 'type'.
After deciding being single wasnt all it was cooked up to be, I ventured onto this site. The first woman I dated was definately not a size 8 but she was gorgeous and I used to melt in her presence. I never thought I would be attracted to someone bigger than me (I am an 18st ex rugby playin ex nightclub doorman so no mini myself) but something about her was intoxicating and I felt like a daft teenager chasing the prom queen. The more I met her the more I fancied her.
So personally I dont mention what 'type' of woman I am looking for, because I dont have one. Visual attraction is obviously important but for me chemistry is the deal maker/breaker. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2008 2:56:46 PM | Just as some men can be "shallow" I'm afraid I like to think I can be just as picky because I prefere my men either the same height or taller than me and with a muscular build. I've tried but being a larger girl if I try to date a shorter/smaller man I just feel even bigger next to him, and certainly not sexy!  | |
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Posted: 7/15/2008 3:58:53 PM | Me too!!
If people don't like me the way i am, then don;t like me somewhere else.
I'm quite happy being a BBW and i dont get no complaints! xx | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 12:16:59 PM | Personally I love women to have a womanly figure. Hips, bums and boobs do it for me.
I saw a size 16 girl is up for the Miss England finals! Good for her its about time we started looking for role models outside of the stick thin Hollywood area.
Not everyone is built the same and as a number of people have said on here... if you dont like it dont look. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 12:45:41 PM | I have no preference in size. I used to be a pretty big guy a few years ago and what annoys me is I get more attention now then back then. I accept it because that's just the way the world works and it's not about to change no matter how many tv shows try and alter societies perception.
I met someone today who said she's too ashamed to leave her house since she's put on weight. She used to be a bubbly skinny minnie and now she feels so bad even getting her to do anything about it gets her depressed. This is what the we must all be size 0's have done to her and it breaks my heart to see someone like that. Don't get me wrong I'm not slagging off anyone who is a size 0 or 8, 10.. what ever the general number is for a skinny person these days. I'm simply saying that big or small if it's something that changes who you are, makes you less confident, makes you doubt if someone would love you for you.. that's when we need to worry. Is there a way to help someone like that?
Forget about the size of a person... even forget if you'd want to shag them or not.. we all have preferences and you're all welcome to them but I think we need to try and be more encouraging to others and build them up! I hate the song but it's true.. big girls you are beautiful... I just wish that those who are emotionally affected by their weight would start to believe it. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 12:51:13 PM | ^^^^^^^^^
i quite agree, but the song i would have chosen to illustrate this would be TLC "unpretty"
no one has the right to make someone else feel unpretty for watever reason, be it being bigger, thinner, taller, shorter.. etc etc..
some are prettier than others and thats accepted, but to make someone else feel not good about them selves is unacceptable... | |
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Posted: 7/17/2008 12:54:45 PM | ^^^^^
yes and yes!!
could not agree more...if only everyone thought the same...for that thought alone makes someone beautiful!
Lou
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