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Posted: 9/19/2006 2:13:19 AM | I have average figure on my profile and often get messages asking why i put that but i think my figure is average.. im not too skinny and not too big so its average right?
I understand that the national average dress size is larger but i think alot it boils down to how you feel about yourself.. your inner confidence.
I'm 5 ft 2 and a size 8....i do get comments from women saying things like " oh i would love your figure" but its not that much fun... finding clothes is a nightmare.. the jeans i am wearing are age 12/13.... and guys tend to say things like " aww bless aren't you cute" its condesending... women who are bigger get much more respect.
My best friend is a size 18/20 and she is the sexiest most confident woman i have ever met, she always looks great and carries herself with pride and is never without a date.
But i do feel more attracted to big men.. tall and broad.. not flabby but big and well proportioned.
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Posted: 9/19/2006 2:49:41 AM | I consider myself a BBW (please see pic lol)
I don’t find that I am unable to approach someone because of my size, however if looking at profiles I see someone who obviously works out regularly or who puts the gym as one their hobbies then unless they has specified in some way that that they don’t mind the size of an individual then I do tend not to get in touch (contradicting myself I know) It is all down to an inner confidence I don’t have much off (although I am working on it) and I am quite shy.
I don’t mind the ‘beefier’ man but I don’t know whether I would consider dating a very large gentleman, saying that I aint particularly fond of very muscular men or very skinny men either! Each to their own, everyone is beautiful in their own unique way | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 2:50:27 PM | Forgive me Ryan ..... or don't - as you please - I shan't give a jot one way or the other ..... your comments are somewhat 'offensive' ...... or at least I find them so ..... don't know about others.
I can't find my original post on the matter ...... and only come here ocassionally, in passing .......... but I do think the matter of 'size' ..... so long as health is not compromised ..... is a case of what we are 'comfortable' with.
Some might consider me to be very fortunate ..... in so far as I eat what I like (but I'm vegetarian/going on vegan - only eat 'healthy') - am the same size that I was at 17 ..... but I'd love a few 'curves' (in the right places, of course) ..... and I'd love to be able to buy 'grown-up' clothes to fit.
But I'm happy with 'me' as I am ...... and that's the main thing.
Your comments suggest that 'appearance' - 'your ideal/standards' are very important to you. Behind the 'appearance' is a person ..... with feelings/hopes/disappointments/aspirations.
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Posted: 10/4/2006 3:04:26 PM | can't help but laugh at some of the posts on here.... being someone who has been big then lost loads of weight then back on etc etc...losing again.... i couldn't give two f***s about what anyone thinks about me...the most important thing is how i feel....
as for ryan's comments..... what's it like being god's gift???? 
Thank god i don't only go on looks if i did i would go for ryan...but thankfully i require a personality with it too...so that rules ryan out.... | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 3:04:49 PM | MSG 79 Surely, if you are comfortable with your jiggly bits, then you shouldn't be lacking in confidence when approaching a man? If you aren't confident, then I suggest that you are anything but comfortable with yourself.
BTW ( A general point) There is nothing wrong with being overweight - but accept that there are those who don't view overweight people as potential partners. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 3:21:09 PM | Well im a size 14/16 so im not sure if that makes me a BBW or not, was never really sure what that meant to be honest and have never seen any guys with BHM on their profiles (as yet) but i dont think that would put me off.
Its the person im attracted to and not the fact that they look like Mr Atlas etc and i would much rather date a lovely guy who is a bit overweight than some muscley hunk whose head is up his own ass!!!! | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 3:22:44 PM | | MSG 83 The conversation might be a bit difficult if someone like that turned up! | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 3:26:49 PM | Msg 84 it wouldnt be the first time, trust me lol  | |
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Posted: 10/6/2006 7:08:32 AM | | i wonder why it is ok to have a thread about this topic, yet i make a thread about black women and it gets deleted? this place will never change. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2006 7:53:17 AM | | Well I love black women, I just don't want a large one | |
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Posted: 10/6/2006 12:22:45 PM | | Forgive me ...... from what you say it seems you may not be as confident as you appear .... that's no big deal ..... few of us are ..... male or female ..... but being 'comfortable with'/'liking ourselves' (for who/what we are) is the main issue ..... 'size' then becomes insignicant. We have to 'love' ourselves before we are capable of truly loving someone else or expecting 'love' from someone else. Take care. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2006 1:20:28 PM | I've picked up two main points here:
1. Sexiness is a state of mind. Someone up there covered this and it's so true. Regardless of size, you can see a group of girls and there will be one who just oozes sex appeal. It's just an aura that some girls have, whether fat or thin.
2. The BBW thing has touched a nerve. I really think that no woman wants to be known as 'BBW'. My younger sister put on a mass of weight a few years ago. She asserts that she's quite happy to be 'curvaceous' and 'jolly', but her eyes show the lie: she hates being fat and is facing the big food vs excercise battle and, sadly, losing.
Strange thing is, a tall fat fella seems to be deemed socially acceptable and successful. A Fat woman is regarded as outside the norm. Why is this? | |
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Posted: 10/7/2006 12:14:59 AM | Message 80: WTG my thoughts exactly on Ryan - it is how he comes across on the forum gets my dander up. He maybe the sweetest guy to know in person but here......... I beg to differ.
I used to be a size 12 but these days I am a size 16. Proud of who I am and know my shortcomings dont need a guy to tell me what I know already.
I find men say they like all ages, shapes and sizes but when it comes down to the nitty gritty whooshh they are gone .... why is that? Must admit I prefer the larger man over a skinny guy but personality will come first in my book anytime. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2006 12:52:42 AM | I actually find Ryan quite refreshing in a kind of masochistic way..... I'm overweight... I need to lose another 20lb's (I've lost 66lb's to date)....
People need to be true to themselves and if that includes a penchant for stick thin model types then Ryan should be able to make comments on his preference, after all that's all it is.. HIS preference...
Ryan's proclivity for outmoded and inciteful commentary is another of his personal traits and as such,, if you don't like them then he is someone to avoid and ignore...
I'm big yes, but not as big as I was and I now get comments like well done but don't lose ur t1ts/ass.. As monsieur Jonathan 'Wossy' Ross so succinctly put it... You need some cushion for the pushin'...
If you're big n beautiful revel in your curves, if you hate it, do something about it.. but don't blame it all on one shallow person's opinion of you...
My personal preference is for a guy with a broad back and good shoulders.. but the man has to have a good behind... No point having a nine inch nail if there's no hammer to knock it in with!!!! | |
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Posted: 10/7/2006 1:11:48 AM | | Oh I wasnt saying he cant say his preferences, just was agreeing with a comment said earlier about him. Tend to ignore his comments about the larger lady anyway. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2006 2:37:46 AM | | wow, i guess i could pray that all women were "average" like lexi | |
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Posted: 10/7/2006 2:56:26 AM | Well I dont really mind being the size I am , I jsut get fed up with comments from stupid people who think you'll nick all their chips or eat all the pies !!
and I wouldnt pray for every woman to be "average " clothes shopping would be a night mare if we were all the same ,,, and it would be boring | |
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Posted: 10/7/2006 3:13:20 AM | Uk BBWs and BHMs? What?!
Nah, I'm just happy to refer to them as "Fat fookers". I don't really have a problem with that. I tend to view it as cutting out the 'middle man'. Not meaning to be offensive to anyone, like.
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Posted: 10/18/2006 7:20:06 AM | Give me a very tall, statuesque beauty of a gal with a big bottom and a big shoe size and I will be in my 7th heaven...nuff said.
Awily sense of humor is also delisciously welcomed.
Tall Amazon worshiper here....
If I am going to do something naughty and silly,
at least let it be with someone larger than life...
Yeah, for once I want to experience the flip side of the Paul Anka tune "Put your head on my shoulder"..let me rest my face on a tall amazon's broad shoulder. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 7:31:46 AM | | I don't mind if a lady is a bit on the large side - more woman to play with. I dont even mind if they are taller than me. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 4:39:23 AM | student nurse,
I once knew a tall big hispanic girl who had a matronly figure: buxom, a nice big fat butt, wide hips and what one might call the hour glass figure. I enjoyed her company. We went to the movies, chatted, went out for dinner. But!!!! She moved away and also she had a rather busy schedule. I have fond memories. I hope I meet another like her again. In a way you remind me of a shorter, a bit darker skinned version of her.
I like my women meaty and beefy so they can pin me down with no hopes at all of escape.
I want to be a prisoner of their wanton lust as they voraciously ravage my body with their lips, hands and love making. That is why I find very tall big girls so delisciously enticing..
mmMmmmmmmmmmmmMmmmmmmm nice......Plus I love squeezing, caressing and spanking that big derrier. I have been known to be that kind of girl's @sss kisser/@ss licker.
My favorite place to put "hickeys". So becareful when you retort and tell someone to kiss your @ss, they just might and want to!
I am soirry but a lass with a big fat @ss always makes my heart race, let alone makes my "best friend" salute at attention! | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 4:59:31 AM |
(singing) "He likes big buts and he cannot lie" 
Baby got back - that is the name of the song isn't it? | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 5:27:49 AM | I'm a very big woman, size 24, my wedding dress was a 24. I've never dated a large man in my life as I'm attracted to tall men - over 6ft with toned bodies. The problem I'm finding is that the men in the age group I prefer (over 50) want younger women, and good for them. I don't consider anyone out of my league, if I like the look of them I read their profile. If they are short, write in text format have nothing in common with me then I move on!
We each have our own preferences. It would be very hypocrital of me to be offended if a man didn't want to date me etc because I was fat/black/over 40. You just don't need to insult someone in the process. It would never cross my mind to tell someone to get lost because they were short or too old for me - it wouldn't make me feel any better about myself by putting someone else down, in fact it would make me question why I needed to do that! | |
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