| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/21/2006 9:16:48 AM | | I personally do believe that you have to go thru the bad to appreciate whats good. You will know when that certain someone comes along, but you can't force it. So, I think that every bad relationship is just a stepping stone...so that when the real deal comes along, you will know how it really feels to love and will appreciate it, and I do believe there is someone for EVERYONE. Otherwise we wouldn't be so damned over populated! | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/21/2006 11:24:06 PM | | Hey am sorry u feel that way...If u can go to a bookstore and buy this book is gonna be very helpful..why men love ****es..u will love it...pls get it asap..u will like it.. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/22/2006 11:55:39 AM | I've come to accept the fact that I am very much deemed at this point in time to be alone.. at 1st I was mortified with the idea, ive had 2 serious relationships (both had lasted around 6years) so being on my own shell shocked me, but now I am very comfortable with it.
If somethings meant to come along then it will happen, im not going to force a situation or go looking for the woman of my dreams, thats the only place she actually exists. In the meantime im happy with male or female friends and it never going any further, friendship seems to last alot longer than love in this day and age anyway .. i wont die alone proverbiably so what is there to be worried about?. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/22/2006 6:22:06 PM | naimh..........i'm pretty much starting to feel the same way. i was married twice, had a b/f of 2 years and been single again since last year. don't get me wrong, i've dated in between now and then but guys want different things.............
big chested, small chested, bj's, anal, skinny, long hair, blonde hair, and the newest one is that i live too far.........
some guys are going to realize that the older they get, the women might decide that they don't want them either. i don't like having dinner for one so i haven't been cooking too often, i get very lonely and just wished that someone would call me but my phone never rings (only mom calling me), my chest is only bigger cuz of weight gain so when i lose the weight again the 1st thing to go is the chest. long hair, i have to watch out cuz i've been getting too bored lately and i know that if i'm too bored i would cut just about all of it off or atleast up to my shoulders......taking off atleast 12". i wish there were more people that live around me, atleast just to hang out with. i wouldn't mind hanging out and going to the club with the girls..........if there was any close to me. i'm pretty much up in the sticks with the hicks.
so g/f, i know how ya feel and it's not a good feeling...... | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/22/2006 6:43:24 PM | | I think you can be alone and not lonely. I've been divorced now for almost nine years now. Hey if your sisters jumped off a bridge would you? I think "so what" if I meet the right one,I'll know it. Have fun in life, because it's not being with someone that makes it. Personally, my married or dating friends can't go do the things I do. getting down to brass tacks, I'm taking full advantage of being single, not alone. But if you think that the world will end if you don't find someone, I wish you the best of luck in finding them, the RIGHT One of course! | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/22/2006 11:05:46 PM | You know you may be right. and this is something i needed to hear right now. at this point i fermley belive that i am ment to be alone, and that i will end up like so many of the elderly womer i took care of with no faimly. and if it is true that there is someonr for everyone, mine must be in some far off country i will never get to go to.
I meet someone here a couple of weeks ago, we been out on a couple of dates and i thought things looked good for a 2 week stand point. and then all of a sudden nothing. it is things like that that will make you belive you are desten to be alone forever. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/23/2006 8:33:17 AM | Not referring to anyone on this particular thread ..yet..unless I missed something....
But from alot of the shallowness, rudeness, and conceit I've seen on this site......yeah, SOME people are meant to be alone. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/23/2006 8:45:44 AM | Your 26!!!! You have so much life left to live. Work on you. Find out what makes you happy what you want and do it. You have life by the ass right now so to speak. You will find that when you like yourself and are confident that more positive people with similar traits come your way. Maybe one of them will be the person you are meant to be with. If not then keep living girl. One day at a time. You are in charge of your own destiny. The white fence and house and a couple of kids arent so great when you are with Mr. Wrong. The right man will come along. Until then take care.
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/23/2006 10:33:15 AM | | You will meet someone when you least expect it, i have met a lovely man online, we have been out on a few dates and hes 52 and hes yum yum. We go out and have a good laugh. I did not think i was going to meet someone but then it just happens when you least expect. Its early days yet but we have a good time together and i really like being with him. Billy Graham said theirs someone for everyone, their is it just takes a bit of time. Hold in their girl you,ll meet someone nice who suits you. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/23/2006 11:24:08 AM | | I'm firmly convinced some people ARE meant to be alone. I don't know what the reason is, or which pantheon of gods demands it, but I think it's true. I've been trying for 12 years since my last relationship and I'm getting nowhere fast. Nobody contacts me, nobody responds to the mail I send out, nobody even puts me on their "favorites" list. My luck in r/l is the same. I'm either invisible or frighteningly repulsive, because women won't give me the time of day. I don't know why it is and I'm getting really tired of it. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/23/2006 1:55:39 PM |
Im oldest in my family and sisters are settled down with the first guys they met and im alone again
This might come across as being a bit harsh I don't know but are your sisters actually happy or did they just fall into a long term relationship which simply became marriage because that was the next logical step? Are they really with the person that they want? Have they even asked themselves the question? | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/24/2006 3:54:08 AM | Yes I believe that some people are ment to be alone
its unfortunate I agree but it happens for a reason
It doent mean the person is bad it just means that its just not ment to be for that person
though i base this on personal exxperience only
having been left at the alter twice in 3 years sort of opened my eyes to it
plus 3 brothers of my mother have all been batchelors - i think its a family trait -soon to die off LOL | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/24/2006 8:39:25 AM | I think the mindset of most people today (men and women) is that they just someone for sex, and then they can bugger off afterwards and leave them alone. ie: Have privacy 23 hours of the day, and slip in an hour of sex.
Things usually start to go bad in a relationship when the two people start TALKING. Then you find out how little you have in common and how much you hate the other person.
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/24/2006 4:52:34 PM | | Personally i do not believe anyone should be alone,but sometimes this is what life seems to hand us,and sometimes we must deal with it,If we have our family and our friends what more does one need,Yes sometimes being alone and not sharing what we have in our hearts can be a quiet and sombre world,but its what we choose sometimes,so we need to drop the barriers we hold within us and open up those gates and let others join as a friendship and maybe one day a true life, | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/25/2006 6:32:24 AM | Sometimes being alone is good for us, becuase we get to know ourselves as people and become stronger and more independant as people, also we have time to reflect on our mistakes. So many people rush in and out of relationships, taking the same old baggage and repeating the same mistakes as before.
I spent seven years alone, i was not interested in a man at all after the last one, but as time passess i don,t have someone because i need someone but someone because i want someone. theris a huge difference. I think when a person is stronger and happier in themselves and feels quite good about themselves they are more inclined to attract the right sort of person. No one is meant to be alone, unless they want to be of course.
I have noticed as well alot of people are inclined to put to much value on looks today. looks can attract someone but to substain a relationship love and security are the most beautiful thing that can be given, and not a pretenscious size eight. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/26/2006 3:03:34 PM | I'm curious how many people actually find their "mate" on POF.
If I was to throw out a number, I'd say about 1%.
Clearly, women have a better chance... depending on what they're looking for. ie: A simple photo of them in a bikini will pretty much guarantee an evening of sex with someone. Where women run into trouble on this site is if they're looking for something OTHER than sex.
Guys (unfortunately) are "meant to be single forever" on POF. Even if we find a woman that's attractive, intelligent, etc... she has over 500 favourites already and is swamped with emails to the point where she can never reply. Even if 499 of them are garbage losers, the nice guys can't break through the crap. Our emails get deleted along with the rest of them, and the woman typically gives up and leaves the site in short order.
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/27/2006 5:51:16 AM | The answer is no, your only alone forever if you want to be alone for ever.
I had an ex who thought that ..... a year later she was married to the love of her life. This world is very unpredictable and full of some many different people with so many different tastes. With the advent of the internet you can talk to alot more of them now too! | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/27/2006 6:57:31 AM | | Thats a tough question to answer being that everyone around me r getting married and having babies and falling in love...cept for me...men seem to wanna say things to me i wanna hear...and buy me things and do sweet things for me ...then turn around and totally ignore me and not speak to me again...so this is a touch question to answer...i think im meant to be alone forever...i dont know about anyone else...any opinions on this people? | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/27/2006 7:11:03 AM | If someone 'happens' to come along, huh? I'm sorry, but I have to disagree. If you want to be in a relationship or have anything 'happen' you've got to be the one to make it happen.
You can't just sit around waiting for things to fall in your lap. That's where communication comes in very handy. Don't tell me that this isn't just another way to sell yourself. Besides, if people were truly happy being on their own they wouldn't bother going on POF now would they? As for broken hearts, I've been there. Going through it right now as a matter of fact. Just found out my ex I met on here has a new girlfriend and it's torn me apart. I can also sympathise with break ups ending badly, as this one was certainly not what you'd call a clean break. Good luck to everyone out there. I hope you finally find what you're looking for because all I've ended up with is heartache and bittersweet memories. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 2:48:49 PM | I agree with GenuineGent,
Most people rush into a relationship and then back off just as fast when they come up against something they do not like. It takes time to get to know another human being. Soul mates are developed over time. None of us need to be in a rlationship. We can and often do without one for years. In the mean time build yourself a life that nourishes you with good friends and activities you love to do.Then if or when your current Mr. Wonderfull leaves you, you have the support of good friends and a life that is rich. A good relationship is the iceing on tha cake. Build the cake and you will never go hungry. Have only iceing abd you may be left with only a sweet taste. I know that at 27 it feels like time is running out but a good man is worth waiting for. I suspect the fellows were good men. Just not the good man for you If not then you are better off without him anyway. Keep on looking. For every "NO" you get you are one step closer to yes. If your Mr Wonderful does not turn up you will still have a life. It is you who chooses how you feel about that.
Try thinking about what you get to do if you are not in a relationship.
1. Spend your last $ on a new pair of great shoes.
2. Wear a grotty teeshirt to bed.
3. No one will wake you and tell you to stop snoreing.
4. Haing your pantyhose in the shower.
5. Not take a shower for a couple of days.
6. Eat popcorn for dinner
7. Read a book for hours undisturbed.
8. Flirt outragiously with lots of men
9.Not having to consider anothers wants and needs
10. Hvaing the whole bed to yourself.
And that is just a few
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 3:20:29 PM | | That is the smartest thing I've heard anyone say ever in this place. You HAVE to be happy with yourself first before you expect anyone else to be happy with you. Hope all broken hearts out there will take some solace in this | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/29/2006 6:59:39 PM | | i do beleive there is someone for everyone, no one is meant to be alone. we make our own choices. i have been divorced for 8 years, but out of those 8 years he always seems to stick his nose into my business, the latest is my internet dating, which one of my kids let slip. i have had relationships in between, but nothing lasting more than 3 months. when feelings start to come in to it i build this wall around myself, wall of protection i call it, then i start pushing them away. i am a 43 year old woman who still feels no different than when she was 30. so what i am saying is it all comes back to choices we make, if we have been hurt in the past we may subconciously only let people get so close. but dont ever give up, i wont. | |
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