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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/26/2006 3:39:17 AM | Stalkers? Don't shut up? Hmm...I think some of you have some unresolved issues!  | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/26/2006 4:01:52 AM |
it's all about the poonani baby once it's had we are gone
Please tell me you are joking Tutu....fortunately you are NOT the spokes"man" for all your species..... | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/26/2006 4:20:21 AM | | I would also love a clear answer to this question. Even if the "relationship" isn't serious, why do men just drop off the planet? I know it's hard to risk confrontation, or hurt someone's feelings, but come on boys...grow a set. Whether we are looking for our soul mates or just a wee bit of fun...we all have feelings. Even a quick e-mail to say, "sorry...this isn't working for me" if you don't have the stones to do it in person. It's not cool to just stop calling and avoid phone calls. I know women do it too, and to them I also say...grow up. It's just not that hard. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/26/2006 6:28:55 AM | Yet another press release from the Ministry of Broad Brush Strokes ...............
Even if the "relationship" isn't serious, why do men just drop off the planet?
This is not limited by gender. The reasons are usually associated with either lack of self confidence, lack of good manners or lack of maturity and these symptoms apply to both men AND women equally. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/26/2006 7:16:20 AM | I stopped trying to understand why people act the way they do. Just accept them for who and what they are and move on.
It's obvious that if he loved you he wouldn't have fallen off the face of the earth.
Be thankful for the experience and grateful it ended when it did as it wasn't meant to be.
Lick your wounds, get up, brush yourself off and throw yourself back into the mix in the hopes of finding that elusive needle in the haystack. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/26/2006 7:44:07 AM | This seems to go with the other post, "Grass is Greener" these men and women could be playing the field.  | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/26/2006 8:37:04 AM | because we men know that if we break your heart that you'll pack up our shit and throw it all out the window like this ****
http://youtube.com/watch?v=CUx84FO2EYU
although she was doing it cause her husband or whoever cheated on her...but i've heard stories from girls throwing my friend's tv's n expensive shit out the window because they were breaking up and trashing my friend's places...now that's not exactly legal or right if you ask me...actually i'm gonna make a thread about this.... | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/26/2006 5:25:53 PM | Don't take it personally.
For both men and women, its the avoiding a commitment.
Life is easier without committments, it seems.
Better stay in the dating section. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/26/2006 7:48:15 PM | i have found that in some women too. i was dating a woman that told me she loved me every day of the week then one day she just stopped calling. when i asked her why she seemed to be pushing me away she just told me she wasnt ready for a relationship yet and to quit calling.
so its just the person not just men. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/28/2006 1:39:31 PM | I think we as men and woman, we are different, we think differently and we always will....men will never understand woman and vice versa.....we love differently.....I also feel that we as people confuse lust and love......at first, with the attraction to one another, we lust...and sometimes that is confused with love......because i think that if we truly loved....there would be no cheating, no lying, no running.....TRUE lOVE....he or she would never think to cheat you, he or she would never have to lie to you, he or she would be completely open and honest with you always, there would be no fear in being transparent with one another....and again this is my opinion....if we truly deeply loved....HE WOULD BE YOUR WORLD AND YOU WOULD BE HIS and THERE WOULD BE NO OBSTACLE BIG ENOUGH THAT YOU COULD NOT GET OVER TOGETHER......
I also feel that when we are not compatible, some tend to not let go, which cause stalkers...negativity....and just plain nastiness.....do dwell on the past, live life to the fullest and get over it....move on....keep your head high and smile always....life is worth it and there is tooo many of us out here to sweat the small stuff. Keep negativity out of your life and u will always be clear minded and happy....good luck to all of you.....CHEERS :) | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/28/2006 1:59:10 PM | | I think it's dangerous to make generalizations as to why MEN do this, women do that, etc. Each situation may be unique to it's circumstances and the individuals involved. Sadly, when it comes to human behavior, sometimes even the person involved, whether it be a man or a woman, doesn't understand his/her own motivations. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/28/2006 2:18:39 PM |
I stopped trying to understand why people act the way they do. Just accept them for who and what they are and move on.
Amen to that. I know that I have (much to my chagrin) not called a woman back and it's happened to me as well. Perhaps he didn't feel the connection you did. Perhaps there's just no good way to say, "I am not into you."
Good thing there is one thing that will never leave me...  | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/28/2006 3:44:24 PM | In fact 80% of divorces are instigated purely by the women so it's not the men doing the running.
If you cant to the profesional number crunchers and marriage counsellers, 95% of all divorces come as a bolt out of the blue to one partner or the other.
And it's nothing sudden. The partner who instigates the dovorce has been in an unsitisfactory relationships for months/years and the final petty reason is often not the major reason but just the last straw. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/28/2006 3:47:42 PM | Why is it some men that you date, and they are so hot and heavy for you, they say they love you and then one day they just stop calling you and yu can't get in touch with them anymore. Are men cowards or what? or just scared to hurt the woman to call her and tell her he is not interested? I don't get it. Please help!
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I can only help you if you are completely honest with me.
Now! Are we talking abotu some generalisation, or some gf greizzling on your shoulder, about a bf who got sick of her abuse and just broke off.
Or are we talking about you??? | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/28/2006 3:55:46 PM | How does one "make people prove their true friendship"....
Time.
The only answer is time. The "fast consumption" attitude will not survive the test of time. Take it slow. (This seems to be hard advice to take). If you haven't known him/her for at least 6 months..you know nothing. Slow Down.
I have found that the player wants the game to play out... these people are not going to be willing to invest large amounts of time. So, time is the effect way to weed them out.
Enjoy your new found infatuation, and expect nothing. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/28/2006 4:01:23 PM | | Because they're incapable of truly telling you what's going on with them ie. they're just not very good at communicating their feelings and it's just easier for them to cut out...and sometimes maybe they cut out because things are getting too intense for them and they're just not ready for that or it's just too much too soon...mind you one or two years down the road...they may come around and give you an explanation. | |
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Posted: 10/29/2006 11:10:50 PM | uuuh yea sure agnes...how about this? because some men are complete morons & insist on thinking with their johnson, sad but true & they know who they are...which gives us nice guys a bad name & we have to work twice as hard & are always under suspicion of being a "player" simply to get to know a lady & because some jack off who couldn't keep it in his pants long enough to appreciate & respect her for who she is & because she got royaly screwed & now she has issues & has to post something like this on a dating site...WAITER! CHEQUE PLEASE!  | |
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Posted: 10/30/2006 4:13:39 AM | | I understand the fear of telling someone that you don't have an attraction for someone,ou're not interested any longer, and I get the running away part...in this society we run away from a lot of stuff because we think it is easier than dealing with whatever is going on. So I can understand a person's choice to disappear in a particular context...BUT...when someone makes promises, and uses and manipulates the other person's emotions for their own ends that's just plain rude and malicious. There is a difference in being scared about telling someone how you really feel and manipulating and lying to someone. I've had men been afraid to tell me that they're not interested and play avoidance, and I've had men play me and disappear...there is a difference in intention...the first guy just doesn't want to hurt my feelings, the other guy doesn't care whatsoever and, instead, uses and throws away. That hurts and is disrespectful. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/30/2006 7:24:35 AM | Whats worse is to have someone tell you its not working for them when up until five minutes prior they were all over your ass and not just in a physical way.
Meds anyone? | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/30/2006 8:53:37 AM | Would it not be helpful to know why they are one way for some time and then just stop? I can not understand that at all.....
The use of the word "love" is used to often and for many different reasons, yet it is the one word so many want to hear or believe and will do almost anything to hear it. Maybe we need to use more words like "caring", "concerned", "understanding", "time", etc. and just be yourself......not what is expected of you.
Let it happen and not force it so fast, or have specific reasons to justify your actions while dating.
Just my opinion...... | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/30/2006 9:16:26 AM | | Men and women, we've all been there: The excitement of getting to know someone. They are so interesting, fun and attentive. Then you notice they are not calling as often. You ask if everything is ok. They say they are just busier than they had been, but your gut is telling you he/she has lost interest. Finally the aliens come and take them away. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/30/2006 10:33:00 AM | Granted, life can get overwhelming and sometimes unexpected things come up and thus time becomes pinched.
But like most of the men have said, if the person is really interested they will find the time to communicate, if you are a priority that is. If not, and they dont have the backbone to explain to you or help understand what is going on then it tells volumes about their character. I want someone that is consistant and follows through with their word. Any other than that is just smoke and mirrors and you are SO much better off without them. Please keep in mind that I am referring to time invested in getting to know the other person, not a brief "hi" encounter.
When one door closes another one opens, or perhaps I should say, the flood gates open in a certain case...;)
A quote I sent a new friend - "You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity and respect and you won't settle for less. You allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you to glorify you with his or her touch and in the process, you internalize the meaning of self-respect." | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/30/2006 5:44:44 PM | | MRWonderful set yourself apart from the pack...be the nice guy that you are and treat her with respect, and she'll soon recognize and appreciate it....I certainly would know the difference between a I can't believe I just met the best guy ever and someone who's just out to play...be you...be a nice guy and believe me it'll get recognized and hopefully appreciated...she may test you...but just stick it out and let the trust build...soon enough she'll let her gaurd down. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 9:23:39 PM | We can't blame men for eveything ..Maybe it's women mistakes too.When you go for a second ,third date and forth we women maybe we become more Intense , we expect more then men really expect ,we rush things and live the romance that doesn't exist yet .We have to blame ourselves too and learn from past experience .Men are players here ,so are some women .The only thing I can blame a man about is his lack of communication and lack of courage to end what they call it "dates" in a respectful way .After sharing some couple of dates, talk,fun,laughter ,why do they let women assume and wonder why they disapeared ?
It's the only thing we can blame men about "leaving women with lack of respect"Its my opinion only ..I'm not sure if its right.. | |
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