| why do men run away?
Posted: 2/24/2007 5:27:50 AM | To all the women that have poster a thread here, if you really want to know if a guy likes you for who you are and not what you can give them, read on.
The solution is actually quite simple. If they guy really likes you for who you are and is sure he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, then make him put his "money where his mouth is". By that I mean, don't have sex with him until you're married. If you tell him this and he runs, he was just playing you. If you tell him this and he stays and marries you think about the guy that you will have. Someone that truly wants to be with YOU, not just your sex organs.
I know the idea of this kinda sucks but believe me it would be worth it. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 2/24/2007 5:35:42 AM | | I have only done that once, she said her husband might not like her dating, that was news you could have used at an ealier time! | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 2/24/2007 5:46:31 AM | Blueripples......AMEN!!!! What an insightful paragraph of knowledge! Things ARE pretty bad out there in Baskin Robbin's land and it's even worse than I thought because my ex is starting to look good to me again! Too many game-playing shallow people out there for me.  | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 2/24/2007 5:52:57 AM | bareback1...you are absolutely right on target with this......
("To all the women that have poster a thread here, if you really want to know if a guy likes you for who you are and not what you can give them, read on.
The solution is actually quite simple. If they guy really likes you for who you are and is sure he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, then make him put his "money where his mouth is". By that I mean, don't have sex with him until you're married. If you tell him this and he runs, he was just playing you. If you tell him this and he stays and marries you think about the guy that you will have. Someone that truly wants to be with YOU, not just your sex organs.
I know the idea of this kinda sucks but believe me it would be worth it.") | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 2/24/2007 6:00:42 AM | | Could be the little death affect telling him to get out. I've experienced it before and I don't think a lot of women know about it. After a guy cums he can experience one of the worst depressions ever which is called "the little death". I've experienced it with 2 girls and haven't experienced it with 2 others. If I do experience it I feel it is my instincts telling me to get away. I don't think a lot of guys know how to deal with this feeling. Personally I don't know what to do about the last time I experienced it still, because the girl said and did everything right and I like everything about her... but I can't get past this feeling... | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 2/24/2007 8:01:06 AM | missmayablue and bareback1
it would be worth it
Sorry but sex as a manipulation tool just doesn't cut it in my book. Only thing it would show to me is that you would try to use the same manipulation technique once you was married.
So I really don't see how you consider it worth it.
It would however be worth it for me as it would show me one of the games that you would try to play during a marriage. So you would just have eliminated yourself from consideration. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 2/24/2007 10:08:21 AM | To me sex is not a means of 'manipulation'. I decided a long time ago to follow the teachings of the bible to the best of my ability. That includes no sex before marriage. It's true that I am able to 'weed out' all those 'test drivers' out there and that suits me just fine. I don't play 'games' either so I'll thank-you not to 'pre-judge' me. Also...I wasn't looking for YOUR 'consideration'.... keep up the good work! | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 2/24/2007 12:06:30 PM | Prettygirl67....
There are many different reasons why men run away. Sometimes, it may be for your own good, so let them run. I try not to get into the psyche of men because they are all so simple but yet create situations that are complicated. Alot of them say they don't like drama. Hmmmm??? I wonder.
You also have to understand that men are not born communicators. Some learn along the way as they get older how to go about expressing their true feelings as opposed to cloaking them behind a joke or adbandoning the issue in its entirety.
Additionally, some men suffer from the "Romeo" complex. They lather you with all sorts of compliments and nice fluffy words to lure you into wanting them and then they drop you. They are what's called "Attention Whores."
Keep fishing! | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 2/24/2007 1:08:39 PM | | I would like to know why men pretend to be interested when they really aren't.What's up with that anyway??? | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 2/24/2007 2:52:47 PM | I would like to know why men pretend to be interested when they reallly aren't.
Well.......To start with yes SOME men do pretend to be interested when they really aren't, just as SOME women do the same. There is players of both sexes and they have their own agenda to pursue. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 2/27/2007 8:26:43 PM | | i have no idea but it really is pissing me off...no game? hello its all a big f****** game..once they know they have you its good bye ....i'm 33 i would like to find someone to grow old with,,,,i'm not despate (hell no) but when i find some1 who ithink its right...over conversation web cam and what not,,,,or just a guy i literally ran into at the grocery store...which will b more likely to happen because there was no idea of insecurities there...we met in line there and he was not from a site like this...i think i'm going to have better life with the man i met at the grocery store...nothing was planned...we picked apples to gether...so he 's not here on this site.... | |
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Posted: 2/27/2007 8:26:56 PM | | i have no idea but it really is pissing me off...no game? hello its all a big f****** game..once they know they have you its good bye ....i'm 33 i would like to find someone to grow old with,,,,i'm not despate (hell no) but when i find some1 who ithink its right...over conversation web cam and what not,,,,or just a guy i literally ran into at the grocery store...which will b more likely to happen because there was no idea of insecurities there...we met in line there and he was not from a site like this...i think i'm going to have better life with the man i met at the grocery store...nothing was planned...we picked apples to gether...so he 's not here on this site.... | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 2/27/2007 8:39:57 PM | I was married for 17 yrs and on my own for 2 yrs now - I have met men who 'run away' from me - I used to take it personally and think that it was me doing something wrong but have since learned that they run because it's all about them. Confident men do NOT run away only the ones who feel they are inadequate run away. Now ask yourself do I want a confident man or one who needs to be reassured that he is enough for me.
Men don't tell women that they are just not that into them out of fear of 'drama'. And yes it's the cowards way out. What they don't understand is in order to 'hurt' a woman she must have 'feelings' for them in the first place.
So for any woman who is reading this and has had a man 'run' away - it's NOT you it's HIM. And for any man who is reading this - if you meet a woman that you don't click with, do her a favour and don't sleep with her then not call her - just be mature and tell her I am just not that into you. It will save her from wasting her time wondering what exactly went wrong. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 2/27/2007 9:04:48 PM | [AND NOT MANY PEOPLE WILL LIKE THIS ,,BUT MEN ARE NOT DISSIMALAR TO DOGS,AS LONG AS YOUR FEEDING THEIR EGOS ,,PETTING THEM AND GENERALLY PUTTING THEM FIRST ,THEN THEY WONT STRAY]
And how is this any different than what a woman wants from her man? You make this sound like we want the world of the woman in our lives. This also sounds like a lady who wants things and qualities from her man but can't return them to him. That's a HUGE problem I'm finding with profiles of a lot of women. They write condescending profiles about what they are looking for in her man but rarely give consideration to what she can give him. If you're only interested in your satisfaction, no good man in his right mind would stick around for you. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2007 8:22:19 PM | So......met a wonderful man on this site (well, who I thought was wonderful).... he said and did ALL the right things and had me hook line and sinker.... I thought that my heart was made out of concrete because of what I have been through... he broke through that.... BIG TIME.... then.... he pulled away and said that he had gone too fast...... I totally gave him his "space"... and on a whim one day called to see how he was... and he said he missed me terribly... he said that he wanted to be together... talk of the house with the dog white picket fence etc and the big L-O-V-E word ooooohhhhh.... and was sorry for hurting me and said he had finally come to his senses about us........ and then..... HE DID IT AGAIN!!!!!! Holy you know what.... First time, silly him, second time...STUPID ME!!!!!! So, why is this? Any insightful ideas thoughts words of wisdom.... anything at this point would be helpful... Take care... C | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 8/8/2007 10:01:52 PM | | some men are playeers..but not all..make them wait for sex that should weed out the good ones from the bad ones. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 8/8/2007 10:24:46 PM | | they run away because they don't care and don't have the guts to say so (aka coward). it's that simple. Don't waste a precious minute on these types. Running away = don't care. That's the answer. So get on with bigger and better things. No answer is your answer. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 8/8/2007 10:27:02 PM | | Yeah, but i would have to know someone a year or two before I would marry him. Wait two years? I don't think so. In the days when they did this, people married rather quickly, so the waiting time was not much. But these days, i would probably never marry anyone i haven't known for two years. You can't know someone, not really, in a matter of months. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 8/8/2007 10:56:32 PM |
Why is it some men that you date, and they are so hot and heavy for you, they say they love you and then one day they just stop calling you and yu can't get in touch with them anymore. Are men cowards or what? or just scared to hurt the woman to call her and tell her he is not interested? I don't get it. Please help!
~OP~ This happens for all sorts of reasons. Why have you ended "relationships" in your life? I ended one once because every time he would eat, there was this horrific clicking noise. I know it sounds minimal, but dear me, it was either never eat in his company again or scream "Would you please go to the maxifacial dr. and have that damn noise fixed?" That really wouldn't have been appropriate, so I stopped seeing him (that was the final reason, there were others ~ but that was the bulk of the reason.)
Men run for the same reasons I run. Clinginess, lying, loss of attraction, inability to be as emotional as the other party, etc. Do I think he should have done so without a words warning? Absolutely NOT. But it happens all the time. And this explains why I don't meet/date until there is a long term communication trail, long periods on the phone and a near guarantee that meeting is a formality rather than a "get to know you" situation. Sex, sorry ~ not gonna happen until it's love. That usually gets rid of the less-sincere quite quickly. It works for me. JMO  | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 3:29:24 PM | | Just to let ya all know.... We hadn't made love yet.... Not that I didn't want to because I DID.... but it was agreed that was just a "technicality" in our relationship that would solidify it for us and WE had no problem waiting.... We just wanted to "be together".... we talked a ton on the phone, lots of e-mails etc..... it seriously was "All good".... in every sense of the word... the last thing he said to me when he left my place last week (the last time I talked to him or saw him) .....(he actually ran back down the hall of my apartment.... and knocked on my door...) and said "Just remember how much I love you..." Now.... trying to mend my broken heart... that is slowly turning back in to concrete... my son keeps asking when he is coming to see him.... He has not returned my calls or e-mails.... yup, I thought the worst as well and thought maybe he was hurt or in an accident until I found out through other means that he is fine and well.... | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 8/11/2007 8:56:48 AM | | Because they are idiots. I just had it happen to me dog mommy. I met a man from here we had soooooooo much in common. That I think it scared him away from me. We met 2 times and we had a wonderful time. He called me a few times like he said he would. In other words he kept his word. Now he tells me to call him whenever I need him or need to talk. And when I do, he don't have the courtesy to even pick up his phone or even return my calls. This really pisses me off when a man does this. I am not a person to rush into relationships, but I sure can't stand a man who can't keep his word. To me trust and that communication is very important. And when you say your going to call me. I expect you to keep your word. If you can't keep your word, then I can't trust you at all. Actions speak louder than words. And his actions pretty told me everything. Calling me sweetie, honey etc. Then all the sudden I hear nothing from him. He don't even have the decency to call me and tell me he don't want to see me no more. Leave me hanging like this. Oh well you live and you learn. NEXTTTTTTTTTT in line is all I can say. I don't play games period. And I am not afraid to tell a man on his crap. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 8/15/2007 6:16:30 PM | | He was not into you. Don't worry, it happened to me too. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 8/15/2007 6:22:31 PM | | Maybe he was not shown enough interest back, and he ran away for fear of getting hurt. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 8/15/2007 7:55:36 PM | I think sometimes a person will focus on the other person's insecurities and try to assure them they won't break their heart. While doing this, it kinda takes away the focus off their own insecurities. BUT (always a butt LOL) once the other person starts to let down their guard and fall, they seem to be more aware of their own fears of getting hurt... therefore panic and bail.
Also, some people are more comfortable in dysfunction, than function so if things are going well, they sabotage. | |
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