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Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 176 | |
| why do men run away?
Posted: 8/18/2007 4:12:24 PM | If I offend anyone I am sorry it is not my nature. I am so tired of the wining and crying about " why men are not calling back" . GET A LIFE IT IS CALLED DATING. Why do you women fall so hard for these guys ? You are how old and have not learned by now. | |
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Joined: 7/11/2007
Msg: 177 | |
| why do men run away?
Posted: 8/18/2007 4:23:24 PM | msizred will those lines work on you if so lets talk. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/13/2007 11:38:41 PM | I find more women run than men....my experience anyhows....
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Posted: 9/16/2007 6:06:17 PM | They may have told you they love you in the heat of the moment, and didn't really mean it. Or they may have told you that only because they hoped it would lead you to an "intimate encounter." Or...you may have come on so strong to them that they no longer see you as a challenge.
I've learned that, with some exceptions, the harder you chase someone of the opposite sex, the faster they are likely to run from you.
Next time a guy says he loves you, tell him you've heard that before and you want to know how he'll prove it. If he's not trying to get money or sex from you, he probably is sincere in what he's saying.
That's my 2 cents worth. Good luck to you. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2007 6:36:09 PM | I also feel that some women do the same thing. Nobody wants to feel like he or she is second to anyone else, but we all know that some of us have briefly dated at least two people at the same time. I myself have stepped aside when I felt the level of interest wasn't at the same level as mine. Or if getting the time to spend with her was like pulling teeth. We all lead busy lives and some of us have family responsibilities, but a text message or a telephone call goes a long way in keeping me there (if I'm wanted). I have on one occassion stopped seeing a perfectly wonderful woman because she was geographically undesireable. If she would have put the effort of coming my way instead me always going out to hers we could have built some special. I was not permitted to stay at her place and drive home the next morning which made the relationship exhausting for me. Those might be some of the reasons. I hope this helps. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2007 6:52:21 PM | not really cowards but leaving for reasons............could be any of these
immature
being a player
afraid of commitment
not ready to settle for children in there life fulltime
g/f isn't to sure what she wants in life
friends
family
g/f doesn't work
poor location for the b/f to have his kids around
ex g/f is friends with g/f
or ex g/f just won't leave you's alone
ex g/f finds the guy for child support payments in arrears and garnishes wages and in time it will include g/f income to | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/24/2007 7:05:25 AM |
Next time a guy says he loves you, tell him you've heard that before and you want to know how he'll prove it. If he's not trying to get money or sex from you, he probably is sincere in what he's saying.
Very good point, I have to say I give everyone the benefit of the doubt but am no one's fool so don't trust straight away (trust has to be earned,mutually). If someone wants me they have to prove themself to me.
Would like to add that both sexes can be guilty of running, I think men get a hard time in these forums - we are all human & we all have feelings - yes I believe men have feelings too!
Would also like to know ....
Why does everyone link fear to love???
As human beings we all have capacity to feel strong emotions towards another however there is also many different levels to a wide spectrum of caring for another for example;
A flirtation with a different type whereby one might project feelings of happiness and warmth because - WOW this one is DIFFERENT to all the others. Pure infatuation - an ideal of everything you're looking for - projection of that person onto a pedistal which means that at some point that person will fall and realization will dawn that the person simply isn't one's ideal beacause they have flaw's. There are loads I could list which one can easily get swept up in and confuse with love, just like when one rebounds from a love left behind and is simply flattered by the attention of someone new when perhaps one just isn't ready for someone new.
There are many different perceptions to what love is, to me if someone run's then no matter how strongly they feel it quite simply isn't love... From the strength of the love one feels towards another one gains in strength and courage, courage to take risks to go forth and give, AND to recieve, to risk getting hurt, to even risk failure that it simply may not work...
If he is running there are reasons, may be that he simply isn't ready yet or quite simply that he hasn't met the right one. Yes there are way's he can address his behaviour to stop him running and the fact that he does sabotage reflects unresolved issues buried deep down he may not even be aware of so it would be an option for him to explore this, then he may be able to feal the fear and do it anyway. However I'm reckoning that when the right one comes along he'll find the strength from within and won't push her away!
Patience is the answer in some ways but it takes mutual respect, trust and honesty to lay the foundations in place, then you both need the 'will' to put in the hard work and thats something I don't think alot of people today realize - relationships are hard work. Peoples lives are soo stressful these days that they simply don't want to have to put the effort into their relationships - very sad but I suspect very true.
At the end of the day we all have choices to make, if anyone run's it is their decision to do that whether they've made it consiously or unconsiously. As hurtful as this is if you are on the recieving end - things happen for a reason.
Sending ya all a little bit of love & deffinately not running   | |
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Posted: 11/30/2007 3:32:57 PM |
Next time a guy says he loves you, tell him you've heard that before and you want to know how he'll prove it. If he's not trying to get money or sex from you, he probably is sincere in what he's saying.
Very good point, I have to say I give everyone the benefit of the doubt but am no one's fool so don't trust straight away (trust has to be earned,mutually). If someone wants me they have to prove themself to me.
Would like to add that both sexes can be guilty of running, I think men get a hard time in these forums - we are all human & we all have feelings - yes I believe men have feelings too!
Would also like to know ....
Why does everyone link fear to love???
As human beings we all have capacity to feel strong emotions towards another however there is also many different levels to a wide spectrum of caring for another for example;
A flirtation with a different type whereby one might project feelings of happiness and warmth because - WOW this one is DIFFERENT to all the others. Pure infatuation - an ideal of everything you're looking for - projection of that person onto a pedistal which means that at some point that person will fall and realization will dawn that the person simply isn't one's ideal beacause they have flaw's. There are loads I could list which one can easily get swept up in and confuse with love, just like when one rebounds from a love left behind and is simply flattered by the attention of someone new when perhaps one just isn't ready for someone new.
There are many different perceptions to what love is, to me if someone run's then no matter how strongly they feel it quite simply isn't love... From the strength of the love one feels towards another one gains in strength and courage, courage to take risks to go forth and give, AND to recieve, to risk getting hurt, to even risk failure that it simply may not work...
If he is running there are reasons, may be that he simply isn't ready yet or quite simply that he hasn't met the right one. Yes there are way's he can address his behaviour to stop him running and the fact that he does sabotage reflects unresolved issues buried deep down he may not even be aware of so it would be an option for him to explore this, then he may be able to feal the fear and do it anyway. However I'm reckoning that when the right one comes along he'll find the strength from within and won't push her away!
Patience is the answer in some ways but it takes mutual respect, trust and honesty to lay the foundations in place, then you both need the 'will' to put in the hard work and thats something I don't think alot of people today realize - relationships are hard work. Peoples lives are soo stressful these days that they simply don't want to have to put the effort into their relationships - very sad but I suspect very true.
At the end of the day we all have choices to make, if anyone run's it is their decision to do that whether they've made it consiously or unconsiously. As hurtful as this is if you are on the recieving end - things happen for a reason.
Sending ya all a little bit of love & deffinately not running | |
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Posted: 11/30/2007 3:47:01 PM | | You mean after the first date? Holy shit, if it was me, I'd run away, far away from them. LOL. But I mean, don't lose your cool. Stop calling /talking to him altogether and see what happens. Usually guys don't like it when girls ignores them, even when they don't like them. I've learned from experiences | |
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Posted: 12/4/2007 5:28:02 AM | Because Janey's got a gun! Run Away Run Away Run away-ay-ay! 
did you tell him you loved him ont he frist date? I don;t use such words or labels early on. YOu really have to know someone to love them. When is it ok to tell someone you love them? when you have been witht hem for months and on many dates. Its a difult subject. and ebing rejecting after bearing your sould to someone cna be very painful. So be cautious inw hat you say. Some men and women reject the love of another becuiase they are afraid of commitment. they are afraid to truly love someone. Tehy are afraid to live! I said I love you, that;s forever, I meant this from the heart mmm-hmmm. I love you jsut the way you are... (wow I love billy Joel.) Why is there no Happy Hanukah icon on POF. I feel left out. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2007 5:35:10 AM |
Are men cowards or what? or just scared to hurt the woman to call her and tell her he is not interested?
Yep, men are cowards and do not want to face a woman they have to dump. Women are tougher than us and we do not want to cross them especially when we found someone hotter. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2007 6:04:31 AM | "Why is it some men that you date, and they are so hot and heavy for you, they say they love you and then one day they just stop calling you and yu can't get in touch with them anymore. Are men cowards or what? or just scared to hurt the woman to call her and tell her he is not interested? I don't get it. Please help!"
It is because we catch a virus called "Run, Forrest, Run-itis". | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 9:15:17 PM | | My bad. Yes I have done the run thing. It is cowardley. I have learnt from this. I asked myself why did I do or not do this and that? Not to make any excuse for me or any other man that has gone forest gump, did you decieve him in any way at all? stuff like a 5+ yr old pic? statement like average build but you are 40+lbs overwieght? Obvious deception puts me in player mode. If you are going to start off with deception....then deception you will recieve. You are not a keeper in my mind. I like the truth straight up and not watered or sugured down at all. That is why I have ran off in the past. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 10:09:29 PM | | The question should be why do people run , it is both men and woman, and i think in most cases its lack of communication. We all know it, its common sence. Some get what they want and leave, some get scared. Some people just dont know what the hell they want. One day you say something.. the next day its differnt. Its just to bad people cant go into something knowing exactly what they want and communicate with your partner. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 11:18:32 PM |
why do men run away?
You're not setting your bear traps properly. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 5:31:03 AM | | Have to agree with the people in the forums that refer to people being emotionally immature! i also think more and more men and women may i add are becoming committment phobic and ambivalent...which is,nt fair on the serious party when dating and these people should seek professional help ! because they do suffer emotional problems which leaves their victims with the negative emotions!...losing all faith in dating sometimes...which is a real shame as dating is meant to be fun! but players have taken all the real fun out of dating for their own selfish gain! by purely conquesting people wrecklessly! some people even fool people into sexual encounters on the belief of more! ...just to be dumped and ditched afterwards...which is totally wrong and relentless!..dont know how many stories ive heard from women on the net who,ve been tricked into sex on the promise of something more meaningful and long lasting...just to have their soul destroyed afterwards..when they discovered they were just a sexual conquest or some kind of ambition to the player! whats is it with these people??? dont they know how to connect and attach in perpetual monogamous sense anymore?...seems the ambivalent people of this world have killed off romance faith and trust!.......... i blame porn, media and lack of education for these declines in society! its really become a vacant condescending cold world!!! Sarah x | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 8:20:39 AM | I definitely believe in monogamy. They say the divorce rate is going down in North America, at least. Hopefully, that's a good sign. I do think that many people are not like they were before in terms of knowing what it takes to build a relationship, to have a good, sound character. I can't really comment about those guys you mentioned who seek conquests except to say it's a form of selfishness and self-centredness and many women engage in their own game playing and some of us men have fallen for that. The stories are just not the same exactly, we men don't like to speak much about our bad stories with women as much. That's the difference.
We just take it as a bad lesson learned, but there are more risks for women when things go wrong, usually... I haven't lost faith and will never lose faith. As sure as the sun shines in Athens, Rome, London, and New York, I have faith in myself and the good people I can bring into my life... | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 8:37:01 AM | Positive words seavoyage...ive also had a few bad dating experiences and friends who,ve had much worse! but ive not let them kill my faith either! players just win if you allow them to kill your faith! | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 12:12:21 PM |
Why is it some men that you date ... they say they love you and then one day they just stop calling you and yu can't get in touch with them anymore
I suppose it is because they didn't step out of their shadow completely.
(Shadow - that - could be their past or 'greener pastures' or simply guys who don't believe in themselves in the first place. Whatever the reason - let them go - as they have to find their own identity first.) | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 3:51:48 PM |
you're not setting your bear traps properly.
Or is the bear just smarter?: | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 4:12:21 PM | RE: First post.
Id say 99 percent of the time he just doesnt care about you in the slightest. Hope that helps you out. ^_^ | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 5:47:08 PM | | not cowards, just not ready to get into something and won't say they're not interested. i come on real strong, would walk on fire !!!! and then I lose interest just as quickly if i get bored, so i guess i'm like a man. ??? | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 5:53:45 AM | | If you're not so interested anymore isn't cowardly not to say so. The other person deserves to know that, doesn't he or she? Of course, it's easy for me to say that, but I think we shouldn't string someone along.... | |
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