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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 12:24:50 PM | His looking at porn has zip to do with your sex life. You said you thought you had a good sex life...so why would he do this?
Tada...cuz its porn doll. This is not a global disaster. Lot of people do it and to worry yourself over it is silly. Take a peek at it, you might like it.
The messaging other girls things...hmm not so good. | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 12:28:38 PM | | If I found my lady was looking at it, I would ask her why. Once I learned why, I would find out if there were some things we could do that would make her feel that she didn't need to go outside of the relationship for that kind of excitement. I guess thats it. To me, it undermines the relationship and should be worked out. | |
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Karl73
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Joined: 9/12/2006
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 12:35:45 PM |
You found out he was messaging girls just by ‘playing on' on his computer. Right. You were snooping weren’t you? Porn sites could come up in the browser history, but his messaging history wouldn’t be available unless you did some digging. You have other problems in this relationship if you feel that’s necessary.
I agree. Obviously she is a snoop; I'd dump her. | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 1:51:43 PM | "as for him messaging young girls...well..how young is young??
If they are legal then it is probubly all in fun."
Are you out of your mind terminal? How is that fun? No offense but how on earth can you condone someone messaging other girls when he has a girlfriend? Would you consider him meeting these girl or cyber with them as "in fun" too? Just wondering...I don't see anything fun in it at all and I would leave the guy pronto. I assume the conversations where not with already established friends but girls he chatted up or cybered with.
As far as looking for porn, nothing wrong with that. A good physical relationship has nothing to do with that.
A man with a girlfriend who chat up other girls on the internet is wrong. It would be the same as him going out spending time with other girls rather than his girlfriend.
The internet is slowly dissolving common sense and good morals in people. There is other fun to have.
OP...I'd get rid of this guy. I wouldn't even give him a chance. I can't stand the "I didn't realize, I'm sorry routine. He's old enough to know it's not acceptable.
As far as OP being a snoop...if she hadn't been she might have ended up even more hurt when the guy starts cheating on her.
Sorry but guys behaviours have made it necessary for women to snoop these days. If she had asked him if he was messaging other girls on the internet, do you think he would have told her? Nope....what does that leave her? Deceived....
And maybe he left his messanger open with the messages in full view.
That happend to me once when I got to my at the time bf's house. A full blown conversation with another woman that ended in him telling her he just made a mess all over himself. And I knew her.
When it gets personal like that.....sorry, not acceptable.
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 3:20:38 PM | I don't understand it either but...
Just about every woman I've ever talked to about this sort of thing are very surprised to find that I don't look at porn... on the internet or elsewhere. So I think it's a pretty common thing for most guys to do... judging from what others tell me, of course.
Edit: Actually I *did* once see porn on the internet... I was looking for an updated driver for a joystick I just bought and got directed somehow to this ad featuring a woman using a dildo.
BTW: I'm *still* waiting for my purchase to come in the mail... in a plain brown package, of course!
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sddude
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Joined: 11/4/2004
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 4:18:01 PM | If I had a grilfriend ( maybe next year I will get lucky ) and she was looking at porn , I would be happy as a horn dog , I would ask her to do the stuff she was looking at, but if the guys were hotter than me , bigger muscles and a giant tool , I would go into a corner and sit in fetal position , hehehe , not really .
When my wife was alive , when she caught me watching porn she would drag me into the bedroom and my curosity for porn would be magically gone , never figured out why , hehehehe | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 7:48:02 PM | | Instead of getting ticked why not find out if you can incorporate his fantasies into your already good sex life and may be he’ll not have the need to message anyone else that is if it still means anything to you. If that doesn’t stop him from contacting others then maybe you haven’t got what you thought you did. | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 9:12:25 PM | Can only speak for myself here, but I am firmly against porno. I don't care what other people do, but if I'm in a relationship with a guy, I don't want him looking at smut. You want sex scenes? Watch a movie with real artistic merit (because there are plenty of REALLY hot scenes in normal films). Newsflash guys, women don't just like romance movies because you hate them.
Call me crazy, but I like to be the only woman to give my man an ****tion. I don't want him to think of some skank just to get ready for me. Talk about feeling like second-best. In your situation, I'd feel pissed and hurt that I wasn't enough. And to me, the messaging young girls thing is an IMMEDIATE red flag and grounds for dumping.
Porn-Loving Guys: How would you like it if your woman watched porn and touched herself while thinking of OTHER MEN besides you? And would her hiding it make it better or worse for you?
I'd kick his ass to the curb, but if you want to save it, offer to let him watch you touch yourself or something. I understand guys are visual creatures, but there are other alternatives than supporting an industry that objectifies women and casualizes sex to an extreme and disgusting degree. Hell, if you're into it, make your own movies and he can play them back when he wants. | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 9:18:22 PM | Karl73 quotes earlier thread: "You found out he was messaging girls just by ‘playing on' on his computer. Right. You were snooping weren’t you? Porn sites could come up in the browser history, but his messaging history wouldn’t be available unless you did some digging. You have other problems in this relationship if you feel that’s necessary."
and responds with this:
I agree. Obviously she is a snoop; I'd dump her.
My reply:
Maybe the sites happened to pop up and they were of young/underage girls. (When one frequents porn, they tend to get a million porn popups). At that point I would probably be doing some digging. For all you know the "young girls" could've been 13 and 14, not 17 or 18. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a nasty-ass pedophile; those guys deserve to have IT & THE BOYS amputated without anethetic and then be shot in the face.
Plus it is not snoopy. Those are the sorts of things that the significant other has a right to know about, as it does affect the relationship, and porn addiction is a real sickness that can lead to impotence.
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 9:43:35 PM | Yeah, yeah, so many guys say the same old thing, "porn is normal, blah, blah" and the gals "Oh, I'd join him". I'd like to know why I have never met any of these women! Much like addictions to food, work, spending, etc. seemingly innocent practices like looking at porn on the internet for SOME can be extremely addictive and disastrous.
You see, if I get used to a sexual, daily, high of hour-plus-long, internet "parades" of images of gorgeous teenage girls going at it with each other (a personal favorite), all the while "taking matters into my own hands", keeping my sexual adrenaline peaked out to the max, for as long as I like or have the time for, how long do you think, even though now I have a live, in person girlfriend, before I'm going to miss that rush?
Why doesn't Playboy have the same models month after month? Why are there always new girls featured every month?
That's the trouble with porn. It IS indeed hotter than hell! What guy wouldn't love it? For SOME, however, it can be a trap - FOR SOME!
It would be worth it do some research on sexual/porn addiction and talk about it with him in a NON-JUDGEMENTAL way.
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 10:43:33 PM | | ~OP~ No sense in being upset about a little screen with naked women on it. He's going to do it whether you are upset or not. As for the chatting with young girls ~ that is subjective: how old and what were the conversations? If you are worried to the point of snooping ~ it's probably time to dig inside yourself and see what makes you insecure enough to breech his privacy. Porn is porn ~ men and even a vast majority of women are visual creatures ~ looking is just that: looking. Looking to find is an entirely different subject. | |
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