| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 10/1/2006 7:23:08 AM | How do u know these girls are young OP? because they are younger then YOU. well that doesnt necessarily mean they are YOUNG as in children.
As for you main question Porn is great wether your a man or women some ppl like it some ppl dont. OP why were you going through his computer in the first place cant tell me his history of talking to other girls just poped up well you were chatting with your friends.... | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 10/1/2006 7:25:09 AM | Depends on what type of porn he was looking at. Was it questionable or something of a nature you both enjoy?? And don't forget he is a man. But how young were these girls? and it depends on what he messaged them...
Sex is like any other activity - we learn by error, practice and observation.
I tend to be more progresssive tho. sometimes I like to spice it up by throwing on a porn and telling him let's try this etc... | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 10/1/2006 7:36:38 AM | | looking at porn is one thing, messaging women is another thing,,,I use to look at porn, I dont anymore, just doesnt do anything for me,,but if my man wanted to look at porn I would not care,,,I would however mind if he started to message other women,,,time to turn off the computer lol | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 10/1/2006 7:44:41 AM | I would cry alot and generally overreact and then i'd calm down and realise how stupid i'd been. Afterall, looking at sexy things is pretty harmless and i wouldn't mind if someone i didn't care for was doing it. I would just feel not as good as the women he was looking at and think, my god, aren't I good enough, don't I satisfy him? but then I should address my own inadequacy before reproaching him. Where's my 'How to love yourself' book???? Also....if a man is watching porn and a woman doesn't like it, it is her problem and she should deal with it.... or might he show a bit more sensitivity and consideration for someone he purports to care for? Some people stop having any interest in others when they are in love, others don't. Insecurity has a lot to answer for but it isn't a cardinal sin so don't beat yourself up over it. The point is, he is with you, nobody else, so enjoy him.
The texting is probably pretty meaningless ego tripping too, but it would still tick me off. It's easy to rationalise, but hard to be objective when you are hurting. | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 10/3/2006 4:59:40 PM | | I hope you dumped that lusting Libra man! And if you have daughters or nieces keep them away from him! NO really, i'm not kidding. I went to a workshop a few months ago on child molestation predators. Men who REPEATEDLY go after young women are often sexual predators. 19-23 years is way too young for him. Sure they are legal and all, but they are not at the same point he is intellectually and emotionally. For him just to be attracted to them would be completely normal, but to actually pursue them and talk to them COULD be a warning sign. I've been told it is a HUGE warning sign. Sounds like he could be more dangerous than just a lusty, flirting Libra guy. Please take care! | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 10/4/2006 12:25:38 AM | Well if I did it would bother me tremendously,... I mean really Frak with my mind! You see that would mean I was a flaming fairy, and I never knew!!!!! Go figure! hahahaha,...
BTW,... OP at least it is better than if you had walked in on him "Making a porno" and you were not the co-star! hahaha,...
Good luck to you. - Erik -    | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 10/4/2006 4:04:44 PM | | guys will be guys...maybe that is what is wrong in relationships today! Men that want to look at other women instead of admire the woman he is with. I would be hurt and I would not like it. We would probably fight if I caught my man looking at porn....and he best not bring his ol' horny butt to bed with me that night! | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 10/4/2006 4:19:35 PM | I think its actually totally hilarious that women on here can say they get mad attheir men for looking at porn!!! LMAO......
Cant tell me everytime your man is gone and your horny you dont play with yourself. Whats the difference so he is looking at a magazine or computer screen cant tell me you dont think about sexual things well you do the same... Some women are so insecure...
OP its not only a guy thing.. | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 10/4/2006 4:19:46 PM | I didn't read the entire thread. What I have to say to the OP is, you're on a dating site though you are with someone for 3 months. Does he know this? You're 44 years old. I think you should know men and how they view sex by now.
As for the young girls thing... well if he's your age and young girls means 20's to you then you should remember... you are on a DATING site so you have no right to expect him to stop looking if you are still looking.
Now, if the young girls are under 18, then he needs help. | |
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| OH THE DRAMA ON PlentyOfFish!!!
Posted: 10/4/2006 5:10:08 PM | OH THE DRAMA ON PlentyOfFish!!! Who needs Young and The Restless when you have this...Anyone want popcorn?
To get everyone up to date:
- jazzgirl2006 posts about her boyfriend watching porno and contacting other women (young girls 20-23) on this site although she thought she was in an exclusive relationship with this boyfriend
- about a week later the boyfriend (captaindano) finds the thread and posts:
You forgot to tell them you sent 2 of the mesgs. with me. it was all in fun. not so fun anymore.is tell the truth. out. capt.
thank you gotapulse i .shutt my pc down went out to cut the lawn. she went on line and somehow pulled up my email. said it just came up. ok if it did but why SNOOP just close it. she went into sent mesg. she wrote the one in ? back and went as far as deleating some of my other friends too. do i think it was cheating, no but she does. so if that is the way she feels i told her i'd stop.I do care very much for her.hope we can work this out.thuoght we had a good thing going.
- since then no answer from jazzgirl, so stay tuned for the next episode
Now seriously,
All I have to say is, I think you guys are moving too fast and you still need to know each other a lot more and you should not throw away what you both have stated was a great thing and you both feel strongly about each other.
TALK about your feelings (plural for both of you) and kiss and make up... cause remember, make-up sex is the BEST
good luck to both of you and please grow up a little bit, set an example for us kids  | |
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| OH THE DRAMA ON PlentyOfFish!!!
Posted: 10/5/2006 6:38:09 AM | | ^^^^^that mess right there is why "if you are in a relationship, you need to stop coming to singles sites.....I rest my case! | |
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Posted: 10/6/2006 9:28:04 AM | Yes we have kissed and made up. All is good. LAST UPDATE  | |
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Posted: 10/6/2006 9:35:01 AM | | good now tell her to stop posting about finding mate cheating and so on. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2006 10:19:31 AM | I wasn't about to read seven pages, but I did browse. Had to laugh because, even by browsing, I saw all the typical responses from women who are against guys looking at porn.
Personally, I think porn is kinda lame. However, I fully reserve my right to look at it anytime I want. If she can't handle it, take off. You're too insecure for me.
What would I do if I caught my partner looking at porn??? The same thing I would hope that she would do. Sit down next to her or look over her shoulder and comment on how cool, weird, interesting, or even gross that it is.
I don't understand women who are threatened by their guys looking at porn or going to strip joints. I onec had a gf tell me not to come home that night if I was going to the strip club with the guys. LMAO.....Yeah. That's a good idea. She's already insecure enough to say something so stupid. If I were to actually do it, imagine where her mind would have taken her. Needless to say, that relationship didn't last long.
All I know is, whether it be after one month or ten years, if a woman is so put off by something as simple as viewing porn or attending a strip club outing with the guys that she feels the need to offer up an ultimatum.....buh-bye.
Don't take things so seriously. Sit down and take interest, even if only slight, in what your partner does or enjoys. Two people who care for eachother (notice I didn't say attempting to control one another) will communicate through such trivial issues. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2006 11:04:35 AM | Glad to see they've worked things out - communication (as usual  ) being the key.
Dime, you're not insecure if you don't want to use porn to spice things up or see it as normal - it's a personal preference and makes some feel really uncomfortable.
I'm o.k. with it and have had some memorable occasions, but it needs to be mutual and shared honestly and openly. If not there is always an issue of trust.
One of my friends discovered piccies on her man's computer - hundreds and hundreds of them from old women to animals and schoolgirls - now you have to agree that's not healthy. Guess what his answer was? He was a depressive, on medication and had been exploring extremes to see if ANYTHING would turn him on....dodgy eh?
It's o.k. to feel insecure, shy, inferior, but go and read any problem page, men's mag and you'll start to understand that porn (like extra activity ) is part of the way men get turned on - we're a bit different and need that emotional connection but they don't. At the end of the day if they're with you that's what matters...I know easy for me to say, but back to the beginning, honest communication is all... | |
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Posted: 10/6/2006 1:06:21 PM |
Dime, you're not insecure if you don't want to use porn to spice things up or see it as normal - it's a personal preference and makes some feel really uncomfortable.
Haha...I knew this would draw some attention. It's one of the many beliefs that I have that cause women to feel like I'm some kind of brute or neanderthal.
The thing is, for me, it can only be one of two things. Either they're insecure or they're attempting to control their partner by making such an issue over something so trivial. If they'd take the time to discuss it with them, they'd likely understand. If thay can discuss and discuss and discuss and never feel any better, then there's insecurities. It would then be up to the guy to determine whether or not he could deal with that sort of insecurity. I know I couldn't because it would only be a matter of time before it went from that to accusing me of cheating when I didn't get home directly on time.
If they can discuss it and understand, whether they agree or not, and still inflict their will upon him by offering up an ultimatum (the porn or me), then they are attempting to control this guy and I say, see ya. Once again, it would only be a matter of time before it wen from that to teling me I can't go shoot pool with the guys once in awhile.
Either way, no thanx. I need understanding and an easy going personality. I'm too free spirited to be told what to do or to be made to feel guilty for something so trivial.
Also, I didn't mean to make it sound like a couple should use it to spice things up, although a lot of couples do. I'm just defending a man's (or a woman's for that matter) right to look at pictures whether they're of the wildlife variety or the nekked people variety. LOL. If the person looking at porn is a good person and not cheating on their partner, I don't see the problem.
But yeah......animals, old people and children indicates a little bit of a problem. I'd steer clear of that myself. | |
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| keep it real
Posted: 10/7/2006 5:03:29 AM | | Hey jazzgirl,I think its pretty normal guy thing,lookin at porn,mags,videos,whatever,we've all done it,as iam sure you too,at 44,Iam readin your original post,so were you mad about the porn viewing?doesnt sound like that was the issue at all,and everyone who has replied,didnt really get what I guess was buggin ya,you were mad about him messaging the other women?hummm,well thats alittle weird,esp,if he and you are an item?sounds like he was checkin out the menu,cant speak for him,but I would definitely be keepin my eyes and *?*?*on you,if I had the chance,rather dine at home! | |
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| keep it real
Posted: 10/7/2006 7:51:46 AM | captaindano said Yes we have kissed and made up. All is good. LAST UPDATE...
Guess you didnt read that post did ya ^^^^^? | |
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| keep it real
Posted: 10/8/2006 4:09:13 PM | I still want to know why they don't make porn for heterosexual women?
Most porn is for heterosexual males or bi or homosexual females. At least half of what they put on porn movies is not appetizing to the average heterosexual female. One time I did buy porn the was from a site that was suppose to be for women. It included alot of scenes of lesbian activities. To ask that a woman sit down and enjoy porn with a guy is like asking a guy to sit down and enjoy a soap opera or go shopping for hours on end with a lady. He may do it, but he ain't gonna like it! lol! | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 10/8/2006 5:58:29 PM | | i can imagine being very very annoyed if i found my girfriend had been looking at porn i all i can say it's just one of those things.....i can asure you it would be nothing to worry about...but i can understand being annoyed.........i suppose porn is here to stay lol | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 10/12/2006 9:41:37 AM | | PORN>>>>>Lets see>>>>>Yeah.......Well.......Maybe so.......Anyways I have done porn when I was Married....I am the type that likes to keep alot of change in a relationship, thats not talking about other women.....Explore and keep that fire going!!!....If you like fantasy, then do some roll playing, pretend...You don't have to have another person, just pretend....We got a Hotel and bought some porn and had about the best and longest forplay ever....It was a blazing flame of fire in that room that night.....Alot of ladys feel threatened by Men watching porn, In secure...If this is the case then men should respect thier lady but to me Porn is a great forplay....Now messaging other women...This is a problem!!!!....So the answer to the Question is, If it bothers your lady then you shouldn't do it!!!!!!!!!!!If the man is going behind the ladys back, Then something isn't right about that relationship...Everything should be open and honest...No sneaking around or having skelitons hiding away for your man/lady to find later.........Communication helps!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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