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| Honesty pls: Ladies, would you initiate contact with a man whose profile was great but pic was ugly
Posted: 11/25/2006 9:35:20 AM | to answer the OP, no, i would not initiate contact with someone whose profile was great but i found their photo ugly. and i dont' think its "overly visual or shallow" but i think attraction is an equally important part of the chemistry as personality!
thats not to say i couldn't (in fact i have) fall in love with someone i didn't initially find attractive, but that wouldn't begin by me contacting their profile, it would begin by us being friends through some outside source. If there are people out there with fantastic profiles AND beautiful photos, why should i have to settle for someone with a great profile and an unnattractive photo to me? that wouldn't be good for either person. | |
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| Honesty pls: Ladies, would you initiate contact with a man whose profile was great but pic was ugly
Posted: 11/25/2006 9:55:55 AM |
Ladies, would you initiate contact with a man whose profile was great but pic was ugly
No.
And I don't think most people who are considered ugly are stuck there. Get a different haircut, go work out, buy some nice clothes and take a flattering photograph.
So to me, a profile isn't great unless the person is doing everything possible to make the entire profile, including the picture, appealing.
Most women don't need to initiate contact with the men because they have plenty of options without having to do it. The ones who do initiate contact do so probably because they don't have anyone emailing them ever. If no one is emailing them, then they are probably the women that most men don't want in the first place ( if they wanted them, they would have emailed them first) | |
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| Honesty pls: Ladies, would you initiate contact with a man whose profile was great but pic was ugly
Posted: 11/25/2006 10:11:04 AM | i disagree with the last part of that statement totally!! I think a confident great girl would want to get out there and grab the bull by the horns so to speak! If she's contacting a man first, maybe she just thought he was a great catch and wanted him to know it?
i don't contact men often, but i will occasionally if they really seem cool. I don't think it by ANY stretch of the imagination implies that "i don't have anyone emailing me ever" or that i'm "a woman most men don't want in the first place" lmao | |
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| Honesty pls: Ladies, would you initiate contact with a man whose profile was great but pic was ugly
Posted: 11/28/2006 4:46:54 PM | I believe for all of us that look for a relationship there has to be some attraction when we view the pictures even though the profile might sound exciting and interesting. I think its very hard to get into a relatioship unless you're also physically attracted to the other person - the good news is there is somebody out there that likes us the way we are and look, its just finding that person...
now on the other hand, if looking for a friendship, the picture doesnt matter its all about the profile and character.. | |
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| Honesty pls: Ladies, would you initiate contact with a man whose profile was great but pic was ugly
Posted: 11/28/2006 5:40:11 PM | Depends ..I've emailed a few when they have had a great thread and I wanted to talk further.. made some remarkable friends... Had some real heartfelt honest conversations.
Would I date them .. NO... but I was glad I had the chance to talk to them..... They had substance and were honest, kind and very sincere.
Actually.. that "they" gave "me" their time to talk to back! That made me consider myself really fortunate!!! | |
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| Honesty pls: Ladies, would you initiate contact with a man whose profile was great but pic was ugly
Posted: 12/14/2006 6:31:10 PM | Let me say this much... I knew this one guy for over 18 years. I was never attracted to him, I mean never. But he had a wonderful personality. He was just "all that". One day we met again, after several years of not seeing each other. He was divorced and so was I. I never realized, after all those years, how much I really did adore him. He was really turning me on. We ended up dating for 4 years. It was wonderful... We are not togather now because of the problems with the kids... his and mine. If it weren't for that, I do believe it would have lasted forever. As for now, no I wouldn't. There has got to be chemesty... but how do you get thatover a computer if you're not attracted to someone to begin with? | |
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| Honesty pls: Ladies, would you initiate contact with a man whose profile was great but pic was ugly
Posted: 12/24/2006 1:12:53 PM | | I think women are just as/no more shallow than men. I'll now speak for myself. If the hypothetical man's profile was really outstanding and piqued my interest, I'd give him a shot. After all, nothing ventured, nothing gained. But at the end of the day, the actual meeting would determine whether or not there was any real chemistry between us. I have actually contacted men who were outside the range of men who I would ordinarily find attractive. (Interestingly enough, you have no picture of yourself on your profile....hmmmh) | |
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joyero
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| Honesty pls: Ladies, would you initiate contact with a man whose profile was great but pic was ugly
Posted: 12/25/2006 5:22:58 AM | Flip it... ask yourself would you HONESTLY contact a woman who had a ugly photo but a great profile? Does a great profile get cancelled out by the bad photo? Does anyone read the profiles.. I now that the majority of women read the profiles..
I will admit if the profile is tooooooooooo long and rambling.. I don't. Sum yourself up in five sentences or less. When I see a profile that is full of writing the first thing that pops into my head is "Oh how the mighty wind does blow" | |
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