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| Lust or Love? Please explain
Posted: 9/21/2006 9:27:22 AM | | Lust is merely sexual desire... love on the other hand is a great passion you can never let go off ( at least i believe) and mostly grows in time. | |
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| Lust or Love? Please explain
Posted: 9/21/2006 8:49:35 PM | OP, my opinion is that there is very little difference between what we call lust vs. love. I believe "love" is merely a different form of lust. Both are based on the libido, the masculine + feminine. I consider both to be lust. I would not love a man, or an animal or my child the same way I love a woman. And my love for women comes from my libido.... so no matter how many ridiculously hopelessly sweet things I say to a woman, my love for her is still lust.
But whatever, it doesn't really matter because words are just words. Feelings and actions are truly real... and love shall remain love whether called lust or love. | |
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| Lust or Love? Obsession?
Posted: 9/26/2006 7:26:52 AM | Hi
When I was younger I became very confused about sex love lust.
Was it I did not understand because it was not demonstrated to me?
What was it that made people become so attached just physical attraction?
Or was it deeper? Some quality about their character that I respected and liked?
Spiritual values is not a religious thing, it is the very best quality of human nature we can posess.
We can often have feelings for people and not understand it is a kind of natural respect.
It can even be a quality we know we have deep in us.
For me as a teen ager pony tails were a turn on. Freckles I thought were a real nice thing.
I married a lady with freckles?
Yet did I marry her just fro that?
I did not like her when we met, yet I grew to love her.
Because I got to know her the person.
Now obssesive is where it over takes all logic and becomes all time consuming.
People believe they fall in love with people who are cruel people.
Do they deserve that?
How can we commit ourself for a life time commitment when we do not know ourself?
We change physically but also emotinally.
We hope that we will grow together.
Is sexual attraction love?
Or do we need to respect the person first before we can commit fro life?
Yes ladies look nice dressed with the best of every thing.
Yet is that the person?
Is physical atrraction enogh to hold you together for the rest of your life?
I married not having a clue waht commitment was all about.
We both enetered marriage with our baggage thinking that life would some how change if we were together?
Did we grow closer together?
Which one of us changed the most? Probaly me, because I started to understand my part in life.
I was a very immature person when I married, I use to sulk, I was imature, I was selfish, inconsiderate, did nto consider other peoples feelings.
I certainly did not know myself or what I really wanted from life.
In fact I was a victim and did not know it.
I was over sensitive yet did not know why I reacted the way I did.
How could I be at peace with the world when I was not at peace with myself?
I learned in time about myself and in turn was able to be mor giving of myself.
I use to be very resentfu about doing most things.
In fact most of my life I did thinsg for the worng reasons.
Out of resentment anger guilt and shame.
In doing things for the wrong reasons I only cheated myself.
What is our motivation in life. another person?
Is it healthy to idolise?
Is lack of trust our own insecuirty?
We at the marriage make alife time commitment do we fuly appretiate how much we ar taking on?
Is it physical attrraction that will carry us both on till our fragile age?
Or is it a respect of the deeper person we have got to know?
Lust is just a sexual attraction, but is that all we want in our life to go from one partner to the next or are we ready to settle for some deeper more valuable?
Do we measue the person by the shell or by the spirtual quailty of the person?
If we try to sell our self by sexual atrraction only is that all we are?
If we try to sell our self by sexual atrraction only are we not selling ourself cheap?
I feel once we leave school and go into the world that is where we start to learn about ourself.
Do we want to react to the world or interact?
How much fear holds us back?
Do we always know when we are ready to let seme one inot our heart?
Is sex the most important thing or the only thing in a realtionship?
How can we learn to respect others if we do not respct ourself?
How can we learn to love others if we do not love ourself?
Reagrds
Dave | |
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| Lust = sex, Love = emotions
Posted: 9/26/2006 7:58:02 AM | everyone experiences lust, here's what the dictionary says:
Lust
-noun
1. intense sexual desire or appetite.
2. uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness.
3. a passionate or overmastering desire or craving (usually fol. by for): a lust for power.
4. ardent enthusiasm; zest; relish: an enviable lust for life.
Most people don't experience true love but the other types of love, I love my dog, I love you as a friend, I love making love to you. I love it when you shoot milk out of your nose when drinking milk when I make you laugh.
You get the picture. | |
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| Lust = sex, Love = emotions
Posted: 9/26/2006 8:56:04 AM | | Lust is that jaded, rosy glasses (and quite fun) phase in the beginning. LOVE is enduring, it's the kind fo thing that makes you want to brighten someones day when they're down. It's the thing that makes you swallow your pride and apologize when your wrong, it's what makes you work things out even though your mad as hell. It's a deap sense of compassion, concern, respect, and caring for the person. | |
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| Lust or Love? Please explain
Posted: 9/26/2006 8:59:36 AM | | Lust is a pheremone connection. A drug. It is wonderful and powerful and has over 4 billion years of evolutionary design to make it work. Love is not physical but spiritual. The two are very different. Love is simplky the positive energy we create when we have a wealth of positive emotion which gathers around our "love" | |
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| Lust or Love? Please explain
Posted: 9/26/2006 9:21:03 AM | Lust can be had without love, but love cannot be had without lust. But let me clarify that lust is not just physical desire, but the need, desire, and willingness to share emotional as well as physical attributes of each other. Love is when the pronouns "you & I" become "we". | |
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| Lust or Love? Please explain
Posted: 9/26/2006 9:33:52 AM | i have no idea babe. Its so confussing.
Love is a weird thing i have no idea how to deal with it, There is a fine line between love and obsession its very difficult to know where one ends and the other starts. I think i have been a victim to this, Not being able to give up or try to forget feelings for someone as i felt as though i was in love and didnt want to beray those feelings for him. I still feel very strong towards him but i realise i have to let him go. The chances are the feelings of love i have for this person are that which i would have have for a close friend. I feel so comfrotable and relaxed around him, Its only when i am not around him i feel stressed and uncomfortable (obsession maybe??) i guess i will never quite figure out what love is ALL about. Is it just an obsession?? | |
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| Lust or Love? Please explain
Posted: 10/9/2006 11:57:34 PM | Hi
Obsesssion or love?
My opinion I think is people who are obsessed are not equal to the partner.
They will sacrifice them self and go with out to serve their partner.
Is that a spititual thing? I do not think so if you cheat your self is it healthy?
Placing yourself as second best? To do or say any thing to get approval? Is that healthy?
Love is very much being placed as equals? Sharing nurturing each other.
Making each other whole and stronger.
Making each other more confident more able to cope with every situation.
Being proud of each other respecting each other?
I have found to have healthy relationships you need to resepct your self first of all?
Healthy realtionship is based on honesty.
I would not like or want any one to do some thing for me they did not want to do.
I would feel uncomfortable doing that.
Love is the ultimate realtionship. Hope fully you grow stronger together yet remain as individual indentities.
regards
Dave | |
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