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| Why do most men not want to help in the responsibility of caring for children???
Posted: 3/3/2009 5:49:33 PM |
Because they aren't always deadbeat losers when you date them.
After 2 1/2 years together my boyfriend and I got pregnant. He refuses to accept the fact that he's going to become a dad and blames it all on me.
So, did you tell him that you were trying to get pregnant? Sometimes guys can get a bit pissed off when a woman chooses to get pregnant unilaterally....
... just sayin'....
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| Why do most men not want to help in the responsibility of caring for children???
Posted: 3/3/2009 6:28:12 PM | Ok Cap...I have the contract all drawn up...just need your signature and your bank accounts to be signed over, k?  
I think I know why that saying "Once bitten twice shy" came to be....when people have one bad experience, they steer clear away.....I wonder though if in those cases if only the Mom and kids were to blame for the end of the relationship.....
just sayin..... | |
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| Why do most men not want to help in the responsibility of caring for children???
Posted: 3/3/2009 6:36:06 PM |
I think I know why that saying "Once bitten twice shy" came to be....when people have one bad experience, they steer clear away.....I wonder though if in those cases if only the Mom and kids were to blame for the end of the relationship.....
just sayin.....
OF COURSE... it's 'once bitten, twice shy' or ' Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me'... whichever way you wanna look at it...
Well, if you listen to all the rhetoric in the fora, magazines and on the street, women are NEVER to blame, no matter what the circumstances were....
... the guy cheats, he's to blame... if the woman cheats, the man is to blame.... women are perfect communicators and relationshippers... we ALL know that from the fora and ALL the people we know...
... come ON....
... just sayin'....
(... kids are NEVER, EVER to blame, though in a different way than women are NEVER to blame... )
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| Why do most men not want to help in the responsibility of caring for children???
Posted: 3/3/2009 7:23:50 PM |
Mail Settings (To message jadestar3690 you MUST meet the following criteria.)
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Age between 23 and 38
Must not be looking for Hang Out
Must not be looking for Short-Term
Must not be looking for Talk/E-mail
Must not be looking for Photo Exchange
Must not be looking for Other Relationship
Must not be looking for Dating
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not be looking for Activity Partner
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Must not be married
Must not smoke
I understand you stated you want "long term" in your profile...but NO relationship starts out this way....people normally start what we like to call "TALKING", "HANGING OUT", "DOING ACTIVITIES", then "DATING". You have all of these things BLOCKED!!!!
In defense of the OP here, I understand why she did this. She knows that she wants Long Term and wants to weed out the people that dont want Long Term. Let's face it, guys (and girls) dont always read the profiles. And I get (or used to get) a lot of "SPAM" from guys that just werent looking for the same thing as me, and it was just an distraction and a waste of time. Now, I have restrictions but also left my profile with very little information and no pictures. I do searches and seek out those who I think I would like, based on their profiles.
Let's also face it, when you are looking for Long Term and you get a people contacting you that are just flirting and looking for pictures or dirty emails, it gets old. I dont ever engage with someone who wants talk/email or hangout, etc. I'm not here for anything casual and you learn how to be smart about meeting someone online. If you dont just a hook up, you pretty much HAVE to put all those restrictions. Even half of the people on here that say they want Long Term still dont want anything serious. There are millions of people on here and meeting people who are here for opposite reasons than you is just a waste of time. That is why they have the Advanced Search feature on here. Thats why we narrow it down so that 265,000 people dont show up in a search result.
BUT, OP, you do have some balls for putting up that post. I get what you are saying, but the way you said it just came off wrong. You sound desperate and you can't honestly expect to get someone interested in you when you talk like that. But, you are being fair by stating right up front that the guy you end up with NEEDS to like kids. Now, hopefully, you won't meet someone that SAYS they dont mind kids, but when it comes down to it, they actually DO mind kids. That will suck and guys (and girls) do that, so be careful.
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| Why do most men not want to help in the responsibility of caring for children???
Posted: 3/3/2009 8:11:27 PM |
Now, I have restrictions but also left my profile with very little information and no pictures. I do searches and seek out those who I think I would like, based on their profiles.
HA, right after I made the above post, I got an IM request from a guy who was married (dont know how he got by that block), that lived way too far away and that was 10 years older than what I am looking for. I'm thinking he saw this post and decided to mess with me, lol, because it was so random.
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| Why do most men not want to help in the responsibility of caring for children???
Posted: 3/3/2009 8:19:04 PM | Let me ask this question of the ladies.
Guys see the issues of raising another man's children as not their problem.
How would the ladies like to be 100% compatible with a guy, but the guy had a handicapped child and needed the assistance of the woman to live life fully?
My point being that so few men and women want to raise a child, but are more selfish and prefer to have their fun without consideration for anybody except for themselves. I can say this with with confidence as I just finalized divorce papers on the most passionate and TOTALLY selfish person I have ever known!! | |
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| Why do most men not want to help in the responsibility of caring for children???
Posted: 3/3/2009 8:41:31 PM |
My point being that so few men and women want to raise a child, but are more selfish and prefer to have their fun without consideration for anybody except for themselves.
I disagree,,,, I tend to put other peoples wants, needs, desires etc. before my own, so therefore I wouldn't fit into the "selfish" or "wanting to think of only myself when looking for fun" catagories. Honestly, my comfort zone is other peoples happiness and comfort.
Therefore, it would not bother me if I loved a guy and he need my help with his kids. | |
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| Why do most men not want to help in the responsibility of caring for children???
Posted: 3/4/2009 5:13:31 PM | i know i wont get involved with single mums period as they not what i look in for a realtionship they have to much issues with there personal lives and i wont go anywhere near them but only friend but nothing else has ive got what im looking in for a woman i wont give up my single life with no children to help another mans child who he created with single mum which isnt my child bilogical but good luck | |
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| Why do most men not want to help in the responsibility of caring for children???
Posted: 3/4/2009 5:35:05 PM |
i know i wont get involved with single mums period as they not what i look in for a realtionship they have to much issues with there personal lives and i wont go anywhere near them but only friend but nothing else has ive got what im looking in for a woman i wont give up my single life with no children to help another mans child who he created with single mum which isnt my child bilogical but good luck
Not all single parents have baggage or issue's that need to be dealt with.
Im still human enough that I care about things enough to take on someone kids even from outside a relationship, for example if a relatives children died I certainly would take them on if that was in their best interests at the time (what is the difference, they are kids, they didnt do anything wrong). The same as when someone yells help I dont turn the other way and run off. | |
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| Why do most men not want to help in the responsibility of caring for children???
Posted: 3/4/2009 6:13:20 PM |
i know i wont get involved with single mums period as they not what i look in for a realtionship they have to much issues with there personal lives and i wont go anywhere near them but only friend but nothing else has ive got what im looking in for a woman i wont give up my single life with no children to help another mans child who he created with single mum which isnt my child bilogical but good luck
but you keep coming into this forum and posting about single moms....... *scratches head*
I'm alot like footballmom in that I derive much of my own personal happiness from making a difference in the lives of those around me. No, I'm not a doormat either. I'm very open to embracing non-biological children. | |
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| Why do most men not want to help in the responsibility of caring for children???
Posted: 3/5/2009 2:12:45 AM | | Why dont you just get a boyfriend thats decent and does he have to be kids dad.cant he just be good with your kids.friendly.caring.do things together with you and your kids.if you and your bf have a healthy happy relationship and the kids are involved then isnt that enough?dad is just a word.having a decent bloke around and doing things together would surely be enough | |
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| Why do most men not want to help in the responsibility of caring for children???
Posted: 8/17/2009 11:16:11 PM |
Because they aren't always deadbeat losers when you date them.
After 2 1/2 years together my boyfriend and I got pregnant. He refuses to accept the fact that he's going to become a dad and blames it all on me. In the entire time we've been together he's never been a dead beat....now that he's going to be a dad..he is..
I don't think these women expect other men to raise their kids...but odn't we all want someonet os hare our life with?
So, did you tell him that you were trying to get pregnant? Sometimes guys can get a bit pissed off when a woman chooses to get pregnant unilaterally....
... just sayin'....
Lol! EXACTLY. | |
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