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Posted: 11/2/2006 1:34:35 AM | | if your not interested in the person dont waste his/her time or yours for that matter | |
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Posted: 11/2/2006 1:44:21 AM | the only 'problem with distance' is forgetting to put my panties on, as i burn down the road on route to his place................................ | |
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Posted: 11/2/2006 1:50:24 AM | | well i have a guy from france who e-mails me and we may never meet but our talks are great. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2006 1:50:38 AM | | those u must not forget unless its intentional | |
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Posted: 11/2/2006 10:54:22 AM |
I wonder why do some people try to contact others on this site when the distance is so great between each of us there would be no chance of going out.
What I don't understand is .... if you're only here for the forums, not single/not looking ...etc etc as your profile state, then, why on earth does it matter where on earth the person is that you're chatting with??? Why would they have to drive anywhere? It's not like you're going to want to meet them for a date.(although that's not what your original post indicates) I've met people on here from all over the world that I chat with ... Wales, Australia, Denmark, yup this Canadian even chats with people down in the big old U.S.A. - I highly doubt I'll ever meet any of them personally but it's fun getting to know them.
BTW it gets darn cold up here in the winter ... some of us do like to travel south in the winter, maybe she thought she'd meet you on the way through. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 7:27:47 PM | | I dont` think distance makes it imposible for a relationship to work.However,it doesn`t help.I live in Canada and dated a lady from Florida.It didnt` work for us but, I`v seen it work for others. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 9:55:34 PM | Hey, all:
Hey, Bucs and Sas:
Great story, and great rule:
The fact is, we can't help who we are attracted to.
Across the street or across an ocean, love is where you find it.
Patience helps a lot.
David
Messages done with sustainable energy, with Wind and Sun! | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 11:14:13 PM | Distance has never been a big thing for me - maybe because I like to travel and I have never minded moving - why pass up someone, a chance at true real love just because of distance?
I would rather move to be with the one I love - then be alone and always wonder what if.
I mean, at times, things might get tough - like when you can't be together after a long, hard day - but true love is all about sacrifice, espec if you are together in the end.
For it to work, one would have to move eventually - but I know of many ppl who started out as LDR's.... and are now married.
Love really does know no boundaries.... and you can't help who you love - whether they are 5 mins or 12 hours away.... | |
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Posted: 11/12/2006 1:24:46 AM | If we could see 'bucs & sas 2' getting to know each other ~ meeting up on 14.2. ~ moving together ... on a film, surely many of us would see clearly for themselves where even patience would evaporate should vague, sudden "must do", not knowing when etc ... took the first seat.
Having followed 'bucs & sas 2' story here on PoF, I'm more than happy to see that: "Love was not only something they felt. It was something, they did."  | |
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Posted: 11/12/2006 3:29:31 AM | | who says went to a wedding last week of a friend of mine he lives in Englang she came from Portugal met online and after about a year got together 2 years later marrage so who knows thee is also a big age difference | |
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Posted: 11/12/2006 4:46:07 AM | Speaking of distance problems, I've noticed something on this site. Like 90% of the women in Ontario are gorgeous. I think I need to move there. They must put something in the water.  | |
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Posted: 11/12/2006 8:08:32 AM | Building a real and meaningful relationship requires LIVE HUMAN CONTACT! If you don't have that, you've just built a relationship with someone's cyber-persona, or their phone persona.
These are not the same image people project to the world during live contact. I know a lot of people (expecially women) think they are the same no matter where they are, but just the fact that you are able to spell-check, grammar-check and call Dr. Laura to see if what you're saying is "ok" before you hit the send key provides a whole level of filtration that doesn't even exist in a face to face communication.
If you're not dealing face to face, you may or may not know anything about them at all. Just ask Cyrano. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 4:16:00 PM | | gas 3$ per gallon X a gazillion miles,,,,,,,,,,, | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 4:26:45 PM | Just another thing people lie about. Saying it doesn't matter when really it does. Listen to everything, but believe nothing. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 4:56:51 PM | gas 3 dollars a gallon, LOL, it is double that here :)
My son met a woman 500 miles away on the 'net. They are happily married and have beens so for about 5 yrs. It can happen.
Has this thread caused anyone to change their email restrictions yet?  | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 5:02:42 PM | Well I'm from Canada and been talking to a man from Alabama for over 3 months on a daily basis and I am flying down there in March...........so hey it can work as "Bucsgirl" said, if you really desire it to happen, you can make it happen.
OR , you can simply stay where you are at and play with the locals! | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 8:21:01 PM | well, sometimes the connection is there, other times it just isn't. if it's not there -right off the bat- in all honesty, there is no point in bothering save for prehaps "thanks, but you're a little outta my way. sorry." distance can be a very crucial thing for some couples, meaning it could either make or break them. distance can provide a further chance to build verbal communications and different sensations. it's a totally different world then being physically able to connect with someone, sometimes. you cannot always rely on being able to drive to see that person, for maybe they live quite a distance away or even out of the country. so, what can you do? maybe you are use to have that physical attraction to appeal to your senses and preferences. often, people like this can find more appealing characteristics in the other's physical beauty rather than inner qualities. sometimes, sometimes not. it is merely something that is personal opinion, i suppose.
and when you have communicated to someone who is "long distance"... you might start here on POF, then maybe you exchange msn or phone numbers, then you start making arrangements to go see one another in person...you get anxious and excited, practically flooded with different emotions and anticipations. you've waited [usually] quite some time for this moment, and you may even think that this person is really going to be the one. you get so worked up....and then when it comes time to actually meet -that person is not at all what you expected them to be...it's a potential let down, a risk that you are taking when starting a long-distance relationship. most of the people that are envovled in them are aware of this, but they desire a different connection....and that can be found in many ways; one of them being through distance. it's a totally different playing feild, really.
but you might also meet this person and there is just a never-ending adoration and affection for them that just washes over you, making everything that you have ever felt for them even stronger. this might just take your relationship to the next level. you may have already taken a lot of time getting to know this person via e-mail, msn, phone, and web cam [or however you choose to communicate]...and when you meet them, and you get to that other side of the relationship where you are physically able to touch and watch and smell and every other sense that you have longed for...and you can speak to them, watch their mouth and eyes and body. you can [hopefully, lol] read their expressions and there is a different level of communication and intamacy that can be reached [potentially].
i don't know where i'm going with this really...i might just be trying to defend my own long-distance relationship [of sorts]. but, in my opinion, wonderful people are all over the world. if there is an extraordinary connection and it makes you happy...all the power to ya! don't let something that could be potentially beautiful and ever-lasting pass you by...though that is not to state that you should go see every person that you think you have a connection with. make sure it's genuine and that you really do want to see this person and feel all the aspects that something between you could very well hold. love comes around in mysterious ways, and sometimes -i think- it likes to travel. ^_^
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Posted: 1/19/2007 8:31:12 PM | For someone who is only 20 "midnight goddess", you wrote that beautifully........bravo!
Those are my thoughts exactly on this subject, couldn't have said it better myself.
Good luck with your long distance relationship, may it be all that you hope for and more. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 8:34:52 PM | | What can I say, it is very difficult and just went through it myself. Met a very nice, wonderful, sweet woman on another site. She helped me believe in a lot of things again and I will never forget her. We did end up getting together, I did the travelling, not that it was a great distance 2 ferries were involved each way. The hard part is only could do it for 3-4 days a month as I have commitments where I live. It ended up not being enough and I could not move away from where I am. So if anyone is getting into that situation make sure it is well thought out Before you get too deep, nobody wants to get hurt. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 4:36:34 AM | I dont really think it makes any difference how near or far someone lives from you, if u have that instant attraction then go for it, life is too short to not do anything about it.
Of course it would be a lot easier to find someone that lives in you area/country but i fell for someone that lives a million miles away and all i can say is that i love him dearly whether or not anything will come of this is purely up to him and I.
I can only hope it does but if it doesnt thats life. i'll have to pick myself up and start all over again..
But my advice is if you really fall for someone big time-go for it and enjoy it.
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Posted: 1/20/2007 9:09:28 AM | The world has become filled with cynics.
I knew on older gentleman and his wife, let me share their story.
They met at a USO show in the 40's, went on 2 dates before he was shipped to
the Pacific to fight in WWII. They mailed as often as possible.
One day he just disappeared. He was captured by the Japanese and sent to a prison camp.
He spent 2 years at this camp.
When the war was over and he was again back in the states, the only thing he wanted to do was find his love.
He only had a PO Box (which he couldn't remember the number) and her name.
He spent 2 months searching for her, she no longer lived in the town where he sent his letters.
One day, tired and hungry, he stopped at a small cafe to eat.
As soon as he walked in the door, he heard a gasp, turned around, and was looking into the eyes of the love he seeked.
He stood there with his mouth hanging open as they both openly wept.
After close to 3 years apart, more than 2 years with no contact, the love they felt was just as strong.
They married, had children and lived the rest of their lives together.
Imagine what would have happened to these 2 wonderful people if they were cynical.
Imagine what would have happened if their peers would have told them they were crazy.
Imagine what would have happened if they let distance and time get in their way.
I was honored to know this couple and so glad they followed their hearts. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 9:39:11 AM | "i might just be trying to defend my own long-distance relationship" Midnight your post was heart felt and touching. There's no need to defend anything, people have different opinions, that's all. If you haven't lived it, it's hard to understand. Your life is your own to lead and we all know what makes us happy, gives us those wonderful feelings. Noone's wrong in seeking their own happiness in a relationship, no matter what obstacles or what others may think.
Im-r-stalker I've read stories like this myself, always very much touched my heart. To know a couple like that personally, I'm sure it's a blessing. There's many who are just hardened to any experience that doesn't fit in their well-defined parameters, isn't convenient. I was that way myself, had attempted the long distance thing before with not good results. But when you feel love so strong and you know it's genuine, the barriers just don't matter. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 9:51:48 AM | I think poor billbutler is confused. ha!
there are two basic types on the internet personals (or perhaps in any kind of dating scene?).
1. the Wannameetchya's
2. the wannagetaknowya's
The first thing is to decide who you are dealing with. these two types are probably not compatible from the git-go.
The no.1s don't belive it is possible to know someone without meeting them in person...as soon as possible!
the no. 2s believe it is not only possible to know someone thru mails (etc.) , but actually preferable to the quick meets... which have a tendancy to become addictive and only fuel the hunger for ever more...quick meets.
this new age of instantaneous emails is only 25 years old....and really not even that old. Its only gained wide usage and familiarity in the last 10! does anyone remember the age of the glorious handwritten letter? Many of us would not even be here if our grandfathers or great grandfathers had not been able to entice a mail order bride out into the frontieers with only the use of crude and excrutiatingly slow handwritten mail. No pics either...
am I a hopeless romantic....sure. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 7:49:23 PM | It's hard to get to know someone from a distance in a natural, slow pace.
Because of the time commitment in travel, you tend to "rush things" to make it more convenient. (i.e., spending the weekend)
Unless you live in a po-dunk god-forsaken little town where you're the only one with all your teeth, it just makes sense to stay close to home. | |
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