| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/25/2006 8:51:17 AM | OP I understand your fear I have a disorder .............................................. we indeed have had years to come to terms with these facts. Other humans need to be told from the get go otherwise you risk loosing there respect....respect is biult on honesty.
You can't offer anything untill you have laid down the card and allowed them process to handle what you have taken many years to discover. Although this dosen't risk folks necessarily it is the intenton to hide information and not allow them the respect to be forthwith sets you up for breaks in esteem... My fishy you are far better off to lay it down and have them determine there intrest after the fact.....why would you leave yourself open to allowing others to play on your esteem.
Do not hide your information ....let other humans prove intrest knowing all the facts not just some. Personally I show mine on the profile.....why play with other humans integrity..........is up to us to break stigma and learn to live with our dynamics....if other humans choose to be part of that great but they need to have the choise first not last...
Goodluck OP.....I hope I have helped you. good luck fishin  | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/25/2006 10:55:25 AM | | if a person knowingly has a disease that is life-threatening and they do the wild monkey dance and pass that disease on to the person they are doing it with and do not tell that person,you are breaking the law!! | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/25/2006 11:50:57 AM | I THINK YOU SHOULD BE TOTALLY HONEST FROM THE START. YOU WANT PEOPLE TO TRUST
YOU, THAN YOU HAVE TO BE HONEST WITH EVERTHING. GOOD LUCK AND I WISH YOU THE BEST. THANKS, ~*~ ANNETTE ~*~ | |
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fiva22
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Joined: 9/23/2006
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/26/2006 9:16:34 PM |
Ok, so I have Hepatitis C which I received through a blood transfusion as a kid.
Many people are misinformed about HEP C and how it's transmitted. I've had it for over 20 years and feel fine.
My doctor and the websites say that sexual transmission is rare and that I should really only worry about blood to blood contact.
My questions are:
At what point do I tell the person I'm dating?
How do I break the news without scaring her off?
How do I explain that it's not a typical STD and that with condom use, the risk is practically zero?
Ughhh, this is so frustrating!!
In case any of you are wondering, I told her about my condition.
She was a bit surprised at first but did not get freaked out or anything.
I gotta say that I'm quite surprised at the harshness of some of the replies.
I NEVER asked IF I should tell her. I simply asked HOW and WHEN...When I say "WHEN", I meant how soon into the relationship. I told her after we've been out four times...and in case you're wondering, NO, we have NOT been intimate yet.
I also wanna urge all of you to get tested for Hepatitis C...Millions have it and most do not know it. I, myself, found out through a fluke that I was infected...If you've ever ever received blood or blood products even as far back as the sixties or seventies, get tested! | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/27/2006 3:21:24 AM | | You tell them prior to sex, obviously -- prior to kissing, obviously -- and prior to any relationship which may become more serious in terms of commitment. The "exact" time -- depends on you, your comfort level, and your assessment of your partners attitude. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/27/2006 7:09:05 AM | you sit her down and say there is something u need to tell her about yourself and say well when I was .... I had a blood transfusion and why and then well unfortunately ...... I really like u and wanted u to get to know me b4 judging me on what many misconcieve as an std. I know u may not want to have a long term relationship with me but I had to try....
U know sumin along those lines it is never easy tellin ppl stuff like this but she would also need to know how she could contract it and what she can and can't do and what the risks are so she is well informed to make a fair desicion.
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/27/2006 7:13:29 AM | Man sorry to hear this.. and back 20 yeara ago it was going around and happening allot...
I would be the type to let her know on a private and personal level.. Maybe getting more information and something off the internet to explain it all better.. I mean you can tell her and she may run.. But if you sit down and talk it over with her and explain it all in a private and up close manor.. I think she mayeb alittle scared and work on finding out more info on it.. But it will be much eaiser especially if you both love each other or see this going for a long time.. she will understand and look to get all the info she can get before pushing the envelope and going full bore with being with you.
I would tell her soon so she doesn't think your keeping things from her and make sure you have plenty of info to support your side and what it is exactly that you have.. The more info the better it will be for you both....But you need to get up and tell her soon....
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/27/2006 9:02:56 AM | I'm so sorry you have HEP C. That is terrible. However, just imagine if you can, how terrible it would be to not have it and to suddenly contract it from someone who withheld this information from you.
Honesty is the best policy when it comes to health related issues. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/27/2006 9:08:49 AM | | It would be a hard situation to be in for sure....but honesty is the best policy. Explain your situation to her fully. If it is an issue for her then it was not meant to be anyway. Good Luck. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/27/2006 9:11:23 AM | Since dude is gone and this is not really a useful thread anymore, my answer would be:
If you've had unprotected sex with her and didn't tell her beforehand, you would be telling her right before she cuts your nuts off.
Fry | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/27/2006 9:25:59 AM | immediately ***hole!! it is contagious and she ought to have choice...what she'll like you better for lying? plus, and I hope she does, can prosecute for not not revealing what you know | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/27/2006 9:40:24 AM | | He ran away...hopefully to tell her or perhaps its too late he already slept with her and now feels bad. Can't help if hes not here! | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/27/2006 10:03:33 AM | | Sorry to tell you this, but you need to be upfront and tell them right away. Even if the risks are minimal, you don't have the right to subject someone to that risk without their knowledge. Having literature on hand while telling someone might help but, it sucks that it happened to you. | |
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fiva22
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Joined: 9/23/2006
Msg: 40 | |
| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/27/2006 4:08:50 PM | DIDN'T ANYONE READ MY SECOND POST? (MESSAGE 29 IN THIS THREAD)...I TOLD HER..
LET ME REPEAT..I WAS NOT ASKING IF I SHOULD TELL HER BUT HOW AND WHEN. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/27/2006 5:22:02 PM | Glad you told her man, good job.
I agree with you that some of the posts were brutal.
Some people are just ignorant and don't understand what Hepatitis C or how it is spread.
Just because someone has HEP C doest NOT mean that they are sexually irresponsible or use drugs.
My dad has had it for 30 years. He's also feeling fine and my mom never got it.
Good luck, man. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/27/2006 5:44:06 PM | You should be open and tell her from the get go not take a chance like that with her Im sure ay relationship you could of had will go out window when you tell her oh by the way that time we had sex could of gave you deadly disease.
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/27/2006 7:45:20 PM | | i'd tell her right away so that she doesn't think that you were trying to mislead her in any way. when you do tell her she may be shocked, i think the best way to tell someone that is to just say it(tactfully) and remain calm no matter what happens and try to be understanding of her situation. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 9/27/2006 7:54:17 PM | make yourself well informed about hepatitis c (so that you can answer any and every question and sound like you know what you are talking about) .... have some printed information for her and let her take it home to read (or go over with her own doctor)
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tell her Yesterday | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 10/23/2006 3:51:43 PM | | right away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you say sexual transmission is "rare"....rare does not mean never...it happens. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 10/23/2006 4:09:54 PM | Good for you for telling her, i can understand your apprehension xx
Ignore the vile comments on here, you obviously have morals so good for you for doing the right thing xx | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 10/23/2006 4:31:27 PM | Man peopel can be such ***holes!! Don't worry about the crap you hear on her. Sounds to me you were trying to be as considerate and careful as possible. You deserve to meet and fall in love with someone just as all the rest of us do.
Props for having the courage to tell her after 4 dates. If she's worth it, it won't bother her.
Luck to ya!! | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 10/23/2006 4:39:37 PM | interesting replies considering those i read in a different thread regarding whether or not you would continue to date someone if you found out that person had an std................most of you said NO WAY!
and in this thread, most are sympathatic saying its her lost if she doesnt understand
I can just imagine how many in this whole world are lonely people with any one of the many, many different types of stds .. how hard it must be for them to find an understanding person. | |
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