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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 11/14/2006 6:27:15 AM | Someone above is equating hep c with STD's. WRONG!!! Hep C is a blood-borne virus. I got it from a blood transfusion. Lots of IV drug users have it. Lots of people are infected who never show symptoms. But the virus is there nonetheless. I've never been told by my doctors that it is sexually transmittable. Both of my ex-husbands knew I had it and they don't have it. I also had it when I was pregnant with my son and he doesn't have it. So there...... And having said that, hep c will kill you. Make no mistake about that. It's extremely serious. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 11/14/2006 6:51:20 AM | OP... of course you're going to tell her before you are intimate. I realize (unlike others) that your real question lies with the timing and way in which you reveal your disease. I DO NOT think that you must post it on your profile or have a confession be the first topic of discussion. I think you should get to know the person you are interested in.... say a few dates, and then discuss it with her. I know personally, that I would just cruise by a profile that stated the woman had a contagious disease or lose all interest in getting to know someone that told me immediately they had this affliction. However, if I got to know her and was interested, I would at least hear her out. Now we come to the methodology of your revealing the truth. I would arm yourself with as much information as you can find on the subject and even book an appointment with your doctor that you both may attend.
That's it though.... I don't see any other reasonable way to ease into that discussion. Good luck and I feel for you. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 11/14/2006 9:39:13 PM |
At what point do I tell the person I'm dating?
How do I break the news without scaring her off?
How do I explain that it's not a typical STD and that with condom use, the risk is practically zero?
Why not ask the doctor that gave you this information how to tell her? or even have him tell her? | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 11/14/2006 9:41:48 PM | | You tell the person you have it before you ever have sex with them. If these means dating and not having sex for a month or so, you do it. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 11/15/2006 5:27:28 AM | I believe firmlly that you should never tell anyone serious personal stuff untill you know that the relationship has great possiblities of being a serious relationship. This way they understand you a whole lot better than someone who is trying to get to know you.
Obviously if you can pass it through sexual intercourse (even if the chances are small) then you have to make sure this is discussed before hand. As she has a right to know.
If she knows and trusts you well enough, she will inderstand; 1) - that you had to find the right time to tell her and 2) - that what your telling her is the complete truth that its is in fact not a STD that you caught.
I dont think it is the "issue" whether it was caught through an STD or blood transfusion, but that you have it anyway. As we all know mistakes happen all the time with everything.
It dosent make the illness (sorry if thats what its not called) any more serious in the way it was caught.
You should tell her when your ready and fill that the relationship is going in that direction, but under no circumstances should you sleep with her untill she knows.
I hope it all works out for you x | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 1/28/2007 2:01:54 AM |
My questions are:
At what point do I tell the person I'm dating?
How do I break the news without scaring her off?
How do I explain that it's not a typical STD and that with condom use, the risk is practically zero?
um, how about never! i never understand the need to come clean w/ stuff that will only ruin it for you. if she likes you, she will like you for who you are, including all the bad stuff. would you tell her that you picked your nose and ate you boogers when you were a kid? no! same thing here. she doesn't need to know. | |
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jlryan
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Joined: 8/29/2006
Msg: 85 | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 1/28/2007 4:44:37 PM |
I can just imagine how many in this whole world are lonely people with any one of the many, many different types of stds .. how hard it must be for them to find an understanding person.
Thank you Whitetigress for having compassion. I am one of the people of which you speak. I have hsv2, given to me by a cheating ex husband. However, I am not lonely, I have a quite lively dating life. 1 in 4 people have hsv in one form or another. So I do not lack for company. MANY people here on POF have it, they just choose not to put it on their profiles. (and no, I will not name them)
Along the lines of this thread, it is VERY important to tell people upfront, about any disease they may catch. That is why my hsv status is stated on my profile. May as well get it out now, than have to have "The Talk" later. And yes, I still get asked out by men that don't have it, and know I do. And then there's the guys that message me, I ask them if they read my whole profile and then they do,, they usually dissapear or say "Whoopsie, sorry about that!" I think it's hysterical! I even had one guy tell me that he would rather be with someone that knows they have it, so they can take precautions, than someone that doesn't know and thinks they are std free. (90% of the people who have hsv don't know they have it due to lack of symptoms)
My point is, that it is better to just be upfront and honest about it. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/12/2007 10:52:41 AM | | I know a couple that have been married for 20+ years and he has hep c but the wife has never been infected with. It is not a STD everyone! | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/12/2007 10:58:39 AM | I would want to know up front.
Hepatitis C is transmitted by blood to blood contact only. This means that blood infected with hepatitis C must come into direct contact with the bloodstream of another person. Even the smallest amounts of blood can transmit hepatitis C.
Transmission can occur through:
sharing and equipment used to inject drugs
unsterile tattooing, body piercing and skin penetration procedures
household practices (such as sharing razor blades and toothbrushes)
occupational procedures (eg, needlestick and sharps injuries)
certain sexual activities
mother to baby. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/12/2007 9:17:17 PM | A close friend of mine died of liver cancer, Hep C from a blood transfusion. Another close friend is getting interferon treatments now and for the next year because he has it.
I am a medical professional--while it is RARELY transmitted from one partner to the other sexually, I HAVE SEEN COUPLES who one had it and the other got it from them.
Hep C (no vaccine yet) and Hep B (for which there is a vaccine) and Hep A (for w hich there is also a vaccine) are the MAJOR CAUSE of CANCER OF THE LIVER from 10 to 30 years after the fact. Liver cancer is ALWAYS fatal, and is one of the NASTIEST kinds of cancer I have ever seen someone die from. They do sometimes give liver transplants for Hep C with liver failure (also a very nasty way to die) but many times the second liver is also attacked by the virus.
Interferon treatment is helpful in decreasing the virus load (depending on what kind of the virus it is, there are several strains) Interferon is terribly expensive, and it must be given by injection weekly for a year. It makes you "feel bad" more or less like the flu for the year (some people worse than others)
Hep C (any Hep virus) HIV, and other STDS are all ultimately very debilitation and/or fatal. I would never enter into a sexual relationship with anyone until I knew their VERIFIED STD status. And, that they were not having sex with anyone except me.
People who have random sex are playing Russian Roulette with their lives.
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/18/2007 8:14:34 AM | For I too have hep C , now answer this, have you had sex with her yet, if yes was it with a comdon?what are your age group, older people seems to understand life up and downs a little better and the younger you are the more than likely your're not ready for a lifetime commitment, how good is your health,and most important, would you want to be told something like this if the shoe was on the other foot?
So you see this is another part of the virus that affect us heppers,
I hate to say it, but she should know, but you shouldbe strong when telling her, for this disease isn't a death warrant, it's not transmitted by sex, nor can you pass it down through having kids,take her to meeting or go on some websites and let her learn of this disease, or maybe take her to your doctor, or better yet have HER go to her own doctor to ask questions
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/18/2007 8:24:20 AM | | mothers to babies I disagree with, airgun use is another way that one can get it innoculation shots, but I see that you know quite a bit about this, must be a hepper also, what up bro | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/18/2007 11:51:31 AM | before you ever have sex with her.i realize it is a slim chance getting it during sex,but blood to blood contact is a risk.the 70s and all the drug users,lots of them got hep c from sharing needles.i do not do drugs so i am not worried about getting it that way.
use a rubber & tell her the truth.do not be a meathead and not tell a person.
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Joined: 3/30/2006
Msg: 93 | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/18/2007 7:33:51 PM | You have to tell her BEFORE you engage in any activity that may help someone else contract it. Be open and honest. Some will understand, others won't. Don't beat around the bush, get over and done with. Explain how you got it, and how much of a possibility there is of her contracting it.
Best way to say it, BE HONEST. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/29/2007 1:34:02 AM | | Before sexual activities, for sure. Maybe 3rd date, or after a certain amount of time has gone by (unsure about that time). | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/29/2007 2:37:35 AM | | DONT TELL HER SO WE'LL ALL HAVE IT TOO!!!!!!!! WTF!?!?! TELL HER NOW.... When do I tell her??.. guy you guys break up, she goes out with someone from this site, then they go out with someone.. and multiplys etc etc ... and POF is now POH. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/29/2007 10:21:44 AM | | I once dated a girl though never slept with her, her choice not mine, and had herpies and she told me right off the bat. I was a little put of at first, but then got online and really studied it. So many people have it its fairly comman and its easy to protect yourself agianst. So I was like no problem lets give it a try you know. Lack of imformation causes a lot of fear in people and justly, its only when you educate yourself that you become less afraid or comfortable with it. Just be honest, its tough but do so. Have a convesation about it don't just leave it as I have Hep C. Good luck | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/31/2007 9:16:09 PM | | ok listen...i understand that your afraid of what your partner will think but u need to tell her seriously...i dated this guy for like a month or two and he talked me into going over to the his house for a weekend so i went and when i did during the weekend we pleased each other orally.... i was a virgin then thank god! but anyways it was one of those times when strep throat was going around so yea... well a few days passed and my throat started hurting.... so i was like my throat hurts and he had the nerve 2 tell me that his ex gf had gonerrea...so of course i freaked out right away i cried for three straight days and i broke up with him 4 lyin 2 me...i went n got tested and my tests came up negative! thank jesus! so till this day i wont even give head without a guy wearing a condom....you need 2 tell her and if u dont then dont be surprised if she cusses u and knocks u out! but yea gl dude! | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 4/25/2007 1:37:45 AM | | Wow Flu like symptom's !!!!!!! interfuron and pegasus treatment can also have similar effect's like chimo therapy and can be used to treat several thing's but the side effect's are very very harsh Like my hair falling out!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And a little worse than Flu Like symptom's they don't tell ya how badd it can be that's forsure | |
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