| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 4/25/2007 3:12:03 AM | | Dont bother mentioning it just consume a litre of whisky per day for 6 months and then the sirrosis will far outway the hepatitis c. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 4/25/2007 3:28:49 AM |
I had an encounter with someone who didn't tell me they had HIV, and for the next few months I went through ****ing hell.
If you've been exposed to HIV, you have to get tested for 5 years before you can be sure you didn't get it. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 2/21/2008 7:05:12 AM | | If you do not mind me asking, how did you meet all of these men? I only found out about my hepc two years ago and am having a terrible time meeting someone. Well, not a problem meeting but do not have the guts to even telling a woman. So, therefore, I do not even pursue a date, I just turn away beautiful women before it gets to that point. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 2/21/2008 11:06:05 AM | | you should been maned up and told her, where i'm from you could get your _ss kicked for hiding that info. what if she got it, and she got kids, or accidently passes it on. think outside the box FOOL. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 2/25/2008 8:09:23 PM | As has already been said. Tell her now.
You just explain it to her, if she understands the risks and is willing to work around them, good.
If she is flat out "no way" you'll want to know NOW before you invest too much in to her, or she's invested a lot in you and you give her a good reason to be angry at you.
If she's scared off, it's just the way it has to be.
Shoot, link her to this thread!
*so he's left. Who has time to read every single post. lol | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 2/26/2008 3:18:14 PM | | Damn! If you have Hep C you tell her BEFORE you have sex with her, you dim wit!!! Telling her AFTER and you're open for a lawsuit, pal. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/6/2008 3:49:15 PM | Now!
If the woman is smart, she'll do her own research on risks of transmission and make up her own mind. The risk is practically zero - not zero.
If the woman is a keeper - you'll work it out.
If she freaks and runs - do you really want her???? | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/6/2008 5:45:09 PM | I have a lot of patients that have Hep C. I have to ultrasound them every 6 mths.
At first they thought you could contact it sexually. That is no longer true. BUT...
Hep C is a disease that will affect you and be a part of you the rest of your life.
Eventually it will turn into Cirrhosis, which is end stage liver disease from any disease process. Cirrhosis is not just from drinking, to those who might think that.
It affects your ammonia levels in your blood and when they get too high, it affects your mental capacity. Most end up on disability when it progresses in stages.
Stage I is the lowest, 5 is the highest and then liver transplant after.
There are drugs (interferon etc) that is basically a chemo that one can take for up to a year if the Hep C is caught at the right stage to put it in remission. Every patient that has been on it, told me that time was living hell and it might not even work.
So, it isn't just a matter of contacting it, it is a matter of going through what a person physically goes through with it and dealing with that in the future.
So, I think after the first date when you both know you want to see each other again, is when you should tell them. If the first date is a dead end... then why tell everyone you meet off the bat, when you might not see them again. You have nothing invested in the relationship at that point, if they decide to not want to be involved after. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 3/7/2008 9:01:17 AM | | iknow its probably easier to get the virus from a lady than a man due to menstrals coming on which is unpredictible.where as your penis does not let blood out of your semen as far as i know.and make sure thers lubrication before inserting so no wounds happen wher blood can disperse from.i'm not a doctor, but it sounds logical to me.as far as telling her dont,youll be wearing a condom the first few times anyway, and by that time you can be more open when you decide to lose the rubber.obviously youll be close by then and if she gets pissed off tell her thats the reason you had the condom on.if she has any feelings and a head on her shoulders she'll come with you to the doctors and get educated and understand it.but make sure you use a rubber if your not going to tell her.better yet if you have the virus people have to educate themselves first through their doc before any sex so you can explain in detail to her.hell for all you no she might have it too and be wondering the same thing on how to tell you.theres always the hep c dating sites .good luck | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 5/15/2008 5:50:56 PM | | i HAVE RECENTLY DISCOVERED I HAVE HEP C . i GOT IT THREW A BLOOD TRANSFUSION WHEN I HAD MY SON IN 81 .i TELL MEN RIGHT WHEN I MEET THEM .iF THEY DSONT WANT TO HANDLE IT THEY CAN GO IN THE BEGINNING . I HAVE HAD SOME BAD REPLYS ,BUT I AM PREPARED FOR ALL KINDS .i AM TO SEE A SPECIALIST IN TWO WEEKS TO START TREWATMENT .cAN YOU TELL ME ABOUT TYREATMENT ./THE DOCTER SAID IT CAN MAKE ME REALLY SICK .hE SAID I MIGHT HAVE TO QUITE WORK FOR 3 MONTHS | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:03:09 PM | I know OP is gone, but here's my take:
Anything like that should be disclosed ASAP. Hep C can be transmitted by sharing a razor, toothbrush, cutlery, etc. Not that this is common, but it is mentioned in the "care pack" you get when you are diagnosed.
A former partner of mine decided to inform me 3 years into the relationship that he was infected (likely via drugs - sharing a straw snorting coke, something way prior to me, is the likely source). It was a deal breaker. Not that he was sick, but that he lied and put my health at risk. Despite 3 years together and a pregnancy (mc) I never contracted the illness, but that doesn't mean I wasn't mad as hell.
Interferon/interferon****ails: Going in, they don't know if they are going to work. It's a crapshoot who it will work for. 2 people I know that have done it, basically had a couple of years of hell. Extreme weight loss, fatigue, nausea, basically life limiting. At some point (3-6 months? & continually during treatment) they check your liver output and see if it's helping. Treatment will continue for a year or so. The 2 people I know who went through it, went through hell...but came out of it with no traces of the illness. Remission? Cure? Who knows at this point, but they both feel better than they have in a very long time (i.e. pre-treatment) Both had to have lengthy work absences though.
Best of luck Starbrightoh. My friends' experience shows it can be "treated" for some. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:24:09 AM | OP, I was with a guy that didn't tell me right off about Hep C.
Even when he did tell me, after he moved in with me, I didn't have an issue with it.
Then he had to have a year of treatment and couldn't work, so I supported him.
A year and a half after the treatment was finished (and successfule, he was tested free and clear of Hep C), he moved out (at my request because he'd already moved into another bedroom and our relationship wasn't one anymore).
You should get your facts straight about this disease, as much as I read about it, it is unlikely that you will not have to have treatement at some point.... best to have it now, because you have your strength AND the best thing about getting yourself free and clear is that you would be healthy enough, both physically and mentally to have a really good relationship. Thereis a fabulous clinic in Toronto that has had terrific results and as far as costs go, it supports those that can't pay for it themselves.
Otherwise, tell anyone that you are dating that that is your situation. It is worth it.
BTW, I didn't get Hep C, we used protection, as you said it is rarely transmitted through sexual contact. We were extremely careful about hygenics in our household just to be on the safe side. | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:43:36 AM | Starbright............My deceased husband contracted Hep C from having Malaria in Vietnam, He had carried the disease with him until it became active. He took Interferon and Rebutron shots, that he gave to himself. They did make him sick, with nausea and being very tired. He still never missed a day of work, tho. He went into remission and never had another flare-up. My sons and I were tested and we didn't have it.
We just were careful with all exchanges of bodily fluids ie; blowing of nose, sneezes, cuts, didnt share toothbrushes, hair brushes, nail clippers etc.
Now to answer the OP's question: I would tell the person after the first date, if there is to be a second and beyond dates to follow. Also, offer information about the disease and how one can contract it, information makes the disease less scary.....Bless you and hope you meet someone who wont let that fact keep them from knowing you for who you are... | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 6/23/2008 2:39:13 PM | I just read your message, and I would like to thank you, for a lot of people think that they can get this through sexual contact, and for people like myself, it put us into a position to hide the truth or live a empty life, so from one of many hepper, GOD BLESS YOU | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 6/23/2008 2:47:31 PM | | This is my second time going through the tx, first time was hell,second not as bad, but the side affects can last for about a year,be prepare for all the hell you caan stand, and tell your love ones to bear with you, there is a site that you can go to to find comfort and understanding it's called "janis and friends" there all sort of help at this site and always someone to talk to, good luck with the treatment | |
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| when do i tell her i have hepatitis c?
Posted: 6/24/2008 1:07:28 AM | Hey I'm sorry you have Hep C....but you need to do the right thing by this person.
so the answers to your questions are as follows as far as I'm concerned.
1. First Thing (not only is it the right thing to do you know straight up they will stick with you)
2. That kind of news would scare anyone....if she leaves she couldn't handle it and well it's better it ends now.
3. practically zero is NOT zero.....there is a failure rate to condoms you know.
like I said I know it's not your fault that you got this but people need to know where they stand.....and even lets you don't care about her (which I don't think is the case) I think you could be charged for this!!! so you should at least care about that.....with that however I really hope it works you. | |
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