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Posted: 9/30/2006 1:25:18 PM | .
Raises hand in admission. . . .
The thing is, he didn't mean to sound like that and realized how bad it sounded.
Sigh . . . I guess that’d be me sometimes. Unfortunately. Add a big, deep voice to that and it’s even worse.
When I’m working, I’ll get into what I’m writing and often forget to be nice about life’s little distractions. So, I’ve been known to pick up the phone (unthinking) and say “Yeah? What do you want?”
Whoops!
Friends and relatives realize I didn’t mean anything wrong. Not everyone (including my ancient mother) does, though.
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Posted: 9/30/2006 5:53:46 PM | I have no problem calling a gentleman, but do not want to be the one that initiates the calls or sets them up for the most part. I want a man to take the initiative. Even if the call arrives an inopportune time, it shows me that he's thinking about me and at that point we can set up a time for a later telephone call.
The worst phone calls are the ones when they insist that they enjoy having you call and actually encourage it. Then when you do, they act or sound as if you are "interrupting them in something important" (even though they say they will be free to talk at that time) or can hardly get a word out of their mouths ... they have nothing to say.
If you courteously ask ... "Are you free to talk right now?", they say yes ... but still really have nothing to say or act all distracted! That indicates to me they are not really interested and just said that in an act to keep me pacified at feeling like he's truly interested when in fact he could care less.
If you don't really want to hear from me (and I'm not talking obsessive calling here), then don't tell me or encourage me to call! I'm a big girl ... if you're not really interested, stop wasting my time and just say so already!
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Posted: 9/22/2009 7:19:08 PM |
when are women going to understand? men like to be pursued,called on the phone for know reason other than to see how his day is going,women dont understand,if i dont hear from them,and im seeing other women,and these women show more intrest in me,im going to go there,whats so hard to understand? confused,lol
Not every man feels the way you do about women initiating a call to a man. Some men welcome it , while others are turned off by it. That is why as a rule women do not call.
Things change when you are in a relationship. Then it doesn't matter. In that circumstance if it makes life easier on my man for me to initiate the phone calls, so be it. It is not a big deal to me, as long as I feel the calls are welcome. What works best though is when you call each other. That way you each feel pursued.
A man who would like a woman to call him needs to make clear to her, that her calls would be welcomed, and then act that way if indeed she did pick up the phone and dial. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2009 7:31:21 PM | I only call if I like them and the feeling is mutual....
But I did have one that acted as if I was strange for calling him.....he said "what do you want?" Now he asked me to call him.....never called him again.....he called me a couple of days later.......I asked him "What do you want?" I don't usually do mean little things but this once I just couldn't resist. He was embarrassed and stuttered a bit. And I said Gotta Go.............never called again.....for the life of me I thought that kind of banter was okay....... | |
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Posted: 9/22/2009 8:14:59 PM | Plain and simple: I'm not calling any guys.....
I will return calls...Only after we decide we are in a relationship. Even then I will only call "once in a while". If he doesn't call me I assume he isn't interested.....
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Posted: 9/23/2009 7:20:38 AM | I operate a switchboard so I have no desire to spend time on the phone in my free time. People who call for no particular reason irritate the h*** outta me so I sure wouldn't do that to someone else.
I guess I'm just too direct. If I'm interested in a guy I do something like grab his crotch.   | |
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Posted: 9/23/2009 9:22:20 AM | you betcha wind.....if you have chemistry in ADULTS their are no rules 
indeed if i have intrest i have no problem expressing it...squeezing cheek....i love pinchin a man's azz and watching the shock in his eye...they are such true bit~ches....roar.
they blush or sometimes get offended ...but the kool guys know it is simple enjoyment of watchin them in unfarmilar turf that gets a female turned on..in fact when they exibit weakness and get shy you have your mark.........eyebrows up and down.
put the boots to the offended ones they are not worth a second breath..they have less intrest in simple humor...too bad some people put such a large focus on setting there standard but miss achieving the obvious interation face to face is where connect energy is located....
sucks to be u if the computer is a sears catalogue..
life happens out in the sunshine not in the darkness....
why pretend love is in computer and standard/ bricks infront of socializing with people your own age...sheeesh
if it has two legs and i like it..i tell it to it's eye's. do not know wtf other's are doing dancing in the denial of logic in that...heck your mouth speaks words do you think you can lay down your intrest to another adult in honesty or do you think it is sexy to pretend crap and than complain after your in busted turf.......yuck...unplug
why the heck would you allow the obvious to dulude your future....adults do not get to pretend that the lack of integrity in the intrest section is a lack of communication of your own needs.......slaps azz. nice bum 
if your a coward adult you wait for others to pretend they care...why not burn the right enrgy with the person who is interested instead of pretending no action is closer...rolls eyes.......sorry no. closer is experienceing communicating till you can relate your needs to similar thinking humans not small minded barriers to stop connect....tossin in the nitro to reflect logic in human contact.
would you n0t have to see the azz to judge it.......... 
oh just laff it is non gender selective ...this thing we call life...isn't it. | |
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Posted: 9/23/2009 9:35:29 AM |
if your a coward adult you wait for others to pretend they care...
I agree with you on that... it is in "life" (relationships)
as in war (evil can only rule when good folk do nothing)
and in life...as seen in storm "Katrina"..
You sit around and wait...
-------> you'll be watching others pass you by..
and wonder why, as you cry, asking yourself...."why"..??
Some folks just LOVE "excuses", "reasons",
and "explanations" as to why they cannot, have not, and done not..
Me....???
It is not if you "win" or "loose" the "fight"..
but that you just gave it your best..
Communicate..???
Heck.. bottom line...
as in life.. same in relationships..
You CANNOT win..
if you do NOT try.....(or at least play)..
All I got on this matter..
Now either take them blocks off my emails or call me..
I is waiting.. and I don't give up...
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Posted: 9/23/2009 9:39:26 AM | Good heavens what an old thread.
pretty durn sure this one wouldn't stay around if it were started nowdays!
OP, (if you're still reading 3 years later),
If you are seeing other women, maybe the one who isn't calling is just thinking too many other women and no desire to be one of many in the boat.
You just weren't worth the effort for her to try.
After all, you're going to "go there" with whomever, anyway. | |
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