| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 9/29/2006 4:02:13 PM | | keep a journal,,,,only because i tend to forgive and forget,,,forgiving is good,,,but when i forget,,and they come back and want to get back together,,,i forget what an a$$ they were to begin with,,,,fool me once,,,shame on you,,,fool me twice,,,shame on me! | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 9/29/2006 5:24:46 PM | | Hmmm... i learned not to be so self concious and that sitting home on a saturday night watching movies is a good thing lol | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 9/30/2006 4:46:01 PM | I learned its okay to need someone, its okay to love someone, and its okay to be me. I learned to communicate what I want and how I feel. I learned how to forgive him and most importantly I learned how to forgive myself.
I'm still trying to figure out how to let go of the loss of 15 years of my life. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 10/5/2006 4:57:04 PM | I'm not bitter at him. I guess I am more angry at myself for staying in a relationship that should of ended years ago. I can't blame him for the decisions I did or didn't make. In the end no matter what, I won't get the 15 years back. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 10/6/2006 1:03:56 PM | I learned forgiveness, patience, understanding, the art of survival. I am also human.
I also learned that love is only worth giving to the one who deserves it.
What does not kill one makes one stronger. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 10/9/2006 6:16:53 AM | I learned that the best revenge against a woman who goes after your husband is letting her have him for keeps. 
Hee hee :) Actually, my ex and I get along fairly well considering the circumstances. And while he still infuriates me at times, it's not much more than when we were married. I'm grateful that I met him - without him I wouldn't have my son. I could look at it as 17 years wasted, or try to remember that there were good times in there too. And there were.
However, I'm not a saint, and if the ex suddenly gets ugly and impotent and his new younger wife runs away with Brad Pitt, I'm calling him up and laughing at his ass.
Ahem. Where were were? Oh... what did I learn? How to grow more balls than most men I know.  | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 10/9/2006 7:17:01 AM | i have learned that even though he was not the one for me he is for someone else.to allow myself to say and think the way i want.that i don't have to try to make him happy,but make sure i'm happy.then he would also be!
i have learned to be much more open to how i am feeling.that he can't read my mind lol. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 2/21/2008 10:00:04 AM | I have learned to love Kelly Clarkson
I have learned to hate the song Lips of an Angel
I have learned bitter is not better but inevitable
I have learned that I have really learned nothing lol | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 2/21/2008 7:34:32 PM | | I learned that it takes two people to make a relationship. That communication is the key and that if you keep your feelings bottled up in side, small things all of a sudden become huge issues. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 2/21/2008 7:51:32 PM | | I have learned that the most important person in my life is me, loyalty does not mean anything and even if you think someone is worth the sacrifice usually they are not. I have also learned that I am happy with me, I can look after myself just fine. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 2/22/2008 3:29:39 AM | | I hesitated to post on this thread since the list my last long term generated reads more like a rap sheet (illegal drugs, kinky sex and how to drink whiskey like a man). So I put a bit more thought into it: I've learned what I do NOT want (unless it's Nyquil or Advil, no drugs for me and that includes the green kind). I've learned that being with another artist/musician is NOT a good idea anymore than putting two crazy people together is a good idea (basically the same thing). I've learned that I need balance and someone who can compliment my ways and interests, not mirror them. I've learned that one person cannot and should not be EVERYTHING to you whatever Michael Buble might say. It's far too much pressure for either person. And I've learned that I look forward to and enjoy my alone time and so should he. Please note that I've not discarded the kinky sex and how to drink whiskey like a man: I'm keeping those. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 2/22/2008 4:08:38 AM |
NOT a good idea anymore than putting two crazy people together is a good idea
This is a good point. From my ex, I learned that I need somebody who scores higher on the sanity scale than I do. In any relationship, at least one of you has to be "the sane one," and that one certainly isn't going to be me.
one person cannot and should not be EVERYTHING to you
Great concept for songs and movies, lousy idea for real life; another lesson I learned the hard way.
"former" porn addicts don't make good boyfriends...
This seems to tie in with Diva's "kinky sex" remark - and I agree; always look for a current porn addict. Somebody who's given up on it (or claims to be trying) is no fun at all. (Unlike the Diva, I didn't learn kinky sex from my ex, she learned it from me.)
Seriously, this is an important point, and it's another lesson learned from my ex: we all like to talk about other things being more important than sex (and they are) but in the end, sexual compatibility is extremely important. If you hook up with somebody who is too kinky for your limits, or whose limits you exceed, it isn't going to last. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 2/22/2008 4:55:46 AM | | i learned that when my ex ask's if i miss them, they still don't want to hear the brutal honesty come from my lips even after 9 months of not being together. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 2/23/2008 1:16:13 PM | Many things.........
*I learned exactly I can still draw and attract to myself exactly what I didn't want and didn’t deserve for myself.
*People can appear nothing like their true character to many people and can go at great lengths, for long periods of time to hide it.
*Addicts, abusers, players, blamers and controllers are selfish, lie to manipulate and control others with their weaknesses, which can even, be good admirable qualities. They will always find someone weaker, more naive than them.
*Listen to your head and not your heart.:despite minimizations, excuses and what appears to be rational, understanding explanations on selfish, hurtful, inconsistent behaviours and actions
* Fine tune and trust your gut, your body on what is best for you. Victims are a dime a dozen, choose and strive not to be one next time.
*While an equal, healthy trusting relationship takes work, sacrifices and commitments, no one should feel drained. While we need to move on from the past hurts, anger, disappointments and bitterness, past history often repeats itself.
*Being alone is not being a failure; it’s a time of self-reflection, awareness, independence and self-sufficiency. Everyone should count and carry their own baggage.
*No matter how far you have seem to come or learned, there is always way more to learn about yourself, others and relationships.
*Realize an ex comes into your life for a reason, a lesson, try your best to forgive and move on.
*Think positive, strive higher, and do better for yourself and the lucky person to know the wiser, more appreciative you, next time.... | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 3/3/2008 3:32:18 PM | i learned that men can run really really fast,when you face them with what they said they were looking for..
KEEP RUNNING..NO ..THAT WAY!!!
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 3/7/2008 9:20:58 PM | At first... Not to trust and to always second guess myself...
but later after much relection I learned that I have a right to not tolerate being 2nd best . That When a man starts pushing to soon that it is because it is TOO SOON. I learned that I deserve honesty and loyalty and to be considered an equal. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 3/8/2008 7:32:29 AM | I have learned that I am a very forgiving person, That 2 people actually do become one, Opposite really do attract and Communication is the key.
Never walk away thinking it is your fault the way the other is feeling give time and space and they will talk,before you know it it had nothing to do with you at all. I have learned lust comes and goes love comes once and true love will stay.
Never change for anyone you are who you are no matter what and that one person will love you for all your good and bad. Patience is a virtue and we need to wait till that one thing from within the " butterflies" will happen.
I have learned that dating sites are way to competitive and draw more problems in starting a relationship to may option cause to many heartbreaks, I have alot learned alot of people are materialistic whether admitting it or not.
Last but not least, enjoy the time you have of being single and having some fun. Dont let looking for the right one stop you from living, No matter what it will just happen, some place some time it will come walking out of the weirdest place and be like WOW!!! and next thing you know your happy. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 3/21/2008 6:18:17 PM | Never get married without a pre-nup, very costly lesson to learn but I suppose many young soldiers make the same mistake with local gold diggers looking for an easy out and a good government pension to sponge off of. Ooops that sounded bitter  | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 3/24/2008 6:55:26 AM | | I would assume the number of evil gold-digging women trying to con soldiers pales in comparison to, say, soldiers merely looking for home-cooking and a vagina while they're taking a break from learning how to blow people up, so I guess it all balances out, LOL. | |
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| What did you learn from your ex??
Posted: 3/27/2008 10:39:54 PM | -I learned that just because a man is in his 30s, doesn't mean he's mature ;)
-I learned that I have the intelligence and "power" to realize I am in an unhealthy situation, take charge and make the change for the better. Even though ending it hurt him, and changed quite a bit in my life...I learned that you have to live for yourself sometimes- a relationship is a two way street, you cannot stay in a relationship only to make someone else happy... you need to look out for Number One every now and again. At the end of the day- you are the only one inside your own head, the only one you have to answer to- so you really need to make sure *YOU* are HAPPY!
-Learned that you have to have a healthy mix of physical attraction, intellectual attraction, sexual attraction and emotional attraction to have a happy healthy relationship. Ignoring the lack of a certain attraction will only bite you in the ass once that "puppy love" stage wears off... | |
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