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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 9/28/2006 5:54:20 PM | I talk to my Ex every couple of weeks. When she's out of town I feed her cats and vice-versa.
She likes my cooking so once in a blue-moon I make some marinade and throw something on the grill. We sit out on the patio and make polite babble about nothing in particular. She has a glass of wine and I a beer.
Unspoken agreement, she doesn't inquire into my personal life and I not hers. No sparks, haven't been any since before the breakup. No reunion tour plans, nothing left to build on, no for old time sake intimacy, just familiar face without the tug of soul.
Why does she come around every once in a while, just the morbid curiosity over the life of an old lover perhaps.
My only feelings left are the unconsious concern for the well being of an old friend nothing more, just that leftover bit remains in a neglected back room in my head.
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 9/28/2006 6:02:21 PM | i see my ex moron about every 2 weeks i try to aviod it all together.....
his mom runs his life and anything he has to say to me it goes through her hes a total **** i swear...
My fiance says if he ever shows up and walks into our house again hed beat the crap outta him..he absolutely 1000000000% hates his guts there is such a long story i dont want to get into it but it all biols down to selfishness and lack of courtesy and common sense... | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 9/28/2006 6:12:23 PM | | Yes she flew by on her broom, a high speed low pass, grabbed the check and went cackling off into the sun set. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 9/28/2006 6:24:13 PM | Nope and don't want to. He called recently and it just validated every reason and then some why I filed for divorce. We did talk for a bit about how our families were and stuff. Still getting his creditors calling me and I just foward the calls. He did want to get together and I said no. As for old feelings nope, just pity to see how much he has gone down hill, he'll never grow up. We left it that if anyone dies we'll contact each other.
Their an ex for a reason. Let the past be (and learn from it), live in the present and look foward to the future. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 9/28/2006 6:27:08 PM | | Yup,I needed orange juice and tylenol.Ian was working so the ex scooted over with it.Added bonus,he took our girlie with him. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 9/28/2006 6:31:46 PM | Yes I saw him the other day but he didn't see me. It used to make me nervous and anxious to see him from all the crap he always filled my head with about how I couldn't make it on my own...but now, all that anxiety and nervousness is gone. I know now that he was WRONG!..I see now that the reason he told me that was because it is in fact him that can't make it on his own. Its him thats living with his parents and its him that went directly from one relationship to another. When I am and have been making it on my own, have my own house and most importantly Im happy!....So to him I say "na na na na boo boo"   | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 9/28/2006 6:47:10 PM | Hmmm. Ex's. Not sure who used the format I'm about to use -- but it seemed a good way to explain it all.
I'm totally over all of them...
Well....
Ex Number 1. We shall call him Bob. Bob and I have been on again and off again for 2 & 1/2 years -- not exactly what you'd call an ideal arrangement -- when I met him, he failed to tell me (and I guess it was my own stupid fault for not asking) that he had a girlfriend, we'll just call her Sally. Up until about 8 weeks ago, I kept (stupidly  ) going back to him, and everytime we saw eachother, it was like we had never been apart (we live 3 hours away from eachother). He told me I was beautiful, that he loved me with all his heart, and that I was the woman that he wanted to grow old with, and have a family with. I don't speak to him anymore. I've realized what a c**t he was, and how he deserves to be with someone else who doesn't feel physically sick at just the thought of him. No desire to talk to him if I saw him in the street. In fact. I might just puke up all over him...
Ex Number 2. We'll call him "Brian". Brian and I were together for 2 years... great years in fact... although in all reality, I only ever saw him for a week out of every month...so effectively, we were really only physically together for about 5 months...We're still friends, occasionally we'll get the urge to contact the other one...but it happens about once a year if that, and usually on a Birthday, or Christmas... Although this man once stole my heart & will always hold a special place in my heart, I now see after 6 years apart why we're ex's, and have no desire to go back to him... ever!
Ex Number 3. This one's name is Freddy. Freddy and I were together, purely out of sheer hornieness...but there were emotions involved...I think. Lasted about 6 months, until I fell pregnant to him, and I lost all respect and feelings for him when he accused me of "screwin' around" on him, and that the baby wasn't his. Lucky for me (I know that sounds cruel) the baby didn't survive much past the first 3 & 1/2 months of the pregnancy...but in hindsight, it's a blessing in disguise, because I really think that there is only one Freddy, and even that one should be shot. HAHAHA  Not really friends, but I won't ignore him if I see him in the street.
Ex Number 4. Gavin we shall call him. Gavin and I were together for a whole 3 months... alot of screwing. Not friends anymore. Don't know where he is, and glad to keep it that way.
Ex Number 5. Michael shall be his name..... Michael and I were a couple for nearly 5 years, he was my first boyfriend, and a total idiot to boot...had a willy the size of a small cheerio (little frankfurt sausage)...fully errect. Wasn't the best boyfriend, but I guess I was only 13... haha. No idea where he or his family is...thank christ for that!!!!
There were a few other "month jobs" in there...but too much time to write it all down... now I'm just moving on with my life, living my life for me, and one day soon, I hope to meet "The One"  or at least a close "The Second" hahahaha. 
WhiteAngelKyls
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 9/29/2006 1:13:32 AM | No, and I have no wish to. If we accidently pass on the street one day in the future , I won't even feel a thing. One is truly over an ex when they become exactly like anyone else you see on a street. Just another face in the crowd...
For a period of about five months after my divorce, we talked occasionally. After she was supposed to send me some tax information, after I had sent her mine, she failed to provide it - even though she was legally obliged to.
At that point, I sent her an e-mail telling her to never contact me ever again, unless there was some legal reason to, based on our relationship. When I pressed "send" on that message, I was truly free for the first time.
Within the next week, I had received, bounced, (and directly trashed without reading) three e-mails from her, and blocked her e-mail addresses afterwards. Roughly eighteen months later, last August, she tried phoning me.
That call lasted seventeen seconds, I said about five words (all of them polite), and then I hung up. Thankfully, there have been no additional attempts on her part. I don't wish her anything bad, nor have any hate towards her, but simply want to be totally free from all that she is.
That's not really very much to ask, is it ? | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 9/29/2006 2:03:18 AM | Funny you should ask about the ex. It is an ex husband and I have to see him once a month because I am one of the very few people that hold him accountable for his actions and responsible for what he says. Long story short is that he borrowed a good sum of money from me over two years ago and I had to take him to small claims court to get it back. So I have to see him at least once a month to get a payment from him.
He is still basically homeless, he is still basically an idiot, he is still as lazy, self-centered, and full of bull as he ever was. Last phone conversation that I had with was me telling him again that he needed to grow up, that he is past 40 now and he doesn't even have a place where he can cook a meal. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 9/29/2006 5:53:02 PM | I talk to mine every week. I don't see him that often since he lives in a different province. When he is here in town tho and comes for the boys I often look at him... Makes me wonder... I look and I know that I could never go back. I don't see him the same way at all.
It would take a lot of convincing and a lot of time for me to ever consider going back with him. He's got a GF now, and I hope he's happy. My mother freaks on me for having his pictures up in my house, but I rarely even look at them. I have a few of him up... for the kids really. My parents divorced by the time I was a yr old, and I didn't see a picture of my father until I was probably in my late teens. I vowed that this would never happen for my boys... I may not be married to him anymore, he is still their father tho... and one day I hope he might consider that we are friends. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 9/29/2006 8:05:30 PM | Yeah, almost everyday. I hooked her up with a job in the same building I work in. Sure does make it easier for her to collect the child support checks.  | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 9/29/2006 9:08:20 PM | ARGH! This is going to take up more space than I'd like, but I'll try
to keep it as short as possible.
I don't have any feelings for my ex, and I'm better off without her.
She's not the person I married and there's no way I'd consider going
down that road with the person she is now.
A "thorn in my side" from our divorce is that she kept my last name.....
even after agreeing not to......
At a high school football game where my daughter was introduced at
half-time they announced her parents as
both first names....then the last name!
EEEEEEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!
I think I had a partial stroke? | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 10/1/2006 4:48:43 AM | | We've been best friends since we ended the engagement 4 years ago. I last saw her this spring, since she now lives in another state, but we still talk about once a week. She'll be town again around Thanksgiving and I'm looking forward to it. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 10/1/2006 5:17:09 AM | Whenever I see my ex husband I ask myself how could I have spent 15 yr with him and bear his children........but something inside me sometimes misses the man that I married....it is like I dont know the ex that emerged after we separated....
As for my ex from my last relationship, I dont want to see him because it hurts to much to know that our relationship ended because he is a manic depressant who I could not deal with anymore........one day I am his world; the next his biggest enemy......He is a wonderful man who is so consumed with negativity that he will never be able to keep a relationship.....I dreads to run into him because I melt inside and miss him so much....but can not go back to even being friends with him.......to hard emotionally.... | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 10/1/2006 5:19:42 AM | | My sister and her ex get along better now than when they were together....He goes over to see his daughter; will lie on the couch watch tv.......just like he is home.......she will feed him supper, he will drive her wherever she wants to go but they cant live together....She is in another relationship but she has told her other half that her ex has to be in her life.......he is the father of her daughter plus he is her friend.......everyone knows though that they will never be more than friends.......works for them.... | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/4/2006 11:09:30 PM | | Haven't seen my ex in almost 3 years, but talked to him a couple of times on the phone since then.Good thing he lives in another province, cause he says he still loves me. Wouldn't want to be running into him all the time. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/5/2006 12:34:08 AM | | Thankfully I have not seen my ex. Though I did bump into his parents the other day at the mall. I immediately went in the other direction as it would have been really awkward. A little hard though.. I dont miss my ex at all, but I do miss his family. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/5/2006 12:43:50 AM | | Haven't seen her in a few months, but talk on the phone now and then. She has own son, and me our daugter. So it's hard to avoid conversation when she calls. No biggie. It's been almost nine years since the divorce, and the feelings are zilch. She has her life, and I mine, just the way I like it!!! | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/5/2006 1:18:10 AM | I am terrified of seeing my ex.
Literally.
I'm still in love with her.
I don't know what the hell I'm doing on a dating site potentially looking for someone new... but here I am.. trying to move on.
But i don't know what will happen in the future.
I had a date a few nights ago... hated it.
I wanted the woman across from me to be my Amanda... I felt awful for my date because she must have sensed something.
Whats going to happen if i do start seeing someone and I bump into my ex?
i hate to think that I may hurt someone because of my messed up emotions.
I have to see my ex at some point in the future... we have things we have to exchange. I think she's been avoiding that situation too, as there have been opportunities to make the exchange but she just ignores me.
She's dating someone else.... I'm wondering if she's afraid of what may occur if we met up again. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/5/2006 1:30:40 AM | Well my Ex is my best friends brother so yes I see him often enough and I still visit his parents. We joke-talk-laugh and it's good.
For Ex's that you really loved- I mean were really in love with. You will never lose those deep down feelings for them no matter what.
Good times can cloud your judgement so you just have to make sure you look back on what it was like when you were together and remember why you left them.
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/5/2006 3:26:55 AM | He casually strolled into my house after leaving me when I was two months pregnant, as if he could just put his feet up and start again where he left off. I felt disorientated and confused. I married him on the rebound a few months after my long term partner died of cancer. it was a quick fix that went badly wrong.
I have no feelings for him. He has no idea what he put me through and never will.
There are somethings you can never forgive. My blood ran cold when I saw him. i was shocked at his audacity, particularly as I lost the baby in a particularly traumatic circumstances. He knew nothing about it. It was his idea to have the child in the first place as he hadn't any of his own, I wanted him to feel included, a part of the family, and even though I am over forty and already have two I agreed, because i love children. And it felt like, well, it's now or never.......but then, for no apparent reason....he left......I was in total shock. He never even asked me how I was when i was going through the trauma of losing that child. I am just appalled at his utter selfishness and ignorance.
I am moving on with my life now, I have made some wonderful new friends who don't even know this happened, the past is the past right? but, he will always be on his own. I didn't understand what schizophrenia was, I thought I could help him. Stupid I know, but you live and learn. I am civil to him on the telephone as he still rings occasionally and wanted to come back. But he knows I will never take him back. Hell will freeze over first.
I don't care if this post is deleted, i feel better for venting it. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/5/2006 4:06:04 AM |
One is truly over an ex when they become exactly like anyone else you see on a street. Just another face in the crowd...
I have to disagree with you there Montreal Guy. I'm completely over my first ex,but if I ever see him in a crowd, I'd pick him out instantly, then turn and run. It's more self-preservation and injury avoidance than any lingering feelings.:)
I saw my ex (father of my children) just yesterday. My daughter was completely out of control yesterday and told me she wanted to go live with him. Not wanting to give her a reaction I said fine. She called him and I got on the phone....he was actually nice and we had a decent, careful conversation. We realize the reason she wanted to move was so that she could have her new walkman from his house.....yeah. So he brought it over, and had an hour long conversation with her outside. It was almost surreal. This is the same guy who ripped a toy ring from her finger just a couple of months ago because it was something HE bought and it wasn't going into MY house.
So, does anyone know how someone who's held a grudge and been a constant thorn in my side can suddenly turn nice? I'm sure if he had a lobotomy SOMEONE would have told me. :) | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/5/2006 4:28:30 AM | My first ex and I got together last Saturday after being divorced and not seeing him for
34 years, and we decided we needed too talk again, and we talked everyday for a week
So yesterday I went over there and he cooked for me, and we had a good time playing cards
then before I could even eat I was so sick and nausiated, felt like I was going too pass out.
I told him I was sorry and I came home and went straight too bed and slept 12 hours..
Not sure what will happen now, but I did enjoy our time together..
Judy | |
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