| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/10/2006 8:42:56 PM | um yes i have and it was so weird and scary at the same time, he called me out of the blue and wanted to come over to my place to talk b.c hes been haveing a bad month, he told me he is no longer speaking to his family and lost his job, i felt bad for him and listen, but afterwards got him to help me do some errands, i took him out ot lunch for it, but when i had to go he wouldn't let me go for i know i stil have feeling for him, buts its hard when he dumped me and i am stil hurt from it, he still calls and texts me to tell me he misses me, but i got a differnt life now and its not with him, it hurts to talk to him and when i do i feel like a little kid at a candy store grrrr | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/10/2006 8:46:22 PM | depends on what kind of ex??
my x husband..i see and talk to at times....and would never get back with him over things that happened while we were seperated. but it hurts at times...knowing we could make it go between us if we were together minus the past major trash.
last weekend..ran into a ex b/f..who i wish i never crossed paths with again. was the most scary 6wks of my life ever with a guy i dated. as i dumped his a*** after 4wks..dating and he threatened to kill me over someone else.
he begged..pleaded...apologized to get back together..how it was his fault blah blah blah. recognized what caused me to runnnn!! in fear of him!!.,.
he was so good for the first hour or so talking..only to revert back to the nite i told him never ever to even come near me again.
and he wonders why i wont give history another try.. he said the same shit..at the last minute 2yrs later....
go figure....i stay singlefor now its easier. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/10/2006 9:17:21 PM | | I saw my EX a few weeks back inadvertently... She wanted to get together and have lunch, I am at the same time thinking, no way in hell am I going to do this again and probably pay for lunch! All I can think is gold digger, but I did put on a fake smile... My hope, is that I don't run into her again! | |
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Joined: 4/29/2006
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ya472
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Joined: 4/29/2006
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/10/2006 9:29:04 PM |
She wanted to get together and have lunch, I am at the same time thinking, no way in hell am I going to do this again and probably pay for lunch!
Maybe the very reason some ladies like old-fashioned dating, where the guy picks up the tab.
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/11/2006 7:00:45 AM | there have been 3 ex's that i can say the i truely cared about. ex #1 we still talk to date. we're actually pretty good friends and i'm currently trying to set him up with a friend of mine as weird as that may sound. we dated for 9 months back in 2001 but seems like a lifetime ago. we've gone out for dinner or coffee a few times ... he's been thru hell and needed good advice from a good friend and there i was for him. he is an absolutely wonderful man and bad timing is all we have to blame for our relationship not working out. when i do talk to him or have seen him there are absolutley no hidden feeling what so ever.
ex #2: i've seen him on msn a couple of times and it made me realize how wrong we actually were for eachother. he was the trophy b/f that is all. he actually just got married and if we ever ran into eachother i'd have no problems saying hello even if the wife was there. again, absolutely no hidden feelings.
ex #3: the biggest jerk of all. i actually met him on pof and i still see that he's active on here. "marco" was a complete loser. all looks and no brain or heart. he was a 39 year old man that i truely believe was hooked on the internet dating thing even when we were together. he was a total bullshitter that had no life. i would love to run into him and i'd walk right by. he's the only one i have ever been with that i would love to gauge his eyes out.
again no hidden feeling, just hatred and anger
aside from all these ex's stands my current love that makes me thank these for ex's being my ex's. all of them brought me one step closer to my sweetheart who i also met on pof. if i ever did settle with any of these ex's i would never have known how this man in my life right now can make me be the happiest woman on earth  | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/11/2006 5:13:11 PM | I was parked at a red, as my daughter and I were going for our usual walk around the Granville Island sea wall. I still can not believe how I reacted....I was stunned...and it really hurt....thank gawd my daughter was with me and quietly said..."Mom look at him, he is such a loser....and don't worry about what he is with...not a big deal". He was with some new gf....and I dont care what she looked like....it still hurts to see he moved on and so quickly, without a blink of an eye...that he stomped on my heart and crushed my soul. Never took responsibility for his actions and how it ended....scary seeing him with someone else. I felt sorry for her actually....its the honeymoon period for her, but look out when Dr Jekyl comes calling. I almost wanted to warn her...but knew he shouldnt see me for my own safety.
......I have never seen any of my exes and yet I had to see this one....maybe it was just a little push from the Universe, to forgive.
Part of healing I guess....but still I would have rather not had the experience...funny how the ones you want to see you never do, especially when you look and feel great, and the ones you dont want to, seem to be everywhere you are.... | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/11/2006 5:56:41 PM | | I see my former husband about once a year. Usually at my daughters house, holiday or such. I was with this guy for more than half my life. We have 2 kids. But when I think about him or even look at him it's like that life was a book I read. Like I didn't know either one of the main characters. He barely looks familiar to me. It also seems like 100 yrs. ago or a different lifetime. Hmmm, I've thought about this before. Odd isn't it? Gotta say, I've never once regretted divorcing him. But can honestly say I wouldn't change a bit of it. Now is that screwed up or what???lol | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/11/2006 6:42:48 PM | | I would never get back together with my soon to be ex-husband. When i see him i only feel pain, fear, hopelesness , loneliness and desperation. Even my own mother in law told me she couldn't understand how i ve stayed married for 26 yrs to the coldest son of of **** that ever existed. Her own words. I could not have said it any better. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/11/2006 7:26:41 PM | I saw my most recent ex earlier this week. It wasn't an accident or anything, he came to see me where i was staying with my friend; then he gave back all the gifts that I had given to him. The gifts we agreed he could keep...He gave them back, told me he never loved me and told me he loved someone else now.
And as hurtful as it all was, even though I saw that he was still the same abusive **stard, I still felt those same feelings that come after two years of being with a person. I still love him, I always will love him in some way. But I feel about as safe with him as a mouse does in a the middle of a tornado.
I'll get over it though...if I run into him again I may be able to deal with it. He was my second REAL boyfriend...so he's pretty special.
But if I saw the love of my life (who nearly killed me when he left after 5 years....) I couldn't go on. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/11/2006 7:46:44 PM | | yes......still a very dear friend...someone I can count on anytime, anywhere, for anything. Happy that he's found his 'one', sad that he's leaving the country to be with her... but I know our friendship will continue. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/11/2006 8:04:03 PM | | It never ceases to amaze me when I see ex-boyfriends of a less than a year or two referred to as "exs". Say what?? | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/11/2006 9:33:13 PM | You know what's really strange? Winnipeg is such a small city but I never run into ex's. I do sometimes run into people I casually dated, but that hardly ever happens either. (The reason I say it's such a small city is because chances are when you meet someone new and you start asking them if they know people you know chances are you can go through like 3 names and find someone you both know).
I honestly don't know what I'd do if I ran into any ex's. I'd probably be civil and what not and talk to them, But I don't have any ex's that I'd still want to go out with. They're all ex's for a good reason..... | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/11/2006 9:35:04 PM | yup.....I've seen him and can't seem to get rid of him.
I think it may have to do with that he's my kids father .. oh yeahhhh, (smacks head) that's it! | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/11/2006 10:58:12 PM | | Supposed to see him this weekend sometime. Gotta meet for breakfast apparently. I think he had a change of heart though, hasnt called yet. I don't think he's ready to see me yet, Im thinking he is having a hard time getting over the past he's one of those macho guys who dont know how to deal with emotion. I think when I do see him it will be nothing more than the comfort of familiarity and nostalgia. We remain friends but I know he doenst want his woman to know he is meeting me. Which bugs me, I dont want to be involved in a lie. So if he changed his mind then no skin off my balls. However I would like to see how he's doing. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/11/2006 11:08:40 PM | Seen my ex fiance at the shops, don't know if he saw me though. He was looking grossly over weight and drained. khama i guess. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/11/2006 11:47:52 PM | I have seen my ex in the last six months or so... we were moving some of our old stuff out of my parents house... she has emailed me occasionally about legal matters. We don't hang out or discuss our private lives or anything... we didn't part in anger, but we didn't part as friends either.
I think its a shame. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/12/2006 12:07:30 AM | | I think its alright to refer to any man/women you were in something with as an ex...has meaning to it...almost like an ex friend...an ex boss....an ex colleague...I have an ex husband as well....I think ex is just that an ex in your life....my 2 cents | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/12/2006 3:14:53 AM | yep. This morning actually
Ok he is an ex of over 8 years ago, and we stayed friends ever since. He lives close by and drops in now and then. But it was so long ago , there are definitely no feelings left like "that" He's just a mate, and thats it.
my other more recent ex, no. And even if I did I could guarantee you no residue feelings there either. Except maybe relief.........??  | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 11/12/2006 10:16:38 AM | Yes and it bugs the shit out of me, I can not understand why he doesn't just drop off the face of the earth. This is a very large city. I've gone years without ever bumping into an ex but this one has planted himself fimly in my path and I just can not make sence of it. It's been 11 months and I know he's seeing several women 'cause he doesn't miss an oportunity to flaunt it, but he is still living in that crappy motel room two blocks from my office that he moved into the night we spilt up. He finally blew off the job I got him at my company 6 months ago but get this - he took another at a company where I have a vending machine. He won't delete me from his address book and everytime he joins another dating site I get an automated invitation to "meet me there" grrrrrrrr. I had exactly 4 friends on my yahoo360 page and noticed last week that one of my "friends" has a "friend" on his list who has my ex on her list ........ way to Jerry Springer for me. Oh and get this, his profile pic is one of us that he has cropped me out of ROFLMAO, that's just sad and it makes me mad. Of course he looks good in it, he was happy and he was with me! Friday I was leaving work, loading the car with flowers I'd received for my b'day and guess who drives by - you got it, the ex on his trike with some girl on the back. Was glad I had the flowers in hand, sure it messed with him (even though they were from a girl), but what goes around comes around and if he would stop looking, he would stop knowing. I do not think he wants me so I don't understand him sticking around. My friend says it's habit. He says I am reading to much into it, that he's just to lazy to get out of his comfort zone. I say if I wasn't good enough then he should want to distance himself from me. Rant over.
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