| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 6/29/2007 4:05:41 PM | | I see my ex every Wednesday and every weekend , when I call to collect the kids - other than that I try not to ................. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 6/29/2007 4:38:47 PM | Yeah, saw mine the other day at my daughter's high school graduation.
Still mentally ill and getting worse plus she's cold as a snake and twice as mean. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/11/2007 6:39:06 AM | | I dropped my son off last Monday for his summer visitation with his Dad . It was an interesting exchange because he is about to be charged with comtempt of court for not paying his child support ,so he isnt real happy with me right now . | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/11/2007 7:13:00 AM | How remarkable to see this question today, of all days. I JUST saw him this morning on my way to work. The FIRST time I've seen him since we broke up seven months ago.
Saw the vehicle first, knew it was him. When he approached and I saw his face, I'm happy to report that I felt nothing. Absolutely nothing.
Letting go is a good thing.  | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/11/2007 7:23:09 AM | | I see my ex every weekend as he picks up my kids every Sunday. He still can't look me in the eye cause he knows hes a cheating **stard. I have no feelings for this man other then Disgust. I do however feel sorry for his GF cause she has absolutely no clue what shes in for lol | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/11/2007 7:24:26 AM |  Nope, haven't seen ANY of my ex's, the ex-hubby or the ex-bf.
 Saw the ex-hubby about 2 yrs ago when he brought my son home, and I can honestly say that I care about him as a friend, but the "wife" part of me let go a looong time ago!!...lol.
 Now, the ex-bf is a whole other story. I'm not a violant person, but that's 1 man I'd like to be capable of whoopin the hell out of. No interest in seeing HIM at all. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/13/2007 8:40:46 AM | I see my ex wife regularly when I pick up and drop off my kids.
We've been apart for more than 8 years and at first it was very difficult as the split was ugly. Now things have lightened up enough that I am actually allowed into her house and will sit in the living room and talk her and the kids.
Interestingly enough in that time she has asked me 3 times for a reconciliation and I've turned her down every time! It's even more interesting because it was she who initiated the split. Maybe because she realized what she had and will never have again.
Is it difficult to see her now? Absolutely not! We will never be friends however we are civil and cordial towards each other. We are stuck with each other because we have children together.
I must admit though that I am looking forward to the day when the kids are no longer living with her and I no longer have to see her regularly. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/13/2007 8:52:12 AM | The only ex I've seen recently doesn't count. We dated when we were twelve and it lasted all of two weeks, lol. He's married now and we're fairly close friends. He called the other day to tell me that his wife just had their second baby.
As far as my last ex... I haven't seen him in over a year, and I don't plan to see him again until September at his trial. I expect to have a victims' rights advocate sitting in the courtroom audience, because he was abusive and I have to testify against him in an abuse case. There may be some not-so-pleasant memories/flashbacks that come along with that. I do NOT expect "familiar feelings" to come into play, including the feelings of inadequacy and fear I lived with daily while I was with him. I spent too much time getting past those and becoming stronger for any feeling he instilled in me to return just by seeing him. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/13/2007 9:11:16 AM | Yep - saw him last night. Our youngest was missing her daddy so he came over to tuck her in to bed. Then he mentioned that he was going home to make dinner (this is at 10pm) so I made him something to eat (and used the leftovers in my fridge too - see I am smart!).
We see each other often and still do family things together with the kids (mini golf, playing cards etc). I think this will change as we put more distance (time) between us or if either of us finds someone new but for now it works and makes the transition easier on the kids. I honestly hope that we can continue this even when we find new people but I think that a new partner for either of us will have to be understanding or it just won't work.
We are friends and we will probably always remain friends. But most important, we are the parents of two wonderful kids that need BOTH their mom and their dad .......but just not together.
As for familiar feelings....well the memories are there but getting dimmer by the day. We both know that we are NOT healthy together and that is all we need to stay apart. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/13/2007 9:26:46 AM | | The last time I saw my ex was at my son's graduation...which was a long time ago. He was with his 3rd wife, which is now an ex as well. We can be civil to each other but there is no love lost for sure. He was a monster when I was with him and he won't be anything else in my eyes. His health is declining now so who knows, maybe he will get a wake up call and change his ways...( yea right ) | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/13/2007 7:45:20 PM | | oh god, don't go back, please tell me you didn't go back........ just don't do it. move forward, all the time in life, ALL THE TIME - FOWARD MOMENTUM - yes, think well of him, remember the good times and bless him and do not wish him ill, but do not do not go back....ever..... i don't know the circumstances for the split, but unless they got big time therapy, help and you have confirmation they are on next year's Nobel Prize for Peace....do not do it..... really. of course, it could have been alot to do with you, who knows, whatever.... no one who has hurt another human with intent, no one who has torn the gossamer threads of trust should ever be handed another human heart again. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/13/2007 8:16:41 PM | For the last seven months my ex has made sure to be an almost constant in my life, making everything including breathing a laborous event...for his efforts he gets in return nothing but cold heartlessness. He's nothing but a possessive creep and hes mean beyond compare, and thinks his tactics will get him back in, well...I'm a Taurus and very stubborn indeed, and i warned him not to take me for granted...he will learn | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/13/2007 8:50:40 PM | Oh do I have a story......mine showed up at my work last week. Texts me to please come outside. As background we have been apart a year and a half and he has had at least 4 "fiancees" that I have known about since and the last girlfriend ( her parents say they werent engaged) was mauled to death 2 months ago.
He has the nerve to slip me a kiss! And tell me how much he misses me...giving me the puppy dog eyes the entire time! (Cause as he said, they always worked when we were together) Tries to get me to agree to have him over so we can work things out!
My god, I couldnt believe it.....not only does he owes me alot of money but she just DIED!!!!!
All I kept thinking was she probably felt like I did when I was with him.....no one has ever loved me like this......and she dies ....and hes out 2 months later trying to replace her! And who knows if im the first one he tried with. I was so angry....any residual feelings I may have had are sooo dead! I predicted he would do this within a couple of months but deep down didnt think I would be right. I feel so bad for her....It breaks my heart. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/13/2007 9:06:48 PM | .
Ah yes . . . an ex spied me in a store a while back and happened to notice that I was in pretty good shape now. So, she called a friend’s wife to ask about me -- and ask if maybe she should call me.
Friend’s wife dryly informed ex that I do not have a rear view mirror for relationships and ended the conversation. Yeah, you just gotta love old friends who know you well! Couldn’t have said it better, myself.
The ex’s reason for leaving me, of course, was that I had an ongoing medical problem that put me in great pain often and she didn’t like to be around people who are "sick."
No matter that I helped her through a couple major medical problems. . . . That was expected, I guess, due to my background.
So, now that I’m (almost) just fine, and very active again, she’s interested.
Fat chance!
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/13/2007 9:12:54 PM | | Nope, no feelings absolutely. I do not wish him harm, and hope he has a very healthly happy life. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2007 1:04:55 AM | | saw my ex last week...joined her for a night out had a good time(not like that). But got accused of doing something that i did not do and now know why i rather not be witrh her although i still have some feelings for her..just friends | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/14/2007 10:23:23 AM | Absolutely not!!!!!! And don't want too. He used me for over 3 years for over 5 grand and I don't need a user in my life. Now if I could just get his sister to quit calling me and saying she is my friend and wants to see me it would be ok. He lives right next door to her with his new whatever she is from California . Can anyone tell me how to get rid of Sis now? I screen my calls but other times I answer just to see if she quits talking about him. She doesn't so I just tell her I want to get on with my life and forget about him.  . He's such a loser. And I don't need that. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/14/2007 1:55:42 PM | My ex (husband) of 16 yrs was a mean drunk, who loved to destroy anything he could get him hands on when he was drinking. Totally different person when he wasn't drunk. Anyways a Friend helped me get out of that mess and my ex blamed everyone but himself for the breakup. He accused Ross of destroying our marriage and called me all kinds of names, No one could reason with him... (mind u there was nothing going on with me and Ross).
My ex signed away his rights to my son to keep his sorry ass outta jail, (thats another forum) and I havent seen my ex in a while till July 4th of this yr. It has been since 2002 I kicked my ex out, and he still blames Ross. We (me & Ross) were rodeoing and I was on my horse and Ross gave me a quick kiss, and said Be careful Paige, Nothing stupid, u let go if the rider can't safely get on ur horse when u pick him up. Well guess who walks up behind us and sees all this... My Ex, and once again he's drunk, His poor gf is right there too listening to him going off about how he sure was glad he dumped my ass cuz he knew I was fooling around with that sorry ass rodeo cowboy. Anyways... I just looked at him and said Bill your making an ass of yourself, now knock it off. Well he wouldn't stop and he had to be removed from the Rodeo grounds.
I'm just glad I had a good enough friend in Ross to help me get out of that mess yrs ago, and I'm even more glad he was the right man to stick around and prove to me not all men are like my ex.
Like others have said, Ex's are Ex's for a reason. It's best to keep them that way... So If you can Runnnnnnn  the next time you see him/her.
Thats just my 2 cents worth. | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 7/14/2007 3:33:37 PM | i still keep in touch with a ex who i used to love only in my life on msn coz right now we are not living in same country .. and mine feeling of him is still here in my heart deeply ..it wont be moved on forever ..but i am not waiting for him coz he is already hasing a good life with his woman ..i wont try to make him any problems..coz we are best friends ..what is my feeling of talking to him ? i dont know how to explain it but i feel that excited while talking to him .. coz i got the warmest heart from him ...
well i also meet my last ex-bf in the club sometimes but no way to back to him coz no feeling of him at all.. we just kissed each other's face and say hi when we meet ..that is it | |
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| Have you seen your EX recently?
Posted: 1/28/2008 7:46:01 PM | Hockeygal07, that sounds a lot like my situation. I see my ex usually two or three times a week when dropping off/picking up the kids, we sometimes do things together with the kids and go to birthday parties, school outings, etc so we see each other quite a bit. I consider our relationship "business friends" in that we must work together so we may as well be on good terms. Lately she's become more friendly, reaching out and confiding things to me. This is making me wonder whether perhaps she is regretting the split, now that she's found that the grass isn't really any greener on the other side. But I am so much better off following the divorce that there's no way I would even consider getting back together.
At the same time, there's no point being bitter about the past either. I've come to grips with what has happened. The only reason for me to look back is to see what lessons I can learn from the past and apply them to my future. | |
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