| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 10:26:25 PM |
if I made a pass at a gentleman and was rebuffed, I think I would be leery of initiating anything again... and certainly I wouldn't initiate anything with that gentleman again.
Welcome to our world.
Not all of us are horndogs looking for a place to hide the sausage.
Some of us, although we are few and far between, rarely even kiss ona first date.
Yes, you can get of the floor now, but it's true.
It's called old fashoined morals, that seem to be missing in todays society. | |
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| Guys who say no?
Posted: 9/27/2006 10:31:53 PM | I'd tell him I had a great time, ask when I can see him again, and tell him I'll call him.
Then I do none of the above.
Oh wait... that's guys that do that.
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Posted: 9/27/2006 10:47:35 PM | | It would be a little shocking .. but also kind of cool that the guy turns out not to be a complete horn dog =p | |
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Posted: 9/27/2006 11:19:25 PM | Kaos is here, nothing could be scarier.
Life isn't fair but God bless her.
I might stress all night but who could say no to her.
She is so fine, do not break you're mirror.
She has liven me, she has helped this sailor.
She lives far away and we have never met.
On praying all night, I might put my bet.
If you do not dip, you'll never be wet.
Just be who you are, what a wonderful set.
Quiet, quiet... get, get
Can't put the little :tongue: guy on in edit mode but right back at you. | |
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Posted: 9/27/2006 11:34:35 PM | I might feel like there was something wrong with me . . . or that he couldn't get it up . . . haha | |
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Posted: 9/27/2006 11:43:14 PM | BTW: What is an "almost virgin" is that like being "almost pregnant" you either is or you aint
I think Bill Clinton shed some light on this
And there are guys who say no.. Don't stop trying until they give in though. They can only hold off girls for so long | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 2:22:16 AM | I said no to my gf at the time, more than once. her preferred method for ending an argument would be "so......do you want a blowjob or anything?".
I was with her for a long time, I had a lot of respect for her. So I actually would say 'no i dont want a blowjob, i want to talk this out'. I knew she was just tired of arguing and was looking for the most efficient way to end it. But at times I felt we really had to talk until we ended up on common ground. I'd say no because, I dont know, it just felt cheap in that situation. She wasnt offering because she was horny and wanted to get me off, she was using it as a tool, and thought i was shallow enough to fall for it.
Of course, being single now I think back on it and tell my self 'you IDIOT! Someone should kick your ass!'
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Posted: 9/28/2006 4:58:13 AM | | I said no once. I wasn't attracted and she made a move. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 6:25:51 AM | Simple...you respect his wishes, just as you would expect him to respect yours if YOU said no.
Why do you even need to ask this? Not all men are horny dogs who will sleep with anyone. Most men actually have morals.
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Posted: 9/28/2006 6:30:58 AM | | I actually ran into this with the first older guy (10 years older infact) I dated. He was definately into me and initiated all the kissing and petting, but when I tried to take it a step further he put on the breaks. Said he wanted to know me better first and that I was young and needed more wholesome relationships. It was actually sweet and we had a wonderful more slowed down evening after that... though in the back of my mind it was driving me nuts to hear no... | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 9:45:47 AM | | I'd have to ask him if he was worried about his boyfriend coming home!! | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 9:59:50 AM | | I respect a guy that can say no cause then if we do continue on dates and seeing eachother then i know he actually interested in me and not just his little guy and i would rather have a guy who wants to be with me and do things with me then just wants to slam me.. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 12:40:08 PM | guys who say no....?????? 'he's just not into you'
lick wounds
'he's just not into you'
his loss
'he's just not into you'
keep repeating ...he's just not to you.....
is it happy hour yet?  | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 12:47:41 PM | Chakraloard (OP),
Some other night she called me as she was pissed drunk and was ready to come collect on that “I wish I could of done more for you” thing and I was too shy to admit being a virgin to a stranger so a little confusion and all dreams where gone.
So wait... this happened 3-4 years ago. Are you still a virgin? Out of curiosity, are you posting this up because you want to know what to say to a girl when she wants some action? I'll assume you are...
First off, you should check yourself for being asexual or very close to it. You weren't even lusting after her? If you're a virgin in your 20's, you certainly should have at least rounded 1st base more than a handful of times, so inexperience isn't a huge issue -- especially if she wants some.
Secondly, yes, it's usually good not to put out on the first date, especially if a woman's frisky (good impression/psychological reasons to your advantage in the end). But at least make it a ground-rule double (2nd base) if she's hot and heavy on the first date, and you're in need of some experience late in life. However, if your dreams were gone because in the end she wanted to do you... then she either had to be a$$ ugly, or you aren't really attracted to women. Bottom line. Hopefully you've moved beyond 3-4 years ago. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 3:17:31 PM | He's a virgin, he's a freak... you're tripping man...
Guys do weird things when it comes to sex and she was no worst off with me not giving
her any than some guy giving her crabs big enough to provide the fish market.
Do you know how confusing it is for a man to be a late virgin in today's society, women are getting sexually agressive and you're friends keep on telling you that all's you need
is to get laid, society tells you the same... What I am looking for is love and if I get some play along the way well she'll have to play by my rules that's all. A pretty big
demand in today's society but whatever.
I have grown since then, I have accepted my situation and assessed my needs in the matter and best to come I'll keep on spanking the monkey on my own until love is found.
You never know what life as to offer but to me sex for sex isn't that attractive and with reactions like some of the ones I got on here, quite frankly it scares me that people are willing to do it yet so shallow when it comes to talking about it... Spanked the monkey this morning for all you twisted mind who think I shouldn't talk about this stuff.
I asked this question to know if a girl who wants to get down and askes me and I say no, is it possible to postpone it if I say the right thing and apparently if I let her know that I am just not ready yet she should be ok with it... you tell a girl that you're a late virgin and you are far away from gaining sexual points in most cases but apparently I don't really need to tell her that but just that I prefer to wait.
I am looking for a relationship but sometimes life springs on you and I am horny at times... Hmmm to have a good punany driping down my chin once again... what a pleasure it would be.
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Posted: 9/28/2006 3:36:56 PM | | Then let the woman screw each other... can I watch? | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 3:58:35 PM | | If the guy got it to the point of getting things hot and spicy and you wanting to initiate sex - I'd be angry and tell him to fvck off then! He's a tease as much as a woman would be for a man!!! Why bring someone to the brink and then say NO!?!?? TEASE!! | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 4:20:05 PM |
If the guy got it to the point of getting things hot and spicy and you wanting to initiate sex - I'd be angry and tell him to fvck off then! He's a tease as much as a woman would be for a man!!! Why bring someone to the brink and then say NO!?!?? TEASE!!
I just wanted to say, I find this amusing and disorienting to hear these words come from a woman.  Alternate universe.
Condom on, ready to go...awkward fumbling to get things lined up...dry spell for the past many months seconds from coming to an end....and then you hear "Ummm, I don't think we should do this."
But, you have to be a gentleman, and respect her wishes and calmly let her know that you're ok with that.
Meanwhile, your sex drive is throwing a hissy fit internally saying what you just said. But the gentleman stays calm and understanding. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 4:34:16 PM | I have never been turned down but have slept with some people I wish I had of turned them down, hindsite is a good thing  | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 5:33:20 PM |
I just wanted to say, I find this amusing and disorienting to hear these words come from a woman.
Surprise - women want sex as much as men do. To dangle the prospect of a good lay in front of you then take it away would be a tease - pure and simple!!! Man or woman!!!
Toying with ones emotions and desires is not a kind thing to do in any situation - hence my first response. I have seen women do this to men and I think these women are wrong for doing so. No one has the right to be impertinent!!! | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 6:23:36 PM | Yes guys say no all the time!
Why does this have to be such a hard thing to believe?
If he says no to you, possibly it's because he's just not that into you.
It could also be because he is very 'into' you but doesn't want to rush things.
How is it when a Woman says No, men are supposed to just accept it and wait for when she's ready?
For some reason if you find a Man doing this to you, then there must be something wrong with you/him?
I find this horribly offensive to no end.
I've even been accused of being Gay because of it!
(Ya that's me! Gay! That's only for the odd Sunday! )
Most of the time when a guy is willing to mount you the second you agree to it, is simply the fact that he's hard-up!
That's your ticket right there!
Find one who's ready to die from lack of it, and I guarentee you will find the word "NO" doesn't even exist in his vocabulary! 
Ciao, Alberto P. aka. "Guys who have cauloses, yet work in an office typing all day!" | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 6:47:09 PM | I don't go around teasing women and/but the fact that I remain myself and don't
try to put any moves on women usually makes them think that I don't want them
at all.
The usual guy will work on getting laid from the start and I have noticed that
women appreciate it more when you give a quick look at their a*s then when you
are legitimatly trying to get to know them.
They may complain about men being pigs but the truth of it is that they are
accustomed to that and when it's not there they just don't understand it.
The objective would be to get comfortable in a slow manner.
Sure I could satisfy her with my mouth and hands on the first date but like some
men have said on here, if it's ok for a woman to ask of a man to take is time, it
should be ok for a man to ask the same of a woman.
I see myself making out with a woman, go for the kill and she tells me to slow
down and my answer is... "Well you will make me cum because you turned me on
and you are just a tease if you don't."
Some people need time and if it is well explained I would expect for her to understan,
I won't stop her from using Bob.... heck I'll even watch, perhaps it would speed things
up a little. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 9:16:51 PM | | i only once had a guy say no to me and i had been in a ltr with him what did i do i took him to the dr and got him checked over as clearly he was ill we later had sex so technically i have never been totaly refused sex. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2006 10:52:03 PM | Guys who say no? It does happen, and I have said no in the past. If an opportunity to "get together" is rushed, doesn't feel right, if either the lady or the guy has had too much to drink and not thinking straight....It's a matter of judgement, and some guys will use good judgement, even up until the last second. You see, guys do have morals, too.
I'd rather say no, and have both of us end up disappointed for the evening, than go ahead with something that both of us might regret. There is always a second chance....if there is not a second chance, even more reason to be glad you/he said no! | |
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