| Guys who say no?
Posted: 12/3/2006 3:25:12 PM | [Women ask for sex all the time but they usually use body language and signs instead
of saying it out loud.]
Exactly.
[Can a woman enjoy a night of cuddling if she is told that
the guy just isn't ready.]
Absolutely!
You must be pretty hot if all these girls are coming on to you and good for you. You should go at your own pace. Just understand that many women don't initiate and thus, are very unused to being rebuffed or putoff so go easy. Just explain that you want to get to know her better first so it has more meaning to both of you, maybe tired of shallow relationships, or easy out had too much to drink, I don't think its necessary for you to say you are a "near" virgin --- that I think she will be able to figure out for herself! | |
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| Guys who say no?
Posted: 12/3/2006 7:13:42 PM | My friend and I think it means ummm well that he has somebody else, possibly may have some issues down south, such as E.D., an STD, a small peepee, he may be gay, lol, or he might not be clean or maybe the girl smells funny. Could be a number of things, but I wouldn't bother trying again if I were in that situation.
Ah, and so by that token if I suggest sex to a woman, and she says no, she's obviously frigid, horribly bad in bed, doesn't like sex at all, or is gay?
Oh.. wait, thats *not* what it means!?!? Wow, never would've guessed that. And here i keep reading how much women enjoy sex, you'd think they'd jump at the chance for random sex with a person they've known for maybe an hour, because they love it so much!!!
Do you even realize how silly that sounds if you reverse the genders?
edit: the above coming from a woman who says "Dating to me means two people feel the same about one another and want to be with each other." in her profile. Maybe he just doesn't "feel the same" at that point. Oh, or is it all just about *your* feelings? | |
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Posted: 12/3/2006 7:33:12 PM | | What a crock! I've said no. Grow up. Of course there are guys that say no. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2006 7:34:06 PM | | A guy who would turn a girl down in bed would really shine in my eyes. It shows honesty, dignity, and discipline since it's gotta be a hard thing for them to do. I would respect it for sure, and a lot of the time if a guy initiates sex on the first couple dates it really turns me off him. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2006 8:08:11 PM | My friend and I think it means ummm well that he has somebody else, possibly may have some issues down south, such as E.D., an STD, a small peepee, he may be gay, lol, or he might not be clean or maybe the girl smells funny. Could be a number of things, but I wouldn't bother trying again if I were in that situation.
Lol that's stupid. So if you found a guy out there worth keeping who has some dignity and will power you would assume he's got an std and shut him down after that. psssh i wouldn't bug him that night but i would be a thousand more turned on and wanting him. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2006 11:00:58 PM | yeah I agree with you. I've turned down sex twice, I just wasen't ready, I didn't want my first time to be with them, so I turned it down... I'm still looking for the right one, confused lately if she'll ever even show up... =/
oh well, maybe in another life time? haha. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2006 11:10:04 PM | There are a bunch of times where I should have said "no". However, I have said "no" other times. Guess that depends upon how long it was since the last time I had sex and how much fear I have in STDs at the time. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2006 10:51:22 AM | Any boy can say yes, but it takes a real man to say no.
A man can appreciate the consequences of his actions, can take responsibility, and has sight of what is real. A boy just wants to play. Many times I have said "no" because i realized that, though it might feel good now, I would lose something more valuable, my integrity and honour.
Guys who say no are showing their ethics, and this one has no regrets. too many times have i babysat lady friends who've had too much to drink and lose their better judgement. with me they always know that they'll make it home safe so they CAN let loose. other times I've been a shoulder, and have had a vulnerable friend try to find in me what they couldn't find elsewhere. I never take advantage of someone's trust. There's nothing wrong with saying yes, but if you say it all the time does it really mean anything? I guess it depends on what each person wants out of life and relationships. As long as it's consentual then we all have the right to explore our individual sexualities, there is no right or wrong, only regrets or no regrets.
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| Guys who say no?
Posted: 12/4/2006 10:54:13 AM | I've said NO before. What's the big deal? It's possible....
Some guys respect themselves and the relationship more than instant gratification. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2006 12:19:16 PM | | I'd look down his pants to see if he has any balls. Then I'd kick him out. Put out or get out. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2006 1:04:21 PM | That would be so awesome! if a guy said no, would probably be very intriguing....make me want to see him again....I love a challenge....never ever happens with guys!
LOL..."put out or get out"...... ROTFL!!!!! | |
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Posted: 12/4/2006 1:15:09 PM | | Cuff him. No, I'm sure that it's most likely a skin disorder, penis malfunction, fear of STD's, or the girls wig just fell off in his lap and killed the moment. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2006 6:41:15 PM | | Before reading this thread, I was mistakenly under the impression it was women who were under pressure to always say yes. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2006 7:08:09 PM | I can't tell if the women who say guys don't say no are kidding or not. I hope they're kidding.
There are a couple of times I should have said no and I didn't. And one time where I said "no", almost certainly avoided a huge mistake, and am still not sure if I did the right thing... | |
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Posted: 12/4/2006 8:58:57 PM | Please.....I've said no PLENTY of times. If I don't feel like getting busy with the woman....I WON'T!!! I'm not gonna do it because SHE wants me to....HELL NO. I feel like this, if it's not a mutual thing, then it just shouldn't be. If I did and the woman didn't....I would respect that.....I guess maybe because I understand what it is not to want it sometimes. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2006 12:51:18 AM | yeas mos definatly said "no!" her chest and ass were hairer than mine....but if she would've shaved there might have been a chance if we did it the dark...and I got to plug my nose the whole time I mean common a stick of frikkin deodorant does wonders doesn't it? | |
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Posted: 12/5/2006 3:51:35 AM | | he either really likes you and doesnt wanna ruin things by rushing it OR doesnt want you and doesnt wanna hurt your feeling by telling you. I dont know him so i dont know which one it is... you'll have to work that one out on your own. | |
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Posted: 12/5/2006 7:19:37 AM | | This makes me think of the scene in Animal House, when asked if she is doing the 'dirty deed', Babs says "Greg doesn't believe in pre-marital intercourse". | |
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Posted: 12/6/2006 12:12:26 PM | What would be your reaction to a guy politely saying no?
Absolute Respect !
I would know he's not easy and if I were to enter into a relationship with him then it would be easier for me to trust him. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2006 2:48:10 PM | | I've said no a few times, because I'm not a spineless doormat and I don't sleep with every woman that comes around. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2006 2:51:12 PM | | It depends on how long you've been dating, and if you are exclusive. If he still isn't interested after a few months, maybe he's just not that into you (no pun intended). Find somebody who wants you, Hot Stuff. | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 12:41:07 PM | | Maybe he just isnt ready?Women do that kind of thing all the time.Change their mind when things get a little to hot and want to wait.If he kept doing it or I never saw him again maybe I would worry.But if this just happened once I would respect his choice.Might feel a little frustrated tho!!LOL | |
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Posted: 12/16/2006 5:33:45 PM | Boy say no? So confussed. Where is this boy? Give him my number...  | |
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Posted: 12/17/2006 7:31:05 PM | I've said no before, and I'll do it again sometime...whats the big deal? For me it has to be a mutual "agreement", it's as simple as no means no and yes means yes. I'd respect her if she said no, so why can't it be the same way around without jumping to silly conclusions like ED, STD, gay, etc.
I can understand it being a shock to most women because apparently all men want is to jump on the good foot and do the bad thing. We can't have sex all the time, we need to regroup!
You know what this has got me a thinkin'....as of right now I'm adopting a 3 month rule, because I honestly believe that there is more to it than just sex. My life, my choice.
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Posted: 12/17/2006 7:42:21 PM | I’ve passed on the last two offers. The were both nice looking gals.
I did not pass on the first couple of offers after I became single 3 plus years ago - I did not like myself much afterwards. There is NO REASON for the sex - none (no one was even heated up) it was just sex for the sake of sex - just part of the date to them. | |
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