| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/8/2007 12:10:29 PM | | Ya. like pinky says, that really bugs me too. Hate the cold shoulder more than anything. At least be honest if you don't want to get to know someone tell them nicley. Don't say you're going to do something and then just not bother to let them know you changed your mind. Hate that. | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/8/2007 12:14:29 PM | | it is a slow to trust someone but you shouldn't be afraid. Then you will never get what you really want in life. | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/8/2007 12:19:08 PM | I've had women that were cold then hot.
You are right.. You can not be afraid. I usually trust someone until they give me reason not too. Sometimes people I meet have issues they will not share so maybe I could help or give them some kind of comfort.. you know? | |
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Posted: 1/8/2007 1:51:37 PM | | Cheaters, haven't had much experience with any, but I dunno if that's something I could overlook. | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/8/2007 2:36:47 PM | | Clingyness and possessiveness? I just hate when someone Call like 24/7 and whenI dont call her Back Y keep trying... I really Hate that...... | |
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Posted: 1/9/2007 12:45:44 PM | | When someone is too clingy/needy or to distant and unavailable......There has to be a middle ground....right? | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/13/2007 7:46:32 PM | | When I realize that I really care for someone and its not reciprocal. So, I guess ultimately it boils down to fear? You can't put yourself out there over and over again without the other person giving something back. The trick is moving on when you have let them become and important and welcome part of your life. How do you stop missing them so damned much? | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 7:51:00 PM | | controlling behaviour, nitpicking me, nagging me, jealously, infidelity all the bad things that ruin a relationship. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 7:55:53 PM | Shouting, which I construe as implied violence.
Hitting or kicking stuff, also implies violence.
Both are aspects of anger management problems in the temperment which in my experience are enough to cut and run.
RED FLAGS!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 9:29:39 PM | Good one!
I have to agree with angelab
Ditto
Plus Smothering, rushing everything, not trusting
All comes down to jealousy because of their insecurities and thus you get a control freak
Figure of speach there but oh so true
Red Flags galore and reason for my last run!
Hopefully one day I will notice all possible red flags sooner
I don't know when! I keep continuing to date same types so I still have to keep running for now but my reasons remain above and the same!  
Cheers | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 9:31:47 PM | Oh my God, some of these threads are better therapy than a 100 dollar and hour therapist. O,K I think anger at men in general, because I feel there is no way to beat that, to out do it, so to speak, my ex's father was an abusive alcoholic, she didn't trust men, now when I hear a woman I am with say that all men are ***holes, I freeze.
Cold women, any sigh of a lack of sex drive,,that scares the hell out of me.
A woman that stays mad, dosnt want to talk, but just be mad.
A woman that cant talk through a problem, but she freaks and runs out the door as soon as the truth of the problem is in clear view.
O.K I feel a lot worse now, can I have my 100 dollars back?? | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 9:37:56 PM | Almost all the woman I have dated, their fathers were hard drinkers, I think it was the times, but I try to see what part of this I play in the whole role or act, I think it is my lack of self confidence, not going after what I want, but only going after woman that come after me,??? or something like that, and not taking more responsibility on the hard things to change so I will have more self confidence. so there, I was honest with the therapist this time. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 9:41:40 PM | Hi again
I just gave an opinion
Juniper and a few of you got it in one word
Needy!
Run like Hell!
I told the last one he was too needy and his temper reared it's ugly head again and he took that exact sentence to read "Needy **stard" He said how dare you call me...........
I did not but out came the violence!
We broke up via phone and email
Thank god I was at my home and him at his I was sure shortly before this he was very capable of hitting a women so glad I was far enough away to be out of harms way!
To the girl who started this there are always RED FLAGS just have to notice them and run!
ox
Good luck to you
 
Cheers | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 9:54:44 PM | Someone that I am dating that keeps putting me down, then when I get up set and say something.He says IT WAS ONLY A JOKE.Seems to me I am a joke most of the time.I hate put downs cause he is insecure. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 10:00:02 PM | If she drinks too much, has a nasty temper, derives happiness from being physically and mentally abusive towards others, especially me, and actually believes she's God's gift to men.
And yes, I once dated such a woman. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2007 10:24:47 PM | When I'm proposed to I run within the month. I always make clear that I do not like marriage, but am not opposed to life-long partnership. If the right bloke came along and asked after a few years of decent relationship, and marriage was very important to him, well, maybe then. I run when its been like 6 months (or all to often less than 6 mo,) and there he is, down on one knee, big shiny rock held out there and I haven't even said the "I love you" yet.
I swear guys are in a much bigger hurry than gals.. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2007 2:44:24 AM | [I concur with all of those, and will add one of my own... Constantly asking for more pictures]
LOL - I asked the guy I met on-site for about 3 dozen photos -- wanted to see his face, his eyes, expressions, and some of family. Some folks have tons of grumpy shots & often they ARE grumps. Anyway, glad he didn't run!!
triggers for me --
Anger - I refuse to fight or yell or scream or have it done to me. I run away. I think adults can talk.
Abuse - I had an ex that hit and if I see signs of it in a man, I don't stay around.
Substance abuse - I won't continue dating someone that drinks too much or does prescription meds, either.
How triggers affect the present---- I asked one date if he wanted cream in his coffee and he said, "no, just some baileys" not realizing that my ex used to start his day that way and continue through baileys, beer and pot.... It didn't make me run, but we did have a discussion! Poor man had no clue that my heart skipped a beat at his joke....
At least he was man enough to hang around and talk about the effect of his joke (due to my past) and we could laugh about it later. And it's truly refreshing to find someone who communicates!!  | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 1:21:47 AM | Triggers me to run...
How about have gun , will travel ?
Seriously, most of the above make sense. I would only be repeating more of the same | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 1:30:24 AM | if someone has issues with past relationships (as i know from experience how that can interfere with new relationships) - i would like to meet a bloke who doesnt drag the past relationship problems into the new one!!! Also, someone is way too pushy, and doesnt know where they want to go in life.
One thing im proud of saying is i know where im going, and i know where i want to be, and what sort of person i would like in my life!
Status, what car someone drives etc, has no bearing on me. Its whats in someones mind that does!!! | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 1:31:34 AM | | oh and someone who constantly goes on about sex, or brings it up regularly in a convo - that just says to me - 'im only after some fun!' which is not what im after lol | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 2:31:27 AM | | Nice take on the mind part... Everything so cosmetic these days mid. Speaking of mind, its 4:30 am this side of the earth ..Night for me or go caveman ... | |
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Posted: 1/30/2007 2:44:26 AM | It's true that all our past experiences influence our future apprach to dating and possible relationships. If you only can use it in a wise way, you'll take them as guidelines, but will remeber that each person is different, and cannot be judged by the mistakes or character of anyone from your past..
I'm no different. I do run, and I tend to do it each time someone tries to impose anything on me. If I can see signs of attack on my independence, even subtle. If someone's trying to tell me he knows better what's good for me. Or if someone's only telling about his vision of the world, relationships and just about everything around him... or I'm definitely gone if he's made a decision for us both, and only informed me about it later. (and no, I don't mean a romantic surprise ;) | |
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