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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 10/2/2006 1:14:56 PM | | Control issues. Lies, Being Insecure of Themselves. Not facing their fears or thier problems. Not dealing with their baggage. Blaming me for everything. What I'm doing about this is taking relationship classes to learn how to have healthy relationships. Do some self improvement for myself. And also to get some counciling. You have to admit you have a problem in order to solve it. Many people out there don't want to do that because they have to face their fears and deal with their problems. | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 10/8/2006 11:29:54 AM | Lindalttl,
GAWD, so many people could use your advice. This world is so full of people who function in life (somehow), with all their dysfunctions. They spend more energy trying to place blame on others and running circles around key personal issues, than they would actually owning some of their own shortcomings. No big surprise or wonder why 1 in 3 are mentally handicapped.
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 10/8/2006 11:58:23 AM | | now my trigger would be anyone too controlling/smoothering/ verbal/physical outbursts/drinking too much.that would be as far as it gets..........a date.. no more......and i wouldnt lose sleep by cutting off either.....i want a relationship not a lost cause. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2006 2:18:33 PM | When they tell you your the first one I have wanted to meet on this site--sure check them out their on the site for four years and along with all the other dating sites. OR I'm married but we don't sleep together that's the big one LOL I'm not a social worker Last but not least we meet for dinner have a great time you say hmm he's a really nice man I would see him again put's you on a quilt trip I drank a bit to much do you think I can sleep over your place just for the night | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 107 | |
| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 10/8/2006 2:25:25 PM | | all of the above plus a few extras. I have zero tolerance for problems, but probably the most irritating and annoying and drives me up a freakin wall is CLINGY guys. OMG!!! Those guys make me CRAZY!!! | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 10/8/2006 11:30:30 PM | When someone pulls the trigger, I'd run. 
Seriously, someone who talks about love all the time but doesn't know how to love. Someone who says dying for love but not willing to take a chance.  | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 10/9/2006 12:19:20 AM | | Wow...................."More hay, Trigger?"...."No Thanks, Roy, I'm Stuffed !!!!" | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 10/9/2006 12:26:54 AM | Anyone who seriously believes that everything that goes wrong in their life is always,"someone elses fault" 
wearing socks with sandals scares me too ..but not nearly as much LOL:) | |
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Posted: 10/9/2006 12:38:27 AM | Seriously, someone who talks about love all the time but doesn't know how to love. Someone who says dying for love but not willing to take a chance
I know how to love, it's just so hard to do...for me.
There have been a few ladies I've run from and I had no good reason to do that cause
I could'nt have asked for any better.
I had a really bad marriage but I was over that a long time ago and I suppose I'm still careful about who I give my heart to.
It'll be ok though, I'll figure it out and choose the right lady this time. | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 10/9/2006 8:18:16 AM | a) manipulation
b) deception
c) obesity
d) selfishness
e) verbal abusers
f) Liberals
g) stalkers
h) Momma's girls
and not necessarily in that order... | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 3:57:29 PM | I've thought about this for days, and I can't think of much besides the obvious; ya' know, such as, if a woman chases me with a chainsaw, I'll run.
As you get to know someone more and more, you usually find out things that aren't pretty--dark truths that might be hard to swallow. And if you had known about those things when you first started dating, it's more than likely you would have run. But during a relationship? I don't know.
Does not compute!!! | |
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Joined: 6/23/2006
Msg: 116 | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 10/10/2006 7:50:05 PM | | A .45 sighted in at me point-blank. Seriously, the first thing is inconsistency. Saying one thing and doing another or seeing a very different person from time to time (but it being the same person). Dishonesty and a tendency to flirt with others when I'm with her. Also constantly expecting the guy to pay the checks, w/o ever offering to share expenses. Someone who has a mile high wall around her emotions, that has become intertwined within her personality. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 7:59:42 PM | It took me awhile after my ex and I split to realize that the attributes I desired in another potential BF, were the ones he lacked and drove me nuts!
I would now say that my ideal BF would be smart, giving, modest, hard working, self confidant. My ex was (ok, not stupid, but not the sharpest pencil in the case), selfish, narcissitic, lazy, insecure....
I've met a few men that seems to posess some of my ex's more unattractive attributes, and never gave them a second look. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 8:05:25 PM | | Guys that want too move too fast and want too much too soon. You know the ones that are tryin to get sex and they haven't even told you their last name yet. Or you go on one date and they're ready to walk down the aisle with you, but you haven't even decided if you want a second date or not. Also men that fail to disclose important information in a timely fashion.(# of kids, criminal records, dangerous diseases, etc.) | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 8:28:12 PM | Nowadays....I only run when chased.
but I can be caught.
What makes me run?
Dishonesty
Cruelty
Racism
Snobbery
bigotry
controlling personality
and so on.
Any sign of those, and I am gone.
Course.......has to be someone to run FROM first. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 8:42:20 PM | The guy that took off his shoe in Applebee's and put his whole leg and foot on the table to show me his burn. (1st date) After snorting my tea across the table...I ran like hell. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2006 8:47:56 PM | when you both agree to meet for coffee or a drink and the first words from her mouth is I don't do sex on the first date. Not hello or hi. Not nice to meet you or any of the usually first time meet. Been there and done it. Let her talk the whole time and I ordered the coffees and drank it. she asked if I had anything to say afterwards and I said sure. Told the waitress thanks for the coffee it was great. Turned to her and said I don't do sex on first time dates except to ladies I have known for a while and in person as well. I have to have feelings for the one I have sex with and you I don't have feelings for. Thanks for the meeting and the wake up call. have a nice evening and good luck in your searching. then I left. so yep I know exactly when to leave.
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 10/10/2006 8:55:59 PM | 1. Laziness
2. Alcohol abuse
3. Name calling and spitefulness
4. Being deserted when you are 2 months pregnant (and yes, he still wants to come back! silly boy!)
5. Hostility to my children
6. Being hit
That sort of thing.
We run because we come to our senses and self-preservation kicks in.
However there are two sorts of running: the red flag/alarm bell preliminary stage that you recognise before the relationship has even got off the ground, and this is plain common sense, most people know their limitations; and the 'oh,oh, this is intolerable, I've got to get out......' further down the line.
I approach every new relationship with an open and willing heart as if nothing bad had ever happened, why jeopardise something potentially wonderful because of the idiots you were once exposed to? They would still have a hold wouldn't they? Pah!
Try not to think about the past. What happened happened. Life is too short to be too wary.
If you have survived so much already, recognise you own strength and resilience and take some chances. It makes life so much easier for your new partner. Why should you both suffer because of some other waste of space? SEIZE YOUR OPPORTUNITIES!
My philosophy is 'there is nothing I can't survive - SO I'M GOING FOR IT!' | |
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