| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 12/23/2006 6:52:54 AM | The usual things, lying, addiction to drugs etc., explosive tempers.
Asking you to move in because he is " in love " on the first date, lol.
He is clingy, jealous and constantly downing his ex.
And on the humorous side....
If he rides up in a low rider filled with his buddies
and they all yell, " Way to go bro "  | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 12/23/2006 10:02:49 AM | | I would also run if someone was verbally abusive or controlled by word my very being. | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 12/23/2006 11:24:18 AM | people who have no sense of self ownership.
They tend to proect onto others personality or behavioural issues that are in fact their own.
Most times these types of people are very difficult to deal with. Rather than deal with it.
I RUN.
Yes I'm Freudian/Neo-Freudian | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 12/23/2006 12:32:43 PM |
If he rides up in a low rider filled with his buddies
and they all yell, " Way to go bro
What about "git 'er done"? | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 12/23/2006 2:35:13 PM | | I give all the trust I can, till I see an act of dishonor, then they get the boot. | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/5/2007 9:25:01 PM | I've listed a few so far, and I should add clingyness.
Also of late because of people I know and their situations, guys who are divorced.... I  fast as I can. Questions arise in my mind, such as what caused the divorce, and I get concerned about issues of trust. I am getting pickier with time, but my life is good. I don't want to ruin my life with some guy who's going to make me miserable. I want to hold out for the guy who is going to make my already good life an even better one.
I recently dumped a guy right out of the gate because of his bigoted remarks. I got so turned off that I just could not have the date we were planning to have. Life is too short. Why waste even a minute of time with someone who is a bigoted pig? I'd rather move on to the next guy, who could be sweet, pleasant, honest, kind, respectful, never married or widowed, and ready for a great relationship
There are plenty of in the sea, so I'll keep on fishing till I get that great catch!! | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/5/2007 9:58:50 PM | What triggers me to run...there are so many...
insecurity
anger
racism
clingyness
someone who drinks too much
jealousy
those are the ones that will make me run as fast I can... | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/5/2007 11:44:47 PM | | raising the voice, hand in the air when raising the voice, lieying, drug abuse,drunks, i got a whole list, but here is a few | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/6/2007 5:33:29 AM | Things I will not tolerate/stick around for are:
disrespect/uncaring/having a low opinion of women in general
lying
drug use
controlling behaviour/too clingy/no confidence/too wimpy
cheating
No one needs to be with someone that isn't treating them with the utmost respect and care! Better off alone and happy-rather than trying to be with someone and being miserable. When the right combination of fishie and fisherman come along-then none of the other nonsense should come into play. It should be all about love and respect. Sure-there will be tough times-but overall happiness.
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/6/2007 7:28:21 AM | Don't forget"
Indifference to the point where it doesn't matter if you are there
Meeting someone else behind your back
Using you for "chores"
Not having the strength to tell you there are issues
Using the 3 words, then changing their mind
"I'm not sure anymore"
Great thread, lots of real reasons why we should walk away, but as humans, and the fact we are seeking a relationship, we are often blinded by our own feelings. If we can just push on..things will be better later....and as we all learn, it never is. Listen to your inner voice, and find someone who cares. | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/7/2007 6:18:20 PM | My triggers seem internal, they give me no evidence of any kind, it is just like these warning bells go off somewhere deep inside, like a panic, I back out, sometimes I think it has something to do with my past, but what it is I have no idea. The only regrets I have is that I back out before I give it a chance, ( wondering if maybe I am afraid of love) but other than that my life has been complete, and I am totally for the future!!
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/7/2007 7:04:32 PM | 1) yelling at the waiter (happened recently lol)
2) uninformed judgments
3) closed minded remarks
4) Spoiled behavior
5) no depth of thought
6) guns...yeah if she pointed a gun at me I'd definately run | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/7/2007 9:32:37 PM | | I think it takes time to get to know someone and that some of us are guarded at first and can easily take things out of context. If I chose to try to create a new relationship with someone, trust would be there. But if I got that "gut instinct" or "red flags going off" that something wasn't right, then I would pay more attention. If I continued to have those feelings, chances are I would end the relationship, unless there was a reasonable explanation for the behaviour. Think it does come from lessons learned in the past, and for good reason. | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/7/2007 9:56:11 PM |
What I have encountered in some men is a deep-rooted FEAR of opening up and making himself vulnerable in a relationship. These men have been deeply, bitterly hurt in one or more past relationships, and they are very afraid of repeating the experience. This is very sad, because their fears inadvertently destroy a developing relationship. How can a relationship grow and prosper when one partner (or both, of course) is too afraid to open up emotionally?
I agree.
Those men could at least PRETEND to open up emotionally.
Michael | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/7/2007 10:09:21 PM | Broken promises, or deception intending
Broken hearts with no intention of mending
Broken records of “Done me wrong songs”
Broken dreams with no effort made to right wrongs
Broken men who give away their balls
That’s what I run from and I don’t take their calls. | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/7/2007 10:10:37 PM | ...well, there are a few things. What I'll focus on is a list of things that I've defined as "must-haves" and "must not haves". I think I'm getting better at recognizing some of the traits I find value in and those I don't but what kills me is why I just don't give up or call it quicker when I have a feeling that something is off. It's like I don't want to fail. Hmmm...you've posed a good question; I'm going to think about this...
Maybe the more positive focus/spin/answer to your question is: sometimes you got to go through those situations/relationships that aren't healthy so you can recognize the ones that are healthy - the winners. | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/7/2007 10:11:15 PM | | Pretending won't cut it. People can see through that line of bull in a heart beat. The only thing that works is honesty. | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/7/2007 11:48:40 PM | crack heads, prior domestic assults, drug dealers,control freaks, drunks etc... | |
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Posted: 1/8/2007 9:25:09 AM | | ohhh boy.. lol good one actually... lets see.... being controlling, possessive, anger issues, lies, mentally unstable, someone still not over their ex (i wont be a revenge, rebound girl), i wont stand for mental pshysical abuse. | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/8/2007 10:21:17 AM | Well, let's see...Ha, basically what devilishlyperfect just said. I can put up with a lot of things, but I won't be the rebound girl. Abuse is a definite no and I demand honesty and return it as well.
And guys obsessed with their cars. That drives me nuts. I love cars, mainly older American muscle cars, but when he talks to the car more than me, it gets kinda old. | |
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| What triggers you to run...
Posted: 1/8/2007 11:44:58 AM | | Men who blow hot then cold make me run for the hills...... For me it is either on or off, nothing in between.... | |
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