| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/8/2006 2:39:42 PM | "I approached him on this,he said it was nothing,just innocent chat and flirting,"
Thats what all the perverts caught in those Dateline NBC Stings say. LOL
I'm sorry about your heart. I never cheat. It is just so cruel. :( | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/8/2006 2:42:47 PM | you know sweetie I met someone on here and things I thought were great....then he went away for a week to see his grandma that is not doing so well...he messaged me every day and still seemed excited about us being a couple. Then he came back and everything changed. He said he wasnt ready for a committed relationship and that he just wanted a friend. That he had made other friends on here...well this I just didnt get. A part of me thinks there was more there and that he was finding he was still desireable to other women other than me...none will ever compare to me because I know when I care about someone its just that one person. He will in time regret that he walked away (we have stayed friends though) and now i have met someone else that just makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world. Who knows where this is going but I think its heading in the right direction... Meow! LOL....
Hunny just remember one this and this is my point here ok? When one door closes another opens and usually the better thing is waiting inside that next door! Best of luck hunny!!!
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/8/2006 2:50:27 PM | | Men(and ok women too) have always flirted with the opposite sex since the beginning of time...Nowadays with profiles and dating sites its just so much easier to get caught. This is how we met and this is what we do to meet our perspecitve significant other. When does that stop? I think when two people have together agreed to shut down or hide their on line profiles then and only then should that happen. One should never assume that because one did the other will too. Do people actually chat exclusively with one person at a time??? Hello you can use the telephone for that. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/8/2006 2:55:22 PM | you sound crazy you don't call that cheating and if you trust him than why are you scare of
him talking to other girls you do not start your trust by saying he cheated no such thing on the net its girls like you that better grow up and trust your love ones not trying to own him after 3 months you are someing elst  | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/8/2006 4:26:23 PM | | Sorry Crystal...I would call that cheating....when you are a couple you shouldnt have to worry about the horny bug rearing its ugly head to the young girls.....and she shouldnt have to put up with that crap!!! I dont think she is crazy at all...she should be able to trust him and know that he isnt out there flirting with others. I agree with someone else in this thread that said "he's not just flirting, he's ordering from the menu!" That is a creep and this woman should move on without some judgemental bimbo telling her she's crazy! | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/8/2006 10:44:01 PM | Hello Jazzgirl,
I know the deal.. I have met a few dishonest men on this site.... It can be disheartening, because you wonder if there are any credible men out there... I find dishonesty comes in all different forms, and that is just another form of it.... I have come across men who say they are employed, or entrepeneurs and they are not... Others that say they are honest, loyal, and credible, and are far from it.... Even some who say they are disease free,who are not....You have to be the judge, and stick to your values.. I find that women these days, really have to develop a keen sense of awareness and discernment.... Listen to your intuition, even if he's telling you one thing, and your feeling it's a line, or getting those gut feelings about the guy, then listen to it..... | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/8/2006 11:10:17 PM | Yes, this does happen a lot & does suck..i'm constantly asking myself why i'm doing this..but HERE'S the thing...people (dishonest dirtballs) are going to continue to check & 'see what's out there'. Why?? Because they can, so easily thanks to technology. Not lookin' like it's gonna stop anytime soon...especially with the free dating sites out there. Men & women, sitting in there little office cubicle, etc..oh gee, i'm bored..lemme just get a peek at mysp---, POF, etc..just to see what's up. Well, that's where it starts. Like a lot of the posters have said, sure it's fine..but please be upfront about it.
Keep looking! The heart is stronger than you think (hopefully :) | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/8/2006 11:13:22 PM | Men!!! I tell ya..ugg. who do they think they are these days? hittin on the younger ladies...
well, u have every right to be mad about it. If he is lookin at other girls after 4 months, what's goin to change that outlook when time goes on. Plus, he should realize the fact of his age group rarely appeals to the youngin's.
You are a sexy lady and deserve all the attention on u with ur man. Why do men think they are still 20 at 40?
Men dont seem to grow up...how come women except it and men dont? I think its because women age gracefully and men...well, do i need to say more.LOL.
hope u the most of luck, and hope he doesnt break ur heart... | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/8/2006 11:15:13 PM | | Look hes no good he does not care about other people, you are a beatutiful person and i am sure you would not treat someone this way. not be after other guys particurly young ones. Hes got no manners he loves himself, I don,t know what for, alot of men put on a big act to try to get a woman. (women to) He does not care how much he hurts you or about your feelingss. At the end of the day no decant women like yourself is going to want to be with someone like that, Decant women wont want to know him when they find out what hes really like. Put him out with the garbage. Forget him theirs nice guys out their, but be careful their aer wolves in sheeps clothing, who have plenty of charm but who soon reveal hteir real sefves. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/8/2006 11:22:53 PM | | Your the one he should be paying attention to, not other women, hes a cheap skate, You won,t feel good around someone like that, he will make you feel these other women are desirable and you are not, you are desirable, hes the one with the ugly problem. He need to get a personality change big time. He sounds a real low life, I knew someone like that myself, I told him to get lost. You can get yourself a worthwhile man. Just be careful. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/8/2006 11:33:05 PM | | No everyone lies and cheats i don,t lie and cheat, i have never two timed anyone and i treat others with respect. I don,t suffer fools gladly though i must admit. At the end of the day how can a person like themselves when they treat others bad. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/9/2006 12:08:43 AM | You are not wrong. He is!!! There is no such thing as innocent flirting if it is done behind the back of your sig. other. As we used to say up here in the woods, "If ya got your line in the water, you're fishin." All men are not like this, neither are all women. Sex or age has nothing to do with it, it is a moral standard that we set for ourselves.
You just never caught him with a reply onscreen. Be thankful for that. I caught my wife of 8 years in a similar situation (we are now separated). I eventually became suspicious enough to download and install a keylogger (a utility that keeps track of ALL keystrokes, even during chat and instant messaging windows. Reading them ripped a piece right out of my guts. It will take me a long time to heal. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/9/2006 12:54:10 PM | | hey thyere ive not been on this site very long and thought i had met a great guy, we met up and he told me how wonderful i was and i was just what he was looking for ,then i found out he was still on dating site and available. he said it was just chat but why did his profile sat dating , i changed mine to riendship.to me it is cheating and all the men and women that do this are not out for love just cheap thrills | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/9/2006 1:14:01 PM | Girlfriend, I haven't read the whole thread attached and forgive me if i'm repeating stuff, but...... If he's in his 40's the deal is simple, it flatters him if they respond, he feels like he's not "over the hill" and maybe has a chance with a "young ting". Reality check, sure he may meet, he may charm, me any even get sex what he wont get is what he needs, a mature, adult relationship. He may not even be ready for such a thing.
You, I'm afraid to say, have created a safe haven for him, somewhere his needs will be met and somewhere he doesn't have to prove himself.
Cheating starts in the head, and for men, in the penis. My guess is, given the opportunity he would meet one of these gals and go the whole nine yards if permitted.
Girl, dump him, cry, feel better and move on. Harsh, sure is honey, life is, you are worth so much more than this man can and is willing to give you.
Take care and above all love yourself
S
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/9/2006 1:16:07 PM | | I cant speak for others but I usually rotate them out after they turn 21. Isnt that when they hit their prime? LOL (I'm just joking folks). :) | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/9/2006 1:16:38 PM | Jazzgirl,
I think of it this way.... you have met someone you are dating, and this is the time that you find out about each other. You have found out that he has a roaming eye. Now you have to decide what to do about it. Do you stay, and know this about him, and deal with it, or do you end it now before you have a lot of time invested in the relationship. Can you deal with it? Can you trust him? Those really are the big issues. Obviously it does not bother him; so he will continue to do it even if he sneaks and does it. It is really not about him, but it is about you, and how this makes you feel. Personally I am a big flirt. It is just my personality, but actually contacting someone privatly is crossing the line. He crossed the line. Now you have a decision to make, and I feel for you.
Brenda bodacious4u | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/9/2006 1:31:58 PM | | Ya know I can relate to what your saying but for a man who has never cheated on or hit a woman in his life to see a woman say all men do it it cuts him to the bone I have spent the last 29 years trying to grow up a man that don't cheat or hit on women and it seems now adays men like me are judged for stuff we would never do can someone please tell me why are we men who want to make a differance judged for what other men do thats not right. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/9/2006 1:58:21 PM | Jazzgirl,
Maybe he thinks by your being online it is OK for him to be online here too. I suggest the two of you agree to remove your profiles from all dating sites, if both of you really want to be serious. If you find a dating site he hasn't removed himself from, tell him that you'd like to see him remove himself from it. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/14/2006 10:52:27 AM | i guess you would not because you are like her and if any one is a bimbo is you and your crazy shit like you don't cheat lol and you both should grow up if i was a guy i would lose you both if you feel that way . | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/14/2006 11:08:29 AM | | yes me and my EX!!! partner met online and i changed my profile and never logged back on, then i found put he had inadvertantly been chatting a mate up and he'd been still lookin for women local to him all along. We split up then got back together recently after he said he missed me and lo and behold a few days ago hes been caught online again saying hes single and looking for a local girl cos i lived too far away! Decided you cant really trust a person whos Internet Dating to actual come offline .... well i cant anyway, unlessi sat on his pc with him 24/7. Thats 2 years wasted but im sure the right person willcome along eventually. But can they hurry up!! | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 10/14/2006 11:15:17 AM | I think Ranger fan is right in a sad way.
When it comes to online "dating" sites, take them for they are worth, don't take them too seriously, (in fact don't take them seriously at all) keep your guard up, don't expect to meet your soul-mate, HAVE FUN, and you may get lucky.
A picture rarely speaks a 1000 words.
And most people look and sound better on paper than they do in real-life. So it's hard to pick out the silver dollars from the pennies.
Just my opinion - take it for what it's worth. | |
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