| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 11/6/2006 11:18:06 AM | It is a risk this online dating as you don't know who talking to who, I recently asked a guy i was chatting to from here how many other women he was chatting to, and he said loads but noone in the pieline :o/ By the messages on his profile left by others, I think he was having a wail of a time!
But I have'nt been put off, evn though I wasted 4 months chatting to someone online b4 he told me he was married  | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 11/6/2006 11:35:20 AM | | You know, this is irronic. The exact same thing has happened to me. Bet it is the same person! I'm sorry this happened to you. My response to this for you would be "next!!" | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 11/6/2006 11:42:16 AM | | everyone thinks the grass is always greener. meaning men and woman. i have been on internet dating now going on four years. and two years ago i met someone where we both agreed to suspend our membership together. and it was great except for the fact she was only seperated. for this man to do that to you tells me that you were not the one and you finding out sooner then later was a good thing. because what men seem to forget everybody has feelings and after a while you become desensitized on these dating sites. its so easy to meet but so very hard to connect. and i wish i could find the right person for me and my son to start a new journey. yes and the conveniant answer is there only friends and were just chatting. and if you beleive that i will sell you some swamp land in montreal. its not easy in your 40'30's or 20's anymore. but if its meant to be it will. just giving you my two cents. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 11/6/2006 11:51:06 AM | Well I was just informed that the married chick I give advice to went on my site and wrote some chick saying I ws her husband??? She wants to have her huby and fuk buddy too..when does the drama end? Get a grip people..your single or
not if so say I'm with someone, here to get to know some new freinds and you that have husbands or wifes. keep your private feelings for your fantasies within the relm of your marrage and keep off the lonely man who sleeps with his cat at night sight alone. YES I AM A SINGLE MAN> Tiny you'll never get no more charity fuks from me!!! Ask your 320 pound fat truck driver man who doesn't shower!!! | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 11/6/2006 12:06:46 PM | | I think that most of these guys (not all - to be fair), have low self-esteem. And they wouldn't know someone amazing if we hit them on the head with a frying pan. I say: take it as a hint and run as far as you can. Someone with low self-worth and respect or cofidence in themselves is a major turn off. Thank your lucky stars he showed you his true colors !! You could have wasted 4 years!!!!!!! | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 11/10/2006 9:02:44 PM | I understand how it feels to find someone you love talking online with another woman.
last night i walked in on my boy friend watching a woman...her clothes were on but cam was focused on her boobs.
this is not the first time...actually he was checking his dating sights one night when i am in the kitchen washing dishes.
I am too old for these games...why do men think they have to do this | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 11/10/2006 9:36:50 PM | I think the minute a married person takes the intimacy from your relationship and shares what they are supposed to be sharing with eachother with another without the knowledge of the other person THEY ARE CHEATING.
My work enables me to talk to alot of people, and i find this is a major problem with married folks, or people that are in comitted relationships.
one of the people are caught on line, watching, looking, comunicating, web camming,ect
and the person doing it says its not cheating especially when they get caught.
Happened to me to. Caught mine cheating, im off at work all day, and hes got the web cam going, well now he has his computer and not me, (not going to tell ya what happened to the webcam  | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 12/7/2006 7:24:46 AM | | only thing to do with a cheater is post his data and picture on www.dontdatehimgirl.com to warn other women of his cheating ways. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 1/7/2007 6:49:38 PM | Rachael71, it happens both ways that. I chatted with someone for the first few weeks I was on this site where she stated she was single. Turned out she was married but may be getting a divorce!!
As has been said, you just don't know for sure when online who is being truly honest and who is hiding something.
For me, honesty and truth are vital so I make no bones about myself in my profile.As in my health issue, the fact I'm no Tom cruise lookalike {if you're into that sort}, I'm just me, plain and simple, no airs or graces. That showed quite clearly when I started and before my full profile was put up I found I was on the favourite lists of 14 ladies! great, until I finished my profile. Within a matter of 3 days I was on zero fave lists. Proved the point though, don't read a book by it's cover.
Question is, was I too open and honest or were the 14 just fickle?
i am pleased to say though I've had more people say well done for being honest than I have criticising me for it. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 1/8/2007 4:36:32 AM | He's 40 and looking for 19-23 year olds. Now theres something wrong there. I'm 22 and thats like saying a woman hitting on me in her 40s. Thats very immature of him to keep looking for people to date if hes seeing you right now. especially young girls.
heck what is the world coming to??? i know a 43 year old and he's crushing on a deli girl whose 19 and he's always melting when she walks by and he checks her ass out and its disgusting. He buys her all these things as well to show his love. I asked him if he was seeing her and he said sort of.
And then there was a 35 year old man I know at work and he was crushing on a 17 year old and when they started dating she was 17! isn't that illegal? but she 's 19 now and they broke up.... maybe she realised the mistake of her ways? | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 1/8/2007 4:49:55 AM | hey....I met one here and he was really nice and then went cold....and I am not ugly or bad so....seems like they just sometimes like to pretend they are in a candy store...
Why do older men think that a young 19 year old girl will stay with them?
They want that $$$$$$$ and then be on their way........... | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 1/8/2007 4:50:29 AM | All I can say is if you you are dating someone from a dating site,,,and the person is still on a site,,ya they are still talking to other ladies,,I do,,thats why I'm dating,,to meet women,,if they say they are not, man or woman,,they are full of it,,, | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 1/8/2007 9:11:44 AM | | What I have experienced and noticed. POF is free! So it will bring out the nastiest-pathetic players on the planet! Try $$paying$$ for love. That way you will know maybe they will be more genuine and heart-felt. Internet allows the men to keep "hunting" without being noticed too drastically. So when something like this is "free" be prepared to not be so "free-willing" to accept the dudes that you do actually meet on POF. Protect yourself first and dont assume anything from a guy on here, if they are still posted or in hiding I will assure you they are not interested in settling down with You! It is hard to swallow but men just have the driven force to keep hunting.... especially with the youngens on here! I have been begged by many young gents on here. They would be willing to even pay $$$ me to have an encounter; so with that said; it is a lonely world out there - maybe we are all looking for love in all the wrong places? And one being the Internet! Pay as you go may work better or better yet give Dr. Phil a call and maybe he could match you up with someone on his TV program Match.com! tee hee | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 1/8/2007 9:28:35 AM | | I had a similar thing happen to me recently, except I was the "other woman" and didn't know the guy I was falling in love with was already married. When the truth came out, he tried to tell his wife that it wasn't cheating because we didn't have sex. I told her to let me talk to him and when he got on the phone, I said "You know very well this was cheating. If it wasn't cheating, you would have had no problems telling me you were married, or telling your wife that you were talking to me." He couldn't argue with this and I told him he needed to verbally admit to his wife that, yes, he had cheated on her. I heard him tell her this and felt supremely satisfied that he was finally being honest not only with us, but with himself. Oprah recently did a special on this though - men and their connections to porn, internet chatting, etc. Bottom line, if your actions are hurting the person you are committed to being with, you shouldn't continue to do it. The relationship should come first. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 1/8/2007 6:49:04 PM | | Hi everyone. This is my first forum visit. I think i am dealing with a online cheater. I met my b/f on POF. I took my profile off after i knew how i felt about him. When i met him he was on about 50 favorite list. I got curious just recently and went on POF. He is still on there and now it is up to 70 plus. We are fighting over this now. He says he has friends and family on there. I believe that but i cant believe you gained 20 family members. I'm really confused by all this. I know your all thinking i'm stupid because i just dont end it. I don't know. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 1/9/2007 11:00:45 AM | territwo ~~
You don't have to do a thing but be here to get on a favorites list. Heck, half the lists I'm on are women's lists. People may like your posts, or. . . Who knows. But that, in itself, shouldn't be any kind of issue. Now, if you've got *other* problems with the guy, work on that. Is, for instance he still listed as single and looking?
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 1/9/2007 11:14:03 AM | | Thank you for your kind words, woobytoodsday. He is listed as single. I told him i didnt care if he was on there as long as he put he was taken. He hasn't done that. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 1/9/2007 11:23:27 AM | Spiders that sucks! It seems like men constantly have a wondering eye!
The thing about online 'dating' is its a lot easier to catch them!! I agree that its horrible to be 'dating' someone that you've met online to find out that they are still talking to other woman and trying to 'hook up with them'. But girls, THIS IS MEN! Not that its an excuse, and I do believe that there are some real, true HONEST FAITHFUL men out there (michael, yes I do believe your one!), and we, as women, 'settle' and let them do this to us. We let them get away with it once, and so forever this is what they do. And the other women, SHAME ON THEM! Again, alot of them know that they are 'flirting' with danger (a married or committed man) and don't give a rats rear end. If women always had each others back I GUARANTEE you that men would be 75% likely NOT to cheat.
Men & women both when they start dating from a internet site, will still talk to other people., until things are 'serious' or 'exclusive' you shouldn't even WORRY about what they are doing! Once you are, either you put 'just friends', or 'found my soul mate here, but love my friends', whatever, or combine your profile, or delete them all 2gether. they shouldn't look as if they are on the market if they are not. And if they don't agree, well boot them, you'll be better off! | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 1/17/2007 5:42:42 AM | Caught my now ex husband online with some woman on a dating site and he was referring to me {His wife} as a "Bad Situation" that he was going to get out of.....
I emailed her and introduced myself as "The Bad Situation called the wife" I assured her that he was about to get out of it for real ......I changed hi profile on that dating site to
Man looking for Man.....
I deleted hi sexy shirtless pics and replaced them with our wedding pic!!!
His sc name was English Stud so the caption under the pic was English Stud and his wife...
it was simple....I , being the owner of the computer went to his acct and changed his password using lost password Created a new one....Then did the same with the dating site. Got new password and began to mess up his lil world!!!
He got many emails from gay men and I replied to a few, offering his cell number!!!
Oh,,,,,,,,,,revenge can be sweet.....I said he is my ex didn't I????
His bad situation is now history and he gor deported back to UK.............I am | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 1/17/2007 10:05:02 AM | | Guess people are on here for all sorts of different reasons. If I see the red flags and/or a bad situation brewing, I'm done with the relationship (for lack of a better term). But hey, that's just me. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 2/7/2007 11:03:14 AM | well my ex BF was living with me and posting personal ads all over the internet. I caught him and he said it was from when we broke up, I was like, well then delete the accounts.
All of a sudden last night, he send me an IM saying he found me on this dating website.. I was like YEAH, I am SINGLE. Anyway, needless to say he turned it around on me, and guess what he is now on this sitem saying he is ready, willing and able. Funny how they can turn it around on you...
Anyway, thanks for letting me banter.
Still feeling hurt from all the words he said to me...
Jeannie | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 2/7/2007 12:45:17 PM | "Grass is greener on the other side, always.....or so it seems"
well the saying is the grass is greener over the septic tank but we know whats in the septic tank .. | |
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