| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 8/8/2007 8:05:23 AM | This online thing is new to me. Opportunities are endless with finding mates here. Click , type, and click brings abrupt visual, sensing, and cognitive stimuli that fills our screens. The plausability for addiction is very real.
Our fast paced society demands fast paced interaction and relationships where the divorce rate is high and there are other fish in the sea to view and chat with at our beck and call- creating a quick fix emotional high. It is not suprising that online dating falls into the typical addictive throw away mentality that consumption demands.
I don't know about the rest of you, but life is too short to spend time diddly daddlying around with fast paced relationships. Friends are great. However, if you are looking for a long term relationship, then one must be aware of whether their online dating male is an addict for quick fixing and key pressing jargon- or the real thing. I just don't have the time.
The man I choose will have the depth and quality that is not representative of such an addictive personality. He will be one like me, looking for quality and commitment to a relationship past the online high that entices us toward each other. The honeymoon of passion and love is important, however, when the chemicals in our brains subside, it is then that we are challenged to embrace our partners with love in reality.
If my male was going online for a quick fix, I would want to work it out with him. However, if it continued, I would conclude that his quick fixing is more of a pattern, and not what I want.
Best of luck with cyperspace. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 9/17/2007 8:23:11 PM | How sad that you resorted to such an extreme manner of revenge. I would tend to agree with his synopsis- "You are a bad situation!". Perhaps he experienced this vindictive personality already. It shows your mental state to be quite sad. If anything, I feel sorry for you. Those laughs are clearly a front for years of hurt prior to him-----he just happened to become part of it.
Best wishes with your seemingly healthy, but clearly morbid approach to dealing with hurt.
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 9/17/2007 8:27:10 PM | got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 8/8/2007 10:05:23 AM
This online thing is new to me. Opportunities are endless with finding mates here. Click , type, and click brings abrupt visual, sensing, and cognitive stimuli that fills our screens. The plausability for addiction is very real.
Our fast paced society demands fast paced interaction and relationships where the divorce rate is high and there are other fish in the sea to view and chat with at our beck and call- creating a quick fix emotional high. It is not suprising that online dating falls into the typical addictive throw away mentality that consumption demands.
I don't know about the rest of you, but life is too short to spend time diddly daddlying around with fast paced relationships. Friends are great. However, if you are looking for a long term relationship, then one must be aware of whether their online dating male is an addict for quick fixing and key pressing jargon- or the real thing. I just don't have the time.
The man I choose will have the depth and quality that is not representative of such an addictive personality. He will be one like me, looking for quality and commitment to a relationship past the online high that entices us toward each other. The honeymoon of passion and love is important, however, when the chemicals in our brains subside, it is then that we are challenged to embrace our partners with love in reality.
If my male was going online for a quick fix, I would want to work it out with him. However, if it continued, I would conclude that his quick fixing is more of a pattern, and not what I want.
Best of luck with cyperspace. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 12/1/2007 4:09:22 AM | | I think that is histerical good on you I had a grin from ear to ear.. It has never happend to me but how smart were you . Hope you find what you are looking for | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 12/1/2007 1:15:35 PM | Right On, my last girlfriend who is now 50 & whom I met on ChristaNet turned out to be one of the biggest liars & cheaters I ever met. I am glad she finally found the low life person she deserves to suffer w/two. She even told me I was too good for her. Now I know I was too good for her.
Moral here is somebody better is coming along...It's about patience & wisdom. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 12/6/2007 5:51:51 AM |
What I have experienced and noticed. POF is free! So it will bring out the nastiest-pathetic players on the planet! Try $$paying$$ for love. That way you will know maybe they will be more genuine and heart-felt. Internet allows the men to keep "hunting" without being noticed too drastically. So when something like this is "free" be prepared to not be so "free-willing" to accept the dudes that you do actually meet on POF. Protect yourself first and dont assume anything from a guy on here, if they are still posted or in hiding I will assure you they are not interested in settling down with You! It is hard to swallow but men just have the driven force to keep hunting.... especially with the youngens on here! I have been begged by many young gents on here. They would be willing to even pay $$$ me to have an encounter; so with that said; it is a lonely world out there - maybe we are all looking for love in all the wrong places? And one being the Internet! Pay as you go may work better or better yet give Dr. Phil a call and maybe he could match you up with someone on his TV program Match.com! tee hee
Thank you Trinket....... I really did come on this site taking it at face value but as I go along, I am constantly amazed by the people....in email etiquette or postings that I encounter.....then I remind myself of exactly what you say..... POF is free! So it will bring out the nastiest-pathetic players (and losers too) on the planet!
Now I try not to get excited any any contacts because in the grand scheme of thing it is basically like buying a lotto ticket......can't start spending before you win.....and chances of hooking up with someone here are very slim to none. The really good ones are in great demand and go very quickly...........
Most of them have been burnt so badly anyway that they are all about getting back at women so I will fail whatever test they put out. I still feel good about myself so I am not going to accept any less than I am giving | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 12/6/2007 6:10:35 AM | | must have slipped his coller or the leash was to long...is he allowed to talk to his sister...cut the phone cord quick | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 12/6/2007 2:30:53 PM | | I had dated someone too for about 6 months, he was respectful, never looked or even flirted with another girl when we went out, he was everything I had wanted and we both agreed what we wanted out of the relationship was trust and faithfulness and we agreed to delete our profiles on pof but he added it back on no more than 2 days later, but he hid his picture. I guess so if I looked I wouldnt see it and started messaging girls again. And his profile never sounded like just friends, I wont put up with this and I dont know who would, I am too good for that and I can find myself someone who wont do that to me and so can you jazzgirl, good luck to you. Im sure not all men are like that. Im sure there are some good ones out there for us. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 12/6/2007 2:53:21 PM | | Sorry you got your heart broken. Whether or not he says what he was doing wasn't cheating, he's wrong. If you're doing something that you can't tell your other half about, then you're cheating. I was with a man for 15 years who thought stripbars weren't cheating, and phone sex wasn't cheating. Really!!!! It's hard to find a good one, but they are out there somewhere, but not on line, it's too easy to cheat. Keep your chin up, but my advice is not to take him back no matter what he says. Computers are everywhere. It's easy to meet others. All the best. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 1/20/2008 7:55:26 AM | | Hottie61, the same thing happened to me. I was involved with someone for over a year - really loved him and would have done anything for him. His profile went back up on here one day a few months ago. He told me it was his daughter playing around on the site and he didn't even know the password to get on - he wasn't looking for anyone else and didn't even care about the site. Uh huh. Well, make a long story short, I got into his profile and read some of the emails he wrote. He was giving out his phone number, arranging meetings.... it hurt, but like another poster said, better to find out now than down the line. Some guys can't see green grass when they are standing in it... | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 1/20/2008 8:15:04 AM |
when they are dating someone exclusive?
So you 2 did have the "we aren't seeing other people" talk? Or you just made that assumption?
If he SAID that he wasn't seeing other people, and that you 2 were exclusive, then yeah, it's not right what he did.
If the 2 of you seemed to not be seeing other people, but hadn't talked and stated "We're an item, not seeing other people" then I don't see the issue.
To me, "the talk" is the line. I may date several women "at once", but once I pick one and we agree we want to try going to the next level, then that's it, I'm just with her and no one else. | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 2/10/2008 7:37:51 AM | I can so relate.... But just be happy you didnt waste anymore time with this fool! and now you are the wiser for it!. I do think that there are a few "REAL" men online. but there are lots of duds to weed through first. Be happy you didnt marry him and then find out he was a shmuck!. Ive had my share of online B.S'ers, I even spent 6 months dating the biggest male whore on the planet. I know the heart knows what it wants, but sometimes ladies you have to listen with your head first, and use your brains. Good Luck Ladies....
Denise  Everytime I see this I think of a dancing penis, thats what most men are anyway... giant penis's with legs.... lmao | |
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| got my heartbroken by online cheater
Posted: 2/10/2008 8:14:20 PM | | Bottom line is this, if you two are supposed to be exclusive then he shouldn't have even been on that site, the trust factor if it was me in your shoes would be gone, don't let him tell you it was just checking things out. It was cheating. If you arestill with this guy , see what his reaction would be if you were to check out some guys and let him catch you in the act, then tell him it was nothing, see how he feels. Like I said the trust is gone, you will probably always doubt what he says, do you really need this in your life. Does anyone? | |
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