| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 5/17/2004 12:26:19 PM | | Chemistry first, no use forcing things and wasting spit on blahs when there is obviously nothing there to begin with. You'll know when you have it. It's an instant connection and no amount of time together will make it work when it's not there to begin with. | |
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 5/17/2004 12:44:06 PM | | meeting soemone for the first time is not a dress rehearsal...you only get one shot at it. make it the best and if sparks fly great//if not..the first impression is gone and you blew it. | |
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 10/1/2009 2:38:19 PM | I've been obsessed with this question for more than a couple of decades & the only thing I see in common between couples who have stayed together is: they sometimes feel like they never want to see their partners again -- but for whatever reason, they don't immediately lay plans to leave. The discord fades, and loving feelings return. It happens in a continuous cycle.
Inevitably, the on-line path & the real-life path merge into the same main road, if there is a real relationship -- the Real Life road, lived in real time, such that where or how you originally met doesn't matter any more. The on-line path is a legitimate short-cut, but only in helping decide whether or not, the two people might want to get to know each other better, in real life.
That the online aspect gets abused, misused, mistreated, and misunderstood, doesn't take away from its being an excellent tool; and I believe most users are evolving in our understanding of how to use it wisely. | |
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 10/1/2009 2:49:41 PM | for a second i thought this was a sex toy thread...
practice practice and practice...
a relationship is about being open honest and considering how the other feels. Non of these things comes natural to humans so we must stay diligent and practice.
Humans are self centered individuals and i know some would disagree with that last statement but most would not know what the truth was if it hit them at 55mph. | |
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| What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 10/1/2009 4:55:50 PM | Don't you think that after starting a free dating website it is bad advetising for you to come to the forums and post a redundant topic?
Where is the redundant topic deletion police when you need them?
The society where relationships worked has vanished. Welcome to the me generation era of dating and relationshipping.
If we knew how relationships work, we would be in relationships that work and you won't be seeing much of us on here.
They might work if you make the option who deleted whose messages read and unread obsolete. It's creating loads of werewolves on here.
Just a thought. | |
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| What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 10/1/2009 8:44:22 PM | one what?
A person?
What does it take to make a person work?
A relationship?
I'm confused....anyone else?
Edit (OOPS!)
So what is the difference when you start a relationship online vs meeting at a coffee shop grocery store etc ?
For me? I'm more cautious about meeting and dating someone online than in a coffee shop environment which is probably fool hardy but I believe more nut jobs loiter all day long online than in coffee shops...generally speaking those who loiter all day long in coffee shops are easily identifiable....they twitch and jerk and are like ADD people on crack.
Online whack jobs are more subtle, you have to usually play the line a bit, know what questions to ask before committing to the "telephone" stage, then the "meeting" stage, then the "getting acquainted" stage....
I'm not a coffee shop loiterer. I also don't lull shop in malls. I'm rarely standing still long enough in one spot to form a "relationship" of interest in a shop, store, or grocer. Possibly a Farmer's Market but....seems unlikely knowing my lifestyle.
I sort of see online dating similar to my online Christmas Shopping experiences. I know what I am looking for, I know where I want to "browse", and I know when I see what I want.
That being said I also know upon seeing what I do NOT want.
Advance to check out.
Thanks for shopping!
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| Re: What does it take to make one work?
Posted: 10/1/2009 9:05:23 PM | I think for me online is easier to talk and get to know a person more indepth than we would in person. What I have found in RL, meeting for the first time allows society to dictate.
Online I know for me, I have met some wonderful people by the conversations we have had. I guess the conversations tend to get more indepth quicker, which makes the weeding process a bit quicker I think.
I also think for alot of us that are so busy in the RL at the coffee shop,gym, library, grocery store all have one thing on our minds get in and get out.
Online has also broadened the reach of meeting people. I live on a very small island which makes my dating pool rather small, where on POF there is a whole world range of dating.
Anyway my thoughts on the subject. | |
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