kmhstx
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Posted: 10/4/2006 2:39:04 PM | | This is why I go to the gym when no one is there...or I would rather be at a all female gym. But I basically don't want men around.....I don't want to know that they are thinking anything. Its hard enough being large in normal everyday life...but at the gym where everyone is already fit and inshape, and you are in your giant t shirt sweating from walking fast and the next person is running a mile a minute and barely breathing heavy. Thats not fun. But hey I'm going....but I really hate the thought of having any attention on myself when I go...I would rather become invisible. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 2:51:14 PM | | the above post reeks of insecurities | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 28 | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 3:02:17 PM | | Of course it does lol the one area in my life that I am insecure about is my body...hell I doubt you are secure about everything in your life. But I over come and I go and work out....I enjoy the feeling I get from working out. And I know its good for me. But I also wish that I was invisible around people who have perfected this part of their lives....one day I hope to change that but hey I was just being honest in how I feel. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 3:02:58 PM | >>the above post reeks of insecurities
And your point would be...?
She basically said going to the gym with lots of fit people makes her insecure. That was the whole point of her post. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 3:15:03 PM | Okay let me say this overcome your insecurities - go to the gym work hard - get serious -- dont give a flying fark what others may think or say
2 years ago i was the goodyear blimp -- i went to the gym and focuused soley on my training the same way tigerwoods said here in his post -- didnt even acknowledge people were around me
zone out --- dont even think about others around you -- they are not thinking about you 1 bit at all --- they are most likely focussing on their training
womens only gyms are discriminatory by the way
but you have to work hard -- how hard yo work depends on how much you want it
the more you want it the harder you work the sooner you get results | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 3:20:14 PM | Hahah I'll clearify that no I don't mean literally a 400lbs person. Sorry!
And I'll agree with the woman above, in saying I prefer to work out in a women's only gym, only because of how rude some men can be. Can only zone someone out so much until it starts to annoy you when theyre staring at you. Just an uncomfortable feeling. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 3:22:03 PM | and you dont think guys get stared at to the point of it being creepy ?
somehow only women are always the victim huh | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 3:36:04 PM | Be honest, Roo--we men like getting stared at. By women, anyhow.
Edit: not saying it happens to me often--but when it does, I enjoy it as much as the next guy. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 3:46:09 PM | | I too was once overweight, when I went to the gym I didnt care who was staring at me, as long as i was there. The harder i worked the better the results got. Getting in shape is not easy if it were there wouldnt be the rate of obiese people we have in north America. I dont look down on overweight people for working out, but apparently Roo and I are a holes because we go and bust are aces off every day to achieve the look we want. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 3:49:15 PM | | And how about a little honesty from the women? Some of you like getting stared at, sometimes. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 9:47:15 PM |
Is it a total turn off or are you going, "hey, nice to see youre doing something about it"
Total turn off? As if he would be intersted in her? I'm not sure why that was asked. Or do you mean it as in people being disgusted by seeing an obese person?
I think that most of us go to work out and NOT as "just another place to meet people" appreciate anyone who makes an effort in bettering him/herself. There will always be immature people who will react with disgust and maybe even laugh but I think other peope's reaction to that would shut them up pretty quickly. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 8:17:42 AM | I give anyone/everyone credit for going to the gym. It would be hard to be the largest person at the gym-and know you are being stared at/judged for getting that large/unfit. But I think "bless them for making a change/step towards getting fit/healthy".
I have to convince myself to attend most days-and I hate the small minded ppl there that think they are "all that" because they look so perfect. They are arrogant/rude/judgmental of others-and they should just stfu. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 9:27:06 AM |
Gym memberships are expensive, and I just don't see the point in going to one if you're going to do the same thing you could do at home by walking around the block once or twice.
I understand why someone would think that but please elaborate your thougth process a little and eventually you might come to think of that some people will work harder if they are in the company of others doing the same thing. A person who has paid the membership will most likely use it because it's an incentive as is being in an environment that conduces activity.
If you stay at home the temptation of sitting on the sofa might very well outweigh the thought of walking around the block. There is no pull. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 9:49:36 AM | You're sweet.
And a fellow Edmontonian...cool.
Anyways, to answer your thread. When I am at the gym, I am that guy that goes at the same time every day. I get to know the people that go at that time. There are the people that are significantly overweight in there. And yes, it's not pretty. But you know what, they're in there, busting their ass to get healthy again. It took a lot of courage to go to a gym in sweats when everyone can see them and I'm sure they feel the stares of everyone at all times.
These are the people that can use the most encouragement, someone to go up to them and build them up. It would probably very easy to demoralize and discourage a person like that. So I do talk to them and tell them what a good job they're doing.
If it's a girl that's just a few extra pounds, but in the right places...hey, I might even be oogling her a bit. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 5:28:15 PM | Not everyone goes to the gym to get rock-hard abs and 20-inch biceps. Nor should anyone that goes to the gym be expected to exercise at the level that YOU prefer.
I have mild asthma and a family history of high blood pressure. I try to get to the gym at least twice a week for 30 minutes just to ride a bike (70 rpms level 7 - roughly 9 miles) or fast-walk the treadmill (level 3 or above, grade 3 or above - ~ 3 miles). And believe me, I can still read a book while maintaining those speeds.  At least one or two other days a week, I'll use the machines to stretch and tone.
My doctor has concurred that my asthma does much better with regular activity like this - it increases lung capacity and stamina, and relieves stress.
I'm not there trying to look like a roid-bunny. And personally, I think I look like crap during/after my work out with my sweaty face, hair escaping wildly out of my scrunchy and my shorts stuck to my sweaty a$$. So don't talk to me after I've started my work out - you'll embarrass me.  | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 5:39:43 PM | | I prefer to work out where EVERYONE can see me - it's my motivation! And when I see a heavier person working out, the ONLY thing I think is good for them, they are there and doing it not talking about it. It's not easy going to a gym if you are overweight or out of shape - I think people need to feel supported in their efforts and not laughed at. No one is perfect, and evryone has something about themselves I'll bet they would change if they could - weight is just more obvious. I think it takes a lot of guts to do this when you are fat and no one has the right to judge someone just on their weight alone, ESPECIALLY if they are at a gym to do get healthier. Have to start somewhere... | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 5:56:27 PM | Hell, I'm a fat guy (>300lbs) but when I go to the gym and work out, I don't care if I look like I just rolled out of bed, I'm there to work my ass off. I'm by no means a gym snob, I think everyone who has even a slight inclination to go should go. But I don't think you will see results if you're working out so that everyone else in the gym sees you getting skinnier. The only reason you should be there is because YOU want to. If you are working out for the sake of others, getting results will be near impossible.
I understand how some women would prefer to work out without other guys present. My gym has a second level that is for such people. But you know what? I never see anyone up there.
I'm as insecure as they come. But when I go to the gym, I put on my headphones and while I'm doing cardio, I just close my eyes and work as hard as I can until the time has passed. When I see people in the gym who are overweight like me, I want to shake their hands. Yes, they let themselves go, but they've taken the first step. Many fail, but those who truely have courage will get back on the horse as many times as it takes. Going to the gym has become part of my routine and it has paid off in dividends. I have lost a bit of weight (~20lbs) but my mind is sharper, I'm in a better mood, I have energy.
But I stopped in the past and may stop again. This time I elected to get a trainer and I see him once a week. To those who say going to a personal trainer is out of your budget, add up the amount of garbage you put in your body (a lot of overweight people eat out habitually) and it will probably be cheaper to see the trainer.
I have borderline TSH levels and I know I have a bit of genetics working against me, but nothing that can't be overcome. I encourage everyone to be honest with yourselves. Going to the gym has allowed me to love myself, something I couldn't do before; if you don't love yourself, how do you expect others to feel that way about you?
To those that need some encouragement, google up John Stone and see what willpower and perseverence did for him.
Regards. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 6:10:50 PM | | I think "Why am I not focusing on my workout?" then I go back to working out. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 8:04:47 PM |
Well most of us goto the gym. I find it's just another place to meet people while getting a workout. But I've always wondered...
Guys, when you see a bigger girl (one whom maybe is a few extra or one who is 400lbs extra) working out, what is going through your brain? Is it a total turn off or are you going, "hey, nice to see youre doing something about it"
I'm almost thinking that I should try talking to her and maybe even becoming a workout partner. Like you said "it's nice to see they're doing something about it," and them having added motivation only helps matters. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 8:13:38 PM | | I love the gym because it feels great to work out and uplifting afterwards. Seeing someone that is, as described as being heavier is not a turn off. Every woman at a gym is not for me a potential pursuit, regradless of her physical condition, although I do admire a woman in my age bracket that has taken good care of herself. I respect anyone there that's putting in a genuine effort and realize that for some that waited perhaps a bit too long to start going, that it's going to take extra effort and some tenacity to shape up. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 8:32:48 PM | Well, seeing someone whos fat at the gym is an indication that they are just starting out and want to lose the weight..or it means that they like to say they go to the gym but only go about once or twice a month. Or maybe they actually do go regularily but continue eating crap. Seeing someone fat at the gym is a seeing something transistory. That's the whole idea of the gym: to make yourself into something new and improved. Very few people are just born ripped or toned that you see at the gym. You have to work hard and be consistent.
If I see a fat chick at the gym it's not gross. She should just make sure she really wants to do it. If there's one thing that bothers me it's the non-regulars who are fat or skinny or whatever who come in every once in a while and you just know they are never going to see any results because they are not commited. THere's nothing that is more valuable to see at the gym than someone's determination to change. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 8:59:16 PM | I think it's great when an overweight woman chooses to go to the gym. She's obviously set goals for herself, and is serious about meeting them. Actually, there is a very pretty woman at my gym who is overweight. She would be an absolute knockout if she was to lose a lot of that weight.
However, I have to admit that she is the only one I've noticed, but I absolutely approve of any overweight woman who wants to improve her health. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2006 9:00:03 PM | | When I see someone that has a few extra pounds @ the gym, I am thinking good for you!! | |
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Posted: 10/6/2006 4:02:46 AM | | I respect them. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2006 10:12:18 AM | I don't judge any person by their weight and how they get their workout is benefical to everyone.
If your at the gym, swimming laps, aqua classes, walking or riding a bike, the person is doing movement and getting their blood moving in their body.
I see many types of body shapes in a gym, pool, riding a bike or walking, and I don't come to a conclusion to why their thin, average, overweight. First of all, its not our business, we don't know them or have them as a friend.
We should spend less time wondering if that overweight person is working out, and focus on your workout and get the best results with your time in your fitness routine. | |
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