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Posted: 4/13/2008 11:22:42 AM | i say lets be real ..yes they do theres no other way to answer this ...i say when you lock eyes with girl/guy and if theres a click then proceed to target..i f not there are 6 billion people on this planet come now theres gotta be someone out there for ya!  | |
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| Does looks really matter or is it a +++ Bonus Package? +++
Posted: 4/14/2008 3:20:07 AM | It took me a while to come to this conclusion...yes, it does...maybe it shouldn't but...this is a dating site, which is a form of mate selection...a few years ago, I took a class in evolutionary psychology. Alot of it had to do w/ the hardwired behaviors of men & women, what we inherited from our ancestors, that animalistic part of us...some of it has been our life experience (ie. a man who likes blondes & his Mom was a blonde) & we get a "lovemap"!
Ultimately, a relationship will fail or stick due to our personalities & character... HOWEVER a relationship will not jumpstart w/o the bait that attracts the fishie...is this right or wrong? it's just the way things are...no answer to that one!
A few years ago, I met a gent in the forums & got to know him a bit from online & the phone...he had alot of wisdom...he was from Detroit...I am paraprasing here...he said honestly, do people come here saying I want to meet someone as ugly as a mudpost???
I'm sure there are many attractive people in here, but how many are attractive & have the character traits that you value?
My opinion is we can say looks don't matter, this & that doesn't matter, but then we'd be living in the Land of Denial. If you want to be successful in dating, embrace reality & make the best of it.
I'd also say watch The Millionaire Matchmaker TV show & listen to Patti Stanger, alot of people don't like what she has to say about men & women, because the truth hurts. | |
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| Does looks really matter or is it a +++ Bonus Package? +++
Posted: 4/14/2008 9:44:59 PM | | Ok I have a perfect example of this toptic to that may say opposite, but I still do think they do matter. But I met this lady a couple weeks back and was totally attracted to her physically, but never could get into her emotionally. Just wasn't my type. So in essence I guess I could date some lady with a little less looks but more of a personality to my liking. Isn't it such a tough call? | |
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| Does looks really matter or is it a +++ Bonus Package? +++
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:21:40 AM | | The most important thing to me is good conversation. Plus I find a girl being educated on a subject I'm interested in, but not educated on, so... so sexy. I'd much rather have someone I could talk to all night and not realize it until the morning sun is blinding me through the curtains, than a hot little chick that can only talk about her hair and nails. | |
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| Does looks really matter or is it a +++ Bonus Package? +++
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:09:27 PM | | I'm not looking to date a girl that looks like a super model, but someone I have strong chemistry with. Looks matter, but you can be attracted to many different looks. I've dated girls that were preppy, gothic, tall, short, thin, chunky and I found all of them appealing. I think it helps build a strong relationship if you find your partner beautiful. | |
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| Does looks really matter or is it a +++ Bonus Package? +++
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:30:15 PM | | Growing up I was such an ugly duckling and was shunned and had only ugly friends. I was so distraught being judged by what I could NOT control (my outer shell ) I was not shy but very outgoing. I would do anything for friends. Through thick and thin, etc etc. Later in life I got pretty and then guys wanted to know me. I only picked the not so model types to go with cause I was there, and know that thier heart was good. Find someone you like for whats inside and that you can talk to and be friends with. When the looks are gone when you both get older then whats going to keep the 2 of you together? are you going to dump them for someone more attractive? Wanting to be turned on by an attractive person is fine for one night stands, fwb, or short term flings. But if you are looking for long-term, skip the looks and go for the heart. | |
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| Does looks really matter or is it a +++ Bonus Package? +++
Posted: 7/8/2008 11:43:29 PM | | Attraction is a strange thing.You can be in a group of people and look at a person and not be initially attracted to the way they look and then you get into conversation,they make you laugh,they are good company and your perception changes and suddenly they become attractive to you.Men are much more visual i think.What is attractive to me may be butt ugly to someone else.Like i said,attraction is a strange thing. | |
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| Does looks really matter or is it a +++ Bonus Package? +++
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:15:53 AM | Yes looks matter,if you are female and don't fall in to the slim/good looking/busty category you will find it a lot harder to find someone and if you are male and don't fall into to the tall/dark/rich/handsome range you will find it almost impossible to find someone.
They shouldn't matter,but in this day and age people are programed by the media and their peers to chase so called "Perfection" and we are told that anything else is unacceptable.
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| Does looks really matter or is it a +++ Bonus Package? +++
Posted: 7/9/2008 10:11:13 AM | OP,
Looks matter to some more than others. I checked your profile and you are young, and have not single listed. So why are you asking if you are with someone. You are with someone for reasons. Ask yourself are you with him because of his looks? Then you may have your answer to your own question. | |
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| Does looks really matter or is it a +++ Bonus Package? +++
Posted: 8/5/2008 2:39:00 AM |
Okay...It seems like some guys only care about a girls looks than what she has to offer...So my question is, well....lol....Does looks really matter???
Hell Yeah it matters? Does it matter if you prepare or dress up for a job interview? Not if you don't want the position - so why apply in the first place.
Best profiles I ever saw on this site was
NerdStatus who created a resume like profile AWESOME!
improvised_life who created a legal contract like profile starting with "The party of the first part..."
I think these two hit the nail right on the head. I keep my package good cause I want to not only land the best darn "xxx", but I want to hold on too.
xxx - insert what ever it is that you want in life - without effort, it can never be attained. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2008 4:23:48 AM | NO they DOESN"T!!!! LMFAO!!!!
BRAVO SOUL UNION!!!!!!! - "Do looks really matter. Not, does looks really matter.
You wouldn't say, 'Is my legs OK?' I think you should concentrate on your spelling and grammar. Pick up a book one day and read it. Educate yourself. Enlighten your mind. Don't worry about 'does' looks. "
My thoughts exactly!!! and how funny is it that the chick with her a$$ out in one pic and her t#*s out in the other is asking about looks?!?!?!  | |
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| Does looks really matter or is it a +++ Bonus Package? +++
Posted: 10/7/2008 4:41:15 AM | | But it's not just actual looks that give a first impression of attractiveness (or not) - but it can be the whole manner of the person, their body language, the way they look at you, the way they speak, sometimes it can just be something you can't describe. This, to me, can be initial attraction, on what my be called the most 'superficial' level, but is of substance nonetheless. | |
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| Does looks really matter or is it a +++ Bonus Package? +++
Posted: 10/7/2008 10:28:00 AM | | I pretty much agree with everyone else on here. Looks matter at first, It's just the first thing that jumps starts attraction. Then after that...it's up to the persons likes and dislikes. Some people think that"All cats are grey in the dark" anyway. They're not interested in your mind... | |
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| Does looks really matter or is it a +++ Bonus Package? +++
Posted: 10/7/2008 3:15:13 PM | | Of course looks matter. Would you want to date someone you weren't attracted to? Would you really want to date someone who wasn't attracted to you? Looks are far from the only important factor, but if you're not feeling a physical attraction for someone, why would you try to be in a physical relationship with them? | |
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Posted: 10/7/2008 7:23:01 PM | | It's not really that he/she think you look good, but whether or not their friends think you look good. Its terrible, but very true. They think to themselves, "will I be proud or embarrassed to be seen with this person?" | |
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| Does looks really matter or is it a +++ Bonus Package? +++
Posted: 10/7/2008 11:41:48 PM |
Growing up I was such an ugly duckling and was shunned and had only ugly friends. I was so distraught being judged by what I could NOT control (my outer shell ) I was not shy but very outgoing. I would do anything for friends. Through thick and thin, etc etc. Later in life I got pretty and then guys wanted to know me. I only picked the not so model types to go with cause I was there, and know that thier heart was good. Find someone you like for whats inside and that you can talk to and be friends with. When the looks are gone when you both get older then whats going to keep the 2 of you together? are you going to dump them for someone more attractive? Wanting to be turned on by an attractive person is fine for one night stands, fwb, or short term flings. But if you are looking for long-term, skip the looks and go for the heart.
I couldn't agree with you more! This is one of the best posts that I have read for a long time.  | |
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