| Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 9/28/2009 8:59:08 AM |
A few days' pain, with a complications rate of about 2%? In exchange for pregnancy-worry-free sex for the rest of my life? No-brainer!
Actually Helen, it isn't a no-brainer. Take me for example... Mid 30s... many women my age still want kids.
And you know, I love my kids and I haven't completely ruled out having more (except with my Ex). The prospect of have a child with woman I love (who is also stable) doesn't scare me. Looking after a little baby doesn't scare me. Changing diapers doesn't scare me.
The real benefits for me are avoiding pregnancy with someone I wouldn't want to be with long term and the long term financial benefit of NOT having more kids.
Your words also allude to another false stereotype... that all men don't want or don't like kids. | |
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| Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 9/28/2009 9:15:56 AM | My ex talked about this with her co workers once and then told me about it when she got home. She said she would want me to do it because it's more complicated for a female to get tubes ties. It's a day surgery with an overnight stay, whereas for guys it's outpatient/go home the same day.
My best friend is STRONGLY against vasectomies. When I explained to him it's simpler to do by a long shot for men than females and wouldn't you want to save your wife from that pain and get one done? He said no way, she can do it, "I'm not."
To be fair though, he also won't go see a male doctor... well he'll go see one but he won't let the doctor touch his genitals. He told me because "he may rape/molest me."
He said he would let a female doctor, though. Just not a male.
But he was telling me of a time he had a female doctor when he was 17 and she said she needed to check his genitals, which was during a physical exam. He wouldn't let her. He kept telling her "I know what to look for" when she said she needed to make sure all is good down there (not exact words she said, I'm sure, I wasn't there), but he kept refusing | |
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| Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 10/5/2009 2:48:32 PM | | My cousin had it done the new way with clips said it was the only way to go no pain i helped him sheetrock the next day. and he was back screwing two days later it took him a month to empty out though. | |
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| Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 10/5/2009 3:01:47 PM | May as well contribute. I had a vasectomy in 2001 (since it was covered by insurance -- I’m “thrifty.”) I’d already had both kids, and at age 44 and certainly had no plans for any others regardless of any potential issues with my wife. Years later, I was talking to several friends, one of whom was trying to convince her husband how much easier it would be for him to have a vasectomy than for her to get a tubal ligation. What I hadn’t realized until that time was how many of my friends, probably ranging in age at the time from 40-46 ish had already had it done.
All procedures have risks, but it’s probably the best elective procedure I’ve ever had, and I’m glad I did it. And as for sitting on the ice for a weekend -- how often can you just sit in bed watching your TV shows or reading books for a whole weekend without being disturbed! Like: no trash to take out, no laundry to fold, no baths to give the kids -- it was like a mini-vacation! | |
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| Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 10/5/2009 6:48:10 PM | No big deal at all had it done in dec of 04 and have never been happier!!!
I really think it bumped up my sex drive!!!!....lol
Guys if you are done having kids I highly recommend it!!!
I am 42 do I really want to be having a kid getting out of High school when I am 60?!?!?!?!?
Just my 2 cents!!! | |
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| Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 10/5/2009 9:14:00 PM | | It is a very smart thing to do. I suspect the reason more men don't do it is they fear some lose of sexual potency. A myth, of course. But some guys still believe it. | |
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| Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 10/6/2009 11:11:05 AM | | Lets see for my ex? the big deal was it is not his responsibility to prevent pregnancy it is the womans only. In his world condoms don't exist as only women are at risk for stds... (in that case how do they spread I asked him if only women get them?) | |
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| Vasectomy - what's the big deal?
Posted: 10/6/2009 1:57:45 PM | meh, all my friends thought I was crazy for getting one. It was the best birthday present I ever gave to myself. I was 18. Had to go to 4 diff doctors to get it, but it has saved a life time of headache.
Now that they are all 40-42 and divorced and paying child support... they dont think it was such a bad idea. | |
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