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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/9/2006 9:03:36 AM | I am a single parent only because my wife died!
Much spoken about kids getting sexual younger etc. In fact given that if you are in many places most girls would have been married of by the age of 13 or 14 not so many decades ago this is simply not true. Our children are growing up slower than ever before and long may it continue.
The fact that young unmarried pregnant girls get to keep their babies is often the difference, when I was younger and definitely when my parents were younger, girls would occasionally go and stay with Aunty whatever, they were pregnant, the child normally went to a good home of parents unable to have children, such was the stigma of out of wedlock childbirth. So it is I guess for us all to decide which solution was better, kids bringing up kids or a solution to the adoption backlog! | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/9/2006 9:34:43 AM |
but they were most deffinatly planned by God...
the fact that you may have been saying/screaming OH MY GOD at the time of conception doesn't make the child planned by "GOD" | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/9/2006 9:37:37 AM |
society obviously isn't doing a good enough job these days teaching our teens and young people about becoming active members of the next generation.
what do we see on TV...movies, ads???....SEX SELLS!!!! thats one of the main things any advertising company uses now. half naked women leaning over sports cars, holding onto beer bottles. We advertise condoms, and birth control...but we rarely see advertisments that say..."do not drink, do not have sex!" ya know what i mean? everywhere we turn, we see things that promote everything we DON"T want our kids doing.
^^^ do you not think that this is the responsibility of the parents??? and if the parents are not able to cope with it themselves then it is their responsibility to seek the help. it is not socieity failing these teens --- it's their very own parents. -- that's my opinion. | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/9/2006 2:58:15 PM | A couple points... if I may...
My original point was more so of young sinle mothers, teenages having children and becoming a single parent when they are still children themselves.
Alot of us are single parents for various reasons. For me, this thread, as with the others that have gotten heated and deleted, was one of information, and realization of the number of young parents out there, combined with the tragic STD epidemic thats faced out there.
More so it was a thread to try and understand and hopefully get some insight as to what kids are thinking. I do what I can to learn, but theres always more to know, and being that I have serveral young ones in my life, I want to understand as much as I can to assist in giving them the knowledge to avoid this kind of situation.
I think in general parents and society have failed us. Liberated or not, I dont think sexual situations belong on prime time (yes I know how to change the channel) and I think we are living in a highly sexual dominated era. So what are our choices, solutions?
I also dont agree with this "new way of parenting" .. be friends with your kids, be their buddies. I think children look for and need a mentor, and dicipline is part of that. My kids and I are great friends, but the also know and respect that I am the authoritive figure and I hold the bottom line, therefore there is respect for me AS their father.
A healthy balance can be hard to maintain, but I for one feel it important to maintain such.
Single parent will always be part of how our society is made up, but how do we stop the inocence from being stolen from our children? | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/9/2006 3:46:13 PM | Why is there seemingly so many young single parents these days ?
Its not like sex Ed isnt there... we all know about birth control, but it seems like an increasing number of single parents are out there... and many more YOUNG single parents WHY ??
Of course they know all about birth control. That has nothing to do with. It is all about the money they can earn by receiving child support. Per http://www.nzherald.co.nz/section/story.cfm?c_id=2&objectid=10391528
Teenage girls who get pregnant deliberately plan to become mothers in the belief that a baby will improve the quality of their lives, a study has found.
The research reveals that girls as young as 13 are making a "career choice" by deciding to have children, since they see parenting as preferable to working in a dead-end job. | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/9/2006 6:01:47 PM | My college professor posed this question to us(circa 97)...we came to the conclusion that a lot of younger girls are very needy of male attention...they seek it out, and in order to keep the guy will often have a baby to sink those hooks into the guy...I'm amazed at the number of teens who view teen pregnancy as acceptable...in my day it was rare but these days it is like no big deal...I was asked by a student, "were u married to your baby's daddy" and one recently asked if my daughter had any kids (she just turned 19)...over the years three of my students have gotten pregnant during the school year(middle school)
it's not all about money either...because 14 and 15 yr old boys are not raking in dough and paying child support...
parents are also very ignorant as to what their kids are doing these days...most are addicted to the site my space...and if you ever look around on that site and see what kids are being exposed to...wow...
I too have run into many younger men in their 20's who are not married but have children with women they dated briefly...one sweet guy even had a one night stand at a party, and now has a daughter...a guy i dated in summer said he just got a girl pregnant....
it's a shame...children should be wanted and planned by parenat/parents truly committed and ready to raise them...not a constant reminder of a relationship gone bad, being young and dumb, or a party mishap | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/9/2006 6:05:13 PM | candid...i agree parents have responsibility to teach kids...but it is not happening...many of the generation coming up now are from broken homes or from homes where there has only been one parent...more than ever before are coming from foster homes too...these kids are not getting the information they need to make good decisions
and for the men out there...even if u are not involved with your daughter's mother anymore, please be involved in your daughter's life...it is a well proven fact that girls are more promiscuous when not surrounded by positive male role models...if they get no love from the most important male in their life, they will seek it elsewhere | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/10/2006 1:29:15 AM |
we have parents who give their children weed, give our children smokes, buy our kids liqour....and why? its because parents are becoming more lenitent, and are in a mind set that "my child will do it anyways...". those small things lead up to the reason why we have so many minors giving birth every day.
Just wondering if there are any statistics as too the population of parents who buy their kids pot and booze and smokes and the stats on whether those are the teens getting pregnant?? I don't believe that is a direct cause of young parents giving birth! The lack of education can NOT be an excuse...are your kids school age? They teach about sex and drugs pregnancy and STD's in schools...they all know the consequences. I did!! 
How many families do you know actually sit down every evening AT the dinner table and have a family meal?
We don't spend EVERY meal at the dinner table but we spend most of them there!!
This is what leads 12, 14, 17 19 year olds to go find sexual partners.
I didn't know a meal spent at a place other then the dinner table was the cause of teens finding sexual partners!!??
so i think the reasons leading up to my 17 year old pregnancy was that i just wanted someone to focus on me
This is only YOUR reason and a selfish one at that!! The excuse for my 15 year old pregnancy was that I was in love with a boy I lived with for 4 years. I thought he was it, I was young and so was he. I wouldn't call my daughter a mistake because I did know the outcome of what we were doing. I have always loved kids and babies, and the thought of having one myself was special to me! I wouldn't take back my decision for anything in the world, we have a great relationship and BOTH my daughters are extremely well educated on the ways of the world but they will make their own decisions in life and it is our job to love and support them!!
Maybe this is why as a single YOUNG mom, i take it really personally when people make comments about the amount of young un-wed parents...because we shouldn't be making comments about it - we should be taking those young parents, and supporting them so that we can turn our sex craved and liqour fueled society and go back to the basics.
Why would you take it so personally? You chose to have a child un-wed "knowing" that society will label you as an UN-WED SINGLE YOUNG MOM...you made your bed!! As I did aswell! Why do you take offence to a decision you made?? Who cares what people think..if your happy and your kids are happy then why allow it to bother you?
The parents of the young teen should be supporting her/him not the government!!
Going back to the basics?? It's the technology, it's the whole economy...not just an advertisment on TV.
How about this...Our government should charge no taxes, lower the cost of renting or buying houses, lower the gas and electric prices, up the minimum wage...etc....
Teens are bad these days cause it's not easy out there, parents can't afford to put their children through school, people can't hack it in the real world so they depend on drugs and alcohol to lessen the pain of failure. Not everyone came from great homes and not everyone is a good parent but we are all our own persons and we make our own decisions in life. I left home at 12 years old because my parents got divorced and I was sick of seeing my family sad. It's not the reason I chose to have a baby, I accept responsibility for my actions not pass the blame on my parents!
i don't think any parent wants to raise their child in a single parent home.
I LOVE raising my daughters in a single parent home!! They get all my attention, no parental disputes, no tention, and they spend more time now with their dad then they ever did while we were together!! They get the best of 2 worlds and a break from both parents and more spoiled!! We wake up every morning, crank the tunes, do a little dance around the living room, and get ready for our day! At night we watch movies, we crash in my king-sized bed or we pass out in the living room! It's like a never ending pj party!! My kids have everything they could ask for and more, they dress well, they have manners, and they have a good understanding of whats right and wrong! I educate my daughters, who are 9 and 3 (3 year old is still to young but she gets to hear some of whats apropriate), on drugs and the effects it has and what they look like, they know about sex and the STD's you can catch and the chance of getting pregnant, they know about pretty much anything!
You have to educate them young, and support them through their mistakes in life! I see often parents that threaten to disown their children for mistakes they make...This is wrong!! My mom NEVER turned her back on me BUT she still made me do what needed to be done! I raised my daughters with no help other then emotional support and love!! She never judged me for my decisions although she clearly expressed her opinions good or bad! She even stuck up for me when people told her I was too young to have a baby, she knew I would be ok!
and i do my best for them so they aren't being raised by daycare workers and wearing second hand clothes
How do you provide for your children being a single mom? I work full-time, my kids are not "raised" by daycare workers but they do spend time with them...that's reality! How do you work then if you don't use daycare? | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/10/2006 4:17:23 AM | for every great single mom like yourself BADGIRL there are too many who are struggling...and a lot of kids raising themselves...because mom is working trying to make ends meet or she is young and trying to live her life that she feels she is missing out on...
my mom loved my father, she was 16 and thought the only way my grandparents would let them get married was to get pregnant...they made a coscience decision as teenagers to bring me into the world...it was irresponsible...in love or not...too young...they got married and within a year, my father was cheating on my mother...my mother was lucky to have the support of her parents in raising me...but she struggled...she never finished high school and at age 58 works two jobs to make ends meet....I never met my father til i was 20 and have never been able to have a relationship with him...
my nephew's mom has four kids by four different men...my nephew was number 2...I love my nephew and do things with him whenever possible as my brother has absolutely no involvement in his life...I wish i could do more for the other three kids, but I can't.....he's 13 now and very impressionable...his mom got on drugs and the kids were placed with the maternal grandparents as part of the foster system....his own father did not even come forward to try and get custody...I was not even made aware of the situation so I couldn't try either....what kind of effect does that have on a child...my brother sees nothing wrong with his actions obviously, he has a wife and another son (he also had a child when he was 15 that was adopted out and I've never met that neice)
I applaud you for raising your kids to the best of your abilities, and seeing that they become healthy well adjusted adults....but I just see so many kids who are not so lucky...and often the cycle continues and they have kids very young before they are ready | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/10/2006 8:58:34 AM |
for every great single mom like yourself BADGIRL there are too many who are struggling
Please don't get me wrong belly18dancer, I struggled too! I left my parents home at 12..lived with my highschool friend whos mother was a junky and a prostitute. I came home and found people fixing up and nodding off and people smoking crack and sweating and getting all paraniod! I was into stealing cars and doing whatever I could to support myself (all wrong things). In the proccess of my madness I met a guy, I was in love and content with him. We spent a lot of time together and then something bad happend and we got seperated. I moved back with my mom at this time, I got myself back into school and started calming down. I searched for this boy trying to find his family and anyone that would know where he was. Finally I got in touch with his father and about 3 days later he called me. We moved in together and I played housewife at 13 and got pregnant (by choice)at 15. Him and I only lasted until her first b-day and we split because of his drug issues, this still continues to be a problem for him!
I raised my daughter on my own, we struggled for a few years, I was young and still did things that young people do, I never did get into drugs..never touched cocaine in my life or any hard drug for that matter. My mom took my daughter for one weekend every month so I could have fun, but the next day I would call her crying because I missed my daughter. Our house burnt down once and we lost everything we owned including beds and clothes and we had no insurance.
My theory on life is love can concur all!! It doesn't matter if you live in a box or eat out of a garbage can, as long as you love your kids and have fun with them, nothing else matters!! Life is what you make of it and your kids only know what you show them, small things can make a child happy and they would never notice the bad times as long as you make it fun!!
Too many parents are selfish these days, they say they are broke but yet they drink, smoke, or have drug habits. I think that a lot of the kids, that were raised with these parents with these issues, end up better people in life because of what they have had to experience or see themselves. I have seen and met people that have gone through bad situations and learned and matured from them, I have also seen the people that make this their problem in life and go down wrong paths, and I have seen the rich spoiled kids that came from amazing homes and mothers that end up in bad places. I just don't think YOUNG pregnancies are caused from living with a single parent, or not eating with your child at the dinner table... as I stated in my previous post 
I just see so many kids who are not so lucky...and often the cycle continues and they have kids very young before they are ready
I seen that a previous poster wrote something about how "back in the day" people we still having kids at a young age! My Grandma wass 15 when she had her first and society was different then and we were at the basics. | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/10/2006 9:18:02 AM | Admittedly, I did not read through every single post on this thread, so forgive me if this has already been suggested.
I think the biggest reason for the growing number of single parents today is because the couple tend to get so wrapped up in the child(ren), that they forget to work on their own relationship. Being a parent is a big job, and I would give my life for my children, but at the same time, I know that at some point, they will grow up, and hopefully begin a life of their own. At that time, I hope to have someone in my life who has been there for me through that time, and who I can then give my full attention to. However, I know that won't happen unless I pay attention to that relationship too.
I once asked my grandparents (who were married 55 years - and of a totally different generation of course) how they made their marriage last. My grandmother told me that she and my grandfather put each other first - and together they put their three kids as a priority in "their" lives. I used to think that was strange that my grandmother would consider my grandfather more important than my mom and aunt and uncle, but now that I myself have had a hand in a failed marriage, I now see more wisdom in her words.
And strangely enough, there is an article in today's paper here about how married couples who still "date" each other, statistically have stronger relationships and lessen their chances of divorce (not sure how true that is) because they make more of an effort to remain connected and communicate. | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/10/2006 9:55:18 AM | [and i do my best for them so they aren't being raised by daycare workers and wearing second hand clothes]
Nothing wrong with second hand clothes sblcassidy! Parents can get really nice stuff and save alot of money that can go towards extra curricular activities or back-to-school stuff. I bought 24 items for my 3 year old to start kindergarten and it cost me only $24!!
[They (your parents) were working all the time, depending on my basketball, piano lessons, and extraciricular activites to keep me busy so they could stay at work and make that extra buck to afford worthless crap]
Its part of a parents many responsibilites to provide opportunities for our children.
[they (teens) are looking for the love and commitment we are missing in most families]
"Parents are often wrongly faulted for causing a child's irresponsible behavior, when it is the child himself who made the choice" This is from a book I'm reading called, "Before It's Too Late - Why Some Kids Get Into Trouble - and What Parents Can Do About It" by Stanton E. Samenow, PH.D. He also states "Parents can nurture, advise, discipline and offer opportunities to their children. However, they cannot decide for a child what he wants in life. In the final analysis, it is the youngster who makes his own choices. We can only strive to do our best to help him make informed and responsible choices."
[i wish i made better choices in my past so that my young boys didn't have to experience being fatherless.]
[i KNOW my kids are a blessing]
Most of us do our best and hope for the best. It sounds like you are doing just that!  | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/10/2006 6:30:54 PM | | "The worlds a mess...its in my kiss" ......what can I say? I am a single parent due to the loss of my husband in 2003 (he ran off).........I am lucky enuff to have a boyfriend now, but I still feel anger at the ineptitude of a society that sees no wrong in bringing children into the world, and then walking away from the relationship with little or no consequences......not rite! | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/11/2006 4:07:36 PM | ""Parents are often wrongly faulted for causing a child's irresponsible behavior, when it is the child himself who made the choice" This is from a book I'm reading called, "Before It's Too Late - Why Some Kids Get Into Trouble - and What Parents Can Do About It" by Stanton E. Samenow, PH.D. He also states "Parents can nurture, advise, discipline and offer opportunities to their children. However, they cannot decide for a child what he wants in life. In the final analysis, it is the youngster who makes his own choices. We can only strive to do our best to help him make informed and responsible choices."
Im not so sure if I truly agree with this.... I do to an extend ... but not a large one. I think when you look at kids and how close the family is, I think you see, simply in the numbers where the kids head. Yes its the childs ultimate choice ...but I think that stems from upbringing and the values they are shown | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/11/2006 4:38:39 PM | | I just want to say that I have been hearing a lot of "why are there so many more teen pregnancies these days" or "why so many young single mothers" and that is actually an incorrect statement. There are less teens having sex, and less teens having babies then there was 20 years ago. There may be MORE single parents, but I think I already offered my theory on that one. | |
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Smjle
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/11/2006 6:18:26 PM | There have always been unwed teen mothers and that will not change; however, per http://www.nzherald.co.nz/section/story.cfm?c_id=2&objectid=10391528, the number one reason is the money girls receive from child support. Get pregnant by a star athlete and when he makes it to the pros you can collect more than $10,000 a month in child support. True most don't hit the jackpot; however, for the same reason people buy lottery tickets, many girls think they are going to win. Before Bill Clinton was president, you had generations raised on welfare. The more children a mom had the more money welfare paid. Now it the child support. Like anything, it is the law of supply and demand. As the price rises, the supply increases. More child support payment equals more children. Not every girl will be influenced by the money but enough will.
But, besides the money, there are other reasons. When almost every movie shows the main characters meeting and having sex even before they have dinner, it sends a strong message that sex is the expected normal behavior. Also, there is no stigma to being a teen mom and teen moms are more likely to have girls that become teen moms. Finally, it may be natural selection at work. In a society where few people go hungry, unwed teen moms will average more children than women that wait to get married. So based on natural selection, in a few generations, most teenage girls may become unwed moms. This upward trend will not change unless, like in the past, the money teen girls can earn by having children is reduced or removed. | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/12/2006 7:34:58 AM | | Interesting comments and debates... interesting question. But don't assume that all single parents are single by choice (break-up of a relationship - divorce - unexpected pregnancy from lack of birth control or failed birth control) - some of us are single due to circumstance... I was with my husband for 14 years, married for 11 and a half, two terrific kids and then he died suddenly and unexpectedly. | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/12/2006 11:19:34 AM | I was a young single parent many moons ago. I suppose I'm still considered rather young to have a 12 year old, 10 year old and 3 year old twins.
I look at it that every single circumstance is difference. Yes there are dumbass kids who just say "to hell with condoms, let's do it", but there are also young adults who were safe, did everything besides abstain to be sure pregnancy wouldn't happen, yet they ended up with a bun in the oven.
As you've also seen from other comments, life doesn't always happen the way we expect it.
I was young and stupid, but it was my choice to carry, birth and care for all 4 of my children. I could have given them up for adoption or aborted, but to me, I made my bed and I'm damn well going to lay in it. | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/12/2006 11:21:23 AM | | That's exactly right, I myself am not a single parent by choice. Reality is that there aren't many that would even consider choosing it. I am a mother of two and it's hard as hell. I had a jackass for a man, and I was silly enough to think that maybe he would change considering we had two kids to take care of...WRONG!!! Once an ass, always an ass. I now live in a new province where I know practicly no one at all, but I make do with the life I have. As for the unexpected pregnancy topic...ladies, get your system checked out to make sure that any type of birth control will even take. In my case nothing would work because of the fact that my system fought it off like a bad disease...for some reason my body didn't like anything in it at all. First the pill, then the needle. And btw...not all babies concieved on the depo provera needle are "defective" (this is the term used to describe why I should have an abortion by many doctors). I refused the abortion and wanted to wait and see if there would be major problems that would affect her way of life for sure, and thank God there aren't any to this day with my little girl. She's smart, funny and everything else a 4 year old should be. Many docs said it was impossible for me to be pregnant in the first place, and after many tests, they were convinced that I was (which I knew weeks before) and then wanted to run as many tests as they could think of on me. So anyways, for you single parents out there, STAY STRONG...it's not only yourself to stay strong for anymore. And when it all seems like it's going to fall apart, sneak into their room and watch them sleep, or make them laugh. Those are the two things that keep me so very strong with my kids. It's hard, but it's really worth it when they say those magical words...Mommy/Daddy, I love you. | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/12/2006 12:09:13 PM | Well here's the other angle in the question.
The number of single parents out there isn't just the influx of people who are becoming new single parents, it's also the number of people who STAY single parents. After all, if single parents were so desirable for dating and marriage, then they would no longer be "single" anymore.
So basically it's like restocking a product in a store that rarely sells. It fills up the shelves and eventually there's a glut in the stockroom and no matter how much you lower the price, consumers just walk past it anyway. That's why single parents are often held in such low regard in society, there's an endless supply of them and frankly, very few people want them for dating and marriage.
If a single parent wants to quit being a shelf warmer, then it would behoove them to make themselves a more attractive package. But God forbid you'd ever tell a single parent, particularly a single mother, that kind of logic. After all, you'd just hear the "You can't tell me what to do!" and "My kids come first!" and "A REAL MAN would accept me and my kids!" Blah blah blah. Whatever.
If single parents out there want to stop being "single", they are just going to have work harder to make themselves as attractive a package as possible. That's real life. Of course most single parents can't handle that truth, so that's why most people ignore them. Good job single parents, you have found a way to make yourselves a social nuisance on the scale of telemarketers and bible thumpers going door to door. | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/12/2006 12:21:52 PM | Im sorry your viewpoint is so negative Gordon. Dont worry. We can get in that dark tunnel sometime. Eventually youll snap out of it.
I know me personally, I dont find people with a negative outlook so appealing. But, maybe thats just me. | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/12/2006 12:37:14 PM |
So basically it's like restocking a product in a store that rarely sells. It fills up the shelves and eventually there's a glut in the stockroom and no matter how much you lower the price, consumers just walk past it anyway.
It's funny cause I have a lineup of guys wanting to date this SINGLE MOM...I'm pretty selective when it comes to a guy that I might be into dating!! Not sure how you got your theory??
That's why single parents are often held in such low regard in society, there's an endless supply of them and frankly, very few people want them for dating and marriage.
Low regard?? Single parents earn a lot more respect in "society" then anyone else! We are a one income family and have to pull the weight of 2 people!! I would love to see a guy like yourself play house with a couple kids for a week!! I bet you wouldn't last a day!!
If a single parent wants to quit being a shelf warmer, then it would behoove them to make themselves a more attractive package.
So what do they do for people like you?? Your NOT attractive and I would never consider you as a potential anything..maybe a foot rest that collects dust!!
Good job single parents, you have found a way to make yourselves a social nuisance on the scale of telemarketers and bible thumpers going door to door.
Your one of a kind!! One only a mother could love  | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/12/2006 12:37:18 PM | ok heres my outlook on it.... as i have seen with my own single parent friends...they almost go into mourning after a breakup...they get so depressed...so emotional that they essentially become paraniod to meet another man.
It makes them unnaproachable and they also dont care about thier appearrance any more either.My best friend gained tons of weight she let herself go...like she didnt care any more. It was painful to watch....my marriage breakup was torment too but i snapped out of it after 9 months and the weight i lost made me feel better.
I started to go out casually and started to smile again.Once I felt better and knew I was worth it and could love another that confidence makes you glow..
so I think all it takes is confidence...self love and a good attitude it reflects in a positive way..case in point ***a smile attracts better than a scowl** | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/13/2006 12:56:09 AM | Badgirl - *pushing and shoving to the front of the line* ... damn woman ... Im ready to stick Peacock feathers in my @ss and dance for you to grab your attention  | |
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| Why the number of single parents ??
Posted: 10/13/2006 5:31:42 AM | Gordon I am sorry to say but you seem like a sad pathetic little man.
I am a single mother, and I have been in a relationship for awhile now with a man who loves me and my daughter. He is a songle father. I have talked to many men who are single fathers, aswell as single mothers(the ladies of course) And out of all of them none have trouble finding dates.
We are just more selective about who we invite into our lives due to our children. As for making the packaging better...Stick that one where the sun don't shine hunnie.......
When it comes to dating a single parent....it IS take me, take my child. So no matter how pretty you gussy yourself up, the man still has to realize the fact that no matter what, a child is always gonna come first.
I left a guy on a date before cause my child was sick. Sorry but my daughters health is way more important then making sure some guy likes what I look like or wears. First and most important is not how I look. If he likes kids then it's a start, if he can handle that I can't go out when HE wants because of that reason, good we're on a roll. But I will never change and conform to what a guy wants just to make him happy. I have an obligation in life to make my child happy. Not men. | |
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