| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 10/9/2006 5:57:32 PM | | I personally think if you are just dating and seeing where the relationship is going, its fine to come on dating sites and chat with friends you have made or what ever...but if you both come to the same agreement and want the relationship to progress into something serious then say bye to the dating sites..... | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 5/8/2008 4:46:24 PM | well, yeah, for me I am done looking, very satisfied with the choice I made... I care for this man a whole lot... The physical attraction blows my mind too... Then I came here last night to check my mail only to find he is still accumulating new female friends and sending them roses (sh*t, he never sent me a gift)... Perhaps we are looking for different things...
We need to sit down and talk.
Chelle from Ltown | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 5/8/2008 5:56:17 PM | OP - if you've gotta ask should your man be looking online at other women when the two of you are in a relationship where you're making love? Just posing that question tells me you've got doubts about this fella. By all means you need to let him know that you're uncomfortable with him being online looking at other women's profiles, while you're in a relationship with him. He's either in the relationship 100% or he's out the door. If you are uncomfortable with it, and he doesn't cease, then you may have to kick his butt to the curb.
Folks - this is when you talk about profiles, online looking, etc. is BEFORE intimacy happens. Both parties should come to a mutal agreement. If it ain't mutual, the relationship needs to end. | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:02:31 PM | If it bothers you then get rid of him,its that simple.I refuse to sleep with someone I can`t trust.
Let me rephrase this,I refuse to have a relationship with someone I can`t trust !:) | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:09:51 PM |
Then I came here last night to check my mail only to find he is still accumulating new female friends and sending them roses (sh*t, he never sent me a gift)... Perhaps we are looking for different things...
Yeah, you're looking for a solid, lasting relationship, and he's looking for as many pieces of asss as he can juggle at one time.
So how long are you going to allow yourself to be one of them? | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 5/8/2008 6:16:42 PM | | Save yourself some time and heartache...Men like that never change...I wasted almost four years. Mine looked all the time; kept a friendship going with all this past women friends, girlfriends and ex wives...we talked about it ...they were just friends...the women on the computer were just friends...Trust me ...they are not....a friend gave me a book called "Men Who Can't Love"....it was a blueprint of our relationship. Men like him keep all these other women around like life preservers.....just in case the ship sinks they will never be alone...they can or won't ever fully commit. Buy the book. it really opened my eyes......Good luck | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 5/9/2008 9:11:03 AM | Women crack me up; they make such terrible decisions about men, then they say, "men are dogs".
He's flirting and looking for other women and that could "dampen your relationship?" WOW. You are a 9.4 on the clueless scale. | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 5/9/2008 2:49:51 PM | OP?? you might be in an intimate relationship, but that guy is in a sexual one with you. same result, different perspective. you are feeling emotionally intimate with this guy and all he is doing is having sex. unless he forced himself on you, its really only your fault you are in this position.
the term is BOOTYCALL! | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 5/10/2008 10:31:43 PM | p-trishTHEdish... I couldn't agree more....
OP... this looks one sided to me.... my word of wisdom.... RUUUUUNNNNNN..... He is not seriously into you... he thinks the grass is greener on the other side... and you are just an open field... You are getting emotionally involved in something that is not there... you are the one who is gonna get hurt if you stay in that relationship... he has no emotional attachement involved... | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 5/10/2008 11:22:51 PM | Well, define normal!  Everyone is different and everyone would define things differently, imo.
I am old fashioned in this respect.
If he's online just chatting, then that's one thing.
If he's looking to meet other people, then that's a whole other thing.
From what I gather, it sounds like you feel you're trying to make things work and he's not.
That should tell you something.
I hope you find a relationship that you don't have to try and make work.
Good luck with whatever you decide. | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:30:40 AM | Are you in an exclusive relationship? Intimate does not necessarily mean the same thing to everyone, there are FB, and FWB.
If you are exclusive he should not be checking out and dating others. Its another one of those things that they think there is someone better out there. | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 5/11/2008 3:13:05 PM | | How many more times will people post saying they are dating a guy they have met on the internet and found hes still on the site? It seems to be a very common occurence! Please do what I did. Get another profile, chat him up, get him to the point where he wants to meet this girl and BINGO theres your answer! None of you so far have had the Balls to do it. tut tut stop ****footing around. ~I think there could be a business for it. there seems to be a gap in the market for the online honeytrappers. lol | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 5/11/2008 3:34:28 PM | Oh dear. He has the right person in you.
I am sorry but he is not just looking.
Its a personality problem as far as I can see. Part, "she is going to leave me anyway so I need backup and the grass is always greener" thing. Then there is the other thing. "I need to prove what a man I am." I think this is someone with latent homosexual problems. Maybe having been abused as a child by another male and must continue the conquest phase to prove he is not gay. They live on the edge. Motorcycles, skydiving, anything dangerous. Of course, normal guys do too. So don't label everyone with this problem.
Good luck. I think you deserve better. If he doesn't cherish your relationship enough to protect it, think what a spouse he could be? Men are always at their best when they are courting you. Old expression but true. | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 5/11/2008 4:27:50 PM | How long have you been intimate?
Are you looking for more?
Personally, if I'm single and I'm dating around... I don't think there's anything wrong with being with different people, as long as you wear a condom etc...
But if I found someone that I want to go further and have a relationship with, I'd be committed to that one person and only that person.
if you just met him and have been with him a few times... I'd say it just you being insecure or you want something more but are not talking to him about it.
if you're in a "relationship" with him... what he is doing may be considered cheating... and once again you're not talking to him about it.
When will people learn that getting feedback, advice, and reasurance online won't actually change what is going on... only you can fix it, if you think it's a problem. | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 5/25/2008 9:59:54 AM | in this right now and it SUCKS!!!
but I really like this guy so I stick around hoping one day he will realize he thinks I'm awesome and stops looking.
If it hurts you alot ditch him, if you can stick it out then stick around but leave your options open too! You just never know what you might find | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 6/3/2008 9:27:54 AM | S, I must move on,  for above reasons  and so much more. You need to re-define what you want/ expect from a soulmate, and, pray tell, does your wife share the same opinion? Work on your game man
Chelle | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 6/3/2008 9:55:06 AM | | Communication is key here. If the two of you decide on a monogomous relation, by all means- it is the time to leave. If that talk hasn't come up and you feel strongly for this person, bring it up. Their reaction should help decide your course of action. This doesn't mean marriage right away; it does mean they care about you enough to learn more about you- exclusively. | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 6/4/2008 11:23:54 AM | | This happened to me with the last guy I was seeing from here. I went to leave him a testimonial and he freaked out! Took it down right away said he was just too shy to have them, all BS. Looked at his profile found out he had sent out "be mine roses" and not to me, lol. We were supposedly exclusive. I am much more aware now. It did put a damper on how I view other men on here now though. | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 6/4/2008 2:45:18 PM | RE: happily kicked his stanky adulterous butt the curb and moved on to bigger and brighter (and fresh smelling) pastures
Good for you, that is what I was hoping to hear. I am proud of you. I haven't met one that wasn't still online looking and / or meeting others while pretending to only be seeing me. I had one guy online with someone while I was sitting in his living room, he had the audacity to bring a picture he had printed off of her in to show it to me. I asked him what he was doing and he said "just gonna show you her picture", before he could show it to me I politely told him where he could stick that picture and got up and left. I am personally finding that I am so much better being alone than putting up with this crap. It's not ever going to stop. The internet has made it much to easy to troll for as many as can be found and I for one don't play the game anymore. Give them the internet and a cell phone and man do they have themselves a great big playground. | |
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| In an intimate relationship and he is still looking
Posted: 6/4/2008 3:02:44 PM | I recently read in a good relationship book about something called a "line of respect." This is something that should be discussed by every couple, so they know where the lines are drawn. Then when someone steps over the line, it should be confronted immediately. If you don't, you are setting yourself up for more disrespect. I think everyone would agree that his behavior crosses a line. So just talk to him. Sometimes men are just dumb and not devious. If he feels bad for hurting your feelings and is willing to take down his profile, see if he follows through on it. If he gets defensive, I'd be moving on.
Edit: I didn't read that he was sending virtual roses. Dump him. | |
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