| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/12/2006 2:24:32 AM | | I think you have made enough effort here , leave her to it now serisously. She has your number , you've made your feeling very clear. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/12/2006 10:45:57 AM | | I wouldn't know if another girl was interested unless it was pasted on the back of a double decker bus and even then it wouldn't be clear. She smiled at me today and said hi, she smiles alot. I actually wonder if she got my texts at all. I only knew her briefly but she made such an impact I walk around doing my job hoping she will appear and when she does I only want to look at her. God I am sap it not like I haven't dated it just they either went metal or well did my head in. I have to say guys she is really fit, what a crappy feeling :( | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/12/2006 10:52:58 AM | hey bud..dont focus on the negative..keep positive and take some strength from the fact you tried..
its in her court now.
If it dont work out...there will be other beautiful french girls..
or at least thats the rumour.
Good on ya!
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/12/2006 11:28:26 AM | | I do have a girl text me says she just wants sex, it's tempting, but I'm not built that way I couldn't just have sex without being in a relationship. Or maybe I am I can't decide who I am any more. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/12/2006 3:09:43 PM | | If she didn't want to send the wrong signal - I don't know she saw me carrying boxes maybe it was my muscles lol - I think i'll give it time. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/15/2006 3:07:02 AM | | hi all so I text her the silly joke and asked her about her music, she replied saying that if I wanted she could make me listen to other music as well. I'm going to just keep doing what i'm doing and see how it goes. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/18/2006 10:37:35 AM | hay everyone I saw her today I was trying to help her with a power adaptor for her laptop and a blog she wants setup. She told me she is living with one of the teachers at the mo but will be moving to her own place next week.
Anyway today was her actual birthday, she came up in the afternoon asked me if I wanted some of her birthday cake and to let me know she would get the power adaptor to me tomorrow via one of the teachers. When I went down she smiled went to get a paper towel and cut the cake for me. She gave me some more cake, I said merci she said something back could not tell you what it was didn't understand.
I know she could just be being friendly but if she read my text she would know I like her so am I just being toyed with or is it because I have'nt got the balls to ask her directly?
she still smiles and looks happy and when I'm around her I sense (maybe its me) I sense something more other than just words.
Anyway I text her this evening to ask when she was next in, which is tomorrow and she asked why, I said because of the blog and I wanted to ask her something else but that I could be being foolish, she replied that she would be in def tomorrow and that I would see her then if I wanted too. lol I replied that she should seek me out if she wanted too. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/18/2006 10:46:07 AM | Mais oui! Con Je pense' le question, je regarde Elle est dans l'amour avec toi...
Je t'aime beaucoup ma beau. Je t'embrace.
Salut!!!
Luci4
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/18/2006 11:02:50 AM | | unaverage joe, french men are much more direct and forward than american men. If you don't ask her out, she will either assume you aren't that interested or that you play games. Just ask her - in person, not on a text - out for dinner or drinks. I'm french/american and live in france and we are flirtatious by nature. Her flirtations don't mean as much as they would from an american girl. I flirt with everyone and if I see a man I want who seems interested in me, I expect him to approach me. If he doesn't, I lose respect for him and think he is a lousy lover, because he has no confidence. So ask her out! | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/18/2006 11:53:57 AM | Here's my story.
When I go gaga over something as superficial as looks or mannerisms, I note it as self-destructive and make a point to ignore or avoid that person. It is a ”weakness” for that ”object”, not appreciation for the person. If I follow through on that impulse, I will try to ”objectify” that person. I have a precursor for addiction to my distorted perception of that person. It is not based on healthy relation fundamentals. It is called a "crush", with much emotional fury and little or no substance. It is the beginning of trying to "force" a relation, not mutually nor naturally "grow" a relation. It leads to taking another person "hostage" and trying to force them to meet fantasies. It leads to “Beat me, hurt me, and make me write bad checks" kind of fetish/addiction. Many country and western songs are based on this theme...... "Ruby, Don't Take Your Love To Town", " We Got Married In A Fever (hotter than a Texas Sprout), a good number of R&B and Soul tunes in the '60's aimed at pubescent girls follow that theme. (As a pubescent guy that had high hormones and strict Baptist parents, I fell heavily into those songs, dreaming about my romanticized lover.) Many or most love songs are based on dysfunctional concepts. Still, Art Simone did sing “Kodachrome” as a warning. Light, fun: memorize it; take it to heart. He’s telling the truth.
Women that are emotionally available need and appreciate friendship and can learn to accept and love a whole person. (No, I won’t use “Gestalt”). Objectifying is best left to other arenas such as fashion and skin magazines, and stripper clubs. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/18/2006 12:16:04 PM | | I want to ask her out just I never see her on her own, being at work I don't want to cause embarassment on both sides. i think your right i'll try tomorrow. thanks kindanice. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/18/2006 12:16:56 PM | Don't insult her country, or her language. That is the first thing I have to tell you.
And her actions are probably confusing because of her culture. Though I don't understand the cake thing (it could be an entirely French thing) she's obviously playing coy with you.
Depending on her level of English, try and get to know her, offer her help with learning English. It looks like she wants to get to know you, and being in a different country and speaking a different language is extreme hard (harder than you realize). Help her make friend, be a generally nice person. She's more likely to want to be around you (for more than one reason) if you help her, guide her, and be a overal good person. | |
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| French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/18/2006 2:36:20 PM | Hi thanks for the reply I would never insult someones country or language i'm really not like that at all. I talked to my sister half ahour ago, she thinks I would be making a big mistake to even make a move, I am so confused at the moment i'm going to give her one of my fantasy books tomorrow instead. I know I said alot about the cake thing and she may be very nice the first time yeah, but and I know I'm a nice guy but I told her i liked her this isn't exactly putting me off. It is almost like a silent joke between us kind of like the mystery, I don't want to over think this but her actions do make me very confused.
Sorry if I put any noses out of joint here but...
Don't women like**** and funny men, friendly = friend and I'm not a friend to any woman
I know that seems harsh but being a friend puts me in a place where I don't want to be as a door mat not a potential lover. | |
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