Rencen
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Joined: 1/14/2005
Msg: 26 | |
| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 3/22/2005 9:06:47 PM | If contact has not been made twice within the first five days of the first date - it's a sign neither is really interested. It doesn't matter who did or didn't call after that. I've seen women truly interested in a man initiate contact, and vise-versa. It's not really a question of gender roles.
"He/she is not that into you." | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 3/23/2005 3:10:54 AM | | I would contact the girl. But being a chicken I'd email rather than call. But isn't that easier for both parties? Much easier to be honest via mail than in person or on the phone I find. I met someone a while back for a drink and when I emailed her the next day ("Thanks for meeting, blah, blah, blah...) she just said right away whe didn't feel a connection. I was dissappointed, but appreciated her telling me. | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 3/23/2005 5:57:29 PM | Keycee you have a good point I gues I would have
to accept her desicion, its just that sometime if both
people expect a long term relation right away, they get
possessive before they get friend  | |
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Keycee
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Joined: 8/22/2004
Msg: 29 | |
| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 3/23/2005 7:18:53 PM | POSSESSIVE??? adj of POSSESSION????? What are we livestock here.
Do you come with a DNA test and a freezer brand on your neck? A sheet that tells me your lifetime wins and earnings? Just what can you pace the mile in?
What can I tell you... I feel a guy should do what he wants to do. Mates are there to compliment not take control. Possessive defines as control. If you feel the need to be possesive I suggest you find someone else. Cause guess what, usually they give you reason to act that way.
Im a love me or leave me but if your going to****around dont expect me to be their sitting on the shelf with the rest of toys until you decide im worthy. Trust me, I climbed down the min you turned your back.
Going out on the first few dates is just that. "NOTHING" more then finding out within the self if you are interested.
But that is not what you asked. You asked about going out to dinner as friends as opposed to going out to dinner to get know one another and check out the chemistry.
I ask you this.....What did you really want to ask? Ask it! | |
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Keycee
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Joined: 8/22/2004
Msg: 31 | |
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Shawn2
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Joined: 1/19/2005
Msg: 32 | |
| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 3/24/2005 6:48:39 PM | well my guess would be if ya dont hear from him he int interested or something happened where he cant get ahold of ya
but if ya came top see me I would definately get back to ya first | |
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silken
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Joined: 3/12/2005
Msg: 33 | |
| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 4/3/2005 11:48:05 PM | Well my personal feeling is that if the guy is interested he should give the girl a call the next day. Sometimes men surprise you with a call the same night and I have to say that that is always impressive to me because it shows the man is quite interested and making an effort already.
Casanova....1 week???? Forget it man unless you don't want a girl. ;) hehehe I say call the next day at least. It can just be a short call to say you really enjoyed the date/meeting and show some interest in her.
Do I call guys after a date? Not usually. Instead, if I am interested in them, I am sure to be friendly and warm with them during the date and I smile at them a lot (that's my personality anyways if I like someone.) Most men I have met have already talked to me usually beforehand and they are aware that I'm not the aggressive type so it's not likely I will be chasing them down... If I like the guy I just show I like him through my interactions with him, my body lanugage, etc. and let him decide if he wishes to pursue it for another meeting.
Hey, sometimes I've thought I should have a simple plan that both people agree to before the meeting so that you both know what the situation is without having to verbally reject the other person. I've thought of it but I always forget to discuss it before the meeting! ;) However, one lady in another forum suggested this too.......she said agree between the 2 of you that if you are interested after the date you will call her the next day and leave a message on her answering machine and that if she is interested, she will return the call that evening. That way you both get an answer rather than trying to figure out whether the other person is interested and there is no need for akward phone calls saying your not interested, etc.
silken | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 4/10/2005 2:08:07 PM | | Ya know Cassanova, I dont think that would be a problem at all, its not all about dating, its about meeting some people you can hang with, be friends with, etc. I would love it if some guy I enjoy spending time with asked me to go out dancin. As long as you are clear that there is no interest in a relationship, thats all that matters..... | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 5/4/2005 3:16:12 PM | Well now I guess it would depend on if she gave me her phone number so I could contact her would it not ??
But darn right I would contact her first and try to set up a date with her if possible !! | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 5/5/2005 10:40:09 AM | | I have to agree with Creter. Why is incumbent on the man, in most cases, to make the phone call? We hear so many times "I will not sit around waiting for the call". But they get pissed off if you don't call soon enough of often enough. But they won't pick up the phone. Sorry just stopped seeing someone over this. Apparently she felt things were a little more serious than I did. So what did she do to develop the relationship further? She got pissed off and emailed me (a great method of communicating important information) and told me how pissed off she was and what an ass i was. I will never call her again. Why? It's a two way street baby. Get on the train or get off the platform. Another lady sees I am logged on. But I am working at the computer. In fact, as we speak a lady messaged me. That is being friendly and showing interest and gets a response. Gotta go. | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 5/7/2005 7:47:05 AM | IF YOU WENT OUT WITH A LADY THEN YOU CALL HER !!
No IF'S AND NO ANDS or But's there Guys !!
THANK HER FOR THE TIME SHE SPENT WITH YOU ON THE DATE !!
And always ask her if it is okay to call her and when is a good time !!
Yes to me it is the polite thing to do if you were out with a pretty lady on a date !!
It's not for a guy to decide if you should or should not call her !!
But if you call her please don't keep calling her if she don't return your calls as all that does is make a lady wonder about you !!
If she wants she will call you back !!:smile
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silken
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Joined: 3/12/2005
Msg: 39 | |
| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 8/13/2005 6:09:56 PM | Personally I say it would be a great idea to discuss this question before you meet and go on a date.....
Ask what the other person prefers....... do they prefer that if you are interested that you call them back the next day or do they prefer to have the ball left in their court to call the next day if they're interested?
You can also ask them if they prefer to be told either way (ie. even if you're not interested) or if no call the next day is sign off that there wasn't a spark. Just think how much frustration could be eliminated if you've already discussed how it's going to be handled so that both people know the plan.....
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 8/14/2005 8:58:46 AM | | It's a tough one to answer really. There's a fine line I've come to find out. I've told someone I was interested in seeing where things could go and she backed away from me and I really haven't spoken to her since. I also tried show a little less interest with someone and she got the wrong idea and walked too. I honestly don't know how to answer that. My personal experience anyways. | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 10/26/2006 8:52:41 AM | | Well I think if you have met. The right thing to do is just let the guy/girl know if you are interested or not or would just like to be friends wouldn't hurt anyone to be honest.Ignoring people is not the answer obviously there was some sort of attraction if you met!. But I guess it is hard for some people to be Honest. | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 10/26/2006 9:46:29 AM | well...
it can be a limbo kinda thing as some dates your not sure how the other feels... thats a hard situation
but most dates YOU KNOW if things clicked
I think calling is a equal opportunity thing. someone call??? lol | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 10/26/2006 4:14:57 PM | If someone has made the effort to come to me for a meeting or has been a gentleman and picked up the bill, absolutely I send a thank you note right away. Usually the note will be an indication of interest. I think it’s unfair to make anyone guess what you’re thinking and as for the dating games…… no thank you.
Being courteous and offering what you expect in return should be a given. | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 10/26/2006 4:24:27 PM | | well for me i was out last nite with a lady for dinner, after we were gettin in cars to leave we both agreed to see each other again, so we set a date already. i think if there is a connection and u both like each other then make a point of makin the next date a soon apossible. | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 10/26/2006 6:47:59 PM | | well im far from a male but ya i can see where u r coming from i met this guy to he was trying to talk to me for along time and i wasnt really interested at first but i decided to meet him so yaaa we met and now he seems to not even be interested in me.but im very interested in him .anywasy we will see how it goes .hopefully u will get talking to the oneswho walked aaway take care | |
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