| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 11/6/2006 11:14:27 AM | | i agree with SPORTBIKER on this one. a call or an e-mail the next day is a must. this is not over-aggressive, it is just good ettiquette and good manners. this doesn't mean you ask her out again, just thanks for the good time. i was brought up to have good manners and be polite to others, after all that's how i like to be treated so its good karma. | |
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Abby48
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Joined: 10/6/2006
Msg: 52 | |
| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 11/7/2006 8:58:08 PM | | It is only common courtesy be honest. I send a message after a meeting letting them know I had a good time. but if I don't hear from someone the next day, I know I never will, no matter how well it goes. Does anyone meet anyone else more than once? | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 11/7/2006 9:01:07 PM | Alway thank them by email the next day, that way you can see if they are interested by the response. And at the same time you dont seem too agressive or pushy which a phone call can be, also it kind of puts someone on the spot, and in a defensive mode if they are not really interested or undecided.
EDIT......of course if it was a GREAT FIRST DATE, you could just roll over and say thanks... | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 11/7/2006 9:06:06 PM | A call/e-mail the next day is always a good thing.. (hint.. the sooner ya send it the more "interested" you appear. :)
That e-mail might even pull someone off the fence if they are thinking "he's a nice guy but.."
Hey it worked for me :) | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 10/28/2008 6:40:51 AM | | It's just common courtesy to contact the person. Type a message saying thanks for the great time.... Even if you don't think the two of you are not a good match, just let them know... | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 10/28/2008 1:23:30 PM | I have actually told a date during the 1st one I would like to see her again.
"I am having so much fun I would love to see you again. I also know too you might get home and tell me you don't feel that same way and that is okay".
If she agrees right away, it feels good. Often you'll get a true feeling if they are interested or might need a second date to feel you out.
Only had 1 backfire where she told me to call or write her. Added me to her facebook the next morning, found she changed to "In a relationship". By afternoon it wasn't my name she was in a relationship with. She didn't reply to me for 36 hours, deleted me from POF and facebook. I was played for the fool.
Point is, if your interested, by all means tell her/him. Just be honest with them and yourself at all times. | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 10/28/2008 5:39:31 PM | Yeah, if you are interested by all means, tell me!!! hahahahaha
I think there is nothing worng in telling someone you are interested in them after you have met. It's why we are on here isn't it? well most of us? Find someone to go out with and someone we are interested in? | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 10/28/2008 6:39:57 PM | If I had a great time, and I'd like to see them again, I usually send off a quick text or email (depending on the person) to say that I had a great time and look forward to hearing from them. Usually I do that w/in 24 hours. Then again... If I'm REALLY interested I'll just come right out and say, before date is over, 'When can I expect to hear from you / see you again?'...
I once told a guy, on a first date, "You know, the chemistry is great, but I honestly don't think we could get along on a long term basis - be great friends, YES... Great lovers... YES... Great partners... Heck no, our lifestyle is too different"  Thank goodness he agreed w/ me, else it likely would have crushed his ego... but hey - I tell it like it is. I like you, you'll know... I don't like you... You'll know... I thought that's what they meant when they came up w/ the words 'No Head Games'...
Apparently I'm too forward and most men feel emasculated when - God Forbid - I *actually* tell them what's on my mind and don't play coy games w/ them...  But then again... sometimes is a game of catch & release : You catch many, you release most... but once in a while a great fish comes along. | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 10/28/2008 7:09:43 PM | | I wouldn't say emasculated but I would think intimidated a bit. Some guys can't handle a woman who is forward and open with what they think and feel. Not all but some. | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 10/29/2008 3:58:24 PM | Forget this "Oh don't email/call/text 'till Wed" and all that crap, if you like the person, just tell them.
It's harder to figure out where you stand if nobody says anything no? | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 10/30/2008 12:41:18 PM | If I had a nice first date and would want another, I send flowers and a note. I take time over the note stating how I enjoyed her company and learning about her and citing examples (shows you listen), and what I found attractive about her (never hearts to be up front, in a polite fashion of course :-)). I state in the note that I would very much like to spend time with her again. Often I will suggest an activity.
Now if a woman were to do the same to me, or call, that would be very welcome. Every one likes to hear that they are of interest to someone else. | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 8/10/2009 3:03:37 PM | They dont feel emasculated, its just that smart guys most of the time take own sweet time to make a certain decision. 98% of females ( 88 % of males ) back off when a guy tells them whats on his/ her mind ( unless or until the gal is really attracted to him or vice versa ). Thats how it is. Emasculation theory and all that is all female creation ( after all most of us like to think ( in their own favor ) that we are right, just pure interpretation of the circumstance/ situation etc.
LOL! IF you think when we say NO HEAD GAMES means telling upfront i like you or i dont like.... etc etc . I dont know what kinda guys you are hanging out with . My be you gals read too much of cosmo and all that which are chock full of info for women by women. OOHMAMa IF THAT WOUDL HAVE BEEN SO EASY THEN the divorce rates , separation rates would not have been what they are nowadays...;-).
Peace... n piece ( of chocolate i mean ..;-)
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.lisa
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Joined: 8/6/2009
Msg: 64 | |
| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 8/14/2009 8:32:55 AM | I'm stupid at this dating shit....
So I prefer him to call, and if he doesn't I get the drift....can't be THAT busy not to make a 2 sec call.....ughhhhhhhhhhhhhh hate no call backers, just TELL the person you're not interested  | |
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| After the meeting or date. Male responses needed!
Posted: 8/14/2009 7:50:19 PM | Hey I am so sorry lisa my cell phone died !LOL
Hahaha!
I tried to call you but you blocked my number too!
Dam must of had too much fun on our date and you got worn out from too much fun!
hahahaha
Look most people will both respond the next day if they had a nice time on their date.
And yes most will also make contact even if the date went south into the swamp!
Now lisa don't forget to call me tommorrow after our fun naughty date tonight !
hahahahaha | |
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