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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 3/23/2005 9:17:32 PM | Well...You should see me in action.........and by the way ....I was married for 15 years to a man who cheated from the start.......It did last for 15 years.........Till I found out I was better than that.......We would have still been together.........
What made me stay?????.....The cheating made me stay....I thought there was something wrong with me.......But there isnt.....SO there Mr.."show me some one who has lasted 15 years in a relationship with someone who has cheated......".....Im showin ya....... | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 3/23/2005 9:23:30 PM | | "I believe....guns don't kill people...husbands who come home early do." ~ Larry the Cable guy, or Ron White... I forget. | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 3/24/2005 12:37:30 AM | Strengthening a Marriage is not dependant on having an Affair anymore than it would playing in Traffic.
Good Communications, Resolution of Issues and Problems, doing nice things for each other or helping out, taking a bit of time off to have some fun and quality time together. These are the things that strengthen a Marriage. | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 3/24/2005 12:39:29 AM | Having an affair usually f.ucks up a marriage.
Even if the party who had the affair is forgiven, there's very little, to not trust ever again. | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 3/24/2005 2:57:18 AM | | To me, if one partner is cheating on the other, the marriage is already over. The trust is gone. One persons desire for the other is gone. My ex cheated on me and we've been divorced 8 yrs. | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 6/19/2005 11:16:38 PM | | ritz at that point, it's too late. the talking should be taking place before the affair. 2 wrongs never make a right. once the affair takes place, the relationship is over. things will never be the same. respect and trust is out the window. if you truly love someone, you don't go to bed with someone else to prove a point. others may have different views on this, but to me, once a person crosses that line, it's over. affairs end marriages, not strengthen them. that was a very easy question to answer in my book. | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 6/19/2005 11:39:19 PM | | I keep seeing suggestions that 80% of men cheat and 50% of marriages fail. Does that mean more than 50% of marriages survive cheating? | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 6/20/2005 2:32:39 AM | | i think an affair would and should ruin a marriage. why would anyone want to cheat? if your married, you should really care about that person right? why would you put anyone through that heartache and pain? | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 6/20/2005 6:01:24 AM | in a word NO!!!!!!!!!!!!
your cheat you loose trust forever!!!!! they may say they have forgiven you or forgot all about it but it will always be in the back of their mind.
So if you want to loose trust forever from the one you love then go for it... if you want to crush and kill the spirit of the one you love then go for it..
But if you do really love your mate then DON'T DO IT
aquaman | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 6/20/2005 7:18:04 AM | it can only destroy,they have commited there life to another, if they break the commitment, obviously it wasnt meant to be, uve chosen to spend the rest of ur life with this person, yet u can give urself to some body else, ask urself, why ? .... trust is a key to the heart in a relationship......once its broken its might b easy 2 forgive, but so hard to forget. b true to urself, if u cant do that, how can u b tru to sumone else, u must first find urself .. n wen u do , ull find that special some one u connect with so well, and nothing will get in the way. | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 6/21/2005 5:09:13 AM | i think if uve committed yourself to that special person...then thats the one u love....yet there are the few males/females who just figured out they have genitals and decide that they are more important then love, commitment, trust, and dignity.
when u love someone... u know u love them cause cheating is not and will not ever be an option worth contemplating..and those who do....i feel sorry for as it is highly unlikely they will ever experience true love.
the answer to the question is no it doesnt strengthen a marrige as there never was a marrige if one party has totally Fu**ed it. | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 6/21/2005 8:50:23 AM | who doesn't know people that "got back together" It could be a symptom visible for uncovering "problems."
It can work. Wake-up call. Same problems in new "affair" as old relationship usually crop up...so....its difficult to say...relationships can survive anything...given the right circumstances and people...
Its tough. Not hard either. | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 6/21/2005 8:58:41 AM | I dont think its a healthy acceptable way to strengthen your marriage...but it DOES sometimes work. When my boyfriend was "talking" to another girl, I found out and he nearly lost me...he was READY to lose me, he thought he deserved it and so when I said I wanted to make things work he was really surprised and at first hesitant. But now things are much better between us...we dont fight as much, we are more open and honest with each other, he's more attentive to me. So it did, in our case, strengthen our relationship.
but I wouldnt advocate it, lol.
As for a revenge affair...thats just childish and stupid. Of course two wrongs dont make a right, and while the other person doesnt technically have a right to feel bad, of course they're going to and if you do it just to hurt them, all you're doing is stooping to their level. Thats one of those situations where you have to take the high road, if only for your own dignity. | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 6/21/2005 9:53:38 AM | UHHHHH!!! HMMMMMMMM!!!
UHHHHHHH!!!! HMMMMMMMMMM! Tough question.
I think.... that... I am going to go with...
HELLLLLLLLL NOOOOOOOOOO!
Maybe ruin it! | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 6/21/2005 10:18:44 AM | NO. That is crazy. That cannot Strengthen a relationship. Would you go and do it to see if it would STRENGTHEN a relationship? It breaks down walls of trust and foundation. Without a foundation, just like a building, it cannot stand.  | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 6/21/2005 6:56:44 PM | | An affair can help a relationship in the same way that putting one's head into an excrutiatingly tight head vise can help someone "ace" a standardized test. | |
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| Can an affair strenghten a marriage
Posted: 6/24/2005 11:41:06 PM | I guess if the marriage was strong from the start then maybe it can survive an affair with the couple engaging in intensive counselling.It's not my place to judge other people's conduct outside marriage because I don't what I'd do if I got to the point of contemplating an affair for whatever reason.  | |
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