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Posted: 11/7/2006 1:16:01 PM | hey passionfly..
thank you for that link...i will be emailing it to him right away, as he has just moved out. and its not that i ever asked him to stop completely, i just wanted some of his time. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 1:23:41 PM | Seems people want to shuck the blame on a game, and not a person,, Its simply obvious this guy just has a addictive personality, if he never got hooked on this game, (or games in general) he would have eventually found some other addictions...
Then the OP would whine that her B/F was more interested in his garage/sking/telivision/hotrod/boat/fishing/....think ya have the point..
The bane of most couples arguments are "you love that (insert hobby here)more then me!"
And in thus new society of "onlineism" these Internet games, can be considered hobbies..I know MANY couples who even spend their time together in a MMO, and have happily done it for years...
Its simply no different then your spouse coming home, and sticking his/her nose into the television until time to go to bed, and repeat the cycle..you either join them or ya do your own thing..
Now this situation may be a bit extreme, for a 1 year relationship, but hell you’d have to accept the fact one day he would eventually occupy his time that doesn’t revolve around you..
Ever think of a compromise? go roll a female human pally and cybor him lol  | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 1:41:42 PM | | Any bloke who chooses a video game over the company of a beautiful woman must be gay!! | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 1:50:41 PM | cammo soooooo funny.........i dont know why men prefer video games to women maybe he likes them better who know ??  | |
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Zain.
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Msg: 130 | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 3:04:32 PM | "Any bloke who chooses a video game over the company of a beautiful woman must be gay!!"
maybe his girlfriend is just a ****
nothing wrong with video games they're a general interest a hobby just like any other people who bash video games either
A. never played them
B. just aren't into them
C. too stupid to play them | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 3:17:19 PM |
ok fair enough, i can see how you would think that. i can honestly say i am not at all controlling. lol. but when the game comes first, over anythin else. including spending a 1 year anniversary with the game, rather than the gf, its an issue, and a stupid addiction.
Well, he seriously had a problem. I do admit that I play WoW (probably too frequently) but one needs to be able to realize when it starts hurting other parts of thier life. A game is supposed to be a distraction, not the focus.
In any case, I think you're probably better off without him. Find someone who's more interested in you than their hobbies.
If you're still with him, and are interested in him, he needs some help, maybe even to the point of therapy if he's obsessive.
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Posted: 11/10/2006 4:19:58 PM | blah.
I'd choose the woman over the game any time.
But she better let me read the news..lol.. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 4:21:29 PM | | I just quit WoW, cause it was completely ruining my life. It almost took it over. I don't' want to defend any one because picking a game over a girl (or any one) is just messed up. But that game is major addictive. it's worse than crack! | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 5:06:12 PM |
Any bloke who chooses a video game over the company of a beautiful woman must be gay!!
Congrats on labelling yourself the forum idiot. It's a highly regarded job. | |
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daro26
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Joined: 2/19/2006
Msg: 135 | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 5:15:48 PM | | from what I see there isn't anything that wrong with you, it's just a gut thing, for I'm 51 and I can sit an play for hours, also a survey was taken months ago and it found out that the people that buy and play video games were men, not kids, not females,but men. So go easy on him, better yet, learn to play the game | |
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Posted: 11/10/2006 5:44:59 PM | Actually in the game i still play (everquest) and in the guild im in that raids NIGHTLY, 77% are married and (adults), with a wife that either plays too, or not.. but lets the man have his hobby...
Most kids (teens or "video game age") usually dont withstand any tedious grind or questing in these games... So really the MMOs are geered towards adults... | |
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Posted: 12/9/2006 7:03:14 PM | Warcraft is an official addiction....lol
http://www.richmond-news.com/issues06/122206/news/122206nn1.html | |
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Posted: 12/9/2006 7:36:40 PM | | Yes mmo's are addicting. I have friends that play (too much imo). I think they would never get off, if they didn't have work to go to. I have given up on doing stuff with them on the weekends, because it is usually the samething everytime(Playing WoW). Yeah I admit, I have tired them and played for a bit, but can't really see what the big deal is. I usually get bored after a few minutes and wish I had my money back lol. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2006 10:44:18 AM | Warcraft is the devil...enough said.
But honestly, why don't YOU play? There is a limit per se, to how much he shoudl eb choosing it over you. I mean sometimes you can and should just shrug it off, it's not a big deal. If it becomes a problem then actually it might be more of an addiction than just a simple "laugh it off" scenario. This require help and a conscious effort on the game player (which will most likely deny there is a problem). | |
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Posted: 12/10/2006 10:59:24 AM | | i definately would've played...but he didnt want me too. and i did laugh it off at first, thought nothin of it. not a big deal. but then it came between us, he chose it over our anniversary, dads 60th bday, and he started playin it everyday, all day. would'nt even put it down to talk or even have dinner with me...it became his #1 priority. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2006 11:04:05 AM | | LOL.... a video game? date a guy who desn't play games.... | |
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Posted: 12/10/2006 11:21:57 AM | My SO is a gamer, preferring Asheron's Call, DDO, FFXI and EQ2 over WoW. My gaming preferences are more along the lines of old school arcade games and pinball. Our living room is now set up for gaming parties, I have adjusted to him staying up all night gaming on the weekends, we fix "one-handed snacks" for gaming nights so everybody can eat without abandoning the games. I have been drug kicking and screaming "No! I don't like those kind of games!!" into some serious UT sessions and have learned that I can talk trash and stalk my honey through the different maps quite well. I have even gone so far as to play while he is sleeping (shhhh.... don't tell) so I can better learn the maps and weapons.
It is not a big deal in our home and he does have his priorities in order, most of the time. And I really can't find fault that he would rather spend several hours gaming as opposed to time spent with my mother. I am ardently striving to get him a new custom built gaming computer for Christmas.
Lots of guys have addictive personalities and some are addicted to games, forsaking real life for game time, while others spend that same amount of time hunting, fishing, working on cars, in the shop, whatever. It's a matter of setting priorities and what they find important ~~ family vs their personal interests. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2006 12:02:21 PM | | If you were dumped due to a game then this person is not worth it. I like playing video games myself(yes I'm one of those nerds/geeks) BUT you should be able to drop that game for someone in your life or even friends for that matter. Or else you will spend A LOT of time on your own and end up losing your friends. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2006 12:12:02 PM | Queen Mab, that is how I would handle it as well....compromise, learn what their interests are, make room for their private time.
If you give it an honest effort and still find it is not for you, at least you will know enough to understand them when they need to talk about their hobby.
Advantages of being involved with gamers or anyone passionate about their hobby, it does not have to be games, they are gettig a bad rap here, IMO...
they can entertain themselves-non clingy/needy
they are easy to buy gifts for
they are easy to find (in their hobby area)
you can tell them to go to their room and they do-cheerfully
they are non demmanding on your time
they should not get upset with you doing whatever you want/whenever
looks like some pretty good side perks.
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Posted: 12/10/2006 2:33:11 PM | Getting that +5 Strength, +5 Agility, +5 Dex, +10 Defense Ring.
What else? Duh!
In defense of everyone slamming World of Warcraft players. I have many friends that play, and they are funny intelligent folks who just happen to love playing World of Warcraft along with ohhh 6 million other people from around the globe. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2006 3:37:40 PM | First of all I apologize on behalf of this guy who decided to choose warcraft over you. This is actually not your fault blame the video game. This however needs an explanation. Most guys or girls play video games to escape reality for a little while but when it comes to warcraft this actually gets very wierd. I do not play this game, nevre have and never will. I have however researched this topic and this is what I came up with.
1. This is known as one of the worlds most addicting games.
2. This game to some people is a lifestyle rather than a means of entertainment.
3. People have commited suicide as a result of not finding or finishing a level in this game.
4. When someone who plays this game online dies in real life, the hold a funeral in the multiplayer game for the person who died.
5. People have actually been married on this game and hold weddings in the video game itself.
That is only a few facts and they are all true, research it if you would like, and my advice to you is that I would get him off that game.
Trick. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2006 6:47:08 PM | | You know, this is precisely the reason I'm divorced. My ex had it bad for those on-line RPG's. No joke, 16 HOURS straight some days. I used to do all kinds of things to him to get his attention. Like dust him with the feather duster while I was cleaning or go up to him after several hours and check his pulse. He called ME immature. WTF? | |
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Posted: 12/10/2006 11:11:31 PM | Spending time with that special someone means everything to me. For me, the girl comes before the play.
It's funny how people choose something else over the person they're with.
It's all about balance, really. I would have to say that I enjoy my video games, but when you've made plans with that special someone, you should keep them.
Never have I intentionally made plans with someone, only to play games (or whatever else it may be) instead.
To me, it's just common courtesy. | |
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Posted: 12/10/2006 11:54:41 PM | I have lost one of my good buddies to city of villians i think it is called. But he plays a little too much. works, comes home and plays. forget wife and kid. bring me beer and don't bother me.
I still get on the odd duckhunt kick and shoot birds for 10 minutes, but.. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2006 6:44:24 AM | | They go at his pace and don't argue with him, don't ask him to change, and are always there for them when he needs them. Though he may throw the controller, he really doesn't mean anything buy it lol. My ex gf loved vids, and it was rare to trap a stereotype or see a gorgeous girl play rpg's but video games should be a game, and thats it. Your girlfriend always comes first no matter what. | |
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