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Posted: 12/19/2006 9:25:35 PM | I love video games. I've been playing them all of my life. My 60 year old aunt plays PC games, she loves Halo 2. My grandmother (bless her) passed away with an Atari hooked up to the TV in her hospital room. I have three siblings who all play, and my mother is so addicted that she doesn't play them anymore for fear she'll plant herself in front of them for days on end and chain smoke, letting her job go to pot.
That isn't to say that if I was crushing on a girl that I would choose a video game over her. I've played World of Warcraft, EverQuest I & II, Guild Wars, you name it. I love MMORPGs. (The type of game WOW is; Massively Multiplayer Online Role Playing Games.) I loved every minute of all of those games. However, had I been dating someone that I couldn't keep my mind off of, those subscriptions would be cancelled in a hot minute. (Or I would at least have waited until I was alone and not taking up the time we had together.)
The thing is though, that's just me. :\ If I didn't think a lady was worth my "valuable" gaming time, I wouldn't be dating her. Maybe he wasn't all that interested in you, and instead of being up front with you, decided to put you through that crap. Don't be so sad, though. It could be the best thing that ever happened to you.  | |
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Joined: 11/18/2006
Msg: 177 | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 9:39:41 PM | Oh come on now!
He HAS to lvl up!!!!!
It's all about the mithril and jacking up AH prices!
greymane is where its at and i use the nick on there as well. | |
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Tao97
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Joined: 12/10/2006
Msg: 178 | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 11:09:25 PM | | The same thing that makes a guy choose t.v. over a girlfriend. Really it isn't much different. Some guys like to watch t.v.(mostly sports), others like to play video or computer games. If he's choosing warcraft over you though, time to find a new boyfriend and dump his butt. I like computer and video games but would never choose them over a girlfriend. I like t.v. too but would never choose that over a girlfriend either. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2007 7:08:00 PM | | I too left my ex of 9 years over this same video game. It truly is an addiction that people just don't seem to acknowledge. It's all she did was play this game, sometime for 18 hours a day she'd play. I gave her plenty of ultimatums and every time she said she would try to cut it back. I asked for one night a week where we could just go out and do something fun together...it never happened so I left and she too chose the video game over me. True there may have been deeper problems but there weren't going to be solved by her playing that game and avoiding reality! | |
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Posted: 1/17/2007 8:50:59 PM | | As someone who used to have a problem I agree. The thing that made it hard when I used to be addicted was that my attempts were met with rather read a book or journal, and it's only fair because of what I had done. I imagine I would have gotten over the extra emphasis on games quicker if I had as much of an attempt to work with me as the people who had to end the relationship because the other wouldn't even try. | |
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Posted: 1/17/2007 10:31:16 PM | | WoW is a pretty good game, but a lady friend offers a much better one to play. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 12:07:10 AM | | hahaha i gotta say i find this very funny..... wow is addictive, but cummon if hes not giving you the attention because of the game youre doing something wrong... ****ing makes him wanna play more.. its simple really | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 12:09:02 AM | | incase you didnt get the ****ing, i meant bitc*ing | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 1:15:29 AM | I used to be a hardcore MMO player, it started with EverQuest which i played for about 5 years till WoW came out and i got into that hardcore for a few years as well.. I was heavily addicted to it, to the point where I would put off hanging out with friends to raid.
I'm no longer the hardcore player i once was, I still have WoW and i play from time to time but I dont find it all that enjoyable anymore. It took me a long time to finaly realise why i was so addicted to these games... and while the gameplay and risk vs reward and all sorts of other things these games offer is compelling that wasn't the reason. The reason was me, I was very unhappy with my life and instead of doing things to change it for the better I just escaped into my online world where I was a powerfull cleric in EQ that kept people alive in tight situations, where I felt wanted and needed. While I loved the attention i got from my guildmates in those games and it was an overall enjoyable experience, after taking a weeks vacation off of work and doing nothing but play EQ (or later WoW) By the end of my time off I would still feel unfufiled. I eventually came to my senses and quit playing WoW (after WoW came out i had given up on EQ) entirley.
Once I did that I spent my spare time on self improvment and found a nice Girlfriend to spend time with (yeah nice... or so i thought). About a year into the relationship I was unhappy with the relationship (she was emotionaly and verbaly abusive ect...) and I found myself picking up WoW again and.. AGAIN i was a hardcore player, because again I was unhappy with my life and just wanted to escape from the real world that made me soo unhappy.
Now about 3 months ago (after almost 2 years with her) the relationship finally reached the breaking point and I changed jobs, moved out on my own, started a consumer proposal (its simmilar to a bankruptcy), and pretty much changed EVERYTHING in my life i was unhappy with... I had reached rock bottom and finally took charge to make my life better. And you know what happend with WoW then... all of a sudden the game went from being engaging and fun to... wow this is tedious and totally ****ing boring and repetitive.
Like I said earlier I haven't stopped playing WoW, I still play from time to time, nowadays its like once a week for 3-4 hours, and I don't think ill ever become a hardcore gamer again since I will now see they symptoms that im unhappy in my life and I would rather take the time to fix my life than waste it in a game.
IMO being HEAVILY addicted to games ( or anything for that matter) is just a symptom of a MUCH larger problem. to me spending time with the girlfriend is one hell of a lot more fun than playing any game. Then again my new girlfriend is a lot kinder and easygoing than my last and i find it easier to get along with her. | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 2:57:00 AM | Understand this:
Video games > Everything else (including Playstation 3) | |
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Posted: 12/28/2007 3:51:00 AM | Let's see...
1. You can enjoy the video game all night long.
2. You can't catch a social diseases from a video game.
3. The video game won't get mad if you don't call.
4. Video games don't demand equality.
5. A videogame doesn't care if you play with another videogame.
6. A videogame doesn't mind being shared with your friends.
7. It only takes a second to turn on a videogame.
...and last but not least...
8. On a videogame, YOU choose the volume and difficulty.
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Posted: 12/28/2007 6:08:46 AM | Nothing on earth would make me choose a video game over my girlfriend.
Personally, i play video games when im stressed up or when im in the mood 2 play.
The only thing i would demand from my girlfriend, is to give me space to play my games ( that's if she's not a fan of video games)
If she can come to terms that i need to play my video games every now and then without disturbance (needs a lot of concentration, especially shoot 'em up games) then the better for her!
I guess video games shouldn't be seen as a threat by the females in any relationship, but to be seen as a form of entertainment and ways of getting rid of accumulated stress!
Seasons greetings to all.
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Posted: 12/28/2007 6:24:24 AM | Posted by zoeeygirl
incase you didnt get the ****ing, i meant bitc*ing
I love smart & beautifull brunettes 
OP...go read my profile and see what's mentionned about asking vs ****ing.
Most men will do absolutly anything to avoid ****ing, usually not the thing the woman was expecting. Me for instance, it is the perfect turn off, the most beautifull woman in the world couldn't get me going after she's ****ed at me for an hour. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 12:03:12 AM | | WOW is basically as addictive as crack | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 8:40:36 AM | Inachu! I'm on greymane as well! I'm in Oz.
I'm conflicted on this issue, only in one way.
Is video gaming really an addiction? I mean... honestly. Don't just take the usual kneejerk reaction and say WORLD OF WARCRAFT IS ADDICTIVE AS IS EVERCRACK LOLOLOL.
Is it really an addiction? In order to qualify as an addiction doesn't there have to be a chemical part, a neurochemical dependency?
Isn't world of warcraft just... a choice?
I can't deny it's a compelling game. It has the "addictive" elements of social networks such as chat, the building of an RPG, the team work of a sport, and so on. The desire to play it is strong, I can't deny that.
But an addiction... isn't that a stretch? Isn't that just a way of avoiding responsibility?
I'm a gamer. I play games. Quite a lot. I run one of Australia's largest independent video games websites, AustralianGamer. But I go to bed in time to get to work on time. I don't play much in the evenings because I have too much work to do.
And if the offer of sex was made I'd log off so fast I'd make one of those puffy shaped selfs that vanish like road runner does. My guild has a semi official rule: Sex > WoW.
That being said there WAS one time (way back when someone was actually interested in me) where I'd arranged to be in the game and help some people and she came by unannounced. She knew I'd be playing and said she didn't mind at all. I spent the next hour or so playing World of Warcraft with a naked blond girl next to me, playing with my hair and feeding me marshmallows.
I had a nerdgasm.
Of course... I finished up quickly and hopped into bed.... (If you don't read that carefully it looks like hopped into bed and finished up quickly. That would be bad.)
But I've always stuck by the simple rule that real life is more important, no matter what it is.
To the OP: You don't understand why he chose this game over you... as a fellow gamer, and player of the same game... neither do I. Idiot. I refuse to justify this kind of thing and say it's an addiction. Whether it is or not it's his responsibility to deal with it and control it, and his fault he's lost something good. | |
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dp635
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Joined: 1/3/2007
Msg: 191 | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 8:43:26 AM | | I guess I don't get your issue with this question??? Are you dating guys that are 12?????? Guy's guys don't choose to play video games over hanging out with their significant other........ | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 8:47:18 AM | | Join him playing or yer gonna get dumped. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 8:50:35 AM | I've said this in other posts.
Video games are a hobby, a girlfriend/wife is a life; I already have the hobby, now I need the life.
I've played video games my entire life, but I really can't understand how, unless there is something wrong with the person, that it can come before their relationship. Maybe it's just me. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 10:52:57 AM | Firstly:
8. On a videogame, YOU choose the volume and difficulty.
And secondly:
I spent the next hour or so playing World of Warcraft with a naked blond girl next to me, playing with my hair and feeding me marshmallows.
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Posted: 12/31/2007 1:18:21 PM | I think video games can actually be a good learning experience, and an eye opener. They are a bit like films, some are good, and some are not so good. Some entertain, and some can lead us to discovery.
A recent case in point was influenced by my thread on Lincoln, and the Civil War era. While I was out shopping at a drugstore, I saw a computer game on sale.
It was "Take Command - 2nd Manassas" , for the princely sum of $ 9.99. 
I picked it up without any idea of it's scope, and was quite surprised that it was exactly what I had hoped it would be. It's an historically accurate war game, and quite enlightening to experience.
I tend to favor high realism in my computer games, and this one is certainly quite realistic. I'm not a fan of those C & C type ones.
You command your troops, and fight some of the bloodiest battles of that period of the Civil War. You face many of the same problems that real commanders did, and that can really give you a "feel" of what that must have felt like.
There's nothing quite like issuing an order, and then suddenly realizing that it's not being followed.
An officers morale can break, and so can the mens.
It's the same thing with a game like Civ 3. One can be the technological leader of the world, and suddenly find oneself under attack and have an essential resource like oil suddenly vanish as the enemy cuts your supply off.
Welcome back to 1700 ....  | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 3:38:28 PM | | Immaturity or addiction. Nothing more to it than that. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 3:46:01 PM | | 3 words : world of warcrack | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 5:08:12 PM | He doesn't have a grasp of reality.
Life is short, ditch him and find a guy who will choose you over his video game. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 1:53:45 PM | | sounds like your more into him than he is into you, safe to say he probably dont want u in his life anymore | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 2:08:17 PM | | I like playing videogames but they aren't apart of my everyday life as once they once were. A few years back I went through a stage that I would be play for hours and hours and never get tired, now I'm lucky if I can play an hour without being bored. I'm happy during that time of my life that I was single, I don't think I would get away from it. Now things have changed, I have changed. The last person I was with she asked me if I played them, I said I did but its not my life. She had that problem with a past boyfriend that he would spend more time with the console/comupter/WOW/D&D then spending time with her. I realized long ago that a console/computer can't replace the feelings, the touch, the scent and the company/relationship of a women. I think that if a guy spends more time on a videogame then spending time with you then maybe he's not as into as you thought he was. Just because a guy plays videogames doesn't mean its his life, his means to live etc. | |
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