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Posted: 10/12/2006 10:35:40 AM | I am guessing that you are both young and attractive. Trubble is .. he just found out that he can use it to attract others instead of continuing to treat you like the "princess" you defenatly are. Why else would anyone make the moronic statement .. " I need space". If he is mopeing arround pondering his space and cant let you continue on with your life .. as he wanted to with that statement .. then it serves him right .. He lost you the minute those words left his mouth.
He and you will eventually get over it .. but for the time being .. he only misses certain things about you which are the reasons he is instantant in his attempts to keep you just close enough to "torture" you emotonally.
You know what .. and this is blunt .. it serves the shit head right .. give him a taste of his life to come without you in it .. and move on .. I garontee .. he isnt worth your pain and suffering ..
And dang .. look in the mirror hon .. you practacally melt mens hearts with those beautifull eyes alone .. I have absolutly no doubt .. you will love again.
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Posted: 10/12/2006 8:22:46 PM | | of course you will........I don't mean to keep bringing faith into this, but read 1 Cor 13...the whole chapter....you'll notice that REAL love is a Decision and Acting upon that decision. Also you'll notice that the first word to describe it is Patience....That's your key now. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2006 8:30:17 PM | God bless you guys really you have no idea how much better these posts make me feel  | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 12:23:32 AM | i hate to admit it, but this sounds like something i actually put a girl through.
here's the truth. i wanted to be done with her and move on. but i also wanted to "keep her on ice" in case i couldnt find anyone else.
basically, i put her through hell just cuz i was too selfish to be honest with her.
i dont mean to be a downer, and i'm not saying that's exactly what's goin on, i'm just sayin that it sounds just like what i did, and i deeply regret it.
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Posted: 10/21/2006 8:52:03 AM | | okay, i think you answered your own question at the end there, "he turned into a complete***hole". why even keep trying with someone who wanted some space in the 1st place, this site is not just for people who want to go out and get hitched,or just have an encounter,its just to meet people and there's no harm in that, you did nothing wrong and he flipped out , can you imagin if you did do something wrong? good luck. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2006 10:10:39 PM | Sounds to me like he just wants to have his cake and eat it too...If a guy knows that he has a good, bighearted woman who loves him, some of them mind you, will use that to their advantage like having a good thing on the back burner while looking for something a lil better, or hell just looking to get some strange...You should tell him to blow, and get on with your life...next time he texts, don't even waste the time to reply... Chances are you can do a whole lot better....
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Posted: 10/24/2006 12:11:37 PM | | Okay so yeah...I did a bad thing! He started texting me and we started kinda talking again and we even hung out a few times. Then when I asked him to spend sweetest day with me he started acting like a complete ***hole! Keep in mind that the whole time he always told me he loved me. Well his last text to me he said "I don't hang out with you because I love you. I Pity you" like screw that I am soooo done I might even change my number just so that he can't keep building me up just to break me down...I can't stand it anymore he made me feel like such a loser and I'm not! Okay yeah... I'm not the most beautiful girl in the world this I know, but I have a very big heart! I mean I would have done anything for this guy to make him happy! I really wish he could have just seen that and taken advantage of it. All I can say is that bad Karma will come back around and I wanna see it make him feel every bit of sadness that he made me feel! It's just wrong to do that to someone! | |
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Posted: 10/24/2006 12:14:26 PM | | He think's he is sooo great but really I look 100x better than him so...I need to just drop his ass and find someone else! Look at my page and tell me if you think I can do better than him I'll post his pic | |
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Posted: 10/25/2006 10:58:39 AM | | don't sell yourself short, you are a very pretty girl. When you a giving person, people use that as a weakness sometimes, and abuse that. You just gotta find someone who is willing to put in the effort and give back. | |
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Posted: 10/25/2006 6:31:28 PM | | do what makes you happy and never settle. if he doesn't make you happy all the time, then there is someone else out there that will. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 7:06:27 AM | I SEE THAT EVERYONE SEEMS TO HAVE HER PROBLEM SOLVED, BUT HER! WHAT I KNOW TO BE TRUE ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS, IS THAT SOMETIMES YOU FEEL LIKE THE GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE. SOMETIMES THAT MAY BE A TRUE STORY! MAYBE HE IS GETTING DIRECTION FROM OTHERS. WHETHER IT BE FROM FRIENDS, ADVICE BOOKS, MEDIA (MAGAZINES, TV SHOWS, RADIO), OR SOMEONE WHO IS WISE. WHICHEVER WAY YOU FLIP THE COIN, THE ONLY THING YOU SEEM TO FEAR AT THIS POINT IS CHANGE. I SEEM TO GET SO CAUGHT UP IN LIFE, THAT SOMETIMES TIME JUST FLYS BY ME. WHEN I TAKE SOME TIME TO LOOK BACK AT MY FRIENDS, I TEND TO SEE THAT THEY ARE IN THE SAME PLACE, DOING THE SAME THINGS THEY WERE DOING A YEAR AGO. I JUST LOVE THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE AND TRY TO KEEP IT MOVIN BUDDY! MAYBE TAKING SOME TIME AWAY FOR EACH OTHER WILL SHOW BOTH OF YOU WHAT YOU REALLY WANT. LIKE THE SAYING GOES, "IF YOU TRULLY LOVE SOMEONE, SET THEM FREE. IF THEY COME BACK AGAIN, THEN IT WAS MENT TO BE!" AT THE SAME TIME YOU CAN GROW TO FIND OUT LOTS OF THINGS YOU NEVER KNEW ABOUT YOURSELF.
YOUR BROKEN HEART WILL ONLY HAVE THE VALUE THAT YOU PUT ON IT. IF YOU SEE IT AS A 10 (LIFE CONSUMING) THEN THAT IS WHAT IT WILL BE. THEN AGAIN IF YOU VALUE IT AT ABOUT A 3 (DAM I GOT A SCRATCH ON MY CAR) THEN YOU KINDA ALWAYS HAVE IT ON THE BACK OF YOUR MIND, BUT CAN FUNCTION ON AN EVEN LEVEL ALL DAY.
I'M SORRY BABY GIRL! BROKEN HEARTS ARE SO HARD. JUST SIT DOWN AND WEIGH OUT ALL THE GOOD AND BAD QUALITIES. THINK LONG AND HARD ABOUT WHAT U WANT. THEN BELIEVE IN YOUR ABILITY TO MAKE GOOD JUDGEMENTS. BEST OF LUCK TO YOU. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 7:30:25 AM | you look 100x's better than him ok.
that answers it for me i would throw you back also, he doesn't feel your a keeper.
and i wouldn't get to involved with a woman that thinks she's the bee's knee's.
like a barbie doll i used to date said " i have 20 guy's waiting for me if you don't like it one of them will." | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 7:46:04 AM | | OP~Dont be waisting your time with this guy...your only 20 hes going to keep you on his leash till you decide enough is enough,hes just playing with your emotions and when he see's your moving on he pulls you back in again by saying the words you want to hear.Theres many good men out there that wont play his game,your a beautiful young women ..get on with life. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 8:16:21 AM | Your 'boyfriend' wants to play the field but expects you to sit home. It sounds to me that he is a CONTROL FREAK... He doesn't really want you back, he just doesn't want you going out with anyone else.
SELECTIVE RECALL is what is keeping you wanting him...You want to only remember the good times you've spent with him....but please keep in mind how he has been making you feel lately...Trust me, it will only get worse if you wait for him
Walk away and consider yourself lucky that you didn't marry the guy. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 10:14:00 AM | | Please don't misunderstand me.... I am not acting as if looks are the most important thing in a relationship....I treat him like he is the most precious thing in the world to me and he just makes me feel like shit as if I could never find anyone better than him. My self confidence has been ruined because of it...esp after he told me that he pitied me. Hearing that from someone who you are truely in love with hurts. So to clear things up I am not some sort of concieted **** just looking for attention I have far worse problems at this point. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2006 11:47:22 AM | well if you truely love this guy, i feel sorry for you.
sometimes we have to accept that love is one sided and move on.
be the bigger person girl take your heart and move on, to find the strength to do that just
ask yourself would you do to someone you love what he's doing to you? | |
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Posted: 1/29/2007 2:10:42 PM | Don't tell anyone I said tjis , but men suddenly want someone much harder when they think they really may be gone.
He thought you were moving on... he's playing you .
He wants to see if his buttons still work on you.
Doesn't mean he cares, doesn't mean that he doesn't..
It means that the best thing you can do for yourself is to tell him to stay out of your life (and just to make him crazy ..... make sure that you go out with some girl friends and have some pictures taken of you having a great time ..... and post a few on this site ! lol | |
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Posted: 1/29/2007 2:13:16 PM | he needed space means .......u guys spent to much time together......
your friend may of been trying to help u out .......but u should have before hand told him u were on here i think that might have lost the trust issue cus being on here and taken some ppl have a problem with it..........
wierd but hear me out..........
all of a sudden he wants u back and is texting u are u sure your friend and him didn't have something set up behind your back ??.........why i say that is cus she intruduced u to this site now all of a sudden he was mad at u ..........now where the other girl is i dunno a friend still or not ?............then as u are ready to move on...........he is wanting u back ..........
its cus he doesn't want to see u happy with someone else.............he is jealous.....
advice keep your head up and stick to your grounds u are gonna move on with your life and not let him play games and be happy and not be rebound for him when he feels like having a g/f........
he is saying " oh i know she will take me back even though she is after this guy " don't do it set boundaries for him not to treat u like crap...........good luck | |
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Posted: 1/29/2007 2:24:05 PM | Get the book.."he's just not that into you"...
He thought he could get better and probably was talking with someone else..she didn't give him what he thought he wanted and now wants to make sure you have not gone to far away..
give him his space!!!!!!!! tell him you moved on..
going back is going to be like getting on a merry go round :(
Been there done that! I finally got off it... | |
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Posted: 10/2/2007 11:05:26 PM | As soon as they say "I need space"
it's basically over. Cut your losses and move on and forget about him. Also cutting off all possible contact with him works wonders as well, but that's your call. Just thought I'd recommend it since it's always done me good when relationships have failed. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2007 3:46:40 PM | | He has no idea what he wants either. Tell him to: "put up, or shut up...marry me, or move on!" He was searching singles sites, and is mad because you were...after he left you? Is he 10 years old? Give him a last chance, and if he hasn't gotten the wedding license, and rings, within three months,drop him and never contact him again. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 7:02:39 PM | | you are going through the exact same thing that one of my friends went through. She did all of the exact same things in a remarkably similar situation. I continually told her to cut out all communication with the jackass but she didnt listen to me. I think he is still dragging her through the mud (metaphorically speaking of course). Heartbreak sucks, but it is an inevitable part of life. Believe me i know. How you handle such a shitty situation makes you who you are. If you let him walk all over you continuously it is almost a guarantee that you will let others walk all over you. You need to get your self esteem back up and stand up for yourself. I dont expect you take my advice. Hell i couldnt get my friend to listen to me. In the end the outcome of this situation is completely up to you. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2008 10:33:59 PM | Yeah, dont be frustrated! You may NOT ever meet anyone like him again, but you know what? You probably will meet someone even better! When you have a relationship like you had with him, and it seems like he is the best thing you ever have had, just remember that it doesnt mean that is the best you can ever find! I know this from experience. I married a guy that I thought was the BEST thing in the world. He was the best boyfriend I had ever had, and I didnt realize just how much better it could be, because Id never had anything better. Now that I have started dating again, I have found a man who just completes me. We dont fight. We fit together so well, its like he is just another part of me. If you dont understand this guy, then keep looking until you find someone you DO understand! Love is too precious to waste on someone who you will wind up fighting with and struggling against. If it doesnt feel like you are a team, like you are in this thing together, then you don't need him. You need someone who is your best friend, who understands you, who makes you feel like you know them almost as well as you know yourself. Don't let this guy have the power to control you. Take the control back and tell him you want to move on. If there is such a misunderstanding and confusion in your dating life, how much worse would it be in a marriage? Life is crazy enough without having to come home to more tormoil and strife. Keep looking, and find someone who you are at harmony and peace with. I know that it may seem like you never will, but the guy for you IS out there. Dont give up and settle for less than what you truly deserve just because your afraid you may wind up alone. You are waay to young to worry about being an old maid!!! lol Focus on you, tell this guy to take a hike, and throw out your line!  | |
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