| goldigger vs easy
Posted: 12/14/2006 8:21:32 AM | Question .. who did you feel more attraction for.
The broke guy who treated you like a whore .. or the guy who put you on a pedistal ? | |
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| goldigger vs easy
Posted: 12/14/2006 10:20:50 AM | I have to confess, to being a little confused here.
Yes, a guy should SHOW a woman he loves her,
more so then telling her!
And yet, at the same time, a man should NEVER
try and win the affections or approval of a woman.
So, it appears to be a very fine line indeed and I'm
not sure where that line is best drawn! | |
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| goldigger vs easy
Posted: 12/14/2006 7:14:55 PM | Let's take a look at the definition of whore:
"a woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse, usually for money"
So if you didn't expect "these things" guys tried to pay you for sexual intercourse? | |
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Posted: 8/14/2008 7:40:19 PM | | emotions, its all about emotions, get them and your rich! i ve dated MANY rich women, one even won the lottery, its not all that fun when your surrounded by money not love. I say stay grounded and buy yourself things you want. We will get you what you need, the wants are your responsibility. | |
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Posted: 8/14/2008 8:39:37 PM | I'm sorry but I really don't like this "invest in me financially" nonsense. You are not a stock portfolio, you're a girl.
There are ways of suggesting that you want to be treated to a nice evening out without mentioning money, finances, his salary, his earnings or anything similar. Just by saying "I worked hard this week and it would be nice to go to a restaurant with some ambiance" this would suggest what you're looking for but it doesn't have the cold/hard talk of money to it. This is the difference.
This is important: just because a guy makes a six-figure salary doesn't mean he's necessarily going to be as generous as the guy working somewhere for minimum wage who has a generous spirit. | |
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Posted: 8/19/2008 10:28:52 PM | I agree that just because a guy makes alot of money doesn't mean he will spend it and there are alot of poor guys out there that would spend their last dime on you but there is only so much they can do, despite their kind heart. Give me a man with cash anyday, love only hurts you, money can buy stuff that lasts.
I am proud to be a golddigger spending my days finding a new conquest and now that I am unemployed I need me a guy to pay the bills. Got 6 potentials for this coming week.  | |
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Posted: 8/20/2008 2:35:46 AM |
Give me a man with cash anyday, love only hurts you, money can buy stuff that lasts.
I am proud to be a golddigger spending my days finding a new conquest and now that I am unemployed I need me a guy to pay the bills. Got 6 potentials for this coming week.
Then that makes you... a whore I think? | |
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Posted: 8/20/2008 6:24:43 AM | Ang65....I sure hope that was a joke ....because if not...asyndeymale's response of being a 'whore' is certainly apt.
And I agree with the other poster that stated a 'first meet' should not be expensive because its not a true date until you both agree to see each other again.
I've married for love once and that would be the only reason I'd ever do so again.
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| goldigger vs easy
Posted: 8/20/2008 6:27:53 AM | Stick to your guns, Sweetie! God Don't Make No Junk!!! He will come along and cherish you!
Sherry | |
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Posted: 8/20/2008 8:32:29 AM | | any woman who has sex with anyone but her husband is a whore because it is sex outside of marriage, giving it away for free doesn't make it any more respectable. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2008 8:47:42 AM | Well I am the broke and angry guy she is fearing to hear from, and OP this is what I have to say about your premise that men owe you a date before you will consider them date-worthy material .... cool, hope that works out for you!
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Posted: 8/20/2008 9:05:05 AM | | Hey there aria, steady on with all that "all men are **stards" stuff. I could say that you'v just been wasting your time with the wrong men, but that wouldnt help ither, would it?? Whatever your situation is now, you have to deal with it. Just as I have to with mine. So get on with it, because no one else is going to do it for you. So just do it Darling and be strong. Be strong ,deep within yourself. Steve xx | |
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Posted: 8/20/2008 12:07:01 PM | | If a man has to spend all day to finde you a special candy, then I think that your both too imature to be allowd out in public without your parents. Honnestly, grow up..... Steve | |
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| goldigger vs easy
Posted: 8/20/2008 12:28:35 PM | | people need to shelve their sense of entitlement when it comes to dating. Save that shit for the relationship. | |
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Posted: 8/20/2008 12:57:29 PM | "golddigger" - no such thing in my experience
"easy" - also no such thing
Being financially well off does not attract women ;)
But I do think it is a *tad* shallow to base your dating selections on what a guy can do for you. You should look at people for who they are and how they treat others. If he happens to be able to treat you more, bonus  | |
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Posted: 8/20/2008 1:08:06 PM | I have a simple solution to the whole situation. I only go dutch for the first part of the relationship. Period and no exceptions. If she don't like it then there is the door, as the site says....there are plenty of fish who are willing to concede to that point. If the relationship ever tilts towards what can you do for me now as opposed to what can we do for each other...there is the door.
Once things are more serious and established I have no problem with footing the bill when we go out....then its not trying to win your love but more like showing how I appreciate you.
Ok flame on. | |
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| goldigger vs easy
Posted: 8/20/2008 1:20:14 PM | OP ,
If a man takes you out to say a mid-grade place like Chiles , your saying that would give you the impression he isn't that in to you ? I mean there is several reason why a man would chose a certein place for a date ... the cost isn't the only one . My 2 cents is , if a woman judges soaly on where she is taken to dinner if the date is sucessful or not would be grouped with a gold digging crowd. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 7:59:53 PM |
giving it away for free doesn't make it any more respectable.
In your world apparently sex is only a commodity, to be traded for trinkets.
Sex in my world is an expression of love and affection, something a couple give each other, with what the man has to offer being of the same value as what the woman brings to the table.
What you bring to the table Ang65 is a poor imitation, an empty pretence, a second-rate play-act of intimacy, because, how can you be intimate if it is just a business transaction? | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 8:10:53 PM |
I have a simple solution to the whole situation. I only go dutch for the first part of the relationship. Period and no exceptions. If she don't like it then there is the door, as the site says....there are plenty of fish who are willing to concede to that point. If the relationship ever tilts towards what can you do for me now as opposed to what can we do for each other...there is the door.
Once things are more serious and established I have no problem with footing the bill when we go out....then its not trying to win your love but more like showing how I appreciate you.
It is funny, but I feel exactly the opposite than this. If I ask you out the first time, I will pay. If I ask you out again, I will pay. But, I expect you to pay if you ask me out. And when we have gone together for awhile, dutch will work.
Sherry | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 9:34:55 PM | But then, if I invited a friend to lunch, I would pay for him/her, also. I issued the invitation. I requested their company and time. I value it. I will pay for it. Many times, people will say, No, let's just each get our own. But, I feel the responsibility lies with whomever issued the invitation.
Sherry | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 9:41:30 PM | O.P.
So they are allowed to date you O.A.C. then?
Interesting.
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Posted: 8/21/2008 9:49:20 PM |
becouse I told him I now expected guys to invest more in me time wise and finacially.not becouse I'm looking to land some rich guy it's more becouse when I didn't expect these things the guys figured it was ok to treat me... well like a whore (ironic isn't it).I fugure if a guy doesn't think I'm worth at least one decent date he probably doesn't like me that much.Am I wrong?why?
It is wrong to me because you are applying a standard to others while exempting yourself from it. You are giving yourself a passive role while expecting a lot more from the person you are interested in. If men were to demand something similar no one would ever get anywhere because everyone would be too busy waiting for the other person to make a move. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 9:56:52 PM | | Uh... guys... the OP has apparently long since become involved and off the market. So a lot of these posts are redundant. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2008 11:37:23 PM | I got a funny email from a chick in washington that took offense to what I said on this thread about only going dutch for the first few dates....I thought I would share it.
oh and i will share my response as well.
names will be hidden to protect the stupid.
starts now............
looking for a nice LOCAL girl, why did you view me???!!!
Per your Forum comment....you are a cheapskate...you wouldn't get to square one with me. PATHETIC!
Only desparate women would go for a jerk that refuses to pay for the first date.
HINT: If you want a second date...pay for the first one.
(This in not rocket science, pal)
the end...........
And now my response to her.....starts now.........
Wow this is almost laughable but I will be happy to address your email point by point.
I viewed you most likely because at some point you showed up on my who viewed me section and I it does not show where you are when you show up on there....either that or I saw a post of yours on the forum and I wanted to see more about you. Just because someone views you does not mean they are interested in you. Are you really that vain to think that? Sometimes a view is just a view and the person may have clicked on your profile not knowing where you were or anything about you.
Now, as to the cheapskate comment. Let me ask you this. You want me to pay for the entire first date. But you refuse to pay for just half of it. Now, who is the cheapskate? Its not about being cheap its about being equitable. If a woman does not want to pay for her part of the first date, then there is no first date...and I have plenty of first dates..and second...and so on. The women I go out with happen to be of the mindset that each paying their own way puts both parties on an even footing and eliminates stress due to expectations. They not only dont mind paying their own way...they insist on it. As for me being a cheapskate...I went on a third date a couple of nights ago. I took her to see Tom Petty and The Heartbreakers in concert. Each ticket was 95 bucks. I bought them and didnt ask her to pay for hers. Thats well over a 200 dollar date and I did it because I had really enjoyed our first two dates. Somehow I dont think cheap is the word for it. And why would I want to get to square one with you? I cant think of a reason. Besides I have to question the credibility of a person who cant even put up a picture on their profile. What do you have to hide?
ok thats it................ | |
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