| What are you afraid of?
Posted: 10/19/2006 7:54:58 AM | Thank you very much tootsietx and idreamofu2 for all the encourgment and advice, ya'll are very sweet, I know ya'll are both right, but it hurts so da-- bad right now...but yes, I know it will get better, and yes luckytx I know I am emotional but tootietx is right, there is also ALOT of passion going on also, it might be best you you were a little emotional once in awhile yourself, then maybe you wouldn't sound so heartless, at least I have feelings, emotions and a heart, everyone have a good day, I feel better...... | |
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| What are you afraid of?
Posted: 10/19/2006 10:36:50 AM | | allgemini, god ,im glad you said that,its very frustrating ,im almost embarrased because i had to make my profile so blunt, and i still get emails from people i shouldnt, should one write back and tell them that some like hot some like cold some like green some like blue some dont like meat some dont like veggies ? i thought ,that is what this site is for ,to put what you prefer? i read somewhere on this site , that said dont be offended if you get deleted. so im not going to worry about it any more. any way your right on. | |
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| What are you afraid of?
Posted: 10/19/2006 10:55:29 AM | to the initial posted thread and sweet one stating it , i may have a fan club of faves , but i get few emails myself . i have met a guess of maybe 10 or more off this site and cant recall but barely 2 that were not nightmare inducing or absolutely dear abby help me change my name types. i have learned my chosen dates are my own flaw , but i can moderately admit i am soooo hesitant to encourage a meeting of any next one just yet .... i am a hang out seeker , but i can appreciate the necessity i believe some type of more elaborate or prioritized separation of truthfully life partner seekers and the multiple others we are categorized by sought preference. sorry if came out a messy scratch of rambling. but in short i mean to say i can totally empathize and note such a nuissance in this dating race and this site. i wish more were honest with themselves and then in turn with us in specifically stating a true preference of what each is seeking at this time and no one would have to wrestle the anlyzing of scrutinized emails , what is true and what is exaggerated , where do they stand ??? cut and dry is simply said and never fully adopted i suppose . good luck . i read ur page and wish u the absolute best in blessings to come .... take care
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Posted: 10/19/2006 8:18:23 PM | Good analogy on the later paraphrases...So many reluctants and misrepresentations as to what you are and what you really are..I can say I have been very good at chosing the girls I met and have not had but one nightmare and that was with one that didnt post a pix..never again..sorry but this girl was bad...not that kinda bad either..
I have to keep in mind this is a free sight and it does attract the curious who try to play the game and they really dont know what they are doing...or what they want...they string along..and the guys are ten times worse than the girls...I know that from talking to them and dating them...trust me a lot of you guys are out there man....
Good luk to those who really want what this sight is about...not talking about the forums either to each thier own here... | |
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| What are you afraid of?
Posted: 10/19/2006 8:29:09 PM | had to spit in a lil amen paladin .... we are born to survive and with that comes choices and instinct , if natural selection or self defined comparisons dont result in ideal outcomes , start using " iney minnie miny moe " ( wow how wierd was that, havin to spell a simple i dont know how the f....) lol
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| What are you afraid of?
Posted: 10/20/2006 2:58:50 PM | **singing**
I think i love you but what am i so afraid of, im afraid that im not sure of , of something thats so..... la la... hehehe forgot the words.
Think about it, just wondering here, but, how far back have we been talking about or writing songs and poems about being afraid of love. Isnt one of Poes poems about a fear of rejection by someone he loves? | |
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| What are you afraid of?
Posted: 10/20/2006 11:15:52 PM | | Yes maybe I should cry and get emotional sometimes but I won't. That is for girls and I am a guy. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 2:50:16 AM | Well Ahoy, Short is good, and I too am short. I am honestly 5'2, although my kids say that I am only 5'0. However, I know that when God made you and I, He did so good, after He stepped back and looked at us giants, He patted us on the heads, and said, "Dang I did Good", And thats what shortened us. He had a heck of a pat going on there.
HALF FULL ALWAYS
And Lucky,
I hate to say it, but I have the greatest, dearest male bestfriend in all the world. And just this weekend before last, he took me to my brothers grave side, in which I was not allowed to attend the funeral because of his mom, (my step mom), and him not ever having met my brother, he cried with me and for me. I have a greater respect for men that can cry. I feel like real men do cry. I love him even more for that and will always cheerish it.
And sweetie, you just cry till you don't think you can cry anymore, and then cry even more. It will take time. And sometimes longer than others, but it's okay. We have to allow ourselves this emotions to move on. So Allow Yourself That. It is okay. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 10:24:43 AM | | I_dreamed ofu2. I understand and have heard many other ladies say that also. I just assume that ladies like Girly men and if that is what y'all want then that is fine. There are many types out there and it should be easy to find that type. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 11:18:25 AM | No Lucky,
It's not that. My best buddy is man's man, but he loved me enough to take me to my brothers grave, a 7 hr. drive one way, and he cried because he loves me and said that he could not stand to see me hurt. When you love, you should love to where self no longer exists. You put that person and their welfare above and beyond yours. And when you can do this, you feel a over powering joy.
When I was a child, even though I was a female child, I was not allowed to cry, so there fore I find it hard to cry in front of others. I saw crying and was taught that crying is a sign of weakness, only to find that the weakness was when I didn't. I could not heal. I could not move forward because crying is a form of healing. When you keep or hold your emotions inside, you makes you bitter, to yourself, as well as others.
We have different emotions that will trigger tears. Joy, laughter, pain, sadness, triumph, and many more. What kind of world would it be to live inside myself not allowing these emotions. Now that I have learned to cry, and allowed myself that, I realize it is ok.
And so it is for men.
How many of you men have had children, gone throught the birthing process with your loved one? And how many of you cried?? I wish you all would answer that just to show that it is a true emotion, and no matter what the emotion, it is okay to cry.
Anyway Lucky, I am not saying your a bad person, nor am I giving coodles to you for not having cried, but it does not mean that the men that do are 'Girly Men'. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 11:55:44 AM | There are plenty of guys out there with the same mind set as Lucky. A guy that cries at ANYTHING is considered a girly man, sissy, cry baby, or the like. A lot of these same guys will even find it hard to tell their own son that they love him. My father was one of these guys. I always knew he loved me and knew he was sad at times.....but he didn't allow the outward showing of these emotions. I believe it is a case of being raised that way and immaturity. And possibly insecurity.
I rarely cry, but in certain situations I don't understand how one cannot cry. Like stated before, you must allow yourself the opportunity to feel/understand the hurt so the healing may begin. Labeling guys that may cry as girly men is juvenile in itself...... | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 2:54:40 PM | | I think crying makes a man MORE of a man. I don't mean like one who will cry at the drop of a hat. Hell, I cry just talking about my daughter to someone. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 4:32:01 PM | Good for you AC! I think crying is just an outward sign of strong emotion whether it is love, fear,pain, anger, or whatever. And most women like to know a man has a heart.
There are men who can cry with you over something emotional and men who can hold and comfort you while you cry. I like both.
The type of crying I do that I hate is crying when I get REALLY MAD. Sometimes I can't finish saying what I want because I cry. I haven't been that mad in a long time though. I think maybe I have mellowed and don't let myself get that mad anymore.
Also, I think I have built up some scar tissue on my heart and made it tougher. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 4:35:56 PM | | Lucky, not all women like girly men. I want my man to be a man and be strong emotionally. I seldom let anyone see me cry and want a man who is the same way. I think there are times when tears are appropriate for both men and women but I do not want to be around either a man or a woman who cries a lot. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 5:41:29 PM | | The fish slayer this is for the girl with red I mean RED hair whom is a man slayer . | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 8:29:54 PM | | You wouldn't want one of mine, AC.. it has gel alcohol on it from the Quirk/OCD posts. LOL | |
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Posted: 10/21/2006 9:52:45 PM | | You know... there are a lot of men out there who are both ways.. Its what makes this world diffrent. I have had a friend who will cry sometimes for no real reason.. NOW I dont look on him as anything girly, sissy, or all the other terms that have been batted around, its just how he deals with issues in his life.. its no different then someone who never crys, but works his issues in life by, becoming a work-a-holic, or sports nut, work out fiend, or what ever else is his way of dealing with things.. but I do know this.. There is no man out there.. that as an adult that can say he never cry's.. just that he may not have been in that point of his life.. it will happen someday... | |
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| What are you afraid of?
Posted: 10/22/2006 1:24:21 AM | Scheherrazade. You have it and I am shocked that there are any ladies left that understands. There was a time when men were raised that "men don't cry". We had to be tough. Now that meant they could never ever cry at all just that they have to be a "rock" and carry the burden for the family and tough it out and let the others cry. Eventually it was known they could go somewhere private and cry and maybe even with their special loved one.
I and I know others were raised that grown men don't cry. It is seen by many that it is ok for ladies and children to cry but a Man is a Man.
If you guys want to cry it is ok and go ahead and cry. It seems most ladies here are creaming for your type. In fact it seems to be a good thing to let them know you do cry as it may get a few ladies to look at your profile. It is a different age and time. | |
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Posted: 10/22/2006 3:53:36 PM |
It seems most ladies here are creaming for your type.
Lucky hun, was that supposed to be screaming?? | |
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| What are you afraid of?
Posted: 10/28/2006 12:23:21 PM | To answer the OP, I'm not afraid. I'm here to meet people, and I *have* met people.
I will admit, though, to not answering probably most of the emails I receive. I've found that far too many men that contact me are unable to gracefully accept rejection, no matter how gentle it was.
Unfortunately, it seems that most of the men who contact me are so completely incompatible that I sit at my computer wondering how in the hell they managed to reply to the wrong profile.
That, or I get emails that say "hey, you're sexxxxxxay! let's talk!"
So I changed my settings and put a character limit on initial emails that are sent to me, and now I get emails that say "hey, you're sexxxxxxay! let's talk!....crap! I have write more...oh well...;oaisjrdfgoiahiogha;dsfighjaoeirhgadhg"
I know that I could add a detailed list of all the things NOT to do or be when emailing me, but I see profiles like that and they just seem so negative...what a turn-off. I'll keep it the way it is and just be patient. I don't need every man that emails me to be perfect for me...just one of them. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2006 12:30:22 PM | I think when a woman sees my pic she runs scared. I gave up on my appearance long ago cause women dont want me anyway,, looking good or bad. It hasnt changed a thing.
I think we all are in a big black hole of nothingsville. No one will ever find their soulmate and all we do is float in space,,, lost,,,, | |
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