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| Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers.
Posted: 10/17/2006 3:25:43 PM | This is to the guy that said guys that send flowers are suckers. I strongly disagree! That is very sweet and I would be honored if someone thought enough of me on this site to send me flowers. That shows that someone is truly interested in you, and also shows that he is not a bum! I hate when men think being sweet is a form of weakness! I want some of those darn flowers!!!!!!! lol  | |
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| Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers.
Posted: 10/17/2006 11:18:57 PM | that is so cool
ya the virtural flowers thing on sites like "hon" is kinda gay- at least this way the money is actually being used for something worthwhile | |
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| Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers.
Posted: 10/17/2006 11:52:26 PM | | Well there was a time you could get sex online (if you couldnt in RL), a date online (we all know about that!), and now flowers? I would prefer them in reality rather than virtual... | |
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e-wok
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Joined: 9/25/2006
Msg: 286 | |
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| Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers.
Posted: 10/18/2006 5:23:45 AM | cynderalla, no I am not bitter and there is nothing bitter in saying a gift you ask for is not the same as a gift you didn't ask for.
Oh, I haven't received flowers but I did have an offer for somes but I was not interested in the fellow so I turned them down. He was most appreciative that I didn't use him just to receive flowers | |
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| JUST FOR YOU
Posted: 10/18/2006 6:13:32 AM | Thanks POF,classy touch to add flowers to the site.My hat is off to you.If I had a hat. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 6:49:25 AM | i wish someone would send me flowers :( i never get anything! oh well .. mybe i'll get something nice someday.. who knows! | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 7:30:12 AM | | Let me be the first to post a negative experience. I sent flowers that were received at 8:35am yesterday (I called the toll free number to verify this), and here it is, over 24 hours later, and I have not heard anything from the woman, not even a "Thanks but no thanks" email. Yes, I put my user ID on the card, and she has been on this site several times since then. I hope she gave the flowers to someone who would enjoy them. I once wrote a blues song called "Game Over, I Lose". How fitting. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 7:35:33 AM | ^
Yeah, that's what gets me about this whole thing. People will use the flowers to make an extra good impression and will be crushed when someone doesn't give them a good response. I'm dread of the thought of some random guy sending me some flowers, me not being interested, and making someone mad.
I'd probably contact the guy and arrange for me to Paypal the money he spent on the flowers back to him because I'd feel guilty. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 8:03:00 AM | I knew this flowers thing was a crap shoot, and I was set up for the possibility of a rejection. But I didn't even get THAT. Whenever I get emails from women who I'm not interested in, I always reply and thank them for contacting me. Maybe I'm naive in thinking that this should be a common practice here. Yes, I'm disappointed that things aren't going to work out, but an email would have been appreciated. Okay, I'm done spreading my pissy-ness here. Let's hope my negative experience is one of just a few, and that most people have positive ones. See, I'm smiling again.  | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 9:51:31 AM | | ^^^Just to say how dishonest people are. If you are not interested to make friends, why take the flowers?? All one have to do is not giving out their information so that flowers cannot be delivered and costs will not be charged. If someone send me flower whether I accept or not, I will still send them a brief thank you note just to acknowledge their kindness. | |
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Barb69
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Joined: 9/11/2006
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| Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers.
Posted: 10/18/2006 9:53:01 AM | | How does that work anyway? I never gave POF my address and my name is pretty common where I live. | |
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| Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers.
Posted: 10/18/2006 10:01:37 AM | Hello,
from another English woman who adores flowers and would love this idea to be available here too!
Please sort it quickly........I can smell them from here.......they have to be scented of course!! | |
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| Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers.
Posted: 10/18/2006 10:26:59 AM | yeah well I wouldn't send flowers to someone with whom I'd not made any contact first, unless I was pretty sure (how?) that she'd be receptive to the "secret admirer" scenario. And for that mystique to work, it has to come from an anonymous sender.
Otherwise it's a major gamble as in..how do you know she even likes flowers?...how do you know she's not deathly allergic?...how do you know she'd not rather have something else - or nothing at all -instead? ..et al.
The ones I have sent so far have been well received, but these were acquaintances I've made on here that have lasted several months. The flowers were just a token of friendship, another way to say thank you and other unsaid expressions of appreciation for the people they just happen to be.
If I did send flowers to a complete stranger, it would be as anonymously as is possible, without any expectations (of acknowledgement or otherwise), implied obligatons, or hopes of reciprocity. In this scenario, the flowers have to be given freely, with absolutely "no strings attached." Anything else invites disappointment. | |
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| Plentyoffish, Now with Flowers.
Posted: 10/18/2006 10:47:18 AM | | neillowe, that's exactly how I'm going to approach it. I just might send a guy some flowers someday, but he'll never know they're from me. It should just be seen as a way to brighten someone's day, not something to send where you expect something in return. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 11:51:01 AM |
Let me be the first to post a negative experience. I sent flowers that were received at 8:35am yesterday (I called the toll free number to verify this), and here it is, over 24 hours later, and I have not heard anything from the woman, not even a "Thanks but no thanks" email.
wow Friendless BK...that is bad, I mean she shouldn't have filled in her address if she didn't want to accept them. Are you sure she has received them? Because I have been having some trouble ..first with the flower company and then with Fedex about my address. First of all the wrong postal code was on it and then the Apt number was left off.
I'd probably contact the guy and arrange for me to Paypal the money he spent on the flowers back to him because I'd feel guilty.
Angelab, if you feel bad about accepting the flowers then you could just not fill in your address. Admittedly you would never know who sent them because it just says "a user" wants to send you flowers but maybe there should be an option where the recipient can fill in a simple form which says the reason why you don't want to accept the flowers? | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 11:57:16 AM | Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!, pof has gone all romantic now,  
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!, now all we need is chocolate, mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, yummy! yes, yes yes!!! Great idea don't you think? | |
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