| Overcoming shyness
Posted: 10/15/2006 11:50:16 PM | I got over it by hanging around the the most outgoing people I've ever met.
Oh my God I've seen one guy get shot down SO MANY TIMES, he will walk up to anyone, anywhere. And he always comes back SMILING. At first I was like 'arent you bothered?' and he just shrugged his shoulders and took another sip of beer. Kept an eye out for someone else.
One of the other guys does the same thing. Of course they both get shot down a lot but they also always seem to get a girl.
just hanging around with those guys helped me. Earlier in the week I was with them and 2 other guys, a little younger than us. Beautiful girl comes in and all of our jaws hit the floor. I had just been shot down by someone so I was ready to try again. I told the one guy 'lets go ask her to go to the next club' and he said 'man, i can't . i just dont have the balls.' Well to me this was my chance to be the guy I had always admired. So even though I was nervous I plowed right ahead and asked the girl if she wanted to go, right in front of all her admirers. I was prepared for her to say no, but she didn't.
When we were crossing the street to the other club all the guys were like 'i cant believe you did that!! wowww' its not a problem anymore.
if i had never met outgoing friends like that i would still be watching tv 7 nights a week. | |
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| Overcoming shyness
Posted: 10/16/2006 1:13:57 PM | | Thanks for these latest posts. Its reassuring to know that shyness is not just a UK phenomena. I have tried the eye contact suggestion. It was very hard at first and in some cases i couldnt hold the gaze. But overall i found it to be a useful confidence booster. thanks. As for walking up to complete strangers.... I will do it...... I just have to get some more confidence first. | |
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| Overcoming shyness
Posted: 3/19/2007 11:57:05 PM | I have to admit I approached this girl at a store that was a cashier. There has only been a handfull of times I ask for numbers or ask them out so walking up to a total stranger is nerve racking. I thought over and over what to say and I grab a bag of something whatever it was just something to get me in her cash out line. I walked around a few times waiting for her line to be empty so others want be around. I was "ok here we go", I went in her line to buy my bag of whatever it was, just about when I was to say something she ask me if I still work at such and such place. I was like yeah how did you know. Then she told me about a guy she was dating that worked there years ago. We talked about 1 or 2 minutes. Then I asked if she was seeing anybody and she said she was. So I guess it was bitter sweet but at least I gave it a shot. I was so close to asking for her number, I was just 1 step away and I know for certain I would of if she wasn't seeing anybody.
I guess the best advice is to not put so much pressure on yourself to talk to women. Don't think you have to ask her out the first time you talk to her. Just ask her some questions in general. Maybe next time you see her again maybe you will feel more comfortable asking her out or for her number. | |
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| Overcoming shyness
Posted: 4/10/2007 6:07:00 AM | | That is exactly how i feel i was begining to think iwas the only one, i need to know secret to. | |
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| Overcoming shyness
Posted: 4/10/2007 8:19:20 AM | I have always been shy too. I am slowly trying to overcome it but it is hard.
I have started with some easy stuff, just saying hi, or small talk with someone at the checkout. This has helped a little bit, but I still turn beat red if a stranger talks to me.
I think everyone has some great ideas, I will see if I can gather enough "unshyness" to try them
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