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Posted: 10/16/2006 2:08:44 PM | ~OP~ I couldn't agree more. 7 years ago, dating online was different. Vastly different. Today, I have to agree with you. It's not for the faint of heart, that's for sure. If you weren't semi-cold when you started you certainly will be when you are done. It's too bad. I think venturing into the real world is a much better option for someone who is sincerely wanting to meet/date. JMO  | |
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Posted: 10/16/2006 4:03:23 PM | bikerbabii said:
I have decided to not have any more dating experiences from here. I'm sick and tired of all the insincere people who play games. They arrange a date and never show up, never calls so the dating experience is zero.
I am done with online dating. I am going to delete my profile. It's just not worth it.
Does anyone else feel like me? That it's not worth it?
There have been times over the last 3 years that I have been on this site that I have felt just like you. But then, every once in a while, someone seems to come along and renew my faith. I have had 2 relationships with women I met on this site, which didn't work out obviously, or I wouldn't be still here. But they were positive experiences for me.
What baffles me is why you can't get people to meet you or what you describe in your profile. You're very attractive, and I would think that a lot of good men would be falling all over themselves to meet you. It seems to be something that mostly women experience. Men don't seem to have that trouble with women they meet. Speaking personally, I have met over 60 different women in the time I've been on here, and every one of them looked exactly like their picture (if they supplied one) every one of them were there when they said they would be when meeting (only one time was I stood up). All of them, I can safely say were pleasant, attractive women who were good conversationalists, and had nice manners and good personal hygene.
However, I chose carefully. I didn't just meet whovever showed an interest. I made sure that they were right for me, by the way they wrote their emails, or talked on the phone, among other things. There have been women who have contacted me that I politely declined for reasons that I outlined to them, and I have been politely (and occasionally NOT so politely) rejected for whatever reason those women had for doing so.
But, overall I have found that for the most part the site does work. As long as you do your research and weed out the ones that just don't seem right. Don't give up!! | |
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Posted: 10/16/2006 6:34:27 PM | Thanks everyone for sharing. It's nice to know I'm not alone...And it's nice to know that it works for some people.
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Posted: 10/16/2006 7:05:38 PM | | i was wondering if bikerbabii was a transy?...........and i dont understand the moderator suggestion of replying to message 32 since bikerbabii is mesage 29........what's that all about? | |
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Posted: 10/16/2006 8:27:24 PM | | Go back to the fist page .. post 16. I guess there was some conversation that got deleted, thus the numbers got reset. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2006 9:01:50 PM | | A change is as good as a rest... maybe a fresh perspective from outside of here will help your frame of mind. Online dating isn't for the faint of heart... | |
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Posted: 10/17/2006 8:44:11 AM | | bikerbabii: This might get deleted, but I hope you at least stick around to post in the forums. I have found your posts interesting and sometimes amusing. Lots of folks seem to do that, just hiding their profiles from searches. Might be a good way to take a break without cutting all ties. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2006 9:01:24 AM | Some "experts" recommend to "frequent only those online dating services that require a membership fee, because those sites usually scare off scam artists."
On the other hand, one of the key selling points for me joining here was that it was FREE.
You ask if it is not worth it? Well, how much is FREE plus a bit of your time worth? I cannot answer that for you.
For me, I still haven't been able to answer that question, and I have not met anyone from POF yet.
Good luck!
~Miriam | |
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Posted: 10/17/2006 9:33:22 AM | Hey, I hear you, I find I have the same problem,
1) they do not look like their pic at all
2) they are either married or have a gf.. looking someone on the side
3) they are single guys stating they want a relationship...wrong..only a piece of a** flavor
of the night.
I have to be honest though and say that I'm sure that some of the ladies on here do the same thing,so I can't just critizise the guys. When buddy only wants to give his office number,ding, ding, first clue, MARRIED, LIVE IN GF. After some conversations and deciding to meet and you both feel comfortable and relaxed with each other,
if he's not prepared to give u his home # at this point,hmmmm....think again.
I'm beginning to think that meeting people at other functions, or bars/clubs might be better cause at least you can see the person and talk to them asap...none of the bs that everyone seems to want to tell you. AND why would anyone want to post a pic that is not of themselves? How stupid, when u meet them, it's like... hello? how can they not feel
embarrassed? Well enough bashing for now. Good luck!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 10/17/2006 1:51:06 PM | POOF! She's gone. Deleted her profile.
Too bad. Before she left, I emailed her and told her that she will be missed in the forums. Her posts were often very on target. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2006 2:09:45 PM |
OP, there’s nothing wrong with dating from this site. The bad thing is to take anything seriously about people you meet on here. I find that this has been a great place but only because I couldn’t care less if I see them after or whatever bullshit they will come up with….
Hang in there. You'll be disillusioned in "real life" too. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2006 2:42:31 PM | No, I don't. I know that there are sincere and genuine people on here; I'm one of them, plus friends of mine and people I've met. Don't judge everyone, or the method, by the behaviour of a few you've interacted with.
Of course there are many insincere people on here, or more likely just people who don't know what they want or who they are. This is just like anywhere else in life; bars, clubs, parties, friends-of-friends - wherever and however you might meet people and thus prospective dates.
Don't be so easily discouraged, is my advice. You might also try screening people more carefully; though of course we can all be taken in by fakers, especially if one is the kind of person that tries to give the benefit of the doubt to others.
my 'two cents' (or tupence!) | |
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Posted: 10/17/2006 4:29:50 PM | I have someone in my life trying to play games to see if I am interested, I have never met them but just ignore them. If I dont enter the game there is no sense of play lol
Geri | |
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Posted: 10/17/2006 4:31:25 PM | "the people looking at things completely as a meat market"
I totally agree with that, I have been internet dating for 18 months and thats all I have ever found,I am not like that and they soon get disinterested in me, what a shame lol.
Geri | |
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Posted: 10/20/2006 12:52:11 AM | I feel the same way also, tired of it; the noshows, the disception,
the empty words, the sweet words one day and no words the next.
words are the way to a womans heart... I can't listen any longer,
my heart cant take it. | |
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Posted: 10/20/2006 5:57:20 AM | | well u got seems like some people only care about dinner and what u can do for them..... after theyjust dissapear of find a reason and this is when the heading is long term so what is this a place where a women can get dinner if she is lonely untill someone else comes along well i will be leaving very soon bye Dave | |
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Posted: 10/20/2006 6:23:42 AM | ALL dating sites on the internet have liars, cons, users, loosers etc. You just need to go slowly, watch for the red flags and don't be naive.
I have to laugh at these posts of ones who say dating sites are the pits. (no offense to the OP) Does anyone think if you meet someone in a bar, dance lessons, community groups, college, church, work, etc., that you won't find the same people there?? Only thing is here you need to not be so ready to jump in. I have been stood up, threatened, lied to, conned, used, send false pics, and all the other usual BS you find on line. It happens in REAL life as well as on here.
This is just another way to meet people. Use your head, don't become jaded and hope for the best. YOU are the one being lied to or whatever by some, so hone your bullsh it meter lol... Life is a learning experience. Rather than move on, figure out what YOU can do to be more careful and how you can learn to avoid some of the dating BS on here.
There are also MANY wonderful people on here. We only hear a lot about the ones who are the idiots! Let's realize that MOST on here are down to earth good people. But the FEW fools are the one who seem to be the ones we talk about.
Don't blame the dating sites for your lack of internet judgement. Don't judge a book by its cover.. that can mean dont fall for the WONDERFUL cover as well as the tatered one!! BE WISE... If you don't know how.. ask ones who seem to be around you .. in real life and on here. Then see what YOU can do to become a better and wiser person. Slow and easy wins the race.. Dont make huge committments too soon.. and dont rush into things without knowing where your headed. ASK LOTS OF QUESTIONS... WATCH FOR RED FLAGS... LEARN WHAT THE RED FLAGS ARE!! AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, DON'T IGNORE THE RED FLAGS.
I could go on more.. but you get the picture... if you dont.. ASK Despite what some will tell you, there ARE NO STUPID QUESTIONS.. If one asks sincerely then one deserves an answer..... lol...
Best to all on on here, and hope the sincere ones on here find their hearts desire....
Linda | |
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Posted: 10/20/2006 6:32:08 AM | howeclectic .... AMEN!!
Every word you say, I agree with! Most on here are good and sincere.. we hear WAY SOOOOO much about the bad ones because that is what is talked about most. Let's here if for the GOOD PEOPLE ON HERE!!... I have talked with many.... Most of us are average and have average lives..
USE GOOD JUDGEMENT PEOPLE!... Most get into trouble NOT following there instinct, moving too fast, and not knowing the red flags. Most in trouble don't ask enough real serious questions of the other person.. of they ignore what is told to them thinking it will be okay anyway, if something does bother them... If it bothers you NOW, imagine how it will bother you later!! If your mind is telling you something could be off.. it usually IS... lol..
Best to you all on here....
Linda | |
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Posted: 10/20/2006 7:04:25 AM | | then again thats why it's free because of the the old pic lies and cons so is it really worth it!!!!!!!!!! i gues if the person like spending money on hope.But these r the people who say they got screwed over cause the other people were jerks well they r the jerks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 10/20/2006 11:09:44 AM | There are a thousand ways to meet new people, and POF is only one. Yet it seems, people think all their romantic expectations should be met by everyone THEY find 'interesting'.
I have been on this site for about a year, I have met some nice people, some 'wacky' people and even had to put up with no-shows, read/delete people, etc.
Don't take it so seriously, your $39.95 internet subscription doesn't come with entertainment guarantees.
and POF is FREE !
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Posted: 10/20/2006 11:48:55 AM | | I am new on this site but not rushing to date anyone if its happens it happens i am just letting things flow | |
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Posted: 10/20/2006 1:46:56 PM | hey bikerbabii
THIS SITE IS A ****ING JOKE, its full of men who are just trolling for women to use. THEN you get the losers in the FORUMS who say its a womans own fault if they get played. WELL a master player will NOT show signs of a player. AND the dudes that are saying this are probably players themselves. What a joke. Me too, I am DONE. Too many married/taken guys on this site that CLAIM to be single. | |
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Posted: 11/7/2006 4:04:27 PM | Definitely worth it! I have met great people here; and gone on fantastic dates. The only investment is time. Obviously, if your experience on POF is causing you pain and resentment, you need to rethink your goals and strategy; and possibly change your message... or get out. It's not for everyone. It works for me.
Compared to analog dating, POF and other singles websites are natural attractions to married or taken suitors, players, gold diggers, psychotics and other forms of terrestrial scum. But you knew that when you joined. Didn't you?
As an earlier post wisely stated: if you have no expectations, you will not be disappointed.
- Dave | |
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